Children in bars

Why do parents feel the need to brings their kids to bars? Dud

don't think i would take my kid to a bar, but how do you feel about breweries

how do you feel about wisconsin

Why do parents feel the need to brings their kids to Wisconsin? Dud

my beloved bk neighborhood has been overrun by the mega rich yuppie douchebag set, and the bar on the corner now has these awful people with their kids running around and bothering people...it's called ENTITLED.

most amazing misread thread title ever

Please go elsewhere with your progeny

my beloved bk neighborhood has been overrun by the mega rich yuppie douchebag set, and the bar on the corner now has these awful people with their kids running around and bothering people...it's called ENTITLED.

― Iago Galdston, Friday, April 11, 2014 8:42 PM (2 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

so what you're saying is you feel ... entitled ... to a bar with no kids in it

does the bar serve food? i think there are laws out here about bringing underage kids into just straight up bars... maybe i'm making that up, i don't know.

bars don't have kids in them, it's right in the name: BAR

calstars do you have kids? i'm guess you don't?

fwiw i don't have a problem with this depending on circumstances. though i have a kid and i have never done it.

My sister and bro in law bring my eldest niece (four years old) to bars whenever policy permits. Last time she sat on my knees and jabbered while I drank my scotch.

This thread is relevant to my interests. I take my baby to bars all the time. If there's a changing table in the bathroom, it's fair game, IMO.

Why do intolerant tools feel the need to go to bars? Dud

It's pretty easy with Ivy. She's 4.5 months old so she just hangs out in the carrier strapped to one of us while we drinky drink drink (usually sleeping). We go during off hours though, usually a Sunday afternoon to a place we know won't be crowded or annoying.

Are you calling me an intolerant tool? lol

XP we're pretty thoughtful about it. Like I'm not wheeling a double wide stroller into the corner slashie at 11:30 on a Friday so I can throw back shots while my neglected infant screams. It's mostly between 1 and 5 in bars that I know are kid-friendly for a couple of beers then back home.

Or what Jeff said, as we share that particular baby.

I only feed my baby alcohol at home.

kinda disgusting to give kids blends if you can afford single malts imo

glenlivet 18 (weeks)

On a long flight I see no issue with blends

when I see a child in a bar, it reminds me to get absolutely wasted. because I may be so lucky to have a child of my own someday. thanks for the reminder.

I should clarify that I meant lucky in a truly positive and earnest sense there.

i am clumsy when i am drunk and could easily step on a child

how else is my toddler gonna see some quality live music

xp i wouldn't be so cocksure about it. children are swift, elusive creatures.

a lot of them are dumb slow unattended sacks too tho

Is this thread about bars or "gastropubs"?

^^^cutting to the heart of the matter

http://www.bizbash.com/content/editorial/StoryPhoto/big/e16978image4.jpg

how did you get a picture of my basement

Your kid sent me this shot after his selfie of his nursing a Balvenie.

this is what you assholes get for banning smoking in bars

adam, beware of the smarm patrol on this thread. remember. you must LOVE kids and WORSHIP everyone who's a parent...they're so special!

I am fine with babbies in bars and anywhere else UNLESS they are crying, in which case I am gonna be irritated if a parent does not remove said child until such crying ceases.

I make exceptions for moving trains, airplanes.

everywhere that has good reasonably priced food by me is a semi-bar at least, so hell yes we bring our infant to bars. this is not even a thing really in MN to be honest, kids in bars go back to the state incorporation as far as i can tell.

but yeah, not into anything that would be just booze plus a pizza oven or anything, although there are hardly any of those around, and the ones that are are pretty shitty whether you have a kid or not.

Bars that won't let me and my son sit at the bar and watch a ballgame = MASSIVE DUD. Fortunately I do in fact live in Wisconsin, where everybody brings their kid to the bar, so this is seldom a problem.

dont get the food distinction

don't bring yr kids where there is food either imo

I miss the old days when parents with children were locked in their homes at 6 PM and we godless hordes of childless adults could rule the streets, like the bad guys in The Crow.

I miss when the parents were the grownups and didn't insist on parading around their spawn as if they split the fucking atom

Society is in the gutter

my previous statement only refers to yuppified brooklyn. please disregard if you are from anywhere else, i'm sure you are very nice

Those identical twins in the stroller parked under the jukebox split the fucking embryo tbf

pls just never talk about brooklyn

I just got home from taking my baby to a bar.

Did you parade your baby around as if you were Ernest Rutherford?

No, but I breastfed her at the table while drinking a beer.

Sounds more difficult than splitting an atom imo

fusing an atom however

I once played John Grant - GMF on the jukebox at a bar. I later saw that there were two children in that bar. Have I sinned?

Is there balm in Bethlehem? Dud

smarm and wit? ooh, guys, the locals probably loved having you at their establishment

I once queued Dire Straits - Walk of Life 5 times in a row at a bar. I don't recall if there were any children present. Have I sinned?

you are a great good in the world, go in peace

it's as if a heavy yoke's been lifted off my shoulders

I once played John Grant - GMF on the jukebox at a bar. I later saw that there were two children in that bar. Have I sinned?

― Belgian Flanders Albums Chart (Sufjan Grafton), Saturday, April 12, 2014 4:06 PM (1 hour ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

clearly if you bring a child to a bar you accept that they will be exposed to adult language and adult behavior. it is likely they may see twerking, or cocaine. the parent accepts this.

OTM. Tweaking and coke are my secret weapons when I see babies at my watering hole

please just let the human race go extinct

"please just let the human race go extinct"

Don't worry it is happening thankfully, just a bit too late.

lighten up fellas! *queues walk of life 5 times in a row*

short notice I realize but can any of you guys fill in for my sitter tonight? she had to bail. 15 an hour, three hrs max.

How do you feel about your kid being locked in a closet for three hours?

BTW, I was amazed to learn how many states allow kids to drink in bars as long as a parent is present.

How many? Don't make me google.

At least 8 or so outright. Others with various exceptions (like for religious purposes, or medical purposes, etc.)

OK, I think it's 10 states. 45 states, I think, allow underage drinking under certain circumstances.

Wisconsin:

Can children be in a bar with their parents?

Yes. Persons under age 21 may be on licensed premises, if they are with their parents, guardians, or spouses of legal drinking age; but this is at the discretion of the licensee.

Can an underage person possess and consume alcohol beverages on licenses premises?

Yes. Persons under age 21 may possess and consume alcohol beverages if they are with their parents, guardians or spouses of legal drinking age; but this is at the discretion of the licensee. The licensed premise may choose to prohibit consumption and possession of alcohol beverages by underage persons.

http://www.revenue.wi.gov/faqs/ise/atundrg.html#undrg2

Woah

thank u

Ivy, we're going to Kenosha to get wasted.

