ILX Parenting 5: I'm a big kid now

to be fair, i am neighbors to a crying baby and i get pretty pissy about it problem is hes my baby

lol

I should say that if Jeff had been home, he probably would have gotten up with Ivy instead of me. He's got the magic touch for getting her to go back to sleep when she wakes up and wants play time (instead of meal time) and sleeps closer to the baby monitor. The last time she woke up in the middle of the night, I slept right through it.

I'm also a big whiny baby myself when it comes to not getting enough sleep whereas Jeff is a total trooper.

^^^ i do the clock countdown too

Good article that sums up the sorry state of parental leave in the US - http://www.washingtonpost.com/news/parenting/wp/2014/08/13/a-tale-of-two-maternity-leaves/

it is fucking insanity.

i have such hard time reading that without burning up inside, fuck

also so many of the places that have "good" maternity leave policies have jack shit for fathers

I got frustrated about no paternity leave again last week so I emailed HR with the news story about the EEOC's new recommendations. No response.

So re: my last post, HR just got back to me and said that based on that news, they talked with the org lawyer and are now offering me the same amount of paternity leave that they offer for maternity leave. They got stuck because they don't indicate in the maternity policy how much of it is for recovery vs. bonding.

wait where are these new guidelines? i had a baby in june; could this apply to my situation as well?

uh my wife had the baby.

congrats wmlynch!

imo neighbors who are pissy about a crying baby need to fuck right off

^^^

― Οὖτις, Monday, August 18, 2014 12:54 PM Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

The reality is they have no choice but to fuck right off.

We discussed it upthread, starting here: ILX Parenting 5: I'm a big kid now. Probably too late for you, unfortunately, since it seems like you're supposed to take the leave right after the baby's born, but it likely depends on your work's policies.

thanks. she's my second daughter. i took 4 weeks of leave with pfl pay (i'm in cali) when she was born, but used vacation for the first week. i'm going to look into what my employer offers for maternity leave and see if i could at least get some of that vacation back. i type this while i'm home sick with hand, foot and mouth (that i got at work!).

congrats (on the daughter, not the illness)

Go NA!

Nothing like watching a giant turd drop from your child as they are walking towards you crying and demanding fish sticks. Seriously, that is up there with spotting falling stars and foxes and seeing kittens being born. The event was followed by the hysterics of seeing her own poop on the floor next to her snack plate and crayons.

oh man, that is horrible and I apologize for the snorting laughter I'm stifling in my cubicle

Update from the DJP household: both boys are now eating rice cereal at their evening feeding; J has been at it three days, D two. The one constant between the two of them (on different days, fortunately) was repeated crying while the spoon was not in their mouths, followed by contemplative swallowing and contentment when there was actual food in their mouths. It was this hilarious pattern of "I HATE THIS I HATE THIS I HATE THIS I Mmmmmm mmmmm.... mmmmm mmmmmmmMMM HATE THIS I HATE THIS"

Last night, D was stuck in this loop, partially because he has a tongue thrust and kept pushing the food out of his mouth while trying to swallow it, while J was basically an old pro, sucking down spoonfuls of food and, at one point, stopping me and wiping his mouth off with his bib. Babies are amazing, y'all.

oh man, that is horrible and I apologize for the snorting laughter I'm stifling in my cubicle

^ this except I'm working from home and didn't stifle anything

dying

since i didn't actually contribute anything last week: i got hand, foot and mouth from work. shit is naaaaasty. skin on my hands and feet is peeling off. spent a week sleeping on the couch and avoiding my 3.5 yr old and the 3 month old. neither got it but it feels so good to hold/hug them again.

Where do you work?

I'm glad you're feeling better.

just an office. a coworker had dinner with a friend whose kids had it, but he told her 'adults can't get it.'

DJP: How many months are they now?

Rule of thumb: Adults can pretty much get anything from kids, it's dogs that you can't get anything from.

On Wednesday they will by 6 months!

Awwwww, well on their way!

People keep telling me what a great age six months is, and they're right! The developmental changes that have happened to F recently mean he's doing all kinds of great stuff - turning pages of books at the right place, getting excited about views from windows, laughing at simple jokes - and I keep wanting to burst into tears at the awesomeness of it all. If only he could work out how to roll front-to-back because I'm reeeeeally sick of flipping him over, only for him to roll back onto his tummy seconds later and start struggling like an upside-down turtle. BABIES.

Kids these days!

So tickled for alla y'all. My daughter made dinner tonight, "just wanted to play with my food" so she made chicken cordon bleu. Asked me how to fix a sauce that had broken. Kids, gotta love 'em, full of beans at all ages. (PS Ive had some beer.)

hey y'all I am a grandfather! I guess this is the thread to hang out in for now. 9 lbs 2 oz at birth, she is just over 3 weeks now. we live about 6 hours from the parents (my wife's oldest son & his wife) and they came to visit w/baby last weekend, I got to look deep into her little eyes and hold her while she struggled to poop, it was like a whole body effort. I have experience w/kids from past relationships, but not babies, it's gonna be super cool to see her grow.

Congratulations!!!

As I said in the comments, this was recorded at normal speed.

awesome

Hehe, that's super.

I got to look deep into her little eyes and hold her while she struggled to poop

there is nothing as strange as the deep, intent, searching gaze of an infant attempting to achieve this mt. everest of bodily functions

yea it's amazing. also kind of crazy but J (now almost 2) likes privacy when he poops. he goes into his bedroom behind a chair. we talk about poop a lot and i definitely don't think we are sending any kind of shaming message about poop, but he just wants to be free from distractions i think

I think that's fairly common, no?

yes i think it is? i mean i certainly need privacy. i think it's kind of embedded into humanity - you are vulnerable when you shit so you need to be in a secure spot where you can be without interruption. just crazy to see a 23-month old kid already have that in him

pre-potty training Veronica would totally go in a corner or behind a tree or whatever. Judah, oddly, will only poop at home. Like he will literally hold his shit in until he is inside our house, at which point he will run to the nearest counter/table/shelf, grab onto it with both hands, and do his dirty sinful business

Well...there was an incident a week or so ago where it slithered out of her in the tub. Again, hysterics. Mine and hers. I think she probably thought it was a toot but it became a poo. Potty training has brought August into the open about her poo's. It use to be this silent struggle and if we saw her we'd run up and hold her because it looked like a struggle that needed a hug or physical support.

BTW, my hysterics were silent and manifested as quick thinking, working fast. So afraid of making her weird about her stray poo's. Later though, when telling the Papi....

We still haven't had a code brown in the bath, but I'm sure it will happen one day. Hopefully when his pops are a bit more solid and easy to fish out - they're still like breastmilk korma and the thought of him swimming in pungent soup horrifies me.

We've never given our girl baths, only showers. And in her earlier days when she was both more likely to slip in the tub and poop in the tub, we would put a towel down on the tub floor. This would a.) keep her safe from slipping by giving her some traction and b.) make it real easy to clean up if a poop slipped out while she was crouching down playing with her toys.

Breast milk korma... good god.

Wait showers even when she was an infant?

No, when she was an infant we just bathed her in the sink. Sorry.

But she did take showers with her mom from a pretty early age.

Aw hell, I really miss the days when we'd just stick her in the sink. She loved that.

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