I've never done internet dating, but have heard many many horror stories of men getting abusive after being rejected, and whether or not their initial messages are polite/friendly/"normal" seems to have no bearing on how they react. So it is a lot *safer* for women who aren't interested to block and move on.
(Also as general advice, I'd be far more inclined to respond to your type b messages than type a.)
― emil.y, Friday, 5 January 2018 15:32 (six years ago) link
YMMV, but when I was dating I appreciated a clear signal that someone was definitely not interested in me. Just rip off the Band-Aid and avoid wasting the time of everyone involved, y'know? Lots of fish, etc.
― Bobby Buttrock (Old Lunch), Friday, 5 January 2018 15:44 (six years ago) link
It worked for me... but I marvel at my luck, tbh
― brimstead, Friday, 5 January 2018 15:46 (six years ago) link
every woman i know who's had internet dating experience has felt overwhelmed by the number of replies women receive, too. seems like for every random reply a man will receive, a woman will receive one hundred.
― omar little, Friday, 5 January 2018 16:41 (six years ago) link
many women explicitly complain about receiving first-contact form-letter spam from men as well, mailed in bulk to up their odds
― j., Friday, 5 January 2018 18:36 (six years ago) link
https://www.wired.com/story/bumble-grindr-and-hinge-moderators-trauma/
― xyzzzz__, Monday, 20 November 2023 14:01 (five months ago) link