I am too old for this...the 40 plus thread.

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i just turned 39 and have a bad cold so i feel very old. blech.

― Mike McGooney-gal, Monday, 30 April 2007 03:15 (seventeen years ago) link

Seriously, this thread has me depressed nine ways from Sunday now.

― Trayce, Monday, 30 April 2007 03:18 (seventeen years ago) link

guys rjg has boobs

― river wolf, Monday, 30 April 2007 03:52 (seventeen years ago) link

^^^^ jerkstore

but rrrobyn is right, about rocking

― river wolf, Monday, 30 April 2007 03:58 (seventeen years ago) link

i had my mid-life crisis at 35, now i'm 40 with 3 kids but i ain't fat and still look pretty young. there is wisdom that comes with age, i don't fear the next 20 years at all - bring it on.

― gershy, Monday, 30 April 2007 04:06 (seventeen years ago) link

I'm looking to slowing down so then I'll make INSANE MISTAKES at a slower rate. Won't ever stop, but jeez, I won't have the time or speed to get into so many spills. That is the WISDOM I forsee in my future; if I grow some other brane/hart goodies by that time then all the better.

― Abbott, Monday, 30 April 2007 05:58 (seventeen years ago) link

Actually I've just lost 6kg but being miserable'll do that. /goth.

OTM...the Crippling Depression Diet was the only thing that ever dropped my pantsize. Hrmm harrumph.

I am sending well-wishes yr way...if I could get the 'clean kitchen fairy' to come wash up your kitchen while you sleep, I so would.

― Abbott, Monday, 30 April 2007 06:01 (seventeen years ago) link

Aw yr a darlin :)

― Trayce, Monday, 30 April 2007 06:02 (seventeen years ago) link

Yeah, the only time I've lost serious weight and got skinny was when the "love of my life" (or so I though at the time) dumped me. Of course, I was a miserable howling ball of depression, so could not capitalise on skinny goddess looks, instead sitting in my room being emo/goth with permanently red eyes and snottery nose.

Now I am a blob again. But a happy one.

Chin up, Trayce :-)

― ailsa, Monday, 30 April 2007 06:36 (seventeen years ago) link

Well, I'm 43, and in the autumn I'm getting married to a lovely woman and we'll be moving into a lovely new home, so basically I feel like I'm eighteen again, except with the added wisdom/hindsight of knowing how to avoid messing up... :-)

Physically I'm fully aware that I'm 43, but slowing down, rediscovering simple pleasures of life, etc., I treat as absolute positives rather than life-denying negatives - so yes, it's all good at the moment.

― Marcello Carlin, Monday, 30 April 2007 07:30 (seventeen years ago) link

I'm OK. (46)

I still feel ooh 25?

Xpost CONGRATS!!

― Mark G, Monday, 30 April 2007 07:32 (seventeen years ago) link

Yeah, congrats Marcello!

I didn't bring anyone down with this thread, I was just curious as to how others viewed being 40 and beyond. It's such an arbitrary number anyway.

― Ned Trifle II, Monday, 30 April 2007 08:09 (seventeen years ago) link

I turned 40 a couple of months ago.

My wife left me just over a year ago. I'm massively in debt. I can't stay out as late as I used to.

On the plus side, I'm still stimulated by life. I'm single, I still go to gigs, I still play football, I still buy pop records.

― Daniel Giraffe, Monday, 30 April 2007 08:22 (seventeen years ago) link

I'm 42. There are no doubt some benefits to being this age, but if I'm totally honest I'd so much rather be 32. As noted above, it's after 40 when you really start first noticing the physical decline. I don't have as much hair as I used to. My weight is under control, but even so I notice its distribution has changed - less muscle and more fat, a bit of a tummy that I never used to have. Don't have nearly as much energy as I used to have. I have a 2 year old son, whom I adore, and I am so happy that I had a child before it was too late. I guess I didn't really know how much I wanted to be a father until I was one. However, I really wish I'd started parenthood 10 years before, partly because we may now be too old to have any more children, partly because a 42 year old simply doesn't have the same energy. God knows how I'll cope when he's of an age when I have to run around and play football with him. I kind of curse the extended adolescence that seemed to stretch for me (and so many of my peers) into my mid-thirties. It's negatively affected a lot of things.

