This is the thread where we judge other people's parenting

marcos otm re: Hurting's neighbors sorry they are assholes

Yeah I have no doubt that they are assholes, just wondering if it's worth talking to these assholes about their asshole son.

Also a lot of it is really just the dynamics of the building -- hollow walls etc., sound really carries. Floor is also creaky. They apparently had an ongoing feud with the couple who lived there before.

(lived in our place before)

i don't think it's worth it tbh, since you mentioned they are generally rude as well. from now on i really think that every time they come up to complain you just say " "I'm done talking to you now, have a good night" and shut the door like you did with their teenager

the good part of me says invite the people up, meet your kid, give them a gift (I probably stole this idea from ilx)

the normal side of me says "this too shall pass", yelling at you is annoying but it doesn't "mean anything"

Def not inviting them up at this point -- too much bad feeling already, but I thought about going down and trying to have a civil conversation with them at least. The irony is that a few months after we first moved in was K's 2nd bday party and we left them a note about the noise, and they actually wrote a note back thanking us for our civil communication or something like that. But they have never once communicated civilly to us (other than that reply note), they just bang on the ceiling or send their idiot son up.

if there's anything that quiets a baby its loud banging coming from the floor amirite

BTW haven't said so yet, but we have another one on the way so they are in for a treat ;)

(said so on ILX)

well toddler I guess in K's case

xp

congrats hurting! we have one coming next year too, in april

Congrats!

congrats marcos!

Ilxors doin it, I love it

Hey awesome you two! Congratulations!!

And I would bet if you tried to talk to the neighbors about their son, they would just get really defensive, like how dare you defame our beloved boy. I might have to have the conversation anyway but I'm pretty direct with neighbors about that kind of stuff, for better or worse.

I just feel this very old-fashioned old man feeling welling up in me, like "somebody needs to teach that kid some respect"

hire him as a babysitter, see how he likes it

so my wife just got back from a visit with an old friend of hers who had a new baby and now I have been made aware that this exists: http://praisebaby.spinshop.com/

Gross.

BORN TO WORSHIP

yeah they're god-i-ness is a bit of a sore spot

How is this any grosser than any of your other standard "manger babies" type merchandise?

R.I.P. Brittany Murphy

I look forward to Shakey's officious updates.

Although I find that stuff weird, my daughter's Jewish preschool get's a lot more god-y than I was expecting too, it's kind of weird having her coming home talking about "adonai" and "neshama" and saying blessings given that we're more or less atheistic. But I figure we'll explain when she's older.

How is this any grosser than any of your other standard "manger babies" type merchandise?

― pplains, Tuesday, January 20, 2015 9:22 PM (17 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

This is actually real?

I wish!

I like you and your husband, but I question your decision to leave your 8 yo with a history of behavioral problems (incl repeatedly threatening to murder family members and classmates) at home by himself while you take your younger child to the library.

That's actually illegal in some states I think, there are often minimum ages to be home alone.

In Maryland it's 8, but we didn't let our kid stay home alone until he was 10.

So many states with no minimum: http://www.latchkey-kids.com/latchkey-kids-age-limits.htm

My state's included in the "none" column. Here's how we define it: "Leaving the juvenile alone when the juvenile is too young to care for himself…" I've known 17-year-olds who would've fit that description.

Minimum age in Kansas is six. Why even make a law, Kansas?

Six only if a firearm is present, eight otherwise, iirc.

6? Jesus christ.

parents who insist on going outside for a morning run when it's 5 degrees out and roll their freezing children in a jogger stroller, i judge thee. your kids are not warming up. they are not exercising like you are. they are fucking cold.

Illinois is 14???? Shit, we're probably going to break that law.

xpost, just bundle them up in one of those stroller sleeping bags and put a windshield on the stroller, they'll be find. Toughens them up.

14! my parents definitely should be in prison.

parents who insist on going outside for a morning run when it's 5 degrees out and roll their freezing children in a jogger stroller, i judge thee. your kids are not warming up. they are not exercising like you are. they are fucking cold.

― marcos, Wednesday, January 21, 2015 2:10 PM (3 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

http://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-21537988

Delaware recommends 12, although there's no law, which is good because I was letting myself into our apartment after school when I was ten.

hah here in France there's no legal age, and I see lots of kids ages 8 and younger going around town alone, to/fro school, even riding public trans.

back in Illinois I suspect we have taken liberties though. 14! that's nuts.

In Maryland though, there's a current thing where some parents are under investigation for letting their kids walk home together.

http://www.washingtonpost.com/local/education/maryland-couple-want-free-range-kids-but-not-all-do/2015/01/14/d406c0be-9c0f-11e4-bcfb-059ec7a93ddc_story.html

hah here in France there's no legal age, and I see lots of kids ages 8 and younger going around town alone, to/fro school, even riding public trans.

kids are probably all drunk on fine wine too

man have I told you about school lunches here?

all stinky cheese and foie gras I assume

yes on former; don't think they've had foie gras yet. but it's four courses every day: entrée, main dish, dairy, and dessert. and they get 2 hours for lunch (including a recess). in the USA they get 15 minutes, no joke. which is all you need to scarf down your corn dog I guess.

15 minutes? my kid gets an hour

We get half an hour lunch, half an hour recess. The 1/2 hour recess is insufficient, imo.