mom placation was ironing by which mens perrypops in a womansuit is the new child mystericating teats that can taint baconated digestive broads plastercasting gnostically from the great gospel wwjh

what was it like Ned? Tell those of us who havent been able to sleep in in years. give us detail. give us sleep porn.

i am so jealous of 10.5 hours sleep omg!!!

i had a lovely day consisting of: brunch, a broadway play (not musical), a walk to buy indulgent eye cream, sushi, and a manicure. so don't want to do hw now.

tehresa - that sounds FANTASTIC! Wow. 10.5 hours of sleep was great, but remember that I'm probably not going to get much on Monday night since Tues. morning I need to get up at 4:30 a.m. in order to be at the hospital for a daytime clinical shift... so I'm trying to rest up now!

God I want sushi now. Instead: treadmill, then study study study. Why? ANOTHER QUIZ TOMORROW NIGHT, OF COURSE!

i am procrastinating on this homework. i did not get much sleep last night because a) some "unknown number" called at 3:15 and then around 4:15 there was some weird noise outside, and then by 8 the dog wanted to be walked. ah well, maybe the eye cream will help this.

i forgot to tell you guys (WARNING: MUSHY LOVEY DOVEY ALERT)

.....

while we were back in chicago, jordan's mum took him aside and showed him this antique ring (over 100yrs old) and told him he could give it to me when he's ready (she already has a DIL, so i'm stoked that she'd rather i have it). of course it was all supposed to be secret, but i asked jordan what the big mystery was as soon as he came back in the room and he told me right away (no secrets here, not even good ones!).

awww. congrats!!!

i mean, eventually. unless they are in order now. either way: :)

haha! well. i mean, moving here was pretty much like saying 'okay we're pretty committed' i.e. 'engaged'. jordan told me he wanted to give me a ring just before i go back to nz.

don't tell him i told you guys! he'd be so embarrassed!

That's awesome!

Describe ring, plz. (yes, I'm shallow as hell)

oh it was sara that got the 10 1/2 hours sleep, not Ned!! obv. i need sleep.

I am horrendously tired and my body is in revolt from having drunk 4 martinis, a bottle or two of wine plus champagne and dessert wine yesterday. This comes on top of friday's 10 hour international free drinks session. I am all ruin.

That is an awesome story RR.

sara, i didn't get to see the ring, it was all hush-hush! but i think jordan said it was platinum and diamond/s? but we had plans for simple titanium wedding rings, so not sure how the two would go together...

oh man i had horrendous nightmares about murder and torture last night and i am not feeling very good this morning :(

Yikes - I hate nightmares. I hope your day is better than your night was, RR.

Hmmmmmm - I'm clueless in the area of titanium vs. platinum, but I would never reject platinum because WOW. My rings are both white gold - wedding band = very simple, plain band that could do with anything. Could you put a white gold wedding ring with the engagement ring? Hmmmm... you'd probably have to see these things together, huh.

Ed - that is quite an impressive weekend of intake there. I wish you and your liver the best of luck. ;)

Sunny... I hope you can get a nap at least!

I am supposed to be going to the gym this evening but I suspect I shall limit myself to sitting in the steam room exuding toxins. Have to be in tip top form for two more birthday parties this weekend, one of them mine.

sara, no i really want titanium wedding bands! plus DO NOT WANT to spend much $$ on rings. maybe a few hundred for both, max.

guys can I lock all the politics threads on ILE for a month
please

YES

Just continually drop them from new answers.

or delete them

or move them to I Love TMI

There's an I Love TMI?

RR - I have no clue what titanium looks like (er, maybe I should use Teh Google), but maybe it would work fine with platinum? Our wedding bands were not very expensive, if I'm recalling... of course that was 1995, too. Engagement ring cost a lot more.

I like the idea of titanium wedding bands.

I now remember limoncello, this is sure the root cause of all my woe.

titanium is a rather please dull grey.

please = pleasing

Oooh, that does sound nice.

Both the titanium and the limoncello.

Sunny... I hope you can get a nap at least!

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Sara i was totally blissed out on the couch yesterday - still inj pjs, babby down for 3 hour nap, husband watching his fantasy football stat tracker upstairs, cats and dog taking naps and a lil klonopin running around my brane when my cellphone rang and it was work all pushy like 'Get in here NOW! We need you to do stuff NOW. NOW!'

oh the worst bit was i was catching up on all the entourages ive missed because stupid work wont let me stop stupid working

RR are you getting married??? Id better read back though this thread.

evening people. i am tired, even though it was not an overly difficult day... i don't get this.

you need more ketchup

hmmm.

