Given up. Deleted my profile. Time to invest in some cats.
― Sneaky Sneaky Prog Friend (Masonic Boom), Saturday, 28 February 2009 11:17 (fifteen years ago) link
I've had surprising success by switching over to craigslist, since I live in a city where it's so popular. I just use a funny title, do the 'your pic/myspace gets mine', and include a funny pic of Obama in there along with a pic of a really fat bunny rabbit.
― kingfish, Saturday, 28 February 2009 16:33 (fifteen years ago) link
I still kind of think that there has to be some kind of middle ground between honestly looking for love online and giving up and paying for pussy.
― oilyrages (libcrypt), Saturday, 28 February 2009 16:43 (fifteen years ago) link
everybody pays for pussy in one way or another
― yur twit (tehresa), Saturday, 28 February 2009 16:55 (fifteen years ago) link
lol tza
― just1n3, Saturday, 28 February 2009 17:39 (fifteen years ago) link
free vs cheap
― kingfish, Saturday, 28 February 2009 18:10 (fifteen years ago) link
i've just registered nadcabinfever.com― o_O (ken c), Friday, 13 February 2009 12:23 (2 years ago)
― o_O (ken c), Friday, 13 February 2009 12:23 (2 years ago)
it has now expired :(
― Eto'o ))) (ken c), Tuesday, 15 February 2011 11:10 (thirteen years ago) link
Finally, a woman who enjoys mind games
― Alba, Saturday, 12 March 2011 18:44 (thirteen years ago) link
ws
― Elegant Bitch (Jimmy The Mod Awaits The Return Of His Beloved), Saturday, 12 March 2011 18:45 (thirteen years ago) link
I think she'd unnerve me more if I didn't have this enormous boner.
― fields of salmon, Saturday, 12 March 2011 19:09 (thirteen years ago) link
http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/web03/2012/6/4/15/enhanced-buzz-12766-1338839487-0.jpg
more here
― Darin, Tuesday, 5 June 2012 19:23 (eleven years ago) link
Can I ask for a S/D (or any sage advice) as a 24 year old virgin who wants to gain experience, NSA or otherwise. e.g. sites? local vs. global sites? Sites for students, specifically grad students (to find people of equal obnoxiousness, of course)? Etiquette tips? Etc.
(For the record I am not especially unattractive or uninteresting, but am kind of picky in my taste.)
Thanks.
― EDB, Wednesday, 25 July 2012 18:25 (eleven years ago) link
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=euvUezZwAKg
― TracerHandVEVO (Tracer Hand), Wednesday, 22 October 2014 10:27 (nine years ago) link
recently broke up with my gf so thought i would try match.com, but lots of members dont seem to be paid up so cant email you (could of course just be they just dont want to, but i keep getting asked after sending messages if i want to upgrade so non paying members can email me), theres constant offers of add-ons you have to pay for, and weirdly (or cleverly i suppose), i got more views the day i joined *before* paying, then after. at this point, the concept of channel 4's nakedattraction seems easier.
― StillAdvance, Wednesday, 27 July 2016 11:44 (seven years ago) link
internet dating still feels uncomfortably like shopping to me so I am making peace with dying alone
― tumtum mahout (Noodle Vague), Wednesday, 27 July 2016 12:00 (seven years ago) link
im thinking joining groups/activities might be a better option than online dating.
― StillAdvance, Wednesday, 27 July 2016 12:14 (seven years ago) link
You know, this thing of blocking someone on a dating site after they make an innocuous, innuendo-free comment to introduce themselves is straight bullshit.
(I needed to be able to say this somewhere.)
― The Harsh Tutelage of Michael McDonald (Raymond Cummings), Thursday, 4 January 2018 03:58 (six years ago) link
it is bullshit but it also goes with the territory I'm afraid
― Simon H., Thursday, 4 January 2018 04:04 (six years ago) link
xp nothing personal i’m sure
― the late great, Thursday, 4 January 2018 04:06 (six years ago) link
I guess? I've just started on a site for the first time in almost 20 years. It takes some getting used to.
― The Harsh Tutelage of Michael McDonald (Raymond Cummings), Thursday, 4 January 2018 04:17 (six years ago) link
what set them off? 'hey good lookin what you got cookin'???
― j., Thursday, 4 January 2018 04:29 (six years ago) link
ime that kind of blocking is not bullshit but just sth you have to get used to and accept. they don't owe you their time or a response and on some sites blocking may be the most efficient way to take someone out of their search results that they're not interested in seeing again. may seem harsh but think of it as someone at a bar who just isn't interested in talking. anyway getting used to doing this same kinda thing myself, n not agonizing over the writing of polite rejections or w/e, has made using okc much much more viable for me over the years, idk.
― Newb Sybok (Doctor Casino), Thursday, 4 January 2018 05:06 (six years ago) link
Yeah, I can see that. Just new to this, and hadn't encountered it anywhere else on social media. But, DC, your comparison makes sense.
― The Harsh Tutelage of Michael McDonald (Raymond Cummings), Friday, 5 January 2018 00:57 (six years ago) link
(My initial messages are always either a) boring, "hi there" or "hello" or "we're a match here, how about that?" pablum or b) a genuine question based on the profile, because I suck at this medium. But I have met a few nice ladies to talk to.)
― The Harsh Tutelage of Michael McDonald (Raymond Cummings), Friday, 5 January 2018 01:02 (six years ago) link
the numbers don't really favor men seeking women, and it opens the door to being treated dismissively, which feels bad.
on the flipside, as a man talking to women, you are way less likely to get gross or abusive messages than a woman would be talking to a man.
in conclusion, everyone feels dehumanized by these programs, to varying extents.
― treeship 2, Friday, 5 January 2018 03:24 (six years ago) link
I've never done internet dating, but have heard many many horror stories of men getting abusive after being rejected, and whether or not their initial messages are polite/friendly/"normal" seems to have no bearing on how they react. So it is a lot *safer* for women who aren't interested to block and move on.
(Also as general advice, I'd be far more inclined to respond to your type b messages than type a.)
― emil.y, Friday, 5 January 2018 15:32 (six years ago) link
YMMV, but when I was dating I appreciated a clear signal that someone was definitely not interested in me. Just rip off the Band-Aid and avoid wasting the time of everyone involved, y'know? Lots of fish, etc.
― Bobby Buttrock (Old Lunch), Friday, 5 January 2018 15:44 (six years ago) link
It worked for me... but I marvel at my luck, tbh
― brimstead, Friday, 5 January 2018 15:46 (six years ago) link
every woman i know who's had internet dating experience has felt overwhelmed by the number of replies women receive, too. seems like for every random reply a man will receive, a woman will receive one hundred.
― omar little, Friday, 5 January 2018 16:41 (six years ago) link
many women explicitly complain about receiving first-contact form-letter spam from men as well, mailed in bulk to up their odds
― j., Friday, 5 January 2018 18:36 (six years ago) link
https://www.wired.com/story/bumble-grindr-and-hinge-moderators-trauma/
― xyzzzz__, Monday, 20 November 2023 14:01 (five months ago) link