Bars in Georgia have a choice, either allow smoking or allow kids in the bar. If a bar allows smoking, then nobody under 21 can enter. It's a good compromise, the best bars in atl allow smoking ( I'm not a smoker) but u don't have to deal with kids.

"i'm guessing you don't have kids" is def one of the most annoying things parents say to non-parents, esp in that superior tone it usually comes in

damn right i don't and there's a reason for that. i don't like them or being around them. i'm not going to be overtly displeased with kids in bars (well, kid-friendly bars, some bars would be just wrong) but i reserve the right to prefer them elsewhere and bitch about it privately afterwards. i don't think "enjoying the company of strangers' kids" should be a general expectation. i don't like the company of obnoxious adults either and pick the places i socialise to avoid them where possible and basically 90% of kids have the same effect.

kids that i actually know are slightly easier to tolerate, i guess.

i'm sorry they asked.

If people traded in their kids for a TV, we'd all get along.

Im generally in favour of kids and that level of anarchy but damn right i reserve the right to enjoy a good eyeroll at the parents the nanosecond it begins to displease me lyfe is good

mte

Suspect cultural differences factor in though. Found this which I did not know about

Before 1995 children under the age of 14 were not allowed in pubs in England and Wales

every neighbourhood should have one big kid-friendly pub and then everyone without kids (and parents on a night out) would know exactly where to avoid. you're welcome.

fwiw i usually don't like other people's kids and i especially don't like other parents so i feel you non-parents on this one

it's really less the kids themselves and more the expectation that everyone should be as delighted by their existence as their parents are, and that non-parents who object somehow "don't get it" or whatever

It's less the kids and more the fuckin noise

Its ok that you dont get it

xp

Unless these are nieces and nephews, I don't think I've ever met a parent that assumed my affection for his or her children.

well, not affection, but more the perspective (as on this thread) that anyone who objects to kids or dislikes their presence is being intolerant or somehow unreasonable

Saying u dont like kids is like saying u dont like short people or people w red hair or big feet or something, imho

that is completely ludicrous imho

All otm

only been attracted to one dude with red hair tbh

And that's to this day still the best compliment I ever got, alfred

hate your kids and your feet though sorry

Guys, I didnt say "sexually attracted to"

Just pointing out that blanket statements about groups of people based on physical characteristics are sort of erm how u say "problematic"

Fwiw I was joking upthread, would never bring kids to a bar

I tend to avoid redheads with sunburnt knees as a rule

It's less the kids and more the fuckin noise

Yeah, stupid kids interrupting my silent contemplation at the pin-drop quiet corner bar. It's all downhill from there. First come the kids, then come the jukeboxes, then comes the beer... Oh, wait, it starts with the beer, sorry. First comes the beer, then comes the drunks, then comes the ... huh, you're right, drunk people are loud, too. Hmm ... last comes the kids?

Tbh, I don't think I've ever seen kids in a bar. And when I do, it's usually brief and for some good reason.

Start threads for all those other things and i'll pop in to protest them, had you a point besides?

also wtf move somewhere with better pub options

It reaalllllly grinds my gears when the surgeon brings his kids into the operating room.

Or when the judge brings her kids to my arraignment.

Generally speaking, the worst place people can bring their kids is with them to my house.

bringing your kids to the grocery store is the worst, what are they even doing, they don't even shop, they just drive around in those orange cars yelling and getting in people's way.

Bringing yr kids on to public transport is the worst, with a special hell reserved for u if its a plane

Course i should stress that there're kids and then there're *kids* i mean just kids are ok anywhere rly

My dad took me to bars all the time.

It seems like lex is upset about not being able to accost parents and kids. Are parents asking him if he isn't delighted? I never encounter this anywhere ever. No one solicits reactions from me about their kids.

As a gay man with many straight friends w/kids -- hung out with two couples and their newborns last night -- I've never once felt social pressure to love their adorableness. On the contrary, both couples last night ordered lots of drink and were at pains to avoid inconveniencing me.

bringing your kids to the grocery store is the worst, what are they even doing, they don't even shop, they just drive around in those orange cars yelling and getting in people's way.

Oh, man, the worst is at stores where the kids are encouraged to push around their own little carts. So there you are, trying to shop, and you have to avoid all these little satellites zipping around the aisles, circling the mothership, leaving their little cart places, knocking shit over, dumping their own carts over. I refuse to let my kids do that, because I don't want to be part of the problem.

you dont, strictly speaking, have to avoid them, if you take care to act like you just didnt see them

those fuckin carts

I believe the children are our future. Drink and pint and let them lead the way. Show them all the vomit you possess inside.

Are parents asking him if he isn't delighted? I never encounter this anywhere ever. No one solicits reactions from me about their kids.

― bamcquern, Sunday, April 13, 2014 8:41 PM (1 hour ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

less irl than online in threads like this one

irl parents tend to be obnoxious in other ways, mostly by acting as though no one outside their horrible insular nuclear family unit even exists

Woman walks into the bar with her stroller in front of her, crashes into the barstool in front of me. Get a sidewalk

Oh damn dude are you ok?!?!?

you should have punched her and stolen the baby

I got a baby in a bar right now. Watch out.

Should have said "hey! Watch it!" And put the barstool in your own stroller and left.

It's funny that you guys think this is comical

You're right. I think you should do something about it.

Douchy parents decide to have brunch with their one year old and take over half the place with their accessories. On the way out, the pen they have to dad to sign the check is out of ink. Then he drops a bag full of toys all over the floor. At least he has the courtesy and dignity to look shamed while picking the stuff up.

parents are the worst

the new excelsior thread

children behind bars c/d

i feel the same way abt this as i do smoking in bars. some bars have smoking. if u are down with that go to those bars. if u are down with kids in bars go to those bars. hopefully there is no overlap.

but i mean for real the subset of bars that most parents would take their kids into is surely very small, leaving a wide range of non-kid-friendly bars available for the child-averse and/or registered sex offenders.

surely

http://cdn.pickchur.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/03/bartender_baby-1.jpg

is that a gun in his hand? im only after noticing that now, wtf?

Lookit this noob, never been to a hard ass baby bar before

How about drunks in parks with kids? I feel like Tay Zonday trying to breathe away from every other parent I run into out here.

You know, we often would take our kid / kids to restaurants, and you'd see other people go 'oh god its a baby' or whatever age she/they were but they never created or carried on, nd you'd see those same people visibly relax.

Yeah, we were lucky.