(on sleep is what i mean)

love that scene :)

yes more sleep would be awesome.

sunny, we gotta get married eventually so i can stay here. just not sure if we'll do it here before the visa is up, or we'll do it after i go back to nz and apply for fiancee visa.

are there legal issues doing it one way or the other?

well....let me think about it. i know you get an "easier" path if you go the K1 plus you get to be a citizen after 3 years instead of 5 but I think if you go get married tomorrow they might put you through a little pain but there really nothing they can do about. you can just be all "OMG were so in love we had to be married right now!!!!!!"

let me research it a little more. i know we were trying to decide between the two.

also dont forget matesupover.com which is a bb for people moving to the states mostly on K1 visas

oh shit i heard a this american life about someone who was married but her husband died before they finished processing the visa but it was because the gov't people kept postponing the interview or something, and then they tried to deport her. it was super messed up :(

AND OMG I FORGOT TO TELL U GUYS I GOT MY RAY CAESAR ART BOOK TODAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

i pre-ordered it in january, with the expectation that it would be ready in a couple of months, and i waited and waited... and finally it arrived today! it is my second most treasured possession.

re the marriage thing: it's fairly complicated. legally, we can't get married while i'm here on this work visa, because it's considered fraud to come here on a J-1 with the intention to marry or immigrate. so we would have to fabricate a story about meeting over here or something. plus, i don't think i could work for awhile after we got married. i dunno, it's all very confusing. but we can't really plan anything till closer to the end of my visa, since the laws are always changing. it's v v stressful and i'm constantly worrying about it :/

i am buying art like a mad crazy motherfucker. Ilxor Kate (eye candy for teh broken hearted) prints should get here soon, just bought a set of 4 signed prints from Kozyndan, contacted an old ex re: buying some of her new awesome photowork http://www.alisonmalone.com/the-daughters-of-job.html , just won a signed Kozik print from 94 on ebay, framing and hanging a bunch of the stuff my artist peeps have given me over the years (oh btw, if anyone on this thread makes the art and wants to sell it, i will buy it from you for the moneys.) OMG WTFFFFFF!!!! LALALALALA

xpost

i am also drrrrrrrrnk, which explains my 8 minute xpost heh

re the marriage thing: it's fairly complicated. legally, we can't get married while i'm here on this work visa, because it's considered fraud to come here on a J-1 with the intention to marry or immigrate. so we would have to fabricate a story about meeting over here or something. plus, i don't think i could work for awhile after we got married. i dunno, it's all very confusing. but we can't really plan anything till closer to the end of my visa, since the laws are always changing. it's v v stressful and i'm constantly worrying about it :/

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even if you go via K1 visa you wont be able to work for a good 4-5 months once you get to USA.

And, yeah, if you got married now youd just have to be all 'oh hey we didnt realize we'd fall in love , dudes!"

anyway, dont stress about it. its all pretty easy in the end.

oh ALSO i wanted to tell you to start documenting your love. Youre literally going to have to prove it, so photos of you together, with his family, photos that somehow show you over time to prove youve been physically together for a while. At some point they will ask for written affidavits from friends and family members explaining how you two met, how the person writing met you, their impressions of you when you are together. I think they ask for three of these.

oh and ultimate trump card - get pregnant. DHS likes it when you make americans.

"physically together"

I hate going to therapy and then straight to work. Wait, I hate going to work at all.

well, i kept every single piece of written correspondence from the 15 months we knew each other before i came here, plus letters and stuff he sent me. and we already have lots of photos. BUT on the visa journey website i read, lots of nzers have said that when they've brought all the relationship proof stuff to the interview, the interviewer hasn't even wanted to see it. i think there isn't much dodginess going on when it comes to K-1 visas for kiwis, so they don't need to much evidence, it's more just all the paperwork and red tape.

xpost to john justen: kozyndan is AWESOME. we have a print of the wave of rabbits. it's not 'art', exactly, but i will send you a freebie copy of our chapbook if we do a second edition (which is looking likely at this stage).

is ilxor-artist-kate the aussie photographer?