Hello Mudduh Hello Fadduh: ILX Rolling Parenting Thread

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In six weeks time I'm going to see my niece for the first time. She's nearly three!

in the best news of my pregnancy so far (except for the fact that it has been completely drama free - thank you gods of unborn bebes!) my OB thinks i shouldn't breastfeed. weeee!

i still might, but official permission/recommendation not to sure takes the pressure off.

(Our Sarah was not breastfed, btw, so I'm not all 'YOU SHOULD DO THIS' by any means.)

Archel, good luck with everything!!!

I'm leaving for Japan on the 1st of February. Yep, plane. Urgh. I'm so not looking forward to that. But I hope Ophelia won't mind. :-)

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how long is the plane trip?

Plane? About 11 hrs 40 minutes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! No sleep till Tokyo (for mummy I phear).

Like all other ILXOr kids: what a beauty!!!

Good luck with whatever feeding decision you come to sunny - I think that whatever makes you most comfortable in yourself will ultimately be the best thing for baby as well. I was stressing out sooo much about not producing enough milk with the breast pump to feed Alice, but now I just pump what I can, add that to formula, and try not to worry. And hopefully A. benefits from a calmer, less frazzled mum.

Oh and we have just rediscovered the joys of swaddling (encouraged by david upthread). It quiets Alice immediately and although it's not making her sleep longer, it does seem to make her settle more quickly after night feeds.

I would tell you more
about my two children but
they are not babies

Ok, here's the deal. Ophelia's been having these mini-tantrums. She points at things, wants them NOW and then whe we refuse to give her certain things (like a key, cause, well, she likes sticking metal in her mouth), she cries. Also sometimes I try to make her come to me but usually she just reaches out her hand as if to say:"Come to ME!" To what degree do you refuse to do (for example come yourself, instead of letting her come to me)? I'm fine with it, but we're sometimes worried. When do you start "disciplining" your child? To me she's still very much a baby and I want to make her feel she's still in control and happy.

Yesterday evening, on our daily walk, we heard a kid having this MAJOR XXXXXL GIGANTIC crisis. He was yelling and his mum was more or less just trying to ignore it and walking as fast as possible. Sheesh, I really hope I never experience this with my kid(s).

My oldest son never went through the "terrible twos" but my second son started testing us like crazy at 18 months and it continued until he was three. And now my 14 month old started throwing dramatic tantrums, putting her face on the ground and wailing for effect. She seemed to be merely trying to get our attention and of course, I ignored it completely. It was, like most things with kids (and people) just a phase.

If you follow people like John Rosemond, he thinks that you need to nip unacceptable behavior as soon as it begins, no matter the age. Unfortunately, things like "time outs" or other punishment things don't really start working well until most kids turn two.

There needs to be a separate thread for this.

Even if you only breastfeed for the first few weeks, or until you go back to work, you're saving that money, your kid is less likely to have any problems with regular cow's milk formula, and you're doing yourself a whole host of favors...breastfeeding helps your hormones get back together, helps your uterus shrink back to size, helps you lose weight, etc. If you don't like breastfeeding, you can go to formula at any point; but if you don't like formula, it's really hard to relactate if you used formula from day one.

Have you stopped breastfeeding, Teeny? I noticed you complained you were underweight? Apparently it's not recommended to breastfeed past twelve months (according to some theories) because it's not very good for the mommy. Not saying you should!

I did that, too, and my kid turned out just fine.

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Congrats Vicky, I'm 2 weeks ahead of you.
Oddly your baby is due on my birthday, and I've been told that if I'm I'm late and have to be induced then I'll spend my 30th birthday giving birth. I won't be inviting people to the party, but I will be making the most of the drugs available :)

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now, who's next? I bet it is mark c.

august and july. my fetus is so old.

Edith is so darn cute!!!!!

Ophelia's teething again. I'm a bit worried (hah!) as her gum is VERY swollen. Poor thing. :-(

Vicky, congratulations!

I'm counting the days: Thursday I'm off to Japan. Yikes, almost 12 hrs on a plane with Ophelia.

!!!! Not for a while I don't think, Teeny :)

(Oh noes, all my friends be having babies!)

I'm having a similar issue as Nathalie mentions above about having to start disciplining. Cyrus is getting into terrible 2 behavior now at 20 months and Rufus (4), who never did the terrible 2 thing, is regressing and copying Cyrus's tantrums. I know its a limits-testing, power-checking thing and I need to be disciplining Cyrus, but I haven't let go of Cyrus as a baby yet, and still just want to appease him and make him stop crying. I need to switch gears and be more of a Firm Parent with him. When Cyrus has tantrums, he bangs his head against the wall or me or the table. It's very disconcerting.

Soon, this thread shall rule the world...

I am entranced by that video of Edith - so delicate and focused.