ianac, but i went to catholic girls school pre-k-7th gr, and it wasn't until i went to school with boys in 8th gr that i felt the full sting of all sexist eyes-on-u in the way being described here. it was a huge shock. at my school, there was really no talk of boys at all. it was like girls were the only people who existed. i kinda felt like that tbh. i had no brothers or friends with brothers. i knew no neighborhood boys. i didn't realize the gravity of this huge worldview shift for a long time, but i know for sure now that the shift to going to school with boys and the constant eyes on bodies at all times was not insignificant. if i had always been around it, i might not have found it so shocking, but it was new to me. it was a lot to take in at once.
i'm really proud of this girl for speaking up for herself. the behavior of the school/parents/adults in this situation sucks, but she's doing the right thing by talking about it. so at least things have changed in that regard.
― funch dressing (La Lechera), Friday, 16 May 2014 04:04 (nine years ago) link
Purity's worth dyin' for!
http://www.catholictothemax.com/product_images/p/763/Goretti-hoodie__69844_zoom.jpg
― tokyo rosemary, Monday, 19 May 2014 21:10 (nine years ago) link
i had no brothers or friends with brothers. i knew no neighborhood boys. i didn't realize the gravity of this huge worldview shift for a long time, but i know for sure now that the shift to going to school with boys and the constant eyes on bodies at all times was not insignificant. if i had always been around it, i might not have found it so shocking, but it was new to me. it was a lot to take in at once.
LL, believe it or not this has been running through my mind a lot in the past few days, like it really made me *get* something about ogling, the male gaze, etc. that I didn't completely internalize before
― Doritos Loco Parentis (Hurting 2), Monday, 19 May 2014 21:18 (nine years ago) link
omg tokyo rosemary, at first i didn't think that could possibly be a real thing, it's outrageous.
― estela, Saturday, 24 May 2014 02:13 (nine years ago) link
Already posted an earlier story about this on the Mad Men thread, but alas, the plot thickens...
http://www.dailydot.com/entertainment/neko-case-playboy-tweet/
― Damnit Janet Weiss & The Riot Grrriel (C. Grisso/McCain), Saturday, 24 May 2014 05:33 (nine years ago) link
(nuns who said among many other things that girls have always to set the sexual standards because boys cannot control themselves in the slightest, and you can only get raped if you allow your muscles to relax sufficiently to enable penetration at which point you are sinning because you obviously must want it to happen otherwise you'd stay chastely clamped up and god is vigilantly monitoring your muscles so even if you claim to be a victim you won't get away with it in the long run.)
And while “forcible rape” isn’t defined in the criminal code, the addition of the adjective seems certain to exclude acts of rape that don’t involve overt violence—say, cases where a woman is drugged or has a limited mental capacity. “It’s basically putting more restrictions on what was defined historically as rape,” says Keenan.
http://thinkprogress.org/justice/2012/08/19/712251/how-todd-akin-and-paul-ryan-partnered-to-redefine-rape/
― Orson Wellies (in orbit), Sunday, 25 May 2014 21:48 (nine years ago) link
Sorry, to be clear those two paras are completely distinct from each other, I should have used quote boxes.
― Orson Wellies (in orbit), Sunday, 25 May 2014 21:49 (nine years ago) link
The lighter side of bro misogyny: http://blogs.houstonpress.com/rocks/2014/05/fspf_and_craigslist_part_2_fre.php
― Damnit Janet Weiss & The Riot Grrriel (C. Grisso/McCain), Thursday, 29 May 2014 19:16 (nine years ago) link
I had a housemate once who was really into these radio jocks called Opie and Anthony who had some thing apparently called "Whip Em Out Wednesdays" ("WOW"). People would put the WOW stickers on their cars and shit. He was a guy who literally bragged about his own girlfriend's "great tits." Once he took her to see Opie and Anthony live and came back beaming with pride that they had somehow spotlighted his gf and pressured her into whippin' 'em out. She left him, not long after that incident, perhaps coincidentally.
― Doritos Loco Parentis (Hurting 2), Thursday, 29 May 2014 19:29 (nine years ago) link
*put the stickers on their cars, I should add, with the fantasy that female passers/drivers-by would see the sticker and oblige its command (on Wednesdays). It's hard to come up with a more grotesque image of perceived male privilege than that -- "I, trollish man, by virtue of putting this sticker on my car, am entitled to have women I don't know flash me one day per week. The world is my skinemax, every Wednesday."
