This Is the Pregnancy Commiseration and Support Thread

Yeah I was so not well that I really withdrew from a lot of communication, incl fb. I forced myself during week 10 to reach out to everyone I know here who's had kids in the past few years and ask them about doctor recommendations, etc. And that turned into a nice congrats/commiseration thing but it was like all I could do to write back to people and thank them. I did find my ob-gyn that way, after many phone calls resulting in "sorry, not taking new patients." I think I got my doc because by the time I called his office, I was crying out of frustration and illness! Ah... But really it's been amazing how supportive people have been - there really is a pregnancy club, who knew!

And thank you L for thinking of me even if you didn't know why! <3 <3 <3

Plus the emotional roller coaster of my preg sickness has put PMS to shame, to shame. I'm amazed my friends are still my friends and so glad my bf and I have an amazing couples therapist because whoa. Onwards!

holy shit congatulations rrrobyn that's great news (pregnancy, not the hurling)

Haha thanks! :)

rrrobyn i had no idea! you are going to be a+ super-awesome mom!! Congrats!!

Wow, rrrobyn, congratulations! Hope the nausea goes away soon.

Thanks! :) :)
Yeah I haven't been on ilx in ages because I had a crazy busy work contract plus other work for 6 months and then after Christmas it's been preg stuff/sickness. And being in bands and relationship and stuff that just keeps me away from beloved internet. But I needed to tell ilx this! And will prob rant and ask questions here etc as time goes on.

It's one of those things where when ppl I love need to leave ilx or the internet for their health and personal goals, I want them to be and do well, but I'm glad when they come back to the fold after all and haven't totally left us behind. :) :) :)

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Congrats rrrobyn! It's amazing how quickly the horror of pregnancy fades, it'll be hard for you to believe but one day you'll look back on your pregnancy with fondness ;) Hope it's onwards and upwards for you now, plain sailing until 40+ weeks!

Oh, that's so awesome!! I was wondering about you too recently. Hope the sickness subsides and you start feeling better soon. Congratulations!

congratulations robyn!!!

congrats robyn!! i can't wait to find out what you're going to name it!

OMG rrrobyn I have missed you here! I think I even asked about you on the Milk Carton thread or another thread. I've never even met you IRL but you have long been a awesome and happy influence in my life. Very excited about you and babby!!!

I hope you feel lots better very soon!!!

!!!

i can't wait to find out what you're going to name it!

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cosmo, obviously

kkevin or ssusie

Stella Rrobyn Surname

Thank you all! <3

oh god, i've hardly started thinking about names, but the one or two conversations my bf and i have had indicate that it's not going to be easy.

All in all, I'm feeling a lot better this week than I have been for the past several weeks, but I'm going to still take the medication til it's gone (about another week). I'm still generally nauseous and had to dry heave yesterday for no discernible reason, but energy is higher. I still drink coffee but not every day and when I do, only one. Because coffee is wonderful. I've been burping a lot lately though (with or without coffee), which is annoying as hell + gross. Pregnancy is just kind of gross. "Beautiful" and gross.

irony of ironies: in December, I won a "Year of Beer" in the funding drive contest for the community radio station I volunteer with. Got pregnant at end of December. I haven't collected on beer yet but I think I'm just going to pay jam space rent with it and give it to friends. But seriously, LOL.

Terrible timing re. beer, but congratulations Rrrobyn! The nausea is awful - I could only quell it by eating really plain sandwiches and forcing down those first few mouthfuls was horrid. Enjoy trimester two - have fun adventures before the third kicks in with its heartburn and general enormity :)

not to be a downer on this thread but - these stories got me thinking, wtf do women do who are alone and work low paying jobs that don't provide paid sick leave???

congrax rrobyn, world needs more awesome momz

congradulations!

yeah, this is superb news and one lucky kiddo!

As a low-income freelancer with a low-income partner all I can say, just1ne, is thank god I live in a special place called Canada and an even more highly taxed place within it called Quebec, which provides fairly decent govt maternity & paternity leave for all + subsidized $7/day daycare. Oh and health care obv. I don't even want to think about the worries that would face me in the US (though for one I probably would've gone a different, more lucrative career route many years ago.)

In other news, I went to a play tonight and it was opening night so there was food afterwards, incl a big fruit plate - all I want to eat these days is fruit! All the fruit.

subsidized $7/day daycare

*sob*

I'm whispering, "Apply to college in Canada* into Ivy's ear rn.

Or don't go to college. Cheaper!

"Marry a Canadian" I'm whispering into Ivy's ear.

You have gay marriage in Canada, right? I don't want to force a heterosexual agenda on my baby.

I would only visit in the summer.

better yet, arm and train canadian army to invade and conquer parts of US a la russia/crimea

btw usa is a corporatist dystopia, fuck errthing

Only Quebec has the subsidized daycare iirc :( My friends pay out the nose.. Probably not quite to the US extent though I'm sure!

I would only visit in the summer.

ps what is this shit, Chi-town ;) You're as cold and snowy as we are. Ivy' smart enough not to move to Winnipeg.

I was just going to say Chicago is the same latitude as Toronto!

Maybe Jeff's got his eye on a Florida timeshare retirement? ;)

What do you pay for childcare in the US? I'm guessing it varies a lot from place to place... Here in London it's around £250 per week for a child under two years of age. The government's just announced a subsidy of £2,000 per year, but that won't kick in until autumn 2015.

We pay $195/week for three days of care, and that's on the cheaper end of what we found in our area. We have a pre tax dependent care spending account that maxes out at about six month's worth of care, so that's like a small subsidy that I can't even figure out in abstract terms. X% of Y, where X is our tax rate and Y is the maximum set aside.

And by our area, she means a 15 min bus ride to the next neighborhood over. Child care in our immediate neighborhood is outrageous.

Yeah. But I will say that I really like the place we found! Ivy was crying when I brought her in Thursday and as soon as the teacher took her in her arms, Ivy started smiling like crazy.

i think we get $7/day daycare because we have to deal with stuff like 15cm of snow on March 22... it's almost making me cry.

Blood test results were great except I have anemia - ob-gyn gave me slow-release iron capsules and I took one last night and felt more energetic this morning. Also I got into a midwifery birthing centre (was on wait list since I discovered I was pregnant) and am super happy about that - it's a publicly funded thing so I can't keep my ob-gyn care but can go to hospital (4 blocks from birthing centre) for birth if complications arise. Basically it's just more like the holistic care I need and the pregnancy/birthing experience that seems more me. So that's buoyed my spirits more :)

omg the waves of relief i'm feeling today after 21-week ultrasound this morning... all is well. i didn't realize how stressed i was about it. and we did find out the sex (i wasn't sure i wanted to, and my bf said he didn't, and there was arguing, but in the end i was like "yes tell me" and it was kind of no big deal in comparison to finding out the foetus/baby is healthy and thriving.

the pregnancy sickness seems to have run its course too - i've weaned myself off the anti-nausea medication in the past week or so, and aside from random bouts of burping and heartburn, i'm okay, though still not feeling all flooded with radiant energy as some people are in their 2nd trimester. but hey, i'm okay and not barfing! it's the little things... haha...

it's too bad that bike riding is uncomfortable. i need to buy some summer walkin shoes...

ah and i haven't gone and posted a "baby bump" (shudder at that term) pic anywhere because i'm totally carrying deep and kinda just look like me but with a beer belly. good times. i should head over to the body positivity thread...

but . . . but . . . now we need to know the sex too!

i mean obv not but now I'm dying to know!