DIY wedding music

Thanks everyone. I think I am good now. Karl raises some good notions. My priorities are 1) groom/bride wheelhouse (they will add a few crucials to my playlist) 2) bulk of the wedding attendees that I know nothing about 3) our friends 4) cred picks (I will grant myself a few and get some cred)

Check out the rehearsal dinner i.e. "welcome party": groom and myself and another groomsman and the groom's bandmate that the groomsman and I have never met are forming a cover band (groom wanted this at his wedding but we talked him out of playing drums during his own wedding reception, so we're playing the night before and things got a lot looser and more carefree). We're are practicing once together up where they live on the street outside of his building, with a power cord lowered out of his 2nd story window. What could go wrong with any of this?!?

Stoked. Playing some Mary Chain, Cure, Springsteen, INXS, New Order, more tba. It's gonna be a blinder.

groom wanted this at his wedding but we talked him out of playing drums during his own wedding reception

you did a good thing

honestly need a full map wedding mix (even if it didn't precisely happen that way)

Stoked. Playing some Mary Chain, Cure, Springsteen, INXS, New Order, more tba. It's gonna be a blinder.

i mean, to me, i'm attending and i'm extremely happy :D

philosophical question: if the couple getting married loves some categorically awful stuff, and the cool hip attendees of the wedding like cool hip music, which one do you play while they're all dancing?

the couple getting married, dumbass.

sorry, that last part wasn’t cool.

weddings bring out a lot of emotions

groom wanted this at his wedding but we talked him out of playing drums during his own wedding reception

you did a good thing

This was a big philosophical question for us. He was so stuck on this vision of a live band at his wedding, but there was no available drummer aside from him. So we were faced with a quandary: do we just do what the groom wants? Or talk him out of it?

The cover band playing at the "welcome party" the night before is the compromise. Can't tell how bummed he is about it all but we pretty much refused to let it happen at the wedding. Hopefully he'll think it was the right choice after everything's said and done.

i think someday, with the benefit of perspective, he will look back and be thankful that he spent his reception with his new bride instead of playing drums with his pals.

for our wedding we had extensive convos with our DJ about what we wanted him to play during the dancing portion, and what we wanted him to *not* play (equally crucial imho). we made sure to include in the former category stuff that we remembered dancing to w/ our friends who were attending, stuff we both personally liked and wanted to dance to, and a couple of “classic” songs for the scant number of boomer-aged ppl in attendance. ironically, after all was said and done i can name maybe four or five songs that i remember dancing to that night because it was all such a blur (and not even a drunken one! i had maybe three drinks that whole day).

last wedding i DJed the couple gave me a curated playlist to work off of which was like 75% 2000s NY hipster dance stuff that the couple was obviously nostalgic for and 25% 21st century stuff like Miley & Kelly Clarkson which arent ABBA but certainly still feel like standard meat & potatoes type wedding jams. i tried my best to split the difference but pretty quickly found myself caught in the "who do i please" conundrum as aunts & uncles were vocally annoyed with anything from the hipster column & dgaf about the fact that these were the couples favorite songs that they asked to hear. i deferred to the couple bc they were having the time of their lives & it was worth it for the moment near the end of the night when the bride dragged her grandma out onto the dancefloor and asked me to play Lightning Bolt and they both headbanged together

honestly need a full map wedding mix (even if it didn't precisely happen that way)

― mookieproof, Friday, April 15, 2022 2:55 AM (thirteen hours ago) bookmarkflaglink

honey child every mix i do is a wedding mix

i'm going to be that guy for a second on this thread and say weddings are weird and overblown and maybe not entirely congruent with the spirit of love. but my baby has good health insurance now which was tbqfh the most important part of doing it.

i was such a dumbass during my wedding that i ended up djing my own wedding because the guy who was going to do it was too wasted. prince had just died so i played a bunch of that in a row, with extensive outros that left people shuffling around while making fun of me. it was a great time

please tell me you dropped “Automatic”

i still have my playlists in itunes! this is how things kicked off

https://i.imgur.com/gnUQlAB.png

honestly i would have been happiest with a complete purple rain LP listen party, but compromises were made.