I'm struggling to see the upside of being this age - I guess I'm calmer, more accepting of other people, more accepting of myself, slightly better at what I do, slightly better off financially although still struggling. I'm not delirious with the joy of life, but I'm not unhappy either.

― underpants of the gods, Monday, 30 April 2007 09:10 (seventeen years ago) link

I'm 46. I'm lucky in a sense: In my twenties, I was 7 stone (I'm 6 ft 1) and was in and out of hospital through Crohns disease in 1987. Pumped full of prednisolone (which has several side-effects one of which acts as a 'preservative', the rest are not as nice to have) for about 2 years. So I'm thankful for still being alive (after fairly drastic surgery) and a consistent weight at 13 stone. Still have a full head of hair, a couple strands of grey (apparently), and can keep up with my kids unless they run full pelt up the street slip and fall over. (By the time I catch up to them, they've stopped crying usually).

― Mark G, Monday, 30 April 2007 09:34 (seventeen years ago) link

Only 3 years to go. I'm actually strangely looking forward to it.

Turning 30 was such a relief after the hellish hurricane that was my 20s. A friend on the other side told me "it's not that stuff doesn't suck, it just doesn't bother you anywhere near as much" and it was true.

So I expect the other side of 40 will be equally better. I still plan on staying "33" for a few more years, though. Biological age and stated age do not have to stay the same! After all, I was 22 for 11 years.

Some thing have sorted themselves out - career, homeowning, etc. Other things haven't sorted themselves out (lack of partner) but the older I get, the less pressure there is, in a way. I can just shrug and go "I'm old and ugly, and I don't have to worry about it any more. Wah hey! Shall I get some Dalmations?"

― Masonic Boom, Monday, 30 April 2007 09:43 (seventeen years ago) link

except with the added wisdom/hindsight of knowing how to avoid messing up... :-)

You'll have to let me in on the secret, Marcello!

God knows how I'll cope when he's of an age when I have to run around and play football with him.

You can go in goal!

Halfway thru the 40's, I can't say that I'd rather be younger. It would be tempting to travel back 10 years knowing what I know now and reclaim the extra decade, but I don't think I would even if I could. I was a real mess at 35, and while life can still be somewhat chaotic, I am a much happier, calmer person in general. Having teenage (well one is 14, one 12) children is utterly classic in every way. Physically I am still in great shape, although recovering from rugby knocks takes lots longer and I am probably in retirement now. I think I look OK, but I don't bloody well care if I don't!

― Dr.C, Monday, 30 April 2007 09:54 (seventeen years ago) link

I think I look OK, but I don't bloody well care if I don't!

This is definitely one of the upsides of getting past 40. You're not nearly so beholden to what other people think.

― underpants of the gods, Monday, 30 April 2007 10:03 (seventeen years ago) link

40 here. I dreaded and hated my birthday, but since I passed it, feel more relaxed, happy for what feels like a new chapter, more assured, somehow.

― Maria :D, Monday, 30 April 2007 10:36 (seventeen years ago) link

Doc you are so handsome it hurts to look at you. Damn you.

― Mark C, Monday, 30 April 2007 11:11 (seventeen years ago) link

I must thank Marcello and Daniel for making me feel 300% about getting older.I am not being sarky!

― Trayce, Monday, 30 April 2007 11:23 (seventeen years ago) link

The fact that so many of the best ILX posters are 40+ does make the future seem a lot less bleak (see also the parenting and gay threads - clearly the best people are old queers with kids)

― Mark C, Monday, 30 April 2007 11:28 (seventeen years ago) link

Mark OTM

― Trayce, Monday, 30 April 2007 11:30 (seventeen years ago) link

Trayce OTM

― Ned Trifle II, Monday, 30 April 2007 13:06 (seventeen years ago) link

The number of stupid things I no longer give a shit about is bracing.

