Internet Dating

i think i'm too cynical to do this.

a friend of mine is doing this right now and going on dates and having a good time, she's like 'who knew dating was so easy!' - i think she's gone on a couple second dates but seems to be into it for the dating rather than nec as a search for a relationship or anything. which i guess is the healthy way to go about it. not sure that i get the dating-as-entertainment thing though.

i asked her if i should try it and she laughed and told me she was on a date with someone sort of tedious/self-absorbed the other night and thought 'what wld robyn do in this situation' and apparently what i would do is say 'yeah i gotta go' pretty early on. which is pretty much truth. i wonder what i have become.

im trying this out at the moment.

gabb's 9 + 11 (never forget) are otm. And if they didn't have a hot pic you woulda given up on them awhile back.

this can be fun and useful but never never allow yourself to get very attached to anyone you only know through email. The going AWOL without notice thing is a pretty common MO even if you really think you are hitting it off. Like 90% of those people were recently dumped and still obsessed with their ex!

ryan OTM. i have already noticed this.

i wonder if father mckenzie at the top of the thread ever found his eleanor rigby

All (three) of my married friend couples met over the internet.

Wow I can't even think of who the third couple is. !!!

That it should come to this. What sites in the UK should, uh, my friend be using other than the Guardian one.

there are guardian dating forums? i thought they were just the comments boxes after ruth fowler's blog articles

I know a girl that got laid real good off the god damn Onion personals

there are guardian dating forums? i thought they were just the comments boxes after ruth fowler's blog articles

zinged! yes, guardian soulmates seems to be full of angry people who will not date you if you think george bush is "a good bloke" and "are not open-minded".

http://www.staganddove.com/

^dating for London-based hipsters.

are your exes on there?

http://www.getting-together.org.uk/

^^^no, here

chuckle

do hipsters really internet date?

caek I know you are a scientist so perhaps you might have better luck with carbon dating instead.

^^^ internet dating strapline in the making. 'i'm more used to CARBON dating...'

OK I will steal that (thanks libcrypt!) and let you know if it works.

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Do you wash the damn dishes y/n

We Kill Losers

giving this some thought. there is never anyone "in my area" tho.

I'm married to a woman I met on the internets. Also, Nerve.com is really quite useful if you just want to get laid a lot with people you never talk to again.

xpost wanna date?

gsoh?

I feel like in the area I live in now, there are probably tons of interesting & satisfactorily nerdy guys to be found on the internet, but I can't bring myself to join a site because OMG THE JUDGMENT.

maria, don't let that stop you, because in the end when you finally meet some awesome dude it will be u who has teh last laugh.

i met my bf online (not a dating site) and tons of ppl were judgmental and weirded out by the whole concept. we have known each other more than 18mo and been v v v happily living together for 4.

& as a sidenote: my friend who was most weirded out by internet relationships - her bf moved to malaysia and their relationship crumbled; doing the LDR made them realise they had no communication skills and the distance magnified all their problems.

so what are these dating sites you speak of..
I tried a few but none of them are satisfactory.
Right now I'm using OkCupid and Plentyoffish but I only email a few people (I'm so judgmental) and then there is only so many users in my area.
Maybe I can try nerve.com if it isn't a british thing.

I would never pay for a dating site like eharmony or adultfriendfinder etc.

what is plentyoffish?

one of the free ones :)
http://www.plentyoffish.com/

adultfriendfinder

^^^not a "dating" site by traditional definition.

lol

so did we decide that there isn't anymore dating sites to try?

that nerve.com thing is crap, you can join it but you have to pay to upgrade and have email capabilities. not many users either

an ex of mine later used salon personals, found a dude, they got married, have a six-month-old kid, all is grebt

I would never pay for a dating site like eharmony or adultfriendfinder etc.

one of the free ones :)
http://www.plentyoffish.com/

that nerve.com thing is crap, you can join it but you have to pay to upgrade and have email capabilities. not many users either

Nobody wants to date a skinflint, dude.

everyone needs to check out the new york review of books personals pronto.
http://www.nybooks.com/classifieds/personals

BEAUTIFUL-LOOKING, smart, and sexy (and that’s not just my family talking). NYC woman, full of great compassion, empathy, and sly wit. Fun and funny, can be counted on for good times, good company. Athletic lean body, lively zest for life. Easy to talk to, easily amused, creative. City person but adores the Berkshires. Spunky, good joke-teller. Lover of words, animals, books, beauty, Chinese food in Chinatown, al dente pasta, sharp cheeses, documentary films, yoga, hardware stores, Scrabble. Wants to travel the world, unwind at home, cuddle up and watch good movies, share cultural things, music, Sunday crossword and simple pleasures with articulate, attractive, active, in-shape, financially sophisticated, liberal-thinking man, 52–68

lots of good finds there imo.

"financially sophisticated"

SACRED EROTIC ...The Incredible Lightness of Touch. Private, safe, tasteful. Greenwich Village. (212) 645-4995

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― Alba, Monday, August 11, 2008 8:09 PM (2 months ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

Except I just clicked on the bit that said "unfit" on the site and it's basically just talking about spambots and the like. I was kind of amped for these guys to cement my self-image but I guess not this time

am i the only one reading that as "plenty offish"?

schtop, thish plenty offish site ish not ready for the Championsh League or UEFA cup 2008/9

Just got offish

genius username sir

maria, don't let that stop you, because in the end when you finally meet some awesome dude it will be u who has teh last laugh.

^^^ THIS

Despite having made plenty of friends online (not on dating sites) I was a bit weirded out by the judgMENTAL lunacy of online dating. But once you get over that and realise everyone's in the same boat, it becomes much easier and even fun - and an incredible boost to the self-esteem (this fillip cannot be stressed enough).

I found the simplest way to deal with it was to ignore the whole "our computer has decided these people are PERFECT for you, based on a bunch of shallow bullshit you filled in very quickly" and just check out who's online at the same time as you - in other words, treat it exactly like walking into the pub and looking around to see who's cute :-)

am i the only one reading that as "plenty offish"?

i thought it an odd name... it only now occurred to me that it is supposed to be plenty of fish!