eh I've witnessed too many bike accidents in this city - every time I see someone on a bike without a helmet I instantly think they are morons, but protecting yourself while endangering your kid is next level
― Οὖτις, Wednesday, 11 February 2015 19:45 (nine years ago) link
I generally can't take seeing a little kid on the back of a bike in a busy urban area. When I consider what a high percentage of my friends who bike regularly in the city have been in at least one accident, it just seems like an unacceptable risk to me.
― walid foster dulles (man alive), Wednesday, 11 February 2015 19:47 (nine years ago) link
kid wasn't even on the back, dad was literally cradling him in one arm while steering the bike with the other. In the middle of rush hour traffic on a busy 4-lane street!
― Οὖτις, Wednesday, 11 February 2015 19:49 (nine years ago) link
A-ok with your judging there.
― Jeff, Wednesday, 11 February 2015 21:16 (nine years ago) link
I see kids balanced on handlebars or--on one notable occasion, sitting between Dad's arms on the top tube?--pretty normally. At first it seemed absolutely crazy, but I think it's just an offshoot of using bikes to get around. You don't have other transpo but you do have a bike? There you go.
― Orson Wellies (in orbit), Wednesday, 11 February 2015 21:22 (nine years ago) link
Tbh I find it freakier when parents have their kids on the back in carriers. I'm sure I'm wrong and the data won't bear me out, but it seems like you could do more for your kid if they were right there in your arms than strapped into the back of the bike if it goes flying.
NB ianap
― Orson Wellies (in orbit), Wednesday, 11 February 2015 21:26 (nine years ago) link
Kinda hard to react to a situation while holding a kid, I would think
― just1n3, Wednesday, 11 February 2015 21:28 (nine years ago) link
Yeah I meant they're usu not holding the kid, the kid is holding on by him or herself (!!!!!! I KNOW!!!) while the adult has hands on the handlebars. It just doesn't surprise me anymore, I guess.
― Orson Wellies (in orbit), Wednesday, 11 February 2015 21:30 (nine years ago) link
this kid wasn't old enough to hold himself up/hang onto handlebars (a practice I would be more forgiving of if the child is above-toddler age, ie, probably able to jump off to safety in the event of an accident)
― Οὖτις, Wednesday, 11 February 2015 21:36 (nine years ago) link
This feels like a 'hey I could walk outside tomorrow and get hit by a bus. Crazy, horrible things happen all the time' attitude which is def one of IA hot buttons.Firstly, you're not getting hit by a bus tomorrow because you won't be idly standing in a bus lane because you know it will increase your chances of getting hit by a billion percent. Can you not give your kid the same courtesy? Yes, horrible, crazy things happen everyday, a good chunk of which could probably be avoided by a simple choice like getting your ass on the sidewalk or not dodging through traffic on a bike with an infant on the back. Secondly, I understand this 'any of us could die at any second' is probably a mental safety mechanism to keep one from losing their mind thinking of what could happen but it always seems to be paired with the certain(ly false) belief that 'nothing truly bad will ever happen to me'.I don't know. It's just all so complementary and contradictory and flippant as fuck
― smoochy-woochy touchy-wouchy, (sunny successor), Saturday, 14 February 2015 17:32 (nine years ago) link
Thirdly, install your kids car seat correctly, buckle both of you in correctly, wear a helmet if you're on a bike. These things will in no way comprise your constitutional liberties.
― smoochy-woochy touchy-wouchy, (sunny successor), Saturday, 14 February 2015 17:38 (nine years ago) link
wife and I feel like we are watching a slow motion trainwreck with this friend of hers that is 6 months pregnant and exhibits zero signs that she is emotionally/psychologically capable of raising a child. She is prone to long blog rants about how she "doesn't even like babies!" and hates being pregnant and feels crazy all the time (she was p crazy before tbh) and it's like ... uh honey you have no idea what you are in for
― Οὖτις, Wednesday, 15 July 2015 23:28 (eight years ago) link
is she doing it alone?
― as verbose and purple as a Peter Ustinov made of plums (James Morrison), Thursday, 16 July 2015 00:26 (eight years ago) link
No, thankfully. She does have a partner, they've been together a lil over a year i think. He's a spock LARPer
― Οὖτις, Thursday, 16 July 2015 00:57 (eight years ago) link
She sounds like she could use counseling? Not that that excuses her for being a brat about becoming a parent but "feels crazy all the time" sounds like more than brattiness.
― five six and (man alive), Thursday, 16 July 2015 01:00 (eight years ago) link
The final line of Οὖτις's response quickly undercuts the mild relief brought by the first.
― as verbose and purple as a Peter Ustinov made of plums (James Morrison), Thursday, 16 July 2015 01:06 (eight years ago) link
haha
― from batman to balloon dog (carl agatha), Thursday, 16 July 2015 01:46 (eight years ago) link
Oh she's in therapy allright
― Οὖτις, Thursday, 16 July 2015 03:06 (eight years ago) link
I would link to her blog but then I'm afraid she might find this
― Οὖτις, Thursday, 16 July 2015 15:42 (eight years ago) link
let me see if I can do this googleproofing thing
― Οὖτις, Thursday, 16 July 2015 15:45 (eight years ago) link
Change thread title to "This is the thread where we prejudge other people's parenting"
― Immediate Follower (NA), Thursday, 16 July 2015 16:02 (eight years ago) link
heh
― Οὖτις, Thursday, 16 July 2015 16:06 (eight years ago) link
Doesn't even like babies / hates being pregnant / feels crazy all the time pretty accurately describes our birth mom's pregnancy experience and is why she went with adoption.