― Dr Morbius, Monday, 30 April 2007 13:06 (seventeen years ago) link

Doc you are so handsome it hurts to look at you. Damn you

!!! Are you sure?

― Dr.C, Monday, 30 April 2007 13:08 (seventeen years ago) link

Yes.

― Mark C, Monday, 30 April 2007 13:13 (seventeen years ago) link

listen: Older dudes are hot! My boyfriend of 10 years is turning 50 in 3 years. Older men can have that confidence that you only get with experience. Less ego, more man. (this applies to the ladies as well-the toughest and coolest girls I know are are 39-55) They know what's what and have more objectivity. Most 20+ kids are stinky little drama queens.

― King Kitty, Monday, 30 April 2007 13:27 (seventeen years ago) link

Dr C's a handsome fellow, it has to be said.

― Marcello Carlin, Monday, 30 April 2007 14:04 (seventeen years ago) link

Indeed he is.

― C J, Monday, 30 April 2007 14:05 (seventeen years ago) link

Adding to the Dr. C love here.

― Ned Raggett, Monday, 30 April 2007 14:06 (seventeen years ago) link

Dr. C, if I ever make it back to the gym again, I'm going to download a picture of you and show it to the trainers and DNA boys and say "make me look like this!"

― James Redd and the Blecchs, Monday, 30 April 2007 14:39 (seventeen years ago) link

You can send that picture to me, if you like...

― King Kitty, Monday, 30 April 2007 14:41 (seventeen years ago) link

In less than two months
I will be celebrating
birthday 41

All that age stuff sucks
but the flipside is that I
do not care as much

And I am happy,
for sure happier now than
when I was 30

― Dimension 5ive, Monday, 30 April 2007 14:49 (seventeen years ago) link

uh, where r the Dr C pics pls

― Dr Morbius, Monday, 30 April 2007 14:50 (seventeen years ago) link

http://www.diabetesincontrol.com/issues/issue318/picture.gif

― scott seward, Monday, 30 April 2007 15:02 (seventeen years ago) link

http://www.benbest.com/lifeext/fertile2.gif

― scott seward, Monday, 30 April 2007 15:04 (seventeen years ago) link

What the feck is going on here?

― Dr.C, Monday, 30 April 2007 15:06 (seventeen years ago) link

You have been declared official ILX Silver Foxxxxe.

― Masonic Boom, Monday, 30 April 2007 15:06 (seventeen years ago) link

http://dericbownds.net/uploaded_images/MellowYears.gif

― scott seward, Monday, 30 April 2007 15:07 (seventeen years ago) link

[Post image of Charlie Rich here]

― James Redd and the Blecchs, Monday, 30 April 2007 15:10 (seventeen years ago) link

Where's the love for the long-lost "silver fox" of snooker David Taylor?

― Marcello Carlin, Monday, 30 April 2007 15:13 (seventeen years ago) link

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― scott seward, Monday, 30 April 2007 15:16 (seventeen years ago) link

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― scott seward, Monday, 30 April 2007 15:19 (seventeen years ago) link

Are you dropping hints scott?

― Ms Misery, Monday, 30 April 2007 15:20 (seventeen years ago) link

Who's that in the picture Scott?

― Dr.C, Monday, 30 April 2007 15:48 (seventeen years ago) link

i think he invented the character of buckaroo banzai. but maybe not. first picture i found searching for silver fox.

― scott seward, Monday, 30 April 2007 15:49 (seventeen years ago) link

I thought it was one of those age-morphed photos of Ned.

― Oilyrags, Monday, 30 April 2007 15:58 (seventeen years ago) link

sci-fi people get silvery a lot

http://www.shaviro.com/Blog/images/Delany.jpg

― scott seward, Monday, 30 April 2007 16:01 (seventeen years ago) link

http://www.pasadenaweekly.com/media/8/artspeak.jpg

― scott seward, Monday, 30 April 2007 16:02 (seventeen years ago) link

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