― Doritos Loco Parentis (Hurting 2), Thursday, 29 May 2014 19:36 (nine years ago) link
I was riding my bike through downtown Boise on Mardi Gras once...this guy was trying to convince a woman to flash him for some beads. She reached up into her bra like she was going to flash him, and pulled out pepper spray and sprayed him in the face. Everyone in the balcony bar above clapped and cheered. It was awesome.
― just like the one wing dove (Crabbits), Thursday, 29 May 2014 20:00 (nine years ago) link
I didn't know about the Opie and Anthony thing. ugh. Doug Bensons has a sideboob sunday hashtag on twitter, girls tweet him pics of their sideboob, it's super gross.
― set the controls for the heart of the sun (VegemiteGrrl), Thursday, 29 May 2014 20:08 (nine years ago) link
― just like the one wing dove (Crabbits), Thursday, May 29, 2014 3:00 PM (39 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
omg this is the best
― gbx, Thursday, 29 May 2014 20:40 (nine years ago) link
*homage bow*
― baked beings on toast (suzy), Thursday, 29 May 2014 20:41 (nine years ago) link
so great
― I fink U freakfolk & I like U a Larkin (sleeve), Thursday, 29 May 2014 23:26 (nine years ago) link
Good piece from the jeopardy guy:http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2014/05/27/your-princess-is-in-another-castle-misogyny-entitlement-and-nerds.html
― Doritos Loco Parentis (Hurting 2), Friday, 30 May 2014 16:21 (nine years ago) link
http://i.imgur.com/inG4YIN.png
― °ㅇ๐ْ ° (gr8080), Wednesday, 4 June 2014 18:25 (nine years ago) link
http://www.buzzfeed.com/andrewkaczynski/heres-the-context-to-an-unfortunate-chyron-that-appeared-on
― °ㅇ๐ْ ° (gr8080), Wednesday, 4 June 2014 18:26 (nine years ago) link
what the hell xp
― ₴HABΔZZ ¶IZZΔ (Hurting 2), Wednesday, 4 June 2014 18:27 (nine years ago) link
i like the faces in that pic. "well, it's true! *shrug*"
― Nhex, Wednesday, 4 June 2014 18:30 (nine years ago) link
good piece of evidence for the "they are spewing hateful poison" hypothesis
― La Lechera, Wednesday, 4 June 2014 19:06 (nine years ago) link
http://thinkprogress.org/health/2014/06/09/3446557/washington-post-college-rape/
― 1 P.3. Eternal (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 10 June 2014 01:34 (nine years ago) link
This and some of the responses to it are making me fantasize about murdering people.
― ₴HABΔZZ ¶IZZΔ (Hurting 2), Tuesday, 10 June 2014 01:58 (nine years ago) link
good to see that Will has finally perfected typing out of his ass. hes just doubling down on what his readership loves more than anything - white male privilege. there needs to be a stronger word than hack
― building a desert (art), Tuesday, 10 June 2014 02:38 (nine years ago) link
shithole?
― smooth hymnal (m bison), Tuesday, 10 June 2014 02:46 (nine years ago) link
ugh i got into a stupid twitter war with some random bro who works at the artie lange show fuck
― smooth hymnal (m bison), Tuesday, 10 June 2014 03:26 (nine years ago) link
(over this article that is)
http://i274.photobucket.com/albums/jj242/donaldparsley/WoW_zpsfa262d5b.jpg
because you know there are a few
― sci-fi looking, chubby-leafed, delicately bizarre (contenderizer), Thursday, 12 June 2014 04:27 (nine years ago) link
and okay maybe not sexist, just ... off
― sci-fi looking, chubby-leafed, delicately bizarre (contenderizer), Thursday, 12 June 2014 04:29 (nine years ago) link
Reminds me of the way a lot of Finnish men celebrate International Women's Day: by buying flowers for their wives/girlfriends/etc... Okay, maybe it's not sexist per se, but don't you think there'd be better ways to honor the day dedicated to gender equality?
― Tuomas, Thursday, 12 June 2014 11:42 (nine years ago) link
That's fairly common across the world. IWD has its roots primarily in socialist countries where "gender equality" was supposedly enshrined in the culture so the emphasis was on expressing appreciation rather than activism. It's slowly moving back the other way so it'll be interesting to how the concept develops over the next couple of years.
