asexual pride movement

dude, I was 19.

yeah i kinda got that you were criticising younger-you a bit

anyway, asexuals! a rum lot.

I have long had the lingering fear that all my big sex talking and crush talking on the internets is actually a big cover for my lack of any genuine sexuality. :-(

Having this the other way around, these days -- the idea of letting anyone close enough to touch me is...it's so unlikely, it might as well be happening to someone else. Heh. I spose if there were any real prospects, that could change pretty quickly, probably. But it feels impossible right now.

Actually, maybe I meant this, rather. It's so unlikely it's become impossible to imagine and therefore icky and unnatural.

xp - I was trying to summarize my mentality about it, and convey that it wasn't some fey swooning type of thing. I think I'm still attracted to people for that reason, though now, it's a more realistic, "Let's hang out and do a creative project together."

Right, Kate! In the "why in the world would I want to do THAT?" way. I've been here before, it can be undone by a mutual attraction and a couple of dates, but the danger is that if I rush into anything, the weirdness of it will make me dissociate. And I like actually BEING THERE when something exciting happens, instead of floating around the ceiling like I'm watching someone else.

I dunno - I remember hooking up with someone after over a year of not doing so, and it was mixture of excitement/being present and some dissocation. But then, I think most of the time, in most things, I'm both doing things and watching myself do them.

^^^This would probably ring true for most ILXors

... and thinking about why I'm doing them, and what if I did something else?

im asexual...

a sexual being, that is!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

thanks max, for getting us back on topic!

im asexual...

a sex u al wanna experience, that is!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

"what happened? i am aroused"

"kill hamster __ yes ___ no"

This thread has introduced me to the phrases "ninny crushes" and "crotchular bulge". I think I am in love!

Anyone who is asexual who wasn't abused as a child is a big bloodless freak and should stfu and gtfo.

but by definition they don't want to gtfo...

it doesn't seem like much to celebrate

oh, I dunno. Who was the writer who said on entering his dotage "Thank God that's all over with"?

Plato and Augustine expressed what amounts to that sentiment, Dr. Morbius, though they were both understandably conflicted about what kind of life they were advocating. And Augustine at least knew what he was lamenting, having slept with everything on two continents before giving it all up for good. Also cf. Stoicism.

I know two asexual people, and for both of them religion plays a key role (one is now a priest), plus general squeamishness about, er, the world at large. Neither's renounced their old ways; they'll both, I expect, be lifelong virgins.

http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_t6rV3U9ZEHM/SpPvH2DT5rI/AAAAAAAAbsw/fqZl18WKHfk/s1600/DavidJay.jpg

This is like Too Drunk To Fuck in reverse

Sorry.

http://i72.photobucket.com/albums/i191/fluxion23/DavidJay.jpg

This is like Too Drunk To Fuck in reverse

like actually BEING THERE when something exciting happens, instead of floating around the ceiling like I'm watching someone else.

A friend of mine told me this exact thing a couple of months ago, and it was the best reason for quitting pot I had ever heard. He said, "I want to actually be present when my girlfriend tells me she loves me." It was one of the sweetest things I'd ever heard.

He fucks his girlfriend, though. So that's off-topic.

LOL, I bookmarked this thread without actually ever posting in it.

Typical.

I'm sorry, but if I'm going to join a movement, it better have a better color scheme than this:

http://rlv.zcache.com/asexual_pride_bumper_sticker_1-p128004942635588411en7pq_216.jpg?max_dim=656

http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_mbclvfkrhI1rubjl2o1_400.jpg

I am like, barely heterosexual and practically asexual. Almost no people turn me on.

misleading display name then

has there been any theoretical/psych inquiry into this yet?

Into homosexual II's display name?

The Asexuals are pretty good. I have a few of their EPs. Canadian HC never gets enough attention IMO.

The 'asexual and proud' flag looks like a supermarket own brand licorice allsort.

http://i.imgur.com/hwuiC2k.png

LOL, we really are such narcissists, aren't we?

Asexuality would not be synonymous with celibacy, which is a lack of sexual activity, but rather would indicate a complete lack of sexual urges. Since such a state would seem to be accidental, it seems a strange thing to take pride in.

uh people take pride in lots of states they have little control over, for several reasons

http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Involuntary_celibacy

Just because people do weird things doesn't mean they aren't weird.

holy motherfucking shit @ christine chubbock, I had never heard of that before xp

xp yeah but those things being entirely explicable & common somewhat dampens the strangeness, is what I'm saying

Asexual pride isnt any "weirder" than gay pride. I dont understand your point Aimless.

asexuals have never been persecuted afaik

yeah I'm not trying to draw any equivalency & I have problems w ppl coöpting the terms of the persecuted but I did say there were several reasons, for instance the ppl asserting their "pride" may previously have spent years feeling like shit for being different regardless of lack of persecution from the outside world

Gay "pride" has a needful compensatory function, in that the accident of a non-standard sexual orientation has been irrationally made a point of social shame and rampant discrimination. Asexuals, to the best of my knowlege have never been the objects of similar discrimination.

Compare the only asexual epithet I can identify, virgin!, to others such as nigger, faggot, kike, greaser, fairy or bulldyke and the difference in the need for asserting "pride" in the face of discrimination becomes pretty obvious.

omg let's not get into these comparisons please

I *agree* with you that the asexual pride *movement* is dumb for all the reasons that you state, I'm just saying it's entirely obvious why they're doing it: to make themselves feel better.

I just think the "proud of what? DOES NOT COMPUTE" pose you're striking is disingenuous I guess

really don't care about any of this tho, it's a silly argument, soz

It's really up to asexuals to decide whether they feel alienated by society to the extent that they would find value in asserting "pride" in their nonstandard sexual orientation.

to what extent tho

identity politics, never as good as the first time

otoh if you want to play you should prob. come out as something not not-something

isn't that the ultimate though