ILX Parenting 5: I'm a big kid now

Yeah, it's a Samsung. I don't know how the damn thing works : )

Damn! Me neither. I suggest you find out quickly! :S

so it has happened a few times now that august will be wet and so we will change her and as soon as we have her new diaper on, she has a blow out. so we started waiting a minute if she's only wet to change her. today we waited and then she had her blow out, so we were cleaning her, just about to put the new diaper on and all sudden the bed was covered!! we laughed so hard, she wasn't finished.

I don't miss that part.

think i've basically blocked all of that from my memory at this point.

Went through that with Hammer one late night/early morning. He cried. Fed him. He wouldn't lay down. Passed gas. Changed him. Did more than pass gas. Change him again. Change pajamas.

I just remember laying on my back next to him on a bare mattress, "big" light on in the spare bedroom, and he turns to look at me with these crinkled blue eyes and a wry smile, as if to say "having fun yet?"

He still gets that look too. Usually means something naughty/cool is about to happen.

had a total parent thing happen last night: my wife mentioned that evie's friend who's about the same age already knows her letters and was naming letters off of a sign. realistically i know that kids develop differently, that evie is pretty advanced in terms of her speaking ability, and that it's not even really time for her to know her letters yet, but i still got slightly panicky that we weren't doing enough to teach her stuff she needs to know. i guess it's hard not to worry that you're not doing a good enough job.

I felt a tinge of that recently when a co-worker brought by his son who's younger than Hammer by five months, and the kid already knew how to Call the Hogs.

For no reason that I really understand, my son taught his little sister to say "Yeeeeee-haw!"

lately evie's been into saying "razzle dazzle," i'm not sure why. i taught her to say "aw snap" and yesterday when she was playing with her friend she said "hi dudes" and "that's awesome." also she told us that the magnets she was playing with were receipts and she was going to do the budget.

You watch Yo Gabba Gabba at your house? I've heard all those on there. (hi friends instead of hi dudes, though.)

Or regular show?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9dS5FjsC930&feature=related

being really assiduous with nappy changing is a huge waste of time imo - the baby doesn't care about it at all

obviously if they get nappy rash that's a different story.. but the idea that changing them is going to change their mood or is important to do in the middle of the night is a fallacy imo

What on earth are you talking about? Wet diaper = cranky baby, day or night in my continuing experience.

no ALL BABIES ARE LIKE MINE

i guess you can't generalize

but both of mine have happily sat around in their own filth for hours (not that i make that a goal, exactly...)

we do have a yo gabba house yes

lately evie's been into saying "razzle dazzle," i'm not sure why. i taught her to say "aw snap" and yesterday when she was playing with her friend she said "hi dudes" and "that's awesome." also she told us that the magnets she was playing with were receipts and she was going to do the budget.

― congratulations (n/a), Tuesday, May 1, 2012 2:11 PM (1 hour ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

Hearing her say any of those would kill me tbh. Awww.

none my pediatric residents (all parents) had heard of yo gabba

whaaaaaaaaaat

The budget thing SLAYS me. I love Evie!

yeah N/A muno says 'razzle dazzle' a whole lot

so it has happened a few times now that august will be wet and so we will change her and as soon as we have her new diaper on, she has a blow out. so we started waiting a minute if she's only wet to change her. today we waited and then she had her blow out, so we were cleaning her, just about to put the new diaper on and all sudden the bed was covered!! we laughed so hard, she wasn't finished.

― JacobSanders, Tuesday, May 1, 2012 11:52 AM (Yesterday) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

when beatle was an infant she was not so much getting rashes but she was red down in the diaper area and it clearly hurt all the time and even more so when we changed and wiped her. we took her to her doc who is head of pediatrics at our hospital and his advice straight up was do not use wipes if the babby has only peed and only change diapers when they are real full or the kid has gone number two (in which case change and wipe immediately, of course).

pp and i looked at him skeptically so then he told us about a baby he had seen just that day. the baby had a rash and crazy eczema over his entire body, the only exception being the diaper area where the skin was perfectly clear and healthy because those parents only wiped for poop and never pee. he said he has seen this sort of thing many many times and the anti pee wipe method works every time. this convinced us and beeps has been fine ever since.

that was just a lil pro-tip

not a protip, henry is 2 and a half and STILL does this

the faux poop followed by the real thing AFTER being changed, i mean

side note: it pleases me so much that you a tera seem to be thoroughly enjoying August. makes me want my own new baby

faux poop!

