thread to get over a breakup

you liked ron paul, you called women bitches, you got drunk and were mean, you are the only person i've ever dated who never wrote me a single letter or made me a cd or made me anything, you acted ambivalent, you contradicted yourself, you talked down to me, you said anything if you thought it was what i wanted you to say, when i told you not to tell me to shut up you said i needed to acknowledge that i was making you go out of your way, you ruined my birthday.

clearly dude had personal issues rox

rox dodging bullets

dodge this, douchebag

I mean...

you talked down to me
you talked down to me
you talked down to me
you talked down to me

That is not reflective of you.

well, this guy is what happens when an ex-neocon/southern baptist minister goes to school and studies philosophy

what the hell else is he going to do

good thing you're out.

thanks

(all this aside^^^, this is tough. i've hung out with this guy almost every day for a year. :( it's a tough, tough transition. the stuff in this thread is what i need to remind myself of, cause it's not what's on my mind right now, really)

http://farm2.static.flickr.com/1410/641350866_417d21b2c7.jpg?v=0

when i told you i was feeling depressed and wanted to start going to therapy you said "oh god, im so glad youre not pregnant. i thought something was really wrong"

lol

stay strong, rox!!!!

it was news to you that "women are sluts if they sleep around but men are to be celebrated for it" is a fucked up idea

(thanking u tza)

you hate opeth

you would never come to my house! why

wait, didn't you live with some weird dude who just disappeared one day???

haha, my old roommate. he came back. i meant my other house!

you made many hilarious jokes about how you were manipulating me

your pants are too short

i thought that was cute though, tbh

^^^does not belong on this thread, lol

kia kaha, roxy, you are a grand girl imo.

thanks estela!

when you did something fucked up and hurtful to me and i called you out on it your response was essentially "i am sorry you're crazy"

i was incredibly poor on your birthday and i busted my ass to get us underworld tickets which is what you said you wanted (and you invited your friends to come with us, <3 them but srsly dude), i made you a cd of underworld joints, and i bought you a present on top of that and wrapped it in a picture of gaahl from gorgoroth with a speech bubble reading "for you, matt" and a thought bubble with a cartoon cow inside

why did you complain that your birthday sucked, i really did my best

i am going ot punch this dude

this guy seems like a true asshole

u did right to get out rox

oh, that makes it sound like i paid for his friends too, i didn't. they got tickets when he invited them. i guess i just wanted it to be just us :(

you never really took to my cats!!!!

you would always loan me the worst of your shirts when i needed one, like shirts that were XXL and had a restaurants name on them

this is why i stole your enslaved shirt that you bought on our first date and i am not returning it, maybe

you have some seriously dumb male friends, but i guess you only consider women airheads or idiots so its not a thing

^this is a little disingenuous actually

ah fuck it

you would never get up and turn off the light!!!

at my house, i would turn off the light.

why would you never TURN OFF THE LIGHT!!!

RUDE

making a face like you have a bomb to drop and then when questioned abuot it "we have talked about enough serious things today" and go write a secret blog entry or something about it. yes, you are the admin of the relationship and you have successfully /banned me, thankig u

feeling better, thanks all

why was i feeling bad for dumping ^^^this man?

hugz

lou has the right attitude about this kinda thing

thanks

(cant see youtube at work, is that sebadoh?!!?!?)

you act like michael amott is a second class citizen!

you never made me coffee even once <<<<<<<<<WTF

when i was puking my guts out you jauntily strolled into the bathroom eating a bowl of cereal

ok that was pretty hilarious actually

you watched family guy, but to be fair you were pretty noncommittal about it

http://images.google.com/images?hl=en&safe=active&rls=com.microsoft:en-us:IE-SearchBox&rlz=1I7ADBF_en&resnum=0&q=noncommittal&um=1&ie=UTF-8&sa=N&tab=wi

you thought i was having an affair with (lol) CORNY PROG FUCK

ever since i came back from new york you acted like you could give a fuck if i lived or died, why

every time i did a project of any type with other people you complimented the other people's contribs and not mine, not even in private

better to be a passionate fan of bullshit than a vacant dead eyed zombie watching whatever bullshit show happens to be on the air! i know plenty of dudes who would kill to be in this ignoramus' shoes. i mean, not now, but before when he was not living in dumptown

the anniversary of our first date, not that i expect you to remember this shit, but you texted me "hope to see you soon"

what the fuck is hope to see you soon

that is fucked up dude

xpost thanks omar

this is dork shit, but i made you a really awesome cd of african tribal chants and shit and you let it gather dust before i forced you to give it a listen then youre like "this is pretty magical!" wow, maybe you could have been interested to hear it at any point

you're too good for this guy. if i ever get to knox i'll give him the ol what for (with my fist).

haw

"how fast could i KO this chickenshit hillbilly?"

haha

i don't wish him ill, yall, im just trying not to focus on the good times here

you made fun of the fact that i said "luda" and "lol" as if this made me a mouthbreathing illiterate or something and then appropriated them for yourself like a week later

youd do the "taking a younger guy under your wing" routine and try to brainwash him into being a fratty asshole

try to remember you were dating the next "mystery"

http://i34.tinypic.com/2mdpafk.jpg

lol

i am going ot punch this dude

― very quotatious (tehresa), Friday, December 12, 2008 2:00 AM (53 minutes ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

agreed punchable completely this guy

yeah not so good. tough, but you're in the right.

he sounds like a total douche bag btw and deserves a lot more thank a breakup

man this dude was a prick!

http://i36.tinypic.com/2i9gfmq.jpg

this is prob him he sounds this bad^

cant see that at work for some reason, but ill accept it

its a story abt a russain entrepreneur trademarking this emoticon :-)

u cant tm that only a jerk would try srsly

agreed punchable completely this guy
/zoidberg voice

ARGH ARGH ARGH this guys sounds like such a horrible dickwart! Roxy I am so sorry you are in pain because you rock harder than a truckload of fucking pigs, and there really isn't anything I can do except get out my megaphone and shout DUDE WAS A SINNER, U R THE WINNER like I'm on the pavement at Oxford Circus.

