ROLLING HIPSTER STUDIES 09

one-upsPERSONship

it's not about the intention of the speaker though -- one-upsmanship and yammering (like nagging) are in the eye of the beholder
that's why there is no way out of this sinkhole

I feel like stopping short and apologizing isn't necessarily an indicator that you're used to criticism -- sometimes it's due to the recognizing that you're dominating the conversation.

The people I've known who have been the best speakers have been able to introduce topics in a way that allows people without any knowledge get up to speed and those in the know aren't bored. It's really, really difficult! Pausing for the other person to indicate that they're interested is important.

I've definitely been part of conversations that were taken over by one-upmanship, chest-puffing through long drops of irrelevant info, or mansplaining. Definitely not limited to hipster interests.

knowledge and taste is so ingrained as a marker of social status

this is really a caricature of the hipster-as-geek, though!

there is no way an intern we had at work last summer was not yammering

he interrupted a trilingual person who was talking about a book she'd read on language learning to yammer on about what languages are hard to learn

Why does every conversation have to be aimed at allowing people without any knowledge to get up to speed?

it doesn't! gauging your audience is key.

mh otm
conversational skills are not a given part of language proficiency and because you are having a conversation with a human being and your goal is ostensibly not to alienate that person?

There are so many things that I would love to listen to people speak about, especially if they're enthusiastic and knowledgeable. At the very least, that's a good way to connect to people. But many people have absolutely no interest in hearing about arbitrary topics in depth, even if they introduced them.

I just think about the dudes who are occasionally at comic book stores. I like comics, although not necessarily the same ones they do, but I can't do anything with a conversation that is mostly talking about minutiae and one-upping by throwing in jokey references. I like nice stories and art and would like to talk to how I relate to that stuff.

There is a valid point somewhere in this article - that these kind of people and conversations are often pretty boring and oppressive to others. But making that into some critique of a supposed "cultural materialism game" is silly. You're not Guy Debord (someone please feel free to mention a couple of more obscure and cool theorists if you wanna play the game). This dude needs to find himself some non-dull pals.

the one-upsmanship (or, if you prefer "one-upspersonship") mindset is a major turn-off and killer of otherwise free & easy conversations/relationships. i think as a natural-born jokey smart-aleck that i sometimes unwittingly provoke others to go into a perverse competitive one-upsmanship mode when in fact i don't give a fuck about anything other than hearing things said that are hilarious. is this non-sequitirish? fine, i find non-sequitirial conversation funny also.

I'm not sure if I get the hostility vibe off of recommendations like this blogger, either. I mean, I'll occasionally say "yeah this album is cool!" about something that is related to the topic of conversation, but I don't get all emotionally invested in the supposed ~cultural transaction~ that's taking place. I might be invested in the emotional connection to the music, though.

I feel like that's a stereotypical male/nerd thing, though, where you can make a bullet-pointed list about how an album relates to other albums and how great the playing is and whatever else but your actual relationship to the art is obscured by all these things!

I'm just saying that sometimes the point isn't to "one-up" someone but to test the waters and see if the person you're talking to is someone you can geek out with

And also that the insecure reaction the blogger is describing is also often borne of unrealized competitiveness.

there are definitely different types of geeking-out conversations, a subtype of which is most certainly one-upping

bottom line --avoid conversations with these people!

no need to if that's something you like! I mean, get down with your bad self.

articles like this annoy me in general because it seems like the authors tend to do a lot of mind-reading of other people and tend to come to the conclusion that people don't do enough mind-reading in their day to day lives

I don't really get that article, is it about being a teenager?

oh i get it now, it's about people who listen vs people who just wait to talk.

lol hipsters

i dont even have a mind-reader

I'm just saying that sometimes the point isn't to "one-up" someone but to test the waters and see if the person you're talking to is someone you can geek out with

― Hier Komme Die Warum Jetzt (Hurting 2), Thursday, June 19, 2014 5:08 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

otm. honestly i don't have a ton of friends who geek out on the same stuff i do, so when i meet people and realize that they might have some similar interests it can be a good opportunity to connect w/ someone over it. i got super into bill callahan last year but really pretty much in a vacuum except for ILM and when i met a co-worker who loves callahan as much as i do it was pretty fucking awesome! i think we may have alienated another co-worker who approached us during a conversation about callahan b/c we didn't really stop talking about him. i kind of felt bad about it, but at the same time was i like, hey, i don't have anybody to talk about this except for this dude so i am going to take advantage of that.

also when i do meet people to talk about music or whatever with, i've rarely felt like they are trying to compete with me. i didn't really identify w/ the tumblr guy who wrote that.

