congrats marcos!
― Kooki-Wan Tanooki (Hurting 2), Monday, 1 December 2014 19:37 (nine years ago) link
Ilxors doin it, I love it
― droit au butt (Euler), Monday, 1 December 2014 20:37 (nine years ago) link
Hey awesome you two! Congratulations!!
― carl agatha, Monday, 1 December 2014 20:59 (nine years ago) link
And I would bet if you tried to talk to the neighbors about their son, they would just get really defensive, like how dare you defame our beloved boy. I might have to have the conversation anyway but I'm pretty direct with neighbors about that kind of stuff, for better or worse.
― carl agatha, Monday, 1 December 2014 21:03 (nine years ago) link
I just feel this very old-fashioned old man feeling welling up in me, like "somebody needs to teach that kid some respect"
― Kooki-Wan Tanooki (Hurting 2), Monday, 1 December 2014 21:07 (nine years ago) link
hire him as a babysitter, see how he likes it
― Οὖτις, Monday, 1 December 2014 21:10 (nine years ago) link
so my wife just got back from a visit with an old friend of hers who had a new baby and now I have been made aware that this exists: http://praisebaby.spinshop.com/
― Οὖτις, Tuesday, 20 January 2015 20:41 (nine years ago) link
Gross.
― carl agatha, Tuesday, 20 January 2015 20:48 (nine years ago) link
BORN TO WORSHIP
― Οὖτις, Tuesday, 20 January 2015 20:55 (nine years ago) link
yeah they're god-i-ness is a bit of a sore spot
How is this any grosser than any of your other standard "manger babies" type merchandise?
― pplains, Tuesday, 20 January 2015 21:22 (nine years ago) link
R.I.P. Brittany Murphy
― american tail/american pie (how's life), Tuesday, 20 January 2015 21:27 (nine years ago) link
I look forward to Shakey's officious updates.
― guess that bundt gettin eaten (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Tuesday, 20 January 2015 21:33 (nine years ago) link
Although I find that stuff weird, my daughter's Jewish preschool get's a lot more god-y than I was expecting too, it's kind of weird having her coming home talking about "adonai" and "neshama" and saying blessings given that we're more or less atheistic. But I figure we'll explain when she's older.
― walid foster dulles (man alive), Tuesday, 20 January 2015 21:39 (nine years ago) link
― pplains, Tuesday, January 20, 2015 9:22 PM (17 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
This is actually real?
― carl agatha, Tuesday, 20 January 2015 21:40 (nine years ago) link
I wish!
― pplains, Tuesday, 20 January 2015 21:56 (nine years ago) link
I like you and your husband, but I question your decision to leave your 8 yo with a history of behavioral problems (incl repeatedly threatening to murder family members and classmates) at home by himself while you take your younger child to the library.
― Οὖτις, Wednesday, 21 January 2015 17:14 (nine years ago) link
That's actually illegal in some states I think, there are often minimum ages to be home alone.
― walid foster dulles (man alive), Wednesday, 21 January 2015 17:15 (nine years ago) link
In Maryland it's 8, but we didn't let our kid stay home alone until he was 10.
― american tail/american pie (how's life), Wednesday, 21 January 2015 17:21 (nine years ago) link
So many states with no minimum: http://www.latchkey-kids.com/latchkey-kids-age-limits.htm
My state's included in the "none" column. Here's how we define it: "Leaving the juvenile alone when the juvenile is too young to care for himself…" I've known 17-year-olds who would've fit that description.
Minimum age in Kansas is six. Why even make a law, Kansas?
― pplains, Wednesday, 21 January 2015 19:00 (nine years ago) link
Six only if a firearm is present, eight otherwise, iirc.
― walid foster dulles (man alive), Wednesday, 21 January 2015 19:03 (nine years ago) link
6? Jesus christ.
― american tail/american pie (how's life), Wednesday, 21 January 2015 19:04 (nine years ago) link
parents who insist on going outside for a morning run when it's 5 degrees out and roll their freezing children in a jogger stroller, i judge thee. your kids are not warming up. they are not exercising like you are. they are fucking cold.
― marcos, Wednesday, 21 January 2015 19:10 (nine years ago) link
Illinois is 14???? Shit, we're probably going to break that law.
― Jeff, Wednesday, 21 January 2015 19:10 (nine years ago) link
xpost, just bundle them up in one of those stroller sleeping bags and put a windshield on the stroller, they'll be find. Toughens them up.
― Jeff, Wednesday, 21 January 2015 19:12 (nine years ago) link
14! my parents definitely should be in prison.
― LIKE If you are against racism (omar little), Wednesday, 21 January 2015 19:12 (nine years ago) link
parents who insist on going outside for a morning run when it's 5 degrees out and roll their freezing children in a jogger stroller, i judge thee. your kids are not warming up. they are not exercising like you are. they are fucking cold.― marcos, Wednesday, January 21, 2015 2:10 PM (3 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
― marcos, Wednesday, January 21, 2015 2:10 PM (3 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
http://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-21537988
― american tail/american pie (how's life), Wednesday, 21 January 2015 19:15 (nine years ago) link
Delaware recommends 12, although there's no law, which is good because I was letting myself into our apartment after school when I was ten.
― carl agatha, Wednesday, 21 January 2015 19:16 (nine years ago) link
hah here in France there's no legal age, and I see lots of kids ages 8 and younger going around town alone, to/fro school, even riding public trans.