You are such an amazing person, and if dude can't see it, it's HIS FAULT not yours.

Go out, play a show, get drunk, pull some fantastic groupie ass and forget all about him.

^^^otm

haha, thanks kate

this helps me get over EVERYthing:

http://www.sendspace.com/file/pk27si

oh shi

you acted like i was being a baby when you dropped me on my BACK on those metal weights on your floor you DICK

rox start a character of this dude in the sims and never let him go to the bathroom or eat

btw sounds like a true shitheel glad youre not wasting another minute of your time

dodge this, douchebag

― rox qua rox (roxymuzak), Friday, December 12, 2008 5:41 PM (5 hours ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

rox! I meant you dodged a bullet by dumping this bloke. Srsly he sounds like that Dennis douche Liz Lemon went out with.

hes not like that, this thread is v v one sided. but i mean, everything here IS true.

misinterpreted u, aa. sorry u_u

hey roxy, as a kind of code of honor thing, i give a 50% discount when clients pay me to kill people who deserve it. webmail me and we can get something booked.

rox start a character of this dude in the sims and never let him go to the bathroom or eat

― beyonc'e (max), Friday, December 12, 2008 11:44 AM (13 minutes ago)

rong, give him food but don't give him a toilet

xp <3

there is no way im killing his sim, he makes loads of $$$$ as a stuntman

id thank him to move out of the mansion though

sad thread. sorry rox.

i'll be alright

at my best friend's bday party you said "wow you didnt buy a present for your BEST FRIEND" to me while only he was standing there, good job

sorry roxy.

he sounds dumb

:)

yeah gah he sounds like a first class douchebag

Goodluck Emileez.
It sounds like you're going to be better off. If youze want to chat, drop me an e-mail.

Thanks, ian, that's nice!

I know all about breakups!

imho the best way to get over a breakup is to focus all of your energy into hating the other person. it doesn't seem like it will be a problem to hate this guy?

I don't hate him, though. I don't really want to!

This dude sounds totes like one of my wife's BFs like 15 years ago who actually wound up clocking her when his patience ran thin. Good riddance, rox.

show of honest hands, what guy reading this hasn't seen maybe one of these and thought, "uh-oh".

you would never come to my house!

didn't like your cat.

Don't get me wrong, dude's a douche and you're better off.

What do you mean, "uh-oh"?

yeah ok a guy doing maybe one of these is not a big deal

some are fucked up no matter what, but like, not ever turning off the light? could deal with if guy did none of this other shit

There are an awful lot of one-line kills in yr list, rox.

when i told you not to tell me to shut up you said i needed to acknowledge that i was making you go out of your way

Straight-up-WTF ^^^.

the never making you coffee is what gets me

you acted like i was being a baby when you dropped me on my BACK on those metal weights on your floor you DICK

Relationship DEATH sentence there ^^^.

Dude must have had a 12 inch dick or something.

...in his brain.

I guess my natural reaction is to place myself in this guy's shoes and think about what I would've done based on past experiences, and it makes me think about shit like "always wanted to stay at my place" that I hadn't even thought about in a hundred years.

There's a thread I could start. Asshole moves you pulled that resulted in a break-up. But I prefer my method of just blacking out those memories and pretending they never happened.

I have never made sunny coffee.

Has she asked for it?

dude you gotta try it, it's great.

i hope you have a 12" dick then xopst

Women aren't black boxes, in general, PP.

What's wrong with just trying to be likable to yr partner huh?

But I prefer my method of just blacking out those memories and pretending they never happened.

yep

fuck this guy forrealz. sorry roxy

"I smell coffee. does beeps need to be changed?" - sunny successor, any given saturday.

Dude it must totally rule to have a kid who shits coffee.

Is that like the coffee beans regurgitated by hamsters?

I'm sorry about this, Roxy, the dude does really sound like a pig, and you deserve something better. Still, it usually takes some time getting used to someone not being around, even if that someone was bad for you. So try to hang on, drink some booze and party, maybe have some rebound sex too (if that helps). And listen to Grace Jones telling the truth about guys like these:
http://www.zshare.net/audio/52681724e6d726f7/

here you go Roxy, one of the coolest songs ever made
Junior Boys - Birthday (hopefully you haven't heard it before)

get pissed and let it all out

Thanks, both of ya'll.

<3!

you didn't complain per se when i put on dauði baldrs to sleep to, but you made it clear that it was a nuisance to you

you were such an ass that time andy met us at urban bar

you never wrote me a letter, as stated above, but yeah you never wrote me a letter even after i wrote YOU one

i don't think i've ever written a girl a letter ("uh oh")

maybe that's just your style. i got the impression it actually was this guy's style, but just not in this relationship where he exercised a strict "no care evar" policy

jordan i bet you have made a girl a mixtape or cd, havent you

well yeah, duh

but just not in this relationship where he exercised a strict "no care evar" policy

that is a controversial relationship policy

well making something was included in the comment! xpost

I hate that this person has made you unhappy, Roxy.

first 5 months = !!!!<3<3<3<3<3
middle 2 = :|
last 5 = :(:(:(:(:(:(

u want me to punch this guy

halp

is that an offer or a request?

lol

hey roxy i just emailed you, i hope i have the right address!