― joygoat, Thursday, 16 July 2015 16:28 (eight years ago) link
A friend of mine boasted after their baby announcement, "It's cool - I'm up at five anyway getting ready for my daily bike ride."
And I was just all quiet and heh.
― pplains, Thursday, 16 July 2015 17:57 (eight years ago) link
Oh cute, he has a daily recreation routine he likes to follow?
― how's life, Thursday, 16 July 2015 18:01 (eight years ago) link
lol
― Οὖτις, Thursday, 16 July 2015 18:04 (eight years ago) link
tbf his routine does not appear to have changed at all (if 5am bike trail facebook photos are to be believed) but this guy is totes high on life
― UYD: Oxys, Percs, Vics, Addys, Rit-Dogs and Xannys (sunny successor), Thursday, 16 July 2015 18:08 (eight years ago) link
I wonder if the mom's routine has changed...
hmph.
― from batman to balloon dog (carl agatha), Thursday, 16 July 2015 18:10 (eight years ago) link
My kids have both decided that they like to stay up late this summer. REAL FRICKIN' LATE. I mean, what are you gonna do, tell an 11-year-old he has to go to sleep at 9 o'clock in the summer? He's up until the wee hours watching Netflix. The 4-year-old isn't much better. She'll just sit there giggling and yodeling in her bed until like 9:30 or 10. I have to wake up between 4 and 5 every day for work, so trying to stay up later than these guys is like crawling through the desert on my hands and knees in search of water. It has put a serious cramp in downtime with Mrs. Life.
― how's life, Thursday, 16 July 2015 18:37 (eight years ago) link
I give your post a D- for lack of judgmental content
― Οὖτις, Thursday, 16 July 2015 18:44 (eight years ago) link
Oh shit, I thought this was the regular parenting thread. My bad!
― how's life, Thursday, 16 July 2015 18:48 (eight years ago) link
i read some of that blog :/
she may shame me into laying off my allcaps ranting bcz hoo boy
― difficult-difficult lemon-difficult (VegemiteGrrl), Thursday, 16 July 2015 18:51 (eight years ago) link
maybe i'm alone here but i think it's not cool to link to that on here
― nomar, Thursday, 16 July 2015 19:05 (eight years ago) link
you're not alone
― I Am Curious (Dolezal) (DJP), Thursday, 16 July 2015 19:16 (eight years ago) link
I'm going to nuke it.
― how's life, Thursday, 16 July 2015 19:19 (eight years ago) link
You are SO desperate to get back out on the piss that you will, despite protestations about wanting to breastfeed, suddenly switch to formula at 9 months and force a giant bottle down your baby's gullet at 6pm, and then have the temerity to have a go at other mums in the group for judging you because you don't breastfeed anymore despite none of them having said anything about it because, y'know, every baby's different? Also, despite living 9 miles away from most mums in the group you always insist on gather-ups being as close to your house as possible, despite one of the other mums, who has twins, living 9 miles away in the OTHER direction, so having to travel 15-18 miles, WITH TWINS, and never moaning about it? And you're A TEACHER?
― Hey Bob (Scik Mouthy), Saturday, 25 July 2015 07:09 (eight years ago) link
/ vent
That's kind of mainly on behalf of E.
hanging with cousins + their kids for the holidays and the amount of casual junk food consumption is thru. the. mafackin. roof. pointless to fight it much - when in rome - but dang dog. dang. coupled with hot dogs/pizza/burgers for every meal i've taken to sneaking off and handing my kids fruit on the D.L just so their guts still work.
― transparent play for gifs (Tracer Hand), Wednesday, 29 July 2015 21:38 (eight years ago) link
parents who removed their kid from tiny pre-pre-school co-op thing we just joined because the coordinator insisted on the right to serve kids both fruit AND vegetables and you don't let your kids eat fruit I say wtf
― Οὖτις, Thursday, 30 July 2015 20:00 (eight years ago) link
San Francisco in a nutshell
― sleeve, Thursday, 30 July 2015 20:05 (eight years ago) link
don't even start with nutshells
― five six and (man alive), Thursday, 30 July 2015 20:06 (eight years ago) link
I like how me and Tracer's posts are like polar opposites of the same problem
― Οὖτις, Thursday, 30 July 2015 20:07 (eight years ago) link
Overweight slouching unkempt hillbilly at the playground who whined like a spoiled child when his sweet 3 year old asked him to push her on the swing interrupting his cell phone call.
"Push me, daddy?""Graciiiiiiiiiie! Gawwwwwwwwd! Uuuuuunnnnnnnhhhhhhh!"
Man, how did you even get somebody pregnant?
― how's life, Thursday, 30 July 2015 20:14 (eight years ago) link
embarrassed to admit how often that question pops into my mind
― Οὖτις, Thursday, 30 July 2015 20:15 (eight years ago) link
It was like the scene from wet hot american summer where Paul Rudd refuses to pick up his dishes, but with a Mudvayne fan instead of Paul Rudd.
― how's life, Thursday, 30 July 2015 20:19 (eight years ago) link
― Οὖτις, Thursday, 30 July 2015 20:20 (eight years ago) link
Overweight slouching unkempt hillbilly
Come on, now.
― carl agatha, Thursday, 30 July 2015 20:24 (eight years ago) link
not to be mistaken for the overweight slouching well-dressed hillbilly
― Οὖτις, Thursday, 30 July 2015 20:24 (eight years ago) link
Xp: good point. Not relevant. I'm hella overweight too. I'm just mad at this bozo.
― how's life, Thursday, 30 July 2015 20:26 (eight years ago) link