Only time I can remember was when Alice was given her kiddy pizza, a flat round marguerita , took one look at our rectangular adult veggie one and spoke in her full voice "I WANT THAT ONE' to which I replied "I don't blame you"

Anyway, what was the question?

Signing the check! That is quaint.

Like I mentioned upthread: been taking kids to bars since they were newborn. No problems. It's the parents who sometimes misbehave. The ones who do, of course, don't usually take their kids to bars...because they don't usually drink.

Douchy parents decide to have brunch with their one year old and take over half the place with their accessories. On the way out, the pen they have to dad to sign the check is out of ink. Then he drops a bag full of toys all over the floor. At least he has the courtesy and dignity to look shamed while picking the stuff up.

― calstars, Saturday, August 9, 2014

You are fucking kidding me here right?

I haven't read the thread for a while but if you are serious about this complaint I just what

Oh wait just read the thread, you are a maniac

The dignity of being ashamed

Get this 9 year old out of here

He's dancing in the middle of the place to "Take on Me"
about to homicide my face

it's less bars than pubs here, which have outdoor beer gardens for the smokers... I feel bad (don't object, but am bothered) by the fact this ONE spot I can still go to drink and smoke cigs, has kids present. and you get glares from the parents for the smoking. come on! we're a dying (lol) breed. give us something.

It's pretty easy with Ivy. She's 4.5 months old so she just hangs out in the carrier strapped to one of us while we drinky drink drink (usually sleeping). We go during off hours though, usually a Sunday afternoon to a place we know won't be crowded or annoying.

― Jeff, Friday, April 11, 2014 4:02 PM (1 year ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

More difficult at 20 months, for sure. All she wants to do is walk around and go say hello to other people or try and tend bar. We still limit her bar time to non-peak hours, and usually we can only get an hour's worth of drinking in before she's had enough. Pretty soon to get our drinking in, I think we'll have to break out the distracto-iPad.

"i'm guessing you don't have elderly people in your life" is def one of the most annoying things people w/ elders in their life say, esp in that superior tone it usually comes in

damn right i don't and there's a reason for that. i don't like old people or being around them. i'm not going to be overtly displeased with old people in bars (well, elder-friendly bars, some bars would be just wrong) but i reserve the right to prefer elderly people elsewhere and bitch about it privately afterwards. i don't think "enjoying the company of strangers' elders" should be a general expectation. i don't like the company of obnoxious adults either and pick the places i socialise to avoid them where possible and basically 90% of old people have the same effect.

old people that i actually know are slightly easier to tolerate, i guess.

lmao bad posts itt

i don't like 90% of other kids, or 90% of other parents, whether in bars or otherwise. actually i just don't like most people :(

some of you people sound like awful bar company

Jesus. It's 9 o'clock. This is bullshit. Get your kid out of here. Fucking foosball.

Thank god, they're leaving.

Oh they're just sending in a replacement.

bars are for killing oneself with toxins, swearing, or trying to copulate. children must never be allowed in them at any point - bars in which children are allowed cease to be bars and therefore people who like bars can avoid them.

What if the children also want to kill themselves with toxins, swear and copulate?

they can wait til they get a fake id like everyone else had to

time was you could kick a child into the street

if children can be put behind bars, children ought to be allowed in bars

HERE HERE!

I mean. . . shit.

It's past your bedtime

I could say that about a lot of people I see in bars.

"Daddy got in trouble. Family time is over. Let's go home"

Lol 6pm bedtime

This couple doesn't seem that bad. The kid's screams are not that noticeable above the din of the general conversation and music. The mom is even kind of cute in a Slavic kind of way. No rings though so maybe it's just a nanny and her boyfriend. I certainly don't care enough to attempt to clarify the situation.

tonight, around 8pm, 6 children sprinting up stairs, down other stairs, basically in a loop through the entire bar, for 45 minutes or so. in the end their parents are just basically getting wasted.

there is definitely a spirit among some parents in which they refuse to accept that the fact they have kids means some extra responsibility. i'm not saying this is some symptom of decline, just that the growing idea of endless no-child youth is causing internal conflict and desire among those who successfully procreated before they got the memo.

i see this in country bars a lot too. kids with colouring books in the bar and then an hour or two scampering about the place. sorry ye cant have it both ways, lads

This one is taking his first steps here. He's got a great haircut. I smiled at the little sh1t

...destroy him

omg google for "shit" and find calstars

other way round tbh

can you provide a deeper description of the people at the bar and maybe at the bar itself, next time or from memory if you can. i've never seen children at a bar.

Fight the kid's dad

We tried a new place for lunch out today. Roof deck is packed with early-20s who ordered bottomless brunch and probably threw away the food. Downstairs is half-packed with early-20s who ordered bottomless brunch and ate most of their food. Other than the usual champagne cocktails the bottomless brunch also gives an option of cans of Corona light, Miller lite, and Tecate - they're all drinking the Corona. Out of three pretty shit beers that's easily the worst, and I know from shit beer.

My five year old was a perfect lady and ate her waffle with aplomb. But yes, now that I'm pushing 40, I do kind of resent children in bars, especially the ones that don't know how to drink.

I don't understand Corona. It's the beer for people who want to project that They're On Vacation. It tastes like fake lime piss.

This is the first time I've ever heard a waiter tell a table "last call" at 12:53 in the afternoon

I would too if hipsters were dumping food and drinking Corona.

Jesus tombot
Five
Jesus

I know it's fucking insane

. i've never seen children at a bar.

― dylannn

Consider yourself blessed

was in a bar earlier today watching the euro and having some bloody marys and beers with friends

a couple came in with a toddler & sat right across from us, kid was in a highchair

they sat there and ate their food and loled at the northern ireland own goal

the kid was cute and didn't cause any disturbance

they paid and left

I mean, the fucking NERVE, right?

appalling

The presence of children makes it more difficult to suspend time and avoid mortality in liquor.

are you guys quoting a Kingsley Amis novel I haven't read

The presence of children makes it more difficult to suspend time and avoid mortality in liquor.

i can manage

Other than the usual champagne cocktails the bottomless brunch also gives an option of cans of Corona light, Miller lite, and Tecate - they're all drinking the Corona. Out of three pretty shit beers that's easily the worst, and I know from shit beer.

What are the best shit beers? I've been shying away from IPA and Tripels lately and trying to just keep it to low-alcohol garbage beer, but I'm afraid to invest in anything other than Corona and Stella, both of which I don't care for much but are at least known quantities.

And to keep this on topic, my liquor store is split with a bar and I always feel like I'm getting side-eye when I bring my kid in there with me. Maybe if Maryland would just allow the sale of beer in grocery stores like every other civilized state, we wouldn't have to go through this! But they have a parrot and she loves to go over and talk to it. Safeway is never gonna have a parrot, I can tell you that.