Replied! <3

forever must associate this guy with underworld (was actually worried about this WHEN we went to see them), enslaved, the clash and carcass, probably my four favorite bands.

shit!!!!!!!!!!!

this sucks roxy. there's really nothing for it, it just sucks. it gets better tho! and considering what i've read, it sounds like the right thing long term.

living under no care evar policy is really bad for you

you didn't complain per se when i put on dauði baldrs to sleep to, but you made it clear that it was a nuisance to you

― rox qua rox (roxymuzak)

um to be fair, people like me can't sleep with any music on. insomnia for the win.

ok he sleeps with napalm death on so no

forever must associate this guy with underworld (was actually worried about this WHEN we went to see them), enslaved, the clash and carcass, probably my four favorite bands.

nooooooooooooo:-(

definitely. cause we went to see these together (minus clash -- other reasons for that one though) and the underworld thing was a BIG BIG DEAL

you never really took to my cats!!!!

how could someone not take to them, they're adorable!

funny you should bring them up

my roommate ah i cant even bear to type this out

my roommate called me just now and said pagoda must have jumped into his trunk today at some point (????? how do you not notice this) cause when he got to the recycling center (far from our house) pagoda jumped out of his trunk and ran into the woods

oh no!!!!!!

ugh wtf wtf wtf wtf

nooo!!! that is terrible...did he look for pagoda?

well he just texted me and luckily i live with the most outdoorsy of outdoorsman and he said he dashed home BUILT A TRAP and set it up there with canned cat food and treats and stuff

i really hope he comes to him or gets trapped, lol

i really just dont even have room to be upset about that right now, i just have to keep pushing it down

Oh dear, I hope you'll find your cat and he/she is fine. My mom's cat was once lost in the woods for almost two months, but eventually she was found and she wasn't hurt or anything (just lost some weight). Thankfully cats are quite good at surviving.

Especially in the woods, which I think used to be their natural habitat(?).

awww roxy i hope you find your kitty :(

also, i kind of want to punch your ex-guy too.

YOU VOTED FOR BUSH IN 2000!!!!!!!!!!!!!

what the hell

did he want to have a beer with him

Rox lots of "aww" and "soz, bro" from a dude on the internet you don't know.

This: forever must associate this guy with underworld (was actually worried about this WHEN we went to see them), enslaved, the clash and carcass, probably my four favorite bands. (in my experience at least) goes away. It takes AWHILE, but it goes away, and afterwards the music you associated with the ex becomes even more your own than it ever was beforehand. Kind of cool actually.

in my experience, you have to start forcing yourself right now to listen to this music and listen to it repeatedly, till there's no longer an association (or you get a new association).

awesome part of my last breakup is now i have a good reason to not watch grey's anatomy or the tudors

cat unfound

also, forgot that our first real date was to see ian curtis movie, and the first convo we had was about joy division

lol, my actual favorite band you DICK i'm taking them back you don't even like new order

Oh dear, hope the cat will be found eventually... At least it's not cold there in the winter, right?

It's pretty cold, but he's a Norwegian cat.

A Norwegian Forest Cat, actually, is his breed!!

Well, he should manage in the forest for a while then.

poor kitty :(

that cat went on some kind of buddhistic soul journey for 6 weeks when i lived downtown and came back very thin and covered in leaves, acting very serene

He learned a lot about himself, out there.

texted me for no reason. i asked a question back to no repsonse. what a weirdo.

not the cat, but the ex

"ROX - IN FORST 4 XMAS VAC - C U L8R <3 CAT"

awwww <3

Can I do this too pretty pls? I think it will be healthy.

You rarely came to see either of my bands play even when you weren't doing anything else and when you did you would completely disappear and often leave entirely. When I said I didn't mind if you didn't like our music but I wanted you to tell me if this was the case you yelled at me for not spending enough time with you. You yelled at me for not spending enough time with you almost constantly for the majority of the hours I spent with you every day for like 5 months straight.

You decided we were broke up when we had a fight (at 3 am) without clarifying this with me and somehow managed to cheat on me with your douchebag yoga teacher before I got out of work the next day (at 3 pm)...you said you thought we were broke up.

You yelled at me for doing stuff around the house for your mom (her mom has MS) because you said now she would expect you to also.

After I got you into Wax Fang when we saw them in November you tried to keep me from singing along with their songs by putting your hand over my mouth and making mean faces at me.

You made out with a girl at that show who had a fake beard and looked like Bono!

I always paid for you for everything because you were unemployed. (<-this one is pretty much on me though)

An unemployed massage therapist who traded massages for yoga lessons from the dude you eventually cheated on me with.

You also never wrote me a letter (I wrote many while you were in Lake Tahoe!), made me a mix CD, cooked me a meal or made me a pie or anything!

Shit I should probably stop. Sorry to steal your thread rox! <3 u!

