ILX Parenting 5: I'm a big kid now

babbys are awesome

anybody else experience the weirdo moment where you give yer pregnant person a hug and suddenly their belly is in a totally unexpected place and very firm? its so weird! i ended up hugging k to the point of annoyance once i noticed this, so i should probably cut it out to be honest

awww..yay! im happy for you two.

hi fives yall

Awwww Congratulations!!!!!!!

While on here...have a question: What are two year olds like in terms of stranger danger/ separation anxiety?

Is it not unusual for them to really want to go to a grocery store then freak out and want to be picked up or have a meltdown once in the store because their are too many people or they don't fee safe or something?

*there

I haven't had any problems like that with Ab by in a supermarket or anything, but she's reached an age where things scare her that hadn't before. We have a few Halloween decorations* up around our house and whereas she didn't used to care about them, sometimes she'll start to cower and meltdown and when I ask her what's wrong, she'll say "skull" or "monster" and so I'll turn the decoration away or act out something silly with it to show her that there's no reason to be afraid. She also gets afraid of ghosts and monsters in tv shows we watch. Once again, really family-friendly stuff like Scooby Doo or whatever.

Anyway, I know that's not what you asked, but at 2, I can definitely understand a little fear kicking in where it wasn't previously.

*very basic, kid-friendly stuff. Nothing gory or anything. Our son has always enjoyed them.

Also, regarding grocery trips, it might depend on how the parent in question is dealing with the child. I do the shopping in my house and like to bring Abby along. At our store, they have little toddler sized carts, which are her favorite. She'll push it alongside me with my big cart and I'll let her take a small, lightweight item and put it in her basket. On most days, she can hang throughout the whole shopping trip without getting tired. I dunno, that's our shopping experience. The only time she really melts down is if she's too tired.

Scooby Doo has some dark shit, man. Especially the newer ones.

Beeps goes from drawing ghosts and skeletons and spiders, hanging them on the walls around the house to being scared of zombies because her door rattles for a second when the heat comes on.

http://www.slate.com/articles/double_x/the_kids/2013/02/why_does_my_kid_freak_out_the_science_behind_toddler_tantrums.html

Given all this, is it really that surprising that tantrums happen as frequently as they do? There are certainly good and bad ways for parents to handle poor behavior (an issue for another column), but the existence of tantrums, and the tendency for toddlers to tackle their woes through screaming and hitting and throwing, is perfectly normal because it’s sometimes “the toddler’s only recourse,” says Tovah Klein, director of the Barnard College Center for Toddler Development. If your universe were amazing and terrifying and frustrating and unpredictable, and you didn’t have good communication skills or a whole lot of experience or much of a frontal lobe, you’d freak the fuck out every once in a while, too.

that bit about language helping them to name and express their emotions is totally otm, that was a big part of our preschool co-op's curriculum. instead of admonishing them when they freak out, help them label how they're feeling ("It seems like you're upset/angry/sad" etc.)

yeah communication is a huge factor in frustration obv

Beeps goes from drawing ghosts and skeletons and spiders, hanging them on the walls around the house to being scared of zombies because her door rattles for a second when the heat comes on.

― pplains, Tuesday, February 26, 2013 9:30 AM (Yesterday) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

i keep meaning to explain to her that zombies cant get up our stairs with those stiff legs and all. oh and they probably haven't retained enough high functioning brain matter to be so polite as to knock on her bedroom door

Dying at the 46 reasons my three year old might be freaking out.

A lot of these were adorable...

After reading these I remembered I was two or three when I would freak out at the sight of this dead tree at the end of my street. My mom took me walking and explained to me the tree had been struck by lightening and that is what killed it. I was so scared of it after that and would freak out halfway there. I thought lightning would kill me if I was near it.

Giving the twins purses and some spending money or a grocery cart was an idea, Life, going to try that.

Shakey, I tried to help them label but didn't stick with it at all.

That article is awesome, explains a lot. Thanks, Mordy!

lil nautilus (thats what we are calling it until we know what kind of thing it is) is now the size of a bell pepper apparently and waving its arms around and crap. k has not noticed the motions as of yet. i am disappointed that el prego website compares the kid to food throughout but does not refer to the ounces with comparisons to liquor (yes i know its not the same thing). your baby is 7 oz., about the size of a mickeys big mouth after you have had a few pulls.