I've developed some unspoken/internal rules about that sort of thing. For example, if I and two of my co-workers take a walk to grab lunch, I make sure not to "geek out" with one co-worker about something the other one isn't into. But if there are four or more of us, I figure it's ok if I geek out with one because the other 2/3 can still talk to each other.

also when i do meet people to talk about music or whatever with, i've rarely felt like they are trying to compete with me. i didn't really identify w/ the tumblr guy who wrote that.

― marcos, Friday, June 20, 2014 9:46 AM (1 hour ago) Bookmark

also this doesn't really happen to me because ime men (usually it's men he's talking about, right?) do not appear to feel compelled to compete with me. other things maybe (rarely), but not competition. i dunno. ultimately who cares? i would rather talk about bill callahan than talk about how people should talk about bill callahan in an inoffensive way.

bottom line --avoid conversations with these people!

― La Lechera, Thursday, June 19, 2014 5:26 PM Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

ftfy

http://i.imgur.com/Z4nuglo.jpg

almost certain that they did not

knew this was why this thread got revived

Bad, yes. Ass, yes.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CU3mc0yvRNk

feel like this was an important formative moment in the creation of the millennial hipster

There was a point when the term hipster was non-pejorative wasn't there? 1940s or '50s? Something that people like Norman Mailer was trying to connect with as the 'white negro' or similar. Somebody that could always ride the cusp of what was happening musically/culturally/philosophically.
Or was it pretty pseudo and wanky even then?
Just wondering when hipster became pejorative. I'm seeing people around Galway dressed in the style people were being derided for as hipster around 10 years ago or have elements of that skinny jean very short beard thing become universal and non ironic?

fwiw i remember all my friends singing along to that dandy warhols song in a van on the way to see them at a festival in 2003

https://www.vice.com/read/hw-the-definitive-guide-to-hipster-music-genres-hipster-week

Serialism
Years Active: 1920s-1980s
Defining Artist: Arnold Schoenberg
In true hipster fashion, we don't understand exactly what this is, like, at all. Like, we get it kind of enough to make John Cage "notes between the notes" jokes at the bar, but, if pressed, we'll hide behind the first smart looking motherfucker we can find, push them at our assailant, and say, "12-tone techneez nutz!" Or something to that effect.

that list of things is a list of things

yeah, idk how "hipster" it is to make lists of things ... but I think reading them haphazardly is cool

If this is a troll and not sincere, then it's really the best imitation of a Wave 1 hipster I've ever seen. It's eerie. https://t.co/gdnObn1kr0

— T. (@RickyRawls) May 3, 2017

i'm sorry this is hilarious lol

One interesting thing about the idea of the Nazi and fascist right having a more vibrant youth scene than the liberals...the NY Mag articles

— T. (@RickyRawls) May 3, 2017

yeah idk I think the problem with gavin mcinnes is not that he sincerely believes all these things

also the vines lol

sorry everybody you should click on that tweet and read the thread

it is a bad thread with the exception of some good replies this ricky person does not get

if it was a hipster imitation it by definition couldn't be sincere. this is entry level stuff @rickyrawls, cmon

anyway, hope joe is still alive after all of the brutal owns

rip

lol good thread

tony is not chill, glad he's admitted he is a hipster tho

lol, I mean ricky, whatever

French dictionaries just added some new words: ubérisation, hipster (pron. 'eepstair') and of course, post-vérité https://t.co/qV9TznnhDh

— Katy Lee (@kjalee) May 30, 2017

'eepstairs downstairs