You refused to go to Nashville AND Chicago with me & my band because you thought I was in love with one of our singers.

haha whoops

Okay now I'm done.

keep it up this chick sounds like bad news its important to vent

i mean i dont want to speak for rox but shes an open hearted person and im sure shed encourage you to keep posting

she was very encouraging when i posted on this thread

After I got you into Wax Fang when we saw them in November you tried to keep me from singing along with their songs by putting your hand over my mouth and making mean faces at me.
WOW

hey as a sidebar - do all guys well not EXPECT so much as want a meal cooked for them as a romantic gesture? Because I gotta tell you it'll be a minnesota day in hell before I do that for anyone. im pliable though

shit i must be crazy - i make my bf breakfast (lol it's just a bowl of cereal) and lunch every day

cooking food with/for someone is fun imo but if yr not into it it's no biggie, and anyone who would find that a dealbreaker is perhaps weird. but in both the above cases it seems of a piece with just general thoughtlessness and self-centredness.

people in different styles of showing love shocker

lol

Okay I will rephrase.

You always promised to make me a pie and you never even made me toast.

To be fair you did make me coffee a couple times.

OH! You didn't tell me you were going to Atlanta for 10 days, I found out when I saw your dad at Krogers the night before you left. WTF.

When you left you took my only tempurpedic pillow!!!!

thank you for the memories foam

ha!

You told my sister that my penis is shaped like a torpedo!

with the fins and everything??>

if you were my brother i would have shut her down before she got as far as 'shaped like'.

i will no longer have to listen to your father snidely chiding me about anderson cooper being bred as a result of a liberal media conspiracy while you sit tacitly

oh, and you were retarded during the pre-election debates

you thought your friend at work visiting and verbally abusing prositutes was a nice loltime story to enjoy over cracker barrel biscuits and apple butter

i think it's pretty hard to find good uses/times for apple butter but that is sure as hell not one.

you thought i had an affair in nyc, which explains one of the items on this thread

you told me once that you thought "blank/idiotic" was a good look on a girl

^this is a paraphrase, but reeeeaaaalllly

this guy texting me today, 3x so far

http://www.ww2poster.co.uk/posters/imagebank/images/DeserveVictoryChurchill.jpg

^this hangs over my amp in practice space

<3<3<3<3

suggest ignore

he knows youve got a new guy?

hm. doubtful, but possible.

unless he is reading this aka HI MATT!!!!!

is he an ilxor?!

no, but i have reason to believe he lurked, documented here: dumpwatch (attn: hoosteen)

uh

he asked me to teach him voice lessons?

actual lol right now

He wants you back?

By the way, what about your cat, was he ever found?

Idea: agree to voice lessons and then give him exercises like "Sing the words 'I'm sorry I was a DIIIICK" to the melody of 'I'm the barber of SeVILLLLE'. Extra points for Bugs Bunny impersonation."

Ughhh Rox I had a bf like yr ex years ago, constantly belittling me, telling me shit like "my friends don't actually *like* you you know, theyre just being nice to you cuz youre with me, stop deluding yourself". And shoving lighters into my face and drunkenly pissing the bed and ringing me after I moved INTERSTATE to escape him and pretending to be my dad (!??!) because I wouldnt answer his calls...

jesus christ trayce

how does this happen to ppl

anyway, i didnt give him the lesson but i did talk to him on the phone today for about 30 mins. i think he mostly just wanted to talk to/see me. it was pathetto.

what happens on march 20th???

I wish I knew how it happens.

Last night I had a bit of a blowup/whinge with my bf cause he got a bit pointed and said "you always say you might make dinner then never do and I'm sick of eating at 10pm I have to start cooking things" ... as if it is ALL MY RESPONSIBILITY TO FUCKING DO EVERYTHING. I do all the cooking, 80% of the housework, and remembering to pay the bills and stuff. He sits in la la land writing his fucking electronic music all day long and is "too tired" to cook or clean as if I'm not as well and the only reason I am ranting about this is because every bf Ive ever had is the freaking same wtf guys?

Ahem sorry, have had a bad couple of days. <3 my boy but there are some drawbacks with dating someone 12 years younger :/

oh no, you cant allow somebody to do this

Last night I had a bit of a blowup/whinge with my bf cause he got a bit pointed and said "you always say you might make dinner then never do and I'm sick of eating at 10pm I have to start cooking things" ... as if it is ALL MY RESPONSIBILITY TO FUCKING DO EVERYTHING. I do all the cooking, 80% of the housework, and remembering to pay the bills and stuff. He sits in la la land writing his fucking electronic music all day long and is "too tired" to cook or clean as if I'm not as well and the only reason I am ranting about this is because every bf Ive ever had is the freaking same wtf guys?

ahh life w/ a musician

Just know that there are plenty of men out there who would be happy to eat dinner at 10 p.m.

LOL sunny tell me about it =) I love him to bits but aaarghhh.

Trayce, get take out. For one.

Eat it in front of him.

lol!

Hee hee hee. Oh I feel so mean now :/

talk up the dinner youre going to make at 6:30 pm and then reveal it to be two packs of ramen

announce 'tonight i might not make dinner' and then don't and at 10pm cordon off the kitchen with crime scene tape.

You know, it's one thing if you enjoy cooking and you get a kick out of making food and presenting it... which is a wonderful and valid thing.

But it's quite another thing when blokes just *expect* like you're going to provide home-cooked meals for them every night. That's just total BS, like, what am I, your mum?