― Wristy Hurlington (ShariVari), Thursday, 12 June 2014 11:48 (nine years ago) link
She's my woman of worth. A low mileage 1982 model.
― Three Word Username, Thursday, 12 June 2014 13:06 (nine years ago) link
Some good lolz under the #womenaretoohardtoanimate hashtag on Twitter. Backstory here: http://www.cnet.com/news/ubisoft-nixes-female-avatars-in-assassins-creed-unity/
― Disagree. And im not into firey solos chief. (Phil D.), Thursday, 12 June 2014 13:29 (nine years ago) link
xp low mileage, low self-esteem, everything I look for in a woman
― Nhex, Thursday, 12 June 2014 13:57 (nine years ago) link
:D salute
― lex pretend, Thursday, 12 June 2014 14:01 (nine years ago) link
― Doritos Loco Parentis (Hurting 2), Monday, May 19, 2014 4:18 PM (3 weeks ago) Bookmark
I'm just catching up on all of this thread/mess from yesterday, but I'm glad to hear this! Posting personal history deets like that is really not something I tend to do (or enjoy), but I have been thinking about those years a lot, and I'm glad my experience was useful to someone apart from myself.
― La Lechera, Thursday, 12 June 2014 14:11 (nine years ago) link
what the fuck:http://blog.sfgate.com/techchron/2014/11/10/for-women-in-tech-egg-freezing-parties-are-new-post-work-event/
― Οὖτις, Tuesday, 11 November 2014 16:42 (nine years ago) link
what the hell
http://youtu.be/otggT0Mqi38
"AXA US Television Commercial - Retirement"
― goole, Tuesday, 11 November 2014 17:29 (nine years ago) link
http://blog.sfgate.com/techchron/2014/11/10/for-women-in-tech-egg-freezing-parties-are-new-post-work-event-lol-sike-no-they-are-not/
― my jaw left (Hurting 2), Tuesday, 11 November 2014 17:31 (nine years ago) link
is that about egg sikes in journalism?
― Stim McRaw (Noodle Vague), Tuesday, 11 November 2014 17:33 (nine years ago) link
“This is what an egg looks like,” Eyvazzadeh said, referring to a photo of a human egg
― kinder, Tuesday, 11 November 2014 17:51 (nine years ago) link
not really sure where to put this, nor can remember if it's been discussed:
http://www.newrepublic.com/article/120450/sabrina-rubin-erdelys-uva-gang-rape-reporting-raises-questions
not too surprising that it's become an article of faith on the right that the whole thing is made up
i'm not really up for discussing this myself
― goole, Tuesday, 2 December 2014 23:14 (nine years ago) link
http://www.rollingstone.com/culture/news/a-note-to-our-readers-20141205
― Mordy, Friday, 5 December 2014 18:40 (nine years ago) link
uhoh
― example (crüt), Friday, 5 December 2014 18:41 (nine years ago) link
apparently they're stepping back from the story bc of this:http://www.washingtonpost.com/local/education/u-va-fraternity-to-rebut-claims-of-gang-rape-in-rolling-stone/2014/12/05/5fa5f7d2-7c91-11e4-84d4-7c896b90abdc_story.html
― Mordy, Friday, 5 December 2014 18:51 (nine years ago) link
this doesn't seem like the right thread for this...?
― Οὖτις, Friday, 5 December 2014 18:54 (nine years ago) link
Jeffrey Wells, he has opinions and more opinions about Amy Schumer's appearance and the concept of "Schlumpies & Dumpies"
― Don A Henley And Get Over It (C. Grisso/McCain), Thursday, 12 February 2015 22:35 (nine years ago) link
I grew up in a world in which conventionally attractive or semi-attractive people used to be the ones who got laid the most often. Trust me — I used to do quite well at the Westport Players Tavern in the mid to late ’70s, and I had a good sense of what worked and what didn’t.
Well, yeah.
― Don A Henley And Get Over It (C. Grisso/McCain), Thursday, 12 February 2015 22:36 (nine years ago) link
gross
otoh Amy Schumer is horrible
― Οὖτις, Thursday, 12 February 2015 22:38 (nine years ago) link
I really, really hope her Apatow movie bombs so we aren't faced with the prospect of seeing her forced into 10 movies a year for the next decade.
― ƋППṍӮɨ∏ğڵșěᶉᶇдM℮ (jon /via/ chi 2.0), Thursday, 12 February 2015 22:58 (nine years ago) link