K does her best pooping with the diaper off, no doubt.

well we all do

sleep still not going so well. I think at 3 mos we're going to try ferber. We can't co-sleep (in fact we had a bit of a scare with her falling asleep on mom the other night and a near-accident), and she's getting to bed very late and then is tired throughout the day, as is mom. Not good for anyone really.

the frustrating thing I'm finding the more I read is that people on every side of the sleep debate seem to make exaggerated claims based on a lot less "research" than they make it seem, and sometimes just based on hunches or stuff that sounds good. Our pediatrics practice is run by Michel Cohen, author of The New Basics, and advocate of cry-it-out sleep-training at two months. Based on what? Well it turns out he got "testimonials" from parents who tried it! But then a lot of the attachment parenting websites hysterically exaggerate "research" and make it sound like sleep-training a child is going to lead to brain damage, nervous disorders, wars, famines, plagues, etc. One commonly cited "Harvard study" is actually just an article by two Harvard psychologists that was not actually a study at all but based on the authors' feelings and a single experiment of sorts of letting Kenyan mothers watch and comment on videos of American mothers' responses to their babies (the Kenyan mothers disapproved, therefore the American mothers are bad).

My friend just gave me a book called "Go the F**k to Sleep" and I thought of you. It is all about a parent's frustration.

haha we have been doing the "only wipe for poo" method out of.... sheer laziness

Pee is actually sterile or something, isn't it? Like it actually cleans them.

If you're using a jellyfish as a diaper, then yes.

(you're right hurting. it doesn't hurt them as much as you'd think, but that doesn't mean you want to hire R. Kelly as your babysitter.)

hurt them?? god if pee hurt babies we'd have gone extinct several million years ago

Gotta say that none of the babies from even ten years ago are still around today.

Ok I need to say some words about the good though, because the sleep fussiness is really exclusively a nighttime issue. She has become INCREDIBLY engaging lately. She smiles, laughs, kicks her legs frantically, makes vaguely talky noises, and is generally a lot of fun and very calm during the day. She loves the light from the window, and she will watch me spin her mobile and "ask" me to keep doing it (by flailing her arms and legs) for -- well I have done it for half an hour and never reached her limit. She also greatly enjoys her nightly bath, which I try to give her after work when I'm not too tired. She's also friggin huge -- 96th percentile height and weight, too big for size one diapers at under 11 weeks, already wearing 6-9 month clothing.

AWWWWWWWW she sounds dreamy :)

Infant clothing sizes are crazy (like 0-3 never fit my son, 3-6 for like 2 months, and 6-9 until maybe 5 or 6 months) although they do begin to stabilize by the end of the first year I found.

I think it's a scam.

Hurting did you get a miracle blanket? i will buy you one if i have to.

Yes, we have a few miracle blankets, but she struggled mightily in them, and now she's kind of outgrown them. She does better in a halo sleep sack, and mostly we find that arms-in doesn't work for her anymore. Last night she actually fell asleep earlier (went down for about 20-30 minutes at 8pm, woke up, went back down for good at maybe 9:30). We're really trying to just keep pushing the bedtime routines and the naps until we get to the point (if we do) of sleep training, sort of laying the groundwork, as it were. Maybe it's starting to work.

Yeah my son was done with swaddling by 3-4 months. He would break free in the middle of the night and then scream mightily until we re-swaddled him and then struggle to break free again. This (combined with him outgrowing it) precipitated the move from co-sleeper to crib at four months and then sleep training soon after.

If used correctly baby cant escape the miracle blanket. But I agree, most swaddling products are absolute shite.

I learned way way too late with beatrice not to worry so much about training. any kind that involves a regiment anyway (sleep, food etc). my mantra became 'and this too shall pass' and of course it always did. very quickly too.

"If used correctly baby cant escape the miracle blanket."

Believe me babies can escape the miracle blanket. We swaddled him with the miracle blanket AND another swaddle and he still broke free.

OTM

yikes, i think we are seeing the first signs of a diaper rash. and yep unless august is still in a milk high, she will kick out of her swaddling blanket or kick the sheet off her, i think she just likes kicking though.

i am on the verge of saying fuck off to Medicaid, fuck off to insurance and fuck off to hospitals and health care providers, and its sad because i dont want to feel this way but they keep disappointing me. today we took august for her first check up and after they drew blood which made both tera and i cry, which were ok with, it was hard but needs to be done. when we were finished and about to schedule our next appointment for vaccines we explain that i travel for my work and we probably will not be in this area then. the manger at this clinic then told us if we dont follow through with the next appointment it will give us a red flag with Medicaid, that even if we make an appointment in a different city it will be a red flag that we arent caring for our baby, she then told us that traveling with the baby is always terrible for the baby and puts her health at great risk. she went on the list every possible problem we will expose the baby to, which tera and i both calmly listened to while i was boiling. i mean all i do is research what is best for our baby and learn what each step of her growth and development means and how to best meet her needs. i didnt even want to bring her out of the house today because it was a chilly wet day, but i wanted her to have her check up. again and again doctors and nurses continue to scare and try to force us into doing things that we are unsure of and then threaten us when she try to talk about what is happening. i really want to tell the federal goverment to stay out of our rearing our baby, i have money and just ay out of pocket for everything, but again that is frowned upon and is a red flag! what is a red flag anyway? sorry to rant.

am i just being stubborn, i havent always viewed health care this way, but i feel like i keep getting pushed around and left with very little options.

ugh, I'm sorry dude. I don't know the answers to your insurance questions, but many have been the times when, as a parent, some aspect of the US healthcare system has pissed me the hell off.