I'm already enjoying this new phase of yr life

this is a song my wife wrote about the "your kid is now the size of this vegetable" thing but it's from our kids album so it's pretty twee (no alcohol comparisons) http://thepetrifiedforest.bandcamp.com/track/jumping-bean

thats pretty freaking adorable

the vegetable thing is so ridiculous - "your child is now the size of a rutabaga" etc

jeez n/a, that's just too cute. I might have to download.

this series of comic books/graphic novels for kids is pretty awesome: http://www.toon-books.com/. they have a bunch of them at our library but we ended up ordering "stinky" because evie loved it so much. "little mouse gets ready" and "maya makes a mess" are also recommended by me.

the fact that email preggo server just described young nautilus as the size of a "large heirloom tomato" gives me much insight into their target demographic

'the size of a handcrafted artisanal latte'

large heirloom tomatoes are a different size than large regular tomatoes you see

Yesterday, while i waited in line at Comcast to swap out another busted DVR, Rachael Ray was making some disgusting food on the ridic large tv in front of me. All I recall her saying, in a super excited manner, was 'Now were ready to use our Cherry Tomatoes!!!!' Then in a much MUCH more deflated tone 'I guess you could use Heirloom Tomatoes if that's all you have." AND THEN she had the audacity to SHRUG. Rachael Ray is an embryo and fetus hater. What a bitch.

tbf, I think cherry tomatoes probably have a lower proportion of water and therefore cook better than heirloom. sort of like roma tomatoes.

oh she actually cooks?

oh lol IDK. Maybe she was just dumping them into mac and cheese.

https://lh4.googleusercontent.com/-mcWksBn1PmA/UUCblnD1nQI/AAAAAAAAAUo/HOd1yyIEGT0/w480-h480/DSCN0207.JPG

2 months old, already 15 lbs 4 oz, 25.5 in long
I love this kid soooooo much

!! what a love <3

Happy little chap. Surprised he's not in a Ginobli jersey tbf

when he's older, hopefully kawhi Leonard is still good and on the team

I will get him a kawhi jersey

I already have a Manu jersey, he would be biting my style

lol

My daughter is 19 months old now and really fun. The whole 12-24 month timeframe is def my favorite. This week we taught her to say "funky funky" when something stinks, pretty funny to hear.

http://i50.tinypic.com/fm8ltf.jpg

so cute

Those pigtails are adorable. I remember (and seriously miss) when my girl was that size.

I remember (and seriously miss) when my girl was that size.

Ditto and ditto.

Adorable!!! Bison!!!! Happy Boy!

So cute, pigtails and smiles and at a library!!! LOVE!

Okay can anyone confirm this male child development track that a friend, who studies child development, informed me of recently:
0-6yrs - it's all about mama
6-14yrs - it's all about dad
14yrs+ - it's all about friends

my son has been all about daddy from age 3-4 and shows no sign of stopping so

My son is almost 9 and is totally, totally into his mother and definitely not me. My two-year-old spent much of last year being a daddy's girl, but has needed her mother a lot more recently and it's just killing me.

:(

Okay can anyone confirm this male child development track that a friend, who studies child development, informed me of recently:
0-6yrs - it's all about mama
6-14yrs - it's all about dad
14yrs+ - it's all about friends

― I thought, 'This is Jeezo. He came in, he activated' (sunny successor), Friday, March 15, 2013 2:27 PM Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

K, now 1, does apparently sometimes ask for me in the middle of the day while I'm at work, and she seems pleased when I get home before her bedtime. But mom is definitely #1. In fact, when she's scared or uncomfortable in a crowd/public situation she'll sometimes refuse to go to me and only want to go to mom, which is kind of embarrassing. At her birthday party, she actually stayed on her grandma the whole time and didn't want me to hold her. :(

OTOH, I'm usually the one to get up with her and make breakfast, and she'll make me sing to her for about 30 minutes straight.

evie will change who she's more into week by week

fwiw it can be totally exhausting being the favoured parent

I am the favored one for fun things & have been so from about 2 years on with all three of my kids. I'm not the one to ask for help with things (nightmares, food, cuts & bruises), so I've got a pretty good deal I think.