I'd be more afraid of the parrot than drunk drivers tbh

xp Modelo Especial (lagoon's fave iirc) is pretty decent but has had a huge marketing boost so it might not be as cheap as it previously was

most cheap beers aren't that bad imo

i mean there are trash ones for sure, college party beers like natural light, old milwaukee etc and any ice beers but imo corona budweiser miller coors they are all fine

shh don't let the secret out

used to be bars scattered a layer of crushed children on the floor to absorb spilled beer. can't do that anymore of course (thanks obama) so i don't know what they're doing there now.

modelo and tecate are both fine choses. if unavailable, my next go-to is a sixer of werewolf killers.

children in bars? not really a huge problem for me.
i did, however, leave a bar a month or so back because the children were loud and making it difficult to read. this was mid-afternoon on a weekday, and it's a bar/restaurant/grocery store, apparently where parents come to chat after they pick up their little kids. the kids got into some yelling, but mostly it was the relentless screeching of metal chairs against a stone floor that drove me out.

choses e_WEO

I haven't read at a bar for a while, noticed someone reading at the bar on the weekend during Saturday busy hours. I thought, man, who reads at the bar when it's really noisy, the only person I know who would do that is.... and then I noticed it actually was my ex-girlfriend from a decade ago

HA.
i read at bars with some regularity. usually late afternoon on my day off when places are pretty quiet. especially if there's a backyard. i can't read at home without getting distracted by the internet or records or whatever else. and i don't wanna chill in any of the coffee shops near me/can't drink that much coffee late in the day.

heck yeah, that is a good plan imo

it is so nice outside here today, I really want to kick back at a bar patio and read some books

hope you can find some toddlers to join you.

only chill ones plz

I love reading in crowded bars

I love reading the newspaper in a somewhat busy pub having a couple of pints and little whisky around 1pm. maybe some pub food if im hungry. Miss living in Glasgow :/

Dear Miss Manners,
I live in California, where it is legal and typical for children to
sit in the bar area of restaurants with their parents. I am constantly
surprised by the number of families in the bar area (where there are
big screen TVs), when rest of the restaurant dining area is wide open.
Is an adult obligated to change their language if a child is seated
behind them in a bar?

I recently had a "girl's night out" on a Friday night at a local
restaurant/brewery in their separate bar area. The mother of the
family seated behind us asked us to "tone it down" because her young
children could hear our adult conversation. (Think "Sex and the City"
on cable; not HBO.) Because the bar was mostly empty and they were
right behind us, the family could hear us regardless of volume.

What is the proper etiquette? Should we have moved or should the
family have moved? While I understand her position about our
conversation, I'd like to think I can go to a bar and discuss adult
topics. If she wanted to have a "quiet" family dinner, she could
simply have sat in the quiet, dining area.

Gentle Reader,
When Miss Manners entered this august profession, she did not imagine
that she would be called upon to protect salacious talk in barrooms.
But she doesn't suppose she can convince you to hold ladylike
conversation, not just for the benefit of any stray barhopping
children, but for the sake of decorum.

So she will require only one ladylike moment from you before you get
back to your adult conversation. And that is to seem sympathetic when
you say, "Well, we'll try, but you know, this is a bar, and this sort
of thing is bound to keep happening. The children will be better
protected in the family section." Or you can just say, "Of course,"
and move away.

^ thank u usenet

also, drinking and reading in the afternoon is typically a shortcut to a nap/wasted day. but such is life. these are hedonistic times.

"MIss Manners is full of shit. Typical breeder.

"It's a bar what do you expect? We were here first, it's a bar, and the
world does not revolve around your vermin. You don't like it, cowboy up
and MOVE!"

Pretty easy solution, esp when you consider the breeders were so
typical...Pete"

alt.support.childfree seems like a chill place to hang.

old milwaukee

this used to be one of the best shit beers, at least in the late 90s. Look! http://www.djc.com/news/general/10010416.html

I haven't read at a bar for a while, noticed someone reading at the bar on the weekend during Saturday busy hours. I thought, man, who reads at the bar when it's really noisy, the only person I know who would do that is.... and then I noticed it actually was my ex-girlfriend from a decade ago

This is a wonderful story

"(Think "Sex and the City"
on cable; not HBO.)"

Fool, everyone knows Sex and the City was on HBO. Complaint invalidated

I haven't read at a bar for a while, noticed someone reading at the bar on the weekend during Saturday busy hours. I thought, man, who reads at the bar when it's really noisy, the only person I know who would do that is.

I read in bars all the time -- either waiting for friends or if I lunch alone.

maybe she meant the edited versions from tbs reruns?

xp

i read at bars with some regularity. usually late afternoon on my day off when places are pretty quiet. especially if there's a backyard.

― ian, Wednesday, June 29, 2016 1:58 PM (1 hour ago)

One of the main things I look forward to in getting out of a dry county is finding a local and doing the hell out of this.

It's bizarre to me how staring intently at your phone for minutes is cool but reading a mag or novel gets me a couple of second looks from staff and guests

have never understood the stigma of reading in bars

maybe I'm not interested in your stupid conversations!

Agreed, that makes no sense at all anymore

i read at bars with some regularity. usually late afternoon on my day off when places are pretty quiet. especially if there's a backyard.

― ian, Wednesday, June 29, 2016 1:58 PM (1 hour ago)

One of the main things I look forward to in getting out of a dry county is finding a local and doing the hell out of this.

― pleas to Nietzsche (WilliamC), Wednesday, June 29, 2016 4:29 PM (5 minutes ago)

yeah that sounds like heaven right about now

i really don't do this enough.

reading a book in a crowded bar is madness. there aren't any quiet bars where i live because the only thing for people to do around here is eat and get drunk.

anyway i don't go to bars anymore!!

that wasn't bragging i'm just re-affirming my sobriety to myself

I was thinking more that it was very dim, crowded, and after 10PM on a Saturday

Beer recommendations? That's easy

Sixpoint
Victory
Brooklyn
Dogfish
Captain Lawrence
Long Trail

Basically, anything you've never heard of

I don't really have a problem with the cheep beers Marcos listed. Except for bud and coors, those are pretty rough. Maybe it depends on where you live. I would get Kokanee instead because it has cool packaging/label

If you want a shit beer, just buy anything by Pyramid

I read books to my child in bars.