― droit au butt (Euler), Wednesday, 21 January 2015 19:18 (nine years ago) link
back in Illinois I suspect we have taken liberties though. 14! that's nuts.
― droit au butt (Euler), Wednesday, 21 January 2015 19:19 (nine years ago) link
In Maryland though, there's a current thing where some parents are under investigation for letting their kids walk home together.
http://www.washingtonpost.com/local/education/maryland-couple-want-free-range-kids-but-not-all-do/2015/01/14/d406c0be-9c0f-11e4-bcfb-059ec7a93ddc_story.html
― american tail/american pie (how's life), Wednesday, 21 January 2015 19:23 (nine years ago) link
kids are probably all drunk on fine wine too
― Οὖτις, Wednesday, 21 January 2015 19:27 (nine years ago) link
man have I told you about school lunches here?
― droit au butt (Euler), Wednesday, 21 January 2015 19:32 (nine years ago) link
all stinky cheese and foie gras I assume
― Οὖτις, Wednesday, 21 January 2015 19:33 (nine years ago) link
yes on former; don't think they've had foie gras yet. but it's four courses every day: entrée, main dish, dairy, and dessert. and they get 2 hours for lunch (including a recess). in the USA they get 15 minutes, no joke. which is all you need to scarf down your corn dog I guess.
― droit au butt (Euler), Wednesday, 21 January 2015 19:37 (nine years ago) link
15 minutes? my kid gets an hour
― Οὖτις, Wednesday, 21 January 2015 20:22 (nine years ago) link
We get half an hour lunch, half an hour recess. The 1/2 hour recess is insufficient, imo.
― american tail/american pie (how's life), Wednesday, 21 January 2015 20:24 (nine years ago) link
Doesn't school get out late in France though?
― badg, Wednesday, 21 January 2015 20:30 (nine years ago) link
my little one gets out at 4:30pm each day, whereas yeah in the usa it was 2:30pm. still 15 minutes is horrible.
― droit au butt (Euler), Thursday, 22 January 2015 11:04 (nine years ago) link
i heard an encore broadcast of jennifer senior on fresh air this morning talking about her book "all joy, no fun" about modern parenting and there was a really interesting segment about sleep deprivation. has this been discussed here?
i was wondering whether or not judgement of other people's parenting would increase if one is sleep deprived and struggling to do one's best, only to see other people not following suit. i have a lot of friends who have privately told me that they feel completely squashed by the constant eyes looking at them and evaluating their success or failure. they're doing their best, but it leads to a lot of guilt and general bad feelings. i wish they didn't feel this way, but nothing i say makes any difference, in no small part because it's not something that affects my life (I don't have kids and I don't sit around thinking about other people's parenting). Still, since it affects the lives of virtually all my closest friends, i was wondering if anyone thinks there's a connection between sleep deprivation and vocal judgment of other people's parenting?
not trying to start a conflict, just wondering what ilx parents think
― groundless round (La Lechera), Friday, 30 January 2015 19:35 (nine years ago) link
No way, I'm more understanding of other parents since I became a parent, not less.
― walid foster dulles (man alive), Friday, 30 January 2015 19:46 (nine years ago) link
Me too. I'm my own harshest critic but I don't really care what other people think of my parenting. And when it comes to other people, in most cases I think parents are just trying to do their best for their children. There are times when I think somebody might look at me critically, say, for paying more attention to my phone than F when we're on a train. But they wouldn't know that F is desperate for a nap and will fall asleep in his buggy if ignored.
― Madchen, Friday, 30 January 2015 19:56 (nine years ago) link
it's possible that they're hypersensitive to it bc they are sleep deprived -- that has occurred to me. it's weird because these are not people i would have thought would really care what other people thought but it's weird how frequently they talk about it (when i manage to talk with them at all and by talk i mean email or text)
― groundless round (La Lechera), Friday, 30 January 2015 19:58 (nine years ago) link
i find most other parents to be empathetic, it's the ones who don't have kids who seem a mite judgey sometimes.
― LIKE If you are against racism (omar little), Friday, 30 January 2015 20:00 (nine years ago) link
IDC about other people, parents or not, judging me. But I do judge other parents all the time, but mostly in silence.
― Jeff, Friday, 30 January 2015 20:07 (nine years ago) link
Everything is harder when you haven't gotten enough sleep for a year or two.
― about a dozen duck supporters (carl agatha), Friday, 30 January 2015 20:08 (nine years ago) link
i know! that's what i'm saying -- i am trying to understand how maybe there is a relationship between sleep deprivation and the tendency to judge/feel judged. it just bums me out because i know people aren't being as harsh on my friends as they think people are being but my friends are so tired and worn out that i think they just slide into feeling blue. it bums me out on their behalf. this is why i asked.
― groundless round (La Lechera), Friday, 30 January 2015 20:11 (nine years ago) link
i was wondering if anyone thinks there's a connection between sleep deprivation and vocal judgment of other people's parenting?
just to be clear - are you referring to parenting-related sleep deprivation?
― Οὖτις, Friday, 30 January 2015 20:15 (nine years ago) link
or just regular old garden variety sleep deprivation
^^^this
bear in mind I started this thread in the spirit of comedy, I don't really go around yelling at people about their shitty parenting. and we're all very supportive of each other here ime
― Οὖτις, Friday, 30 January 2015 20:17 (nine years ago) link