asexual pride movement

ha ha ... for the longest time, this guy was seriously obese, and then he lost a lot of weight. Now, he kinda looks like a persian cat that had its body shaved for some veterinary procedure. No one I know, to my knowledge, has asked him whether the weight loss corresponded to deciding that he wanted to get laid after all.

I think some people have a very low sex drive, have highly elaborate ideas of romance and/or religious scruples and never really get beyond the 'Ugh, bodily fluids' stage to the 'ooh, sweet transgression' stage and sex may just pass them by, or not, of course.

I tend not to think about the bodily fluids.

^^ I mean, being dissuaded from sexual impulses because sex involves bodily fluids, is kinda like being afraid to cook because boiling water is hot.

maybe they're all just really, really lazy

hahahahahaha.

but if they're that lazy, why have an activist movement?

i dunno, if you're not interested in touching yourself or others in a sexy way, there's nothing wrong with that -- i just can't help but wonder: where does all that sexy get to? is it repressed? does it get sublimated, somehow?

what happens to a boner deferred? does it dry up like a raisin in the sun?

http://glad-to-be-a.livejournal.com/

everybody has a different libido/sex drive, i have no problem believing that some people's are (due to hormones or whatever) very, very, very low.

http://l-userpic.livejournal.com/75426083/15758965

I accept that livejournaler's concept of a bell curve of sexuality, but that doesn't mean we can't o_O them, like midgets and dwarves and babies with butt penises.

sometimes I wonder how PC you're gonna have to be in order to not have to be all "those were different times!" in the future.

― ❊❁❄❆❇❃✴❈plaxico❈✴❃❇❆❄❁❊ (I know, right?),

in the future, babies with butt penises will have their own pride parade.

I wonder how long I have to stay celibate before I can self-identify as asexual.

But I guess saying something like that on a thread like this is kinda like putting a sign saying "kick me" on your own back.

The world makes such a big deal out of sex and sexuality and coupling and coupling up. I can really kinda sympathise with people who just want to say "enough already."

http://www.morethings.com/fan/south_park/photo_gallery/nurse_gollum-conjoined_fetus_twin.jpg

Kate, you can sympathise with them, perhaps, but you have crushes all the time!

xp Kate: from other threads, though, it definitely seems like you have the desire, though. These people are saying they don't.

a crush is not the same as desire.

I really am beginning to wonder about that. A crush is kind of a visual thing, it doesn't really connect with any actual ... sexual feeling down there.

I don't know. I'm not saying that I am an Asexual, but I'm saying that I could definitely sympathise with being one.

I think for me, crushes were partly sexual and partly ideological, but were also, weirdly like some sort of game or tactical exercise, especially since most of them weren't people that I really wanted to be in a relationship with.

ideological?

Don't make me revive the Crushology thread where we categorise all the different kinds of crushes and what they mean.

Actually, probably, my internet crush is probably more of an "I want to be you" rush than an actual sexual or romantic crush and I should just relax and slip back into asexual despair again.

But wait, if I feel despair at feeling so asexual, I'm not really a Prideful Asexual, would I be?

I've totally had the "I want to be you" crush!

xp horseshoe -- I think ^^ that's mainly what I meant by ideological.

oh okay! all crushes are kind of an "i want to be you" crush, i think.

well, some are "i think you're hot, and I want to do you."

some are certainly "I want to bone you" though

xp: haha exactly

what about 'i want our beautifully compatible minds to sink into one another' or is that something only ninnies think

^^ uh, I've had those too.

I can't remember what it's like to actually want to bone someone.

I've got to the point where the idea of actually touching someone is kind of gross. It's all mental these days.

Oh, and now the good pure asexual thread is all besmirched with filth. Sigh.

I brought up the babies with butt penises first.

Generally my crushes are a heady mix of all three. Envy, lust, and pride.

well at least they don't involve sloth!

ninny crushes

actually mine were more like, "We think the same, we hate all the same things, let's hook up and take revenge on all the idiots of society."

I've got to the point where the idea of actually touching someone is kind of gross. It's all mental these days.

Having this the other way around, these days -- the idea of letting anyone close enough to touch me is...it's so unlikely, it might as well be happening to someone else. Heh. I spose if there were any real prospects, that could change pretty quickly, probably. But it feels impossible right now.

:(

Sloth is for the immediate few days after consummation, well, sloth alternating with frenzied periods of non-sloth.

sarahel that is all very lovely and principled but thinking *the same* and hating *all* the same things isn't necessary...a wavelength, a rapport, and a certain commonality are

dude, I was 19.

yeah i kinda got that you were criticising younger-you a bit

anyway, asexuals! a rum lot.

I have long had the lingering fear that all my big sex talking and crush talking on the internets is actually a big cover for my lack of any genuine sexuality. :-(

Having this the other way around, these days -- the idea of letting anyone close enough to touch me is...it's so unlikely, it might as well be happening to someone else. Heh. I spose if there were any real prospects, that could change pretty quickly, probably. But it feels impossible right now.

Actually, maybe I meant this, rather. It's so unlikely it's become impossible to imagine and therefore icky and unnatural.

xp - I was trying to summarize my mentality about it, and convey that it wasn't some fey swooning type of thing. I think I'm still attracted to people for that reason, though now, it's a more realistic, "Let's hang out and do a creative project together."

Right, Kate! In the "why in the world would I want to do THAT?" way. I've been here before, it can be undone by a mutual attraction and a couple of dates, but the danger is that if I rush into anything, the weirdness of it will make me dissociate. And I like actually BEING THERE when something exciting happens, instead of floating around the ceiling like I'm watching someone else.

I dunno - I remember hooking up with someone after over a year of not doing so, and it was mixture of excitement/being present and some dissocation. But then, I think most of the time, in most things, I'm both doing things and watching myself do them.

^^^This would probably ring true for most ILXors

... and thinking about why I'm doing them, and what if I did something else?

im asexual...

a sexual being, that is!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

thanks max, for getting us back on topic!

im asexual...

a sex u al wanna experience, that is!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

"what happened? i am aroused"

Ilxors come off like the equivalent of a bunch of homophobes on this thread, basically. Sorry I and others don't conform to your worldview.

― timellison, Wednesday, August 31, 2016 5:23 AM (thirteen hours ago)

apologies for my own dumb contribution to this thread tim. striving to be less ignorant/more sensitive about such matters