Founder's all day ipa best low alcohol beer that is everywhere

Yes, should be named session ipa

Fucking progeny collective in here this evening

grandpars in bars

in my mind calstars goes drinking at applebee's every Friday at 5pm and is continually astounded by the presence of children

about to meet my partner and 1 yr old at a bar. hope the curmudgeons can handle it.

my solution is don't go to bars where people would feel comfortable taking their small children. works for me

sketchy, smelly, loud etc. does the trick

it is true that we only take our 1 yr old to bars that are spacious and good smelling. loud can be ok, though, since it will distract from those moments when a 1 yr old screeches for no reason other than to screech.

i always think that jim but u kno this is ilx so i keep quiet

my local-ish is a pleasant family-friendly riverside pub, so I have no problem with kids there at Sunday lunchtime or w/e, but it's also the pub nearest an industrial estate, so I do question the wisdom of parents who bring their sprogs in at 6pm on a Friday night when it's elbow-to-elbow with the post-work crowd

also last time I was in on a quieter weeknight a toddler was making fire engine noises at the top of his lungs for an hour and the parents didn't even try to quiet him down, in fact the dad was encouraging it, which was p. annoying to me. but I know I'm weird for liking my pubs quieter than most

I also wish that people wouldn't send small boys to use the ladies' toilet unattended without at least making sure they don't pee everywhere and do flush and do shut the door so I don't get an accidental glimpse of prepubescent genitalia, cz I'm fairly sure you can be arrested for accidental glimpses now

yeah, that aligns well with my thinking bar loudness actually being good in some cases. tbh we mostly take our son to breweries that have a lot of open space and always well before 7pm, and I get calstars' deal more than I let on.

fuck, *aligns well with my thinking bar loudness can actually be good

Advantage of summer: the tots' parents are enjoying the outdoor seating and are not in the bar proper

Like bars are p low on the list of where i dont need ppl to bring their kids, libraries, cinema, restaurants, public transport all places i need my peace more than in a bar

Public transport? Good luck with that

Im not lobbying for it

Well maybe restaurants

Yesterday I was here and an 8 year old, the ward of this loud couple, was lying face down on a bench in the back.

Ostensible father was describing an aggressive encounter with someone at a local pool who called him "bro."

So kids in bars huh

http://www.sheridanmedia.com/files/image/kid_at_bar.jpg

can we make it the main image

http://i1.kym-cdn.com/photos/images/original/000/120/668/baby-with-budweiser.jpg

There's an infant sitting at the bar one seat away from me

I just gave her a finger wave

What a talented infant! You should be grateful.

Bet it can outdrink you

there was an infant at hip hop show last week. whyyyyyy.

I don't understand Corona. It's the beer for people who want to project that They're On Vacation. It tastes like fake lime piss.
― The burrito of ennui (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Saturday, June 25, 2016 12:59 PM Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

Preach. Its the only beer ive puked up mostly due to its grossness (ok i did have 9 of them and i was 24 and 40 pounds lighter)

Ultimate irony when I bring my boys here when they reach the ripe old ages of 7 and 4

If I have one more and squint my eyes, I can almost pretend that this 5 year old is just a dwarf

why do you need to squint to do that

There are a lot of alcoves in the Astridpark. You use this word, alcoves?

I was really trying to contain myself this evening as these two parents and their annoying friend paraded their 3 year old around the empty beer garden, the friend talking loud baby speak, finally settling on an empty table right in front of me.

does angwy old man want a dwinky winky

spoiler: shakey was the 3 yr old

The parents of these children of the gentrified frontier want it all: an authentic, unpredictable bar experience and simultaneously a safe, sterile playroom for their offspring.

hard to believe it's been four whole months

Why havent all children been killed yet

move to a place with smoking in bars

Business oppo right there calman

are children still in bars

is our children barring

bar crawling

Half a bottle at 7am every morning

was in a bar with two of my children yesterday, it was chill tbh

Aren't yr children 35

combined age

i was only answering the question sir

London is pretty bad for this. also, any place i find with good coffee has a time limit of about 2 months before hordes of parents + brats invade to park at the tables all day.

I wasn't planning to post, but this 1 year old just emerged from the darkness of the back of the bar and walked by me followed by her mom with the stylish torn black jeans. I made eye contact with the baby because WTF and as the mom passed she looked at me sympathetically as if expecting for me to express my appreciation of the cuteness of her progeny but f that

hero

I don't really understand why anyone would bring a child to a bar tbh. if I'm going to a bar it's too *get away* from my children

xp

nyc deserves

also does calstars just go to pedo bars or something? cuz he seems to run into an inordinate amount of children in bars. I never see kids in bars. granted I live in SF where there just aren't that many kids but still

The children have learned that calstars doesn't like kids in bars so now they have conspired to make calstars's life a living hell. Don't cross the children.

it was only a matter of time before an ilxor was accused of being a pedo

You straight up typed pedo bars huh

following my example eh

weird what people will straight up type when the guy who decided to make a conscious run for creepiest dude on ilx started hanging out on the thread "Children in bars"

Idnrc calstars run for that throne but as all know it sits vacant awaiting trotk

honored by your nomination

not conferring title nor indeed nominating, just acknowledging concerted effort

K ok ok

Idnrc trotk

Came after tfotr and ttt

there were elephant things iirc, not due what became of them

*sure ffs

ndrstnd fck ll tbh

ndrstnd fck I was better

lol

typical ilx elitism

rlr stff √

Lolc

(Laffing out left cheek)

bar's

Old people in bars

is calstars still annoyed at children in bars??????

obv the blame is on the parents . no excuse

who the fuck cares whether calstars is still annoyed at children in bars

????????????????????????????????????

*wacky voice*

i do, brimstead. i do.

Went to a brewery with my son this afternoon. We shared an overpriced shrimp po boy.

'children in bars' an album by a band

just spent several hours in a bar with a child

he is only three months old but it's a real fine way to start

much better comp'ny than most adults

All bar menus should come with a word find and crayons

and drool cups

Newborn show-off conspicuous reproduction party in the smoking section of the outdoor seating area

aww

hey parents can be smokers too

Dude trying to find the right angle to drink his pint over the head of his infant son in the baby Bjorn on his chest: cheers

It’s a skill, keep practicing dude.

4.5 years ago

http://a66.tinypic.com/aw46iu.jpg

That’s really the perfect sized baby for a bar. Wear them or stuff them in a corner and you’re usually good for a bit.