In the LTRs I've been in, I've done the majority of the cooking coz, you know, I *like* food. But if it becomes expected, well.. go on strike. He knows where the fridge is. He knows where the stove is. tell him if he EXPECTS to eat at a certain time, to do it himself. In fact, cooking for you might be bloody nice for a change.

x-post I LOVE ESTELA'S ANSWER

ok say that you might make dinner and do your usual thing, whatever it was that bothered him in the 1st place

whenever he finally breaks down and goes to get arbys or whatever, unveil some magical, fabulous and elaborate meal you have made for only yourself and explain that you know how he just HATES eating at 10pm or you would have made him some also

You guys are way better at this passive aggressive thing than I am.

years of practice

Every time I start to think that I miss having a relationship, this thread reminds me why i really really don't.

I <3 youse guys.

you should make us some sandwiches to prove it.

yeah and i aint waitin til 10pm neither

!!

Hahaha I was thinking "oh god this is funny I have to show my boyf... oh wait."

Every time I start to think that I miss having a relationship, this thread reminds me why i really really don't.

― Static Space And The Acoustic Moth (Masonic Boom), Friday, January 23, 2009 2:18 PM (4 hours ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

kate masonic boom 100% otm here^^

this thread reminds me that everyone, including me, is a nuisance.

left me depressed text messages whilst i was making out with new guy

vindicated

will never post on thread again

_____________________________________________________________________

http://www.shopcrazy.com.ph/wp-content/images/2008/02/dg-over-it.jpg

MISSION ACCOMPLISHED

trayce you should grab something to eat on the waY HOME AND THEN WHEN YOU GET THERE SAY 'YOU KNOW, I DONT THINK ILL BE EATING DINNER ANYMORE'

SORRRY TOO MUCH COKE IN MY KEYBOARD LAST NIGHT

OH THE EATING ON THE WAY HOME HAS TO BE BE A SECREDCT!!!

dont do coke off your keyboard

LOL i made us dinner tonite ha but in fairness I wz home all day so no big effort.

5 days of 100F+ weather for the rest of the week so fuck a cooking.

it's happening?!?

dude

oh man

sry HOOS

GO HOOS! we're here for u, buddy

good luck buddy. remember, it's just like ripping off a band-aid. a nagging, irrational band-aid.

who's always mad at u

lol

if anything a hoos has told me is true, I think this is the right decision.

always break up after the 3rd date, works out best in long run.

'luck with that.

another MONTH

<3 hoos rootin for you

sorry hoos im projecting my own 'relationship' rite now needs to end

breakup season

breakup sesh

ok 4 days is like an eternity in ilx time now

HOOS I admire your maturity.

congrats homie, v happy 4 u

omg hi-5 hoos i'm so proud of you buddy! <3 <3 <3

yes i just noticed that... i just said to j 'i think hoos broke up w/his gf on twitter'

hahaha

<3 <3

apparently i missed all that by only viewing @replies for ppl i know!

i was debriefed via text though, so it's cool.

i'm so proud of you for your maturity, hoos!

3.0 my asssssss.

yeah i figured it was a gag

told you i would immortalise that lil' speech in my username

haha awesome

i'm so proud of you for your maturity, hoos!

this is otm

i was gonna 'like' your status on fb but i didn't wanna throw confetti on the breakup or something from the gfs perspective

i was gonna 'like' your status on fb but i didn't wanna throw confetti on the breakup or something from the gfs perspective

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― wow heaven is cool (J0rdan S.), Sunday, March 15, 2009 11:30 PM Bookmark

ha, faced the same dillemma

good job, HOOS!

fwiw i'm taking ur side

-your dad, a farm boy from iowa, once asked ice cube "what's up, homie g?"

waht?

tbf all married couples love billy joel and musicals

Directed by Fred Durst

damn homie

loool @ hoos' ex

...half-open?

dang

wait are you fighting on im??

Yeah seriously Hoos dump that ass right now.

go to a diner

dude, run fast and don't look back

see that i can agree with

Nah, bad comedies are the worst movies ever.

http://school.discoveryeducation.com/clipart/images/whale.gif

the die is cast, huh

Man, I'd be casting that die as far as I could with a catapult.

this is really real

i think i speak for most people when i say it's a shame lou-jag didn't liveblog his break-up too.

Didn't realise LJ was broke up :(

Noodle, it's been over 2 months! In fact, the other night saw her send a really chilled-out, non-bitter email of conciliation and ice-breaking "right, silence is silly, and I wanna hold my head high and deal with this maturely by voicing my friendly concerns...how you doing?"...followed by a pleasant, life-establishing MSN conversation, so I think I've pretty much achieved closure. May even get a friendship out of it! Pretty much A+ exit strategy for all-time IMO, regardless of how painful the moment of departure was. Furthermore I feel absolved from whatever I'm about to do, lolz

As for a HOOS, well, I can only hope similar results accrue. Keep it zingy by all means but yeh honesty is always the best policy in the instant of cut-off.

head up, hoos.

loujag- i would wait until i've seen her with a fat biker dude before i proudly proclaim my 'over it like an adult' stage, if past experience is anything to go by.

at what point to we send in a search party?

http://www.tvshowsondvd.com/graphics/news3/JAG_S6.jpg

Hoos - well done. It'll get better. Just know that you've made the right choice.

I also almost "liked" your status on FB then decided that probably wasn't appropriate.

i liked it and then decided it wasn't appropriate and unliked it!

wtf none of you people can spell 'licked'

yeah hoos, was gonna post last night: 'wait till the lolz wear off and she realises you aren't gonna kiss and make up this time'

hope you got out of there ASAP, and can manage to stay out - DON'T CAVE!!

good luck hoos!

can you please somehow impart this information in the brane of one of my best friends, as they've been denying this to be possible for a couple of years now

HOOS, this is absolutely none of my business BUT you are talking about your relationship in as public a forum as is available so I guess I'm entitled to throw in my twopence worth, right?

