Do men like being called cute?

lolololol @ luriqua

When I was little we used 'Cute' to mean 'good-looking', as in "Oh my god he is so cute". Sort of like how 'hot' is used now.

Now, if I say a guy is cute, it would be a compliment but not a sexual one. Just one of affection. My boyfriend doesn't accept my 'cute' compliments very often, and I have to change my phrasing to 'ruggedly handsome' or something.

(I suppose the irritating male habit would be to go for it anyway and then turn to an "it's not you, it's me" thing.)

"M'am, I reserve the right to refuse service to anyone. I have not and will not charge you a cent and you're free to take your business elsewhere. I'd rather not call the police, but if you insist on continuing to disturb me, I will. Please leave."

I guess a more serious answer is "Sorry, I have to get up early tomorrow..." My tactic used to be to wait for her to turn the other way and then duck behind random people in the crowd.

dudes who have been around know that the vast majority of women use "cute" and "sweet" to feign affection out of guilt so we ain't fucking buying it. end of story.

and as with any other negative semantic association it's the word that counts, not your intent

ftlolaurel n/sxy

That isn't necessarily true, Tom. I've seen a lot of times where "cute" is used as the safe designator of "wau he's attractive", kind of a placeholder until she gets to know the designated cuteboy and can figure out if he's worth boning.

xp I don't even know who you are.

not guilt so much, they just don't wanna hurt your feelings, a compliment's a compliment etc. xposts to tombot

Oh wait, I can think of a complimentary line that probably has the same effect on some girls: "you're so easy to hang out with" (with or without explicit "it's like hanging out with one of the guys")

xpost - yeah, I think the "that's sweet but go away" thing is a very small subset and I wouldn't kneejerk read that into "cute" at ALL

(A lot of men, OTOH, seem to be able to decide a girl is worth boning upon sight and spend the time afterwards trying to figure out if it's worth sticking around to bone again.)

I like being called cute unless I am trying to be not-cute, in which case I make a cute little grumpy face.

TOMBOTM

another wrinkle is that calling you 'cute' or 'a cute boy' may be totally sincere but indicate maybe the girl is bad news?

People trying to be all authoritative about this are weird. Different girls use cute/sweet in different ways. Sometimes it's a good thing, sometimes not. Generally, I'm happy so long as they're not calling me an asshole.

what if we tell you that you are so adorable we just want to cook you into a pie and feed it to some kittens?

run

when used in the 3rd person it's ok. as in, a girl tells me she told her friends she had a date with a "cute" guy. (that's 3rd person, right? i think) anyways that's fine. but if i hear "you're so cute" it puts me right in the same league as her stuffed animals and pets.
preferred terms: attractive, sexy, hawt, stud-pile, hero.

big time xposts! huh!

I like being called cute if it's sincere!

and what about the chicks who are all "you're cute, you're like my little brother, i want to bone you"??

What kind of crust does this pie have?

yeah what about the cougars who are all like let me at that big cute dong of yours

then that's creepy!

I suspect there's a valley between like 12 and 40 where men don't want to be "cute" but that at some point when they've got the world (and possib themselves?) convinced of their own ruggedness and agedness and non-cuteness it becomes legal tender all over again.

If Kathleen Turner says "Let me at that big cute dong of yours" to you, I don't know if there is any response more appropriate than "Okay!"

Like I said, just make me a sandwich once in a while.

you can also reach for your tranquilizer pistol, dan

Calling a guy cute is like calling a girl handsome. I should try that sometime.

I can't think of something to say after a girl calls me sweet though. ILXors help me out with this one.

"Damn straight"

"bitch"

"why thank you, you are so very much darling to me"

I'm gonna start a companion thread called "Do women like being touched?" so we can wind up teasing out the same answers: depends who's doing it, how it's being done, and who the woman in question is, duh

....

"do a dude like havin his nuts drooled on"

"do a lady enjoy handcuffs"

"why does straights never want to peg"

dont act like 90% of ilx threads aren't variations on this formula

There are plenty of women who qualify as "handsome", and generally speaking I find them a lot more interesting-looking than the "pretty" ones, so that def has a place.

I am a werewolf.

I know, it's just funny that the main way we wind up discussing the details is often in the context of a yes/no question with no answers. A hedged-out questions like "under what circumstances do you not like being called 'cute' and why and c." -- those never quite turn out, for some reason.

People like having something to argue about. The simpler, the better.

No they don't!

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People aren't people

This is hilarious how many ILX men are really special princesses inside.

the important thing is that we solve this issue for roxymuzak. i don't want anyone getting hurt out there.

"inside"

My wife called me "cute" last night in the middle of a $150 dinner that she was buying and I thought it was great.

fuck you, hitler

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