― and how (PappaWheelie V), Monday, 23 February 2009 20:32 (4 years ago) Permalink
Definitely come across pretty differently in different situations. I have not so much a theory as a CONCEPT of social space as managed through etiquette being key to identity and at work and similar I'm pretty polite and relaxed but it comes from being detached and giving ppl a lot of room. A lot of people I meet like that are pretty slow to warm up to me and I've had people tell me they didn't know what to make of me at first. I can be pretty gregarious and love tagging along to a good party a little drunk and socialising w/friends of friends. Maybe it all just comes down to energy levels but when there's a good time being had I take the initiative more, get all welcoming, chat a lot of over the top shit about stuff and get enthusiastic about all plans/potential adventures. With my oldest and best mates the preferred activity is reducing each other to tears in mixed company to embarass them.I can get awkward and really apologetic when being really polite to people, especially those who are older or intensely foreign, who are asking a lot of questions which I end up trying to answer too sincerely. But when I'm vaguely prepared I normally enjoy talking to new people. Thinking about it I probably feel weirdest/come across most different posting shit online cos I have no way of gauging people or properly interacting, but it's still decent overall.
― ogmor, Monday, 23 February 2009 21:28 (4 years ago) Permalink
Another side of my personality is the super-pessimistic, super-sarcastic side that comes out a lot around really close friends. I have a pretty deadpan, dark sense of humor that's easily misinterpreted, so I try not to let it out at work or around new people, but one of the drawbacks to moving around a lot after college and becoming less