I absolutely understand the need for catharsis but is it not likely/possible that, sooner or later, you're gonna regret revealing so much in such a public way? Tbh none of your grievances about her strike me as being anywhere near as potentially condemnable as sharing them with 10,000+ people you may or may not know on the internet.

Just an isolated thought, yo. Otherwise keep up the good work. And keep fighting :)

i fully support lolz in all their forms and since I don't know this girl... carry on. but still, for your own sake:
http://www.whistlerblackcomb.com/NR/rdonlyres/D70D82AC-699B-47F5-BDF1-751768D3344B/0/check_wreck.gif

har

HOOS this is just an observation but based on this list i could never, ever, ever date yr ex.

i think our only common ground would be walking in memphis and we probably like it for different reasons.

HOOS, congrats for extricating yrself from the poison clutches, that's all I'm gonna say.

"i value my opinion less because of you" - sad, but i felt the same way at the end of my last relationship. worse yet, i had been convinced that this was good for me.

http://www.srpublications.com/tools/drama_theater/images/renaissance_music.jpg

Aye was en Memphife a-walking.

Man up hoos & avoid romanticizing any of it

word

^^^ Crank that shit, homes

missed all this

hoos i am proud of you

keep ya head up

that was pretty o_O

"puma"?

i don't even remember what it's an acronym for, people united something america or something but they were basically butthurt hrc fans and my ex was one of them

party unity my ass

lol

u got it

-you got ridic heated when i joked that "walking in memphis" is a song about how transcendent it is to hang out with black people

― 14 karat gold steen computer wizard (BIG HOOS aka the steendriver), Tuesday, March 17, 2009 6:27 AM (Yesterday) Bookmark

^^^^^^^^ truthbomb zing and lol trifecta in excelsis

Urrrrhh I regret ranting about mah man on here, he's good people, I just needed to remind him to pick up the pace and he did, so hey :/

i regret nothing

aw :(

<4 back at u

wow never saw this thread but man, it makes me genuinely happy to see folks like roxy and HOOS get out of bad situations and move on, maybe it's cathartic because i've watched so many friends and cool people stuck in shitty relationships.

i have a friend who is on the cusp of getting married but he's told a mutual friend that he's not really feeling it anymore, but he's not backing out. : /

will never settle again. DNW

well done hoos!

Kinda awful thing, it seems like if someone goes thru enough shitty relationships they end up sorta subconciously wanting to be treated that way and having difficulty not encouraging it in partners who wanna be really nice to them.

http://vice.typepad.com/vice_magazine/2009/05/new-york-relationships-are-for-assholes.html

This thread heightens my paranoia that I'm being a bad/inconsiderate boyfriend.

all boyfriends need a little of that paranoia

It's true. I'm sure a lot of us mean well, but it's so easy to be bumbling and oblivious. At least for me it is.

Also I'm 8 brazilian miles away and I don't really know what protocol is, which is primary source for paranoia.

BIG HOOS you can see this as a below the belt insult or you can look at it as an opportunity to start a tumblr called passive aggressive tweets and get a six figgo book deal

whatevs fuck that 'friend'

uh, max otm

sounds like she's trying to guilt trip you so you won't ask for the $$

invite her over for nostalgia sex and demand the money in exchange for her clothers

loool

Hoos get yr $$$ is you can and then no mas w/her, eh?

Roxy, u killin' me, boo.

hoos i believe the relevant phrase in this situation is iirc

fuck bitches

get money

fuck money, get bitches

Major points to noodle vague for posting raving I'm raving

I don't really know big hoos the steendriver but this thread has greatly endeared him to me

ne'er encountered the phrase 'revenge fuck' before, kudos to hoos' roomie for expanding my consciousness

what about grudge fuck

nor that

neat concept mind, if i held grudges i'd be sure to consider it

also roxy your post roughly 15 upthread is priceless

it is the kind of post which is not excelsiored because everyone assumes everyone else is rushing to excelsior it

hoos, add a $500 cleaning fee to the debt she owes

that's what landlords charge, right?

^^^^^^^^

bill her via telegram and sign the telegram "friend"

call her tearfully and tell her what a mistake you made ending the relationship, and how nothing would make you happier than just getting some coffee with her and seeing her one more time, and if she doesn't even want to take you back, just seeing her that one last time would mean everything to you, blah blah blah.

then, don't go. you don't get your money back, but it would probably be worth $1000.

oh i get it... because doing that would be COLD AS ICE.

sweet.

Well,

better come up with a solid reason that I dumped u before u call today

u_U

lol :/

\(o_o)/

dumped a dude on the sidewalk at pilot light, bad form imo

in everyones o

Dear Dude,

I feel really bad about dumping you on the sidewalk. It was a bad decision and I regret it. I was wondering if you would like to have dinner on Friday so I could dump you again more properly. You are an okay-ish but not great guy and you deserve that much.

Love but not in love,
Roxymuzak

startlingly otm, but there will be no dinner consumed

any time anyone says anything about grindcore you start talking about the locust

HEY TRY DOING THIS WHILE YOU'RE ON OPPOSITE SIDES OF THE WORLD

It's great fun!!

i've had breakups where it would've been a better option, i think.