anyway, going back to the thread, sorta, i think most of my friends were happy to dance to a bunch of prince songs in a row. not because we used to do that together - i'm not much of a dancer and hadn't really danced with friends on a regular basis since my early 20s - and not because prince is awesome - although obviously that - but because it was me and my partner's night, and we were very happy to be dancing to prince and hoped that they would be too. i don't know. maybe i'm alone in that, but if i go to a friend's wedding and he's super into ben folds five, then for that night i am going to channel my BFF fan days and hope that they play a deep cut from whatever and ever amen

I'm currently planning on doing this for my own wedding (DIY DJing from my own playlist(s)) so this thread has been useful food for thought. Unfortunately, I lost the argument that our first dance should be to "Feel U Up" by Prince and we are instead opting for the more palatable "I Only Have Eyes for You" by the Flamingos so I will definitely goose the playlist with loads of Prince, including "Feel U Up" somewhere deeper in the mix.

My husband and I made our own playlists and got my cousin to be in charge of switching as needed. We had time period playlists ie before dinner, during, first few hours after, “people are drunk now” and for the most part the decades went in line as well- 40s and 50s stuff before, 60s during dinner, start dancing with the 70sish. We kicked the dancing time off with Rockin’ Robin and made sure to have Crazy in Love. Around midnight, I sequenced a rick roll to cut off California Love. Ben Folds loving husband had our first dance be to The Luckiest. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ We did have song requests on our invites so everyone had a small say. Even our friend who always requested NIN’s Closer.

Best laugh to me was us using Then He Kissed Me/Then I Kissed Her back to back for garter and bouquet toss. Whichever was second, someone rushed up to me concerned that the song was starting again.

Ben Folds loving husband had our first dance be to The Luckiest. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

i would be crying my eyes out in the audience. i'm such a sucker for stuff like that <3

It was kinda sweet, except for the bit where the old man watches the kid bike past! Heh

lol

What if I'd been born 50 years before you
In a house on a street where you lived?
Maybe I'd be outside as you passed on your bike
Would I know?

yeah, that is a very odd sentiment from mr folds there! because at first you think, well this could be a grown person riding on a bike, there's nothing inherently - and then you remember "50 years before you", so the best case scenario is that you're born 50 years before a...40 year old, so you're 90, and you're watching her bike and thinking "could that have been the one for me?"

was Howard Marshall II the luckiest?

Re: the weddings are weird comments - yeah I think weddings are pretty weird, especially at my age. Maybe everybody goes through this, but a ton of my friends, including myself, got married within a span of three or four years. It started with "whoa you're getting MARRIED? That seems so SERIOUS!" to "I've been to so many fucking weddings and I'm spending all of my money on plane flights from California to the East Coast" that I kind of never got into them on an sentimental level. Even my own was almost more of an excuse to throw a super elaborate party. Like, it felt great to get married, but it wasn't overly emotional. Probably because it smack in the middle of the Great Wedding Onslaught. People flew to that shit from overseas. I feel guilty about it now if I think about it.

Anyway, this wedding I'm involved in next week... I love the bride and groom so much so I'm mainly just so happy that they are so happy. They do seem pretty lovey-dovey about all of it and it's pretty wonderful. I wish I could feel that way!

Karl I Wanna Be Your Lover is one of the first tracks on my "off the hook" list! We'll see what happens.

Holy crap, Lightning Bolt at a wedding!? I was just concerned about playing Buffalo Stance.

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one piece of advice i got and was too lazy to heed was to give the playlist a quick check to see if there are any with extended outros, silence, strange codas, etc. it didn't end up being too big of a deal at my own - there were definitely a couple times where there was an awkward extended song, and i'd just walk over to the computer/mixer and say whoops! and hit fast forward. but if i would have listened to that ahead of time i probably would have been more prepared, and probably gone to the trouble of doing quick edits of certain tracks to fade them out early or cut at a certain length