Need one of those beer hats, so you could mount milk bottle on one side and a beer on the other.

just remember to sip the beer, not the baby

This is probably the first time this baby is hearing Mastodon

Why do parents feel the need to brings their kids to barsanywhere? Dud

This is probably the first time this baby is hearing Mastodon

― calstars, Sunday, September 9, 2018

did you call Child Protective Services/

http://www.baltimoresun.com/entertainment/music/midnight-sun-blog/bs-bz-union-craft-brewing-children-ban-20180912-story.html

Children getting to be a little much for this bar, which also features cool games like skeeball and pinball

children in bars has become a freedom of speech issue

my child naps most peacefully 'neath the cigarette vending machine

Saw that dynamic in action recently at a beer garden in Pk Slope, kids playing a loud game directly under the television during a World Cup game that many people were there to watch. Tbh I thought it should be up to the bar staff to ask them to behave appropriately, not on other patrons. Not that it's easy for the staff either, but customers policing other customers seems like NAGL. The issue isn't really children being there as much as parents who treat all spaces as children's spaces imo.

otm

Cheers, apparently unmarried mom with a baby Bjorn drinking rose

How do you know her baby is named Bjorn?

Bjorn babies have a look

they're bjorn with it

Brewery near me with bar/restaurant attachment and sorta family friendly game and activity spaces like a lot of these places do now recently instituted a “No kids after 6” rule and it’s gotten a lot of parents riled up.

Was not uncommon for parents to just chill out while their kids ran around the place unattended and it was consistently causing issues.

Have sympathy for attentive parents doing it right (or at least trying), but goddamn after recently having a herd of kids running wild in a similar space and nearly getting my coffee kicked all over my laptop while the responsible parent sat by and said nothing I’m very OK with it.

The kid did adorably say sorry though.

look kids are grand

fucking parents tho

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera)
Posted: September 22, 2018 at 4:59:18 PM
they're bjorn with it

lol!

I must be mellowing out or something - I had a nice (brief) interaction with two small humans at the bar yesterday. They had just learned to walk and were exploring. We exchanged smiles

aww

Dads checking their instas while their 6 month olds cry over the din of the music: ok fine, live and let live. But also: fuck off

suggest you rename this thread "Dads in bars."

calstars in bars

This cute little patootie 8 month old just shat herself with olfactory hues cueing curious looks.

But how do you smell

if you’re not drinking in bars where the patrons could shit themselves at any time you’re doing drinking wrong imo

look kids are grand

fucking parents tho

adult diapers in bars

https://www.adisc.org/forum/threads/wearing-diapers-to-bar.81362/

have some fucking sympathy for the ppl who can't find someone to watch their kids so they can go to the bar by themselves like a grown-up for just fucking once they need this more than any of us

A micro-trend I’m noticing recently is that places round here, instead of the traditional general knowledge pub quiz, are holding a “Harry Potter quiz night” or “game of thrones trivia night”

move

I might have to :-(

A little while back I was managing a group of teachers and they all were chatting about growing up reading Harry Potter, also this was three years ago, why must time inexorably progress, fucks sake.

I was recently laughing at what a drunken degenerate, flat trashing, vodka swilling, lefty posh-boy waster Polly Toynbee's fatha was in his young days. But wikipedia revealed as well as going into a right wing sulk in his dotage. He wrote some grumpy piece in the early 60's about how he's glad everyone has finally realised what a pile of steaming dogshit J R R Tolkien is and stopped buying his wretched books and condemning them to the obscurity the worthless pos deserve.

sorry slightly offtopic, but arrgh fuck ya anyways!

https://www.everseradio.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/04/toynbee.jpg

i saw an eleven year old (probably) drinking schell's altbock in a bar with their parents at trivia night in saint peter, mn in 2010. true story

Harry Potter trivia or regular though

Couple with stroller wants to share my table
Parks the stroller next to me
Get the fsck

Couple with a stroller I know, I know, it's serious

thinking of becoming a dad in order to bring kids to bars

so my place of residence at the moment is salt lake city. it's known for being the mormon capital, and mormons are known for having lots of children. the reputation is accurate. almost everywhere i go outside of my bedroom in this state i have to share public space with countless moms and dads and their broods of four or more children. now i'm not so curmudgeonly as to categorically hate children or people who decide to have one or two kids but i find it exasperating and pathetic when mom and dad have obviously made an effort to produce 3 or more of themselves, increasing the net stupidity of humanity and adding a significant amount of additional co2 to the atmosphere.

the gym i go to is a two-floor barbell gym, locally owned and run. i am serious about weightlifting and go almost every day. today i was using the cable station on the second floor of an almost-empty gym when a herd of 6 kids and mom appear at the top of the staircase behind me. two of them start playing hopscotch right at the edge of my gym personal space and the rest climb on to the exercise bikes nearby and dink around. mom is doing nothing, just standing there watching them. i get very irritated and lose it, growling "this isn't a playground" at the kids and mom. i don't regret it. to that mom: i don't need to deal with your six fucking kids at my gym and i hate you and this """"family friendly"""" garbage can of a state for making it ordinary and acceptable for you to bring them there.

this is the children in bars thread, brother

start your own children in gyms thread

i'd rather start a bars in gyms or gyms in bars thread tbh

gym bar would be a good concept. though you would need to have some sort of waiver signed by each customer/member

children in bar-bell gyms

map otm,full support here

I derive real pleasure from knowing this is going to be a calstars revive

and also have to wonder do you accidentally keep going to a kids' bar

calstars unveiled

https://pbs.twimg.com/media/EGUVYwQXUAY4b-R?format=jpg&name=small

This was pretty funny: https://slate.com/human-interest/2019/09/kids-running-around-restaurants-care-and-feeding.html

Doxed!

d peterson 1000% otm

Disappointed mom face

these parents clearly didn’t see the NO KIDS 8 1/2 x 11 posted by the door. Now they managed to spill a book of matches on the floor

at 8 1/2 x 11 i'm surprised they fit in the door in the first place

One three year old bumps her nose and starts screaming bloody murder. Her sister runs to the front door and sprawls out completely on the floor, face first. The brother races his toy truck on the floor the entire length of the bar. Small place. The family finally makes a slight attempt to take control. The kids then start chanting “yes” in unison.

My godson and I lunched in the bar section of the restaurant; we nursed our chocolate milk and white wine like pros.

did you enjoy your chocolate milk

He thought the chardonnay too buttery.

There were kids in the bar today and it was totally chill

^ title to the new Lil' Dickie single

https://thehardtimes.net/culture/dog-cant-believe-they-allow-kids-in-this-brewery/

Dad is here with his 8 year old and what looks to be a date? He announces softly that he’s going to have a smoke, then breaks out some weed vapor and blows a plume high in the air. Kid plays with dog absentmindedly and asks his daddy to look.

https://pyxis.nymag.com/v1/imgs/fdd/0b7/b2fefe6e037e3117416ea696850694a1f7-28-sloshed-kids-drinking.rhorizontal.w700.jpg

I misread the title as Chicken in Bars and now I'm recalling all the chicken I've eaten in bars. Wings, tendies, sandwiches... I've decided my favorite is the fried chicken salad I'd get at Chesterfields, a spacious and somewhat bleak dive in a grimy part of town. Corona killed it.

(the salad was exactly the same as you'd get in 1985)

they never threw it out?

Parents wheelin in dem strollers liked it’s no big ting

2 yo wandering around The bar while pavements “major leagues” plays

Buzzed dad swinging his toddler around by his arms, toddler crying, dad puts toddler on his shoulders and starts to dance

children behind bars

Well I said come over baby
We got children in the bar
Who's bar?
What bar?
My bar!

https://www.theonion.com/child-s-favorite-restaurant-also-dad-s-favorite-bar-1819579780

The first draft of Children of Men was somewhat less hard hitting.

Car alarm outside. “Get up,” mom says to girl who’s fallen

Other one is playing “Flip the thermos on to the table until it lands vertically” then falls backward knocking over a bench

Toddler at the big table
I guess there’s an economic imperative

BPA free pint glass

“can i get another cranberry juice?”

“you’ve had enough”

Toddler at the big table
I guess there’s an economic imperative

Needs one or two tweaks to be a Morrissey lyric

spouse and i brought our firstborn to meet some friends at a hype williams video retrospect at some bar years back and that was the first and only time we ever did that.

did very briefly meet whiney and he complemented the name of our kid.

Presumable mom placing 5 yo st the window seat at 9 pm

His mom holds him in her arm as she partake in a group tequila shot

Mstanding on the bar stool and hugging his Mom

I mean, isn't it better to learn about tequila shots under parental supervision, rather than at the playground?

This 2 year old left to entertain himself at an empty table for six with a plastic dinosaur. He bangs on the seat.

He’ll never remember this right

uh calstars what did you do

lol

Haha

I have very mixed feelings about Orwell (of course) but he got it at least about excluding kids from pubs. https://t.co/0g2aPEDDVN pic.twitter.com/jmOetE8nCT

— Tom Gann (@Tom_Gann) July 25, 2022

Two adolescents here with mom and dad, dad keeps ordering rounds for himself and mom. Who am I to judge, there’s so Much I don’t know

I heard about an article in last Sundays n y times about children in bars
Anyone have a link?

I subscribe to the Sunday NYT and try to at least glance at every article in the paper, but that doesn't ring a bell.

Yeah, I just tried a few different searches for the month of August and didn't find anything.

5 year old holding daddy’s hand in line for the rest room
Surely there’s a better way

40 year old genius brings his five year old daughter in to sit under the disco lights

Maybe Cib is not such a bad idea when you consider the alternative — dads drinking 40s on stoops while their kids look at dead bugs on the sidewalk

I gave up my seat to a family with a stroller and a toddler

Mom walks in holding a baby with a head brace

Children in bars they have no conscience
No resistance

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2023/aug/01/i-dont-come-here-to-enjoy-other-peoples-children-should-pubs-and-restaurants-be-kid-free-zones

my dad took me to the village pub every Sunday lunchtime in the early 90s, not that they had any food besides crisps and kinder eggs, he got the Sunday Times even though he hated it, because it was the only paper that came with a free comic. all seemed very standard at the time.

On Sunday night my wife and I had dinner at a place called A Bar, Montana (it's in an A-frame building). It's a bar, but it's got tables (and digital slot machines, because every third business around here is a "casino"). The food's great, and yeah, people bring the whole family, and sit right next to groups of drunken dudes in camo caps, squads of aging ex-cheerleaders (going based on demeanor here), retired couples, and everybody else.

LOL @ the idea of my dad talking me to the pubs he used to drink in, or any child being anywhere near them!

rural herefordshire is a bit different, there are a couple of dodgy pubs in hereford (and my great grandad was once the landlord of the worst one) but there's not enough people around to justify smokey men-only boozers when only a few hundred people live within walking distance.

The place where I tend bar promotes itself as a family restaurant that happens to have a full bar rather than a watering hole that serves food. One of my regulars is a local tax preparer who talks loudly about her 80-hour workweeks, whose husband is on the road all week as a truck driver and who likes to bring her 13-year-old daughter and 12-year-old son to the bar to be bored to death while she drinks. She leaves them sitting at the bar to continue to be bored to death while she goes out and smokes. She always goes out to smoke right after she's gotten a very cold drink, so it's closer to room temp by the time she gets to it, which may offend me most of all. Last week she came in with her husband, the 12-year-old boy, and her husband's sister and the sister's babe in arms, not yet two. The baby got its own barstool, so the group took up five of our 11 bar seats. I saw my boss come through the room and take several extra beats assessing the situation; he decided not to say anything. She tips reasonably well.

WmC, this might seem like a strange question, but do you “like” bartending? I like it, but my partner hates that I do it, for whatever reason. I figure— I don’t drink when I’m bartending, I don’t do other drugs, what’s the big deal!? It’s a sticking point.

Anyway, the bar where I work in the summer/fall has been super nice this year.

Not a strange question at all, and in fact my wife and I talked about exactly that this afternoon. I'm usually exhausted when I get home and unload frustrations about the shift — bad tippers who ask for bad drinks, people who wander in ten minutes before closing time wanting a big meal and a long drinking session, etc. When my wife and daughter have come to the restaurant, they see me having fun, turning drink orders around quickly and still managing conversation with bar patrons, performing in my lowkey way. J said, "If I were to go only by the way you talk about the job when you get home, I'd say you were the most miserable person in the world." So I need to work on that and acknowledge the pleasure I get as well as the frustrations. The short answer is yes, I like bartending. (But the job has a thousand moving parts and the parts change from shift to shift as I'm sure you know, and some of the parts are shitty. But occasionally three of the pieces are a perfectly made Sazerac, a customer who practically weeps for joy because I'm the only bartender within 75 miles who knows how to make one, and a 60% tip for being that bartender.)

i haven't tended bar, but back in the day when i worked in books/music stores there was almost a joy during christmas season when you just non-stop knew where everything was/understood what customers meant by 'you know, the red book' or whatever/just kind of flowed through eight hours

(unfortunately there was no payoff. on december 26 you started getting returns from people who have very obviously sliced bread on the cover)

but when you find yourself mastering all the moving parts, the flow is wonderful

btw, how do you handle buybacks?

As a formal policy, they don't exist at my workplace (and I don't think they're much of a thing anywhere in this conservative part of the country where small towns and counties are only recently going wet), but if I miscount the number of rounds a regular had in their favor when they tab out, well, it was a busy night.

(sorry for thread derail, should move to the bartending thread, p.s. we have plenty of kids at the bar)

Honestly I had never heard the term "buybacks" until ilx.

In my experience the verb is/was "housed." As in, "it's on the house." She housed my beer.

They're not "buying it back,:" they're just not charging you for it.

Perhaps I am an outlier, but I don't hear this term in any bar I have ever been in (and I have been in quite a few).

Maybe someday I will tell you about the time I was sitting in a bar in Washington DC and a British woman tried to tip in an English way ("and for yourself?"). Neither person understood the other at all, and I sorta wanted to intervene but decided not to.

My previous knowledge of buybacks was 401(k) forfeitures and restorals lingo so it was nice to learn a less boring use of the word

friends who are bartenders or barflies say 'buybacks', i think those who are neither mostly don't know what it means. but maybe it's also a regional thing?

buybacks are just a bartender who’s like ‘this one’s on me’, with ‘this one’ being maybe a fifth drink. tab’s a little less but you tip a little more

still miss dc’s frank v., who would basically just make up a number at the end of the night and we’d tip him the difference

The pub mentioned in that Guardian link up thread is my local (or one of five or six locals I suppose). They may ban U10s now but back when the kids were that small it was a total dive anyway; the gastropub refurb was fairly recent. Most annoying thing about that place is the insistence on table service.

Deflator and mookie, I have been a waiter and a barfly, mostly Mid-Atlantic. Just never heard it called that.

"This one's on me"? Definitely. "This is on the house"? Absolutely. "They housed my beer"? Many times.

Clearly it is accepted jargon somewhere but "buyback" makes no sense - buying it back would imply that you give me some money and I hand the drink back to you, instead of drinking it. But drinking it is the entire fricking POINT.

Why not just say "on the house," which everyone understands?

‘this one’ being maybe a fifth drink.

ouch

my peak barfly days when I was super in with the bartenders at 3 different joints, it was usually after 2 or at the most 3 when the buyback would kick in. Then heavy pours, free shots, experimental drinks, wild shit would come soon after. I don’t do any of that shit now I just drink at home because at a certain point you just age out of the bar scene unless you are into the daytime dive scene

it was usually after 2 or at the most 3 when the buyback would kick in. Then heavy pours, free shots, experimental drinks, wild shit would come soon after.

^^^

not a barfly myself but if i'm with someone who's a regular, it's after the first drink or at the most 2

cocktail bars, if the bar manager recognizes me, will usually offer a free shot while i'm waiting for my first drink and i seldom order more than 2.

"They housed my beer"? Many times.

Whoa wait -- ime to "house" something is to devour or destroy it. ("Monty housed his roast beef sandwich") and for freebies we use the verb comp ("I comped the drinks on 13 bc that's Angela's friend")

butthouse is like smash something and destroy it, in the style of sitting down hard on a cupcake

― tuppence b. bag (roxymuzak), Sunday, April 19, 2009 2:34 AM (fourteen years ago) bookmarkflaglink

Thanks, La Lechera, "comped" is a more elegant verb and yes I have heard that one too.

Still I maintain and contend that "buyback" is alien to me and it also doesn't make any lexical sense. If it is an idiom in your personal world, great; rock on, drinking people.

Buybacks are what they're called in NY and what I've always called them.

And housed definitely means to devour or destroy so if you said someone housed your beer I'd assume you meant they drank it.

Maybe it is regional but I know it from growing up/working in two restaurants my parents owned in NY and then bartending in MA.

Why not just say "on the house," which everyone understands?

To be clear the act is called a buyback but I don't think the term is used in the moment. Then obv you'd say - this is on me or on the house. You would use the term if you were talking about someone doing it like oh that Gary sure gives the regulars a lot of buybacks. Something like that.

But you don't buy it back so why is it called that? The bartender is not buying anything, he/she/they is merely not charging for it. It makes no sense.

Sorry, I will shut up now.

I only heard it after my friends befriended a bartender in Brooklyn circa 1998 or so. It seemed like a very NY concept to me at the time bc I had never spent extended time in a bar as a young adult.

I understood the word from context the first time I saw it but yeah, it doesn't make sense to me. Nobody's ever used it with me. Comps, freebies or on the house, sure.

we need a regional map of these variations

yeah, i’d never heard it til calstars began using it, but most of my serious bar years occurred in Northern California, where “comped” or “on the house” were used.

Llwe need a regional map like coke/pop/soda, yes please

*We

I'd never heard buyback until I lived in NYC and it's still the only place I've heard it. Also, it seems much more hardwired into bar culture there, to the extent that people kind of expect it (although part of the dance is that you can never take it for granted). I've had comped drinks here and there elsewhere, but even for regulars it's not a normal thing in the South in my experience.

Also I have definitely had a buyback on the 5th drink when I had no intention of having a 5th drink. But what are you gonna do, say no?

but even for regulars it's not a normal thing in the South in my experience.

otm

John at the bar is a friend of mine
He buybacks my drinks for free

(See? It makes no sense, and New York ers are gaslighting me. As usual.)

having been forced to think about this:

I bought four drinks from bartender WmC, so he bought me one back

still miss dc’s frank v., who would basically just make up a number at the end of the night and we’d tip him the difference

― mookieproof, Wednesday, August 2, 2023 1:41 AM (nine hours ago)

this makes me fondly remember the days where I'd go to the same place regularly with a group of friends and the bartender was able to save time by not keeping track of my drinks or taking money, making change, etc. every time I ordered a drink. I'd either tell them at the end of the night what the tally was or they'd just say "you had three beers" while looking at me and I'd pay for three beers with a healthy tip

xp 🤯

i think you cracked it, i'm terribly impressed.

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2023/aug/01/i-dont-come-here-to-enjoy-other-peoples-children-should-pubs-and-restaurants-be-kid-free-zones

― Andy the Grasshopper, Tuesday, 1 August 2023 bookmarkflaglink

Pointless, but very Guardian, piece.

idk what buybacks are, I prefer takebacks, which is where I help myself to a beer I didn't pay for

YMP wait’ll you hear about how Run D.M.C. is using the word “bad” these days

Friday night is like “parents take your screaming offspring to the bar” night

It is. Last night there was a large table and this little kid kept touching our silverware, messing with the folded napkins, playing with glassware while her parents did absolutely nothing to stop her. I asked her FIVE separate times to stop and eventually the cake came out and she was distracted. Free babysitting not part of the job.

Brutal

phones are good actually

I agree — I’d rather deal with a group where half of them are nose deep in their devices than to have to ask someone “please stop touching our things” that many times. More than once.

I'm a parent and it drives me mad when parents ignore the behaviour of their child like this