HEY TRY DOING THIS WHILE YOU'RE ON OPPOSITE SIDES OF THE WORLD

― I'm Australian or some other weird nationality (King Boy Pato), Wednesday, July 15, 2009 8:11 AM (4 hours ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

is this like the Australian version of 'i have a girlfriend ... she lives in canada'

yeah iirc it is a hell of a lot easier on opposite sides of the world. doi

though probably there'd be less opportunity for other people to bring up grindcore and him to always mention the Locust.

thats what hapenned when we were together, duh
we are now talking about breakups

hapenned????
happened

I was merely commenting on the fact that w/long distance relationships a lot of the annoyances/warning signs of a relationship that isn't gonna work out aren't as apparent or don't exist.

ok

breaking up, on the other hand, is hella easy when the person isnt in your face 24/7 or indeed at all

that's the truth ... I remember dating/breaking up with someone who was my housemate at the time, and the constant proximity post-breakup drove me psycho.

been there i feel for u girl

It was a fairly big house - about 25 people lived there, and his room was directly beneath mine, so I could hear him and his rebound girlfriend going at it. At which point, I'd put on Throbbing Gristle Live at the Death Factory extremely loudly and leave the house.

hahaha <3 thats amazing behavior

It was weird that I got so aggro - I dumped him, but the rebound girl was so gross, I felt it was a personal insult.

Guys, I like closure. And to be honest, I wanted this relationship after she came back.

we're back together fwiw and iirc

any time anyone says anything about grindcore you start talking about the locust

― gucci gone bonkers (roxymuzak), Wednesday, July 15, 2009 6:51 AM (2 days ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

^will be addressed.

dude de-dumped

have never done that before tbh. ive never "gotten back together" with anybody. it is weird!!!!

Wait, you've gotten back together with whom?

the guy i broke up with 7/1 (never forget)

how long were you together?

not long! a couple months

3 months?

He seems like a nice guy. Obviously Roxy = king (or queen).

then the getting back together thing might work out fine ... I've just seen too many couples that have been together for years break up and try getting back together again, and that almost always ends badly.

i'm not too surprised, his crimes list was tellingly short.

haha

then the getting back together thing might work out fine ... I've just seen too many couples that have been together for years break up and try getting back together again, and that almost always ends badly.

― well I'm married to a limping, crescent-shaped abortion (sarahel), Friday, July 17, 2009 9:36 PM (2 days ago) Bookmark

^^^^ this has been my experience.

I broke up with my first proper girlfriend, then got back together with her more than a year later (during which we'd both seen other people). We ended up staying together much longer the second time than we did the first time, maybe because during the time we weren't together we'd found out that the grass wasn't greener on the other side of the fence. Ultimately the relationship did end, but I don't regret getting back together with her, as I have many good memories of those times.

We were both in our teens when we first got together though, so I think all this was more like a "learning to be in a steady relationship" experience, and I'm sure it's quite different for older couples who break up and then get back together.

It's not that different. I think people can always get better at relationships and have the opportunity for another go around. It all depends on how much of a dumbass one or the other was because you can only erase away so much dumbass in a given time.

I think a lot of the dumbassery is contextual ... people develop patterns and habits of interaction with one another. It's difficult not to revert to previous habits and patterns.

That is insightful.

sad sad sad sad sad sad sad sad sda sada sad sadasad sad sad sad sad sad sad

:(

()<---- pill of <3

dumped a dude on the sidewalk at pilot light, bad form imo

― carpathian florist (roxymuzak), Friday, July 3, 2009 5:38 AM (3 weeks ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

Coulda done worse, I got dumped at a crowded bar once. At least you didn't run into him all drunk and unplanned and 'oh hey, btw'. In front of his friends. </bitter, lol>

me: so do you like ANY metal besides the locust cause thats all you talk about
he: of course
he: i also like manowar

Dude, a relationship does not live and die by the metal!

he made me laugh tbh

Yeah "I also like Manowar" would make me laugh, too.

how to not dwell on being lonely during times we used to spend together (i.e. sundays)

besides doing things with other friends, what about doing things that you enjoy/wanted to do that your ex wasn't into?

but i slept until 3!

1. next time dont sleep til three
2. follow ^^^ advice

no but sleeping til three was doing something she hated!

also tbh dog woke me up and we walked from 9-10 then i came back and fell asleep again

I dunno - movies the ex didn't want to see, music they weren't into, go to the store and buy ingredients and make yourself some delicious meal that requires planning or concentration.

oh ok i see

basically - do something nice for yourself that involves distracting your brain from thinking about your ex, ideally something enjoyable that you wouldn't have done when you were together.

do not recommend: getting drunk by yourself

you will not want to hang out with other people but you must

^^^ yes

Are you fucking kidding me?

Is she kidding you about what?

what the fuck

Perhaps Fairy Godmother up there just got dumped and is expressing incredulity

Yeah yeah, that might be it. Were you thinking, hoos, as I was, that fgm has a great sn?

we only dated for about a month and i broke up with her and i feel like a dick

stay strong nicka!

after a month is almost not really breaking up, no? more like calling it off. obv depends entirely on the details but that is to say, you prob needn't feel as bad as you do.

do not recommend: getting drunk by yourself

been doing this for two years now. uh

It's not good to drink by yrself if you are trying to drown yr woe and you aren't really noticing yr intake, or worse, having some kind of competition w/yrself to see if you can outdo some past drinking record. That's how I interpret the above advice, in context.

Better to cry yourself to sleep than to vomit yourself to death.

nick, don't even think abt it and instead focus on your new wot friend.

wot friend?

Captain Sensible?

doro wot friend
http://farm2.static.flickr.com/1161/704968775_5a506bde31.jpg

what on earth

ethiopian food is indeed my friend.

family naan

i love ethiopian food. injera takes some getting used to, but it's damn delicious.

so i take it we are all over our breakups

shit i need to go on an ethiopian date soon. it's been too long.

apparently even the mere mention of ethiopian food will cure you of your post-breakup malaise.

swingin addis: good for the soul

i am v proud of us

wait, are you two an item now? i am confused etc.

!!!!!!!!

we are items with other people WmC!!!!

OK!!!

I am not "down" with the latest "dishes" y'all Knoxvillains are "cooking"!!!

hoos lives in austin TX btw!

fyi rock u are not the first person to make that "mistake"

yes you are the second! <3

OK, color me corrected!

lol @ all this

max u rapscallion u

iirc max is notorious for making this sort of 'mistake'

tbh

afaic

i emailed my ex yesterday & today, cuz i've been freaking out about finding a place to live and generally missing her even more since my life has gotten fucked even harder. i feel like such a pathetic loser. though she said she would watch my cat if need be. i am a sad, lonely fucker.

please try to keep in yr brane that despite how you feel right now, none of this shit ur going thru is your fault -- i got mad faith in u bud, you will pull thru!

<3 <3 <3

yah you are pretty grebt

thanks elmo & mookie, i think you guys are more-than-swell.

Aw Ian it'll get better. It always does. Hang in there. <3

yeah keep your head up,ian!

got a break-up email from bible camp yesterday. i knew it was going to end (meeting a girl at the end of university as we go live 4 hours apart never a good way to start a relationship), but of all the ways for it to end. :(

"bible camp"???

Well, a retreat her church does every year, where she goes and helps out, making sure the kids don't die or whatever.

yeah, i've kinda got a no chick-dedicated-to-a-religion rule these days. that shit can warp perfectly intelligent and wonderful people's perspectives.

aw i was about to lol but it is mostly sad now

It was pirate themed and I helped make fucking props for games. Man that was the most boring pointless day of my life.

It was pirate themed

instadump imo

She was kind of boring and with her identical twin, once spent a whole night out getting me drunk and trying to trick me into making sure I could tell who was who (changing outfits in the toilets)(I could tell, due to being amazing) but she had great legs and made cakes.

dude lj, there's nothing wrong with kids liking pirates, although the idea of christian pirates sounds kinda boring.

don't worry there are plenty of chicks with great legs who don't go to bible camp and are not boring

most of them make cakes too

Wow, having a thread to bitch to people who have no idea who she is feels incredibly good. Well done ILX, I never noticed I actually kind of disliked the girl (pretty girls can disguise it well obv.)

Yeah but i've gone back to a town where only females are under 18 or the haggard freaks who didn't leave. Have just accepted that until I move back into London, my life will be one lacking decent female company.

anyone over the age of 18 getting all tizzed-up about pirates or ninjas, talking or dressing as such, is the epitomy of hollow kook...forgive me for disdaining certain student practices but this is one of the most heinous

jordan is also otm, cakes are as prevalent an indiegirl staple as moustaches

...

anyone over the age of 18 getting all tizzed-up about pirates or ninjas, talking or dressing as such, is the epitomy of hollow kook...forgive me for disdaining certain student practices but this is one of the most heinous

vacuumcleanersolo.mpeg

louis_j@gger_in_a_dress.jpg

her hitler hairdo is making me feel illlll

(phew for a minute there, I turned into Dom Passantino, I turned into Dom Passantino, I turned into Do-o-om)

wait -- britishes have bible camp?

dudes, there are things people do that are stupid but at least fairly original, and then there are joyless cliches

and yeah we got religion here

wait who has a hitler haircut

really they are severing heads and kicking them around like soccor balls in the finest druidic tradition; "bible camp" is kind of a euphemism

it is quite funny how the lolbritishes triumvirate descended more or less simultaneously, it is as if I have a permanent batmang call going up whenever I post

Rarely. In fact I think she is the only church going person I know, so it didn't seem like the lol america&church-goers situation but just something that intrigued me.

(intrigued me until i just noticed it was a pointless waste of time and that i didn't care. Still, the girlfriend I had before that decided to break a pool cue over my head, so boring and stable seemed alright.)

As this is on ILTMI...dynamite or nay?

dude

isn't the point of this board voluntary oversharing?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oputkAvS8oI

I mean conversationally. Oral dynamite.

lol ok sorry n/m but I wanted to see how far 'boring and stable' extended itself...'nuff prying

wait who has a hitler haircut

― Results 1 - 1 of 1 for vedderizer. (0.05 seconds) ;_; (jjjusten), Friday, August 7, 2009 7:25 PM (15 minutes ago)

Hitler?

Nah, it's all good. Started kinda awkward and rub, but then we left uni and had to go visit each other in our hometowns where there is nothing to do, it lead to almost day trips of, ahem, dynamite.

"give me your secular love! mmm! we're making love Michael! making secular love!"

but it would have to be a lady hitler. a hitlher

post-op Hitler?

actual answer here btw

surely a hitleress

that song was radiohead's despairing, uplifting primal cry against the proliferation of sartorial indie cliche imo

GIS results for "hitleress" are sorely lacking

despairing AND uplifting. good show.

can one no longer be archly flippant without getting called out for oxymoronic use of adjectives

thank you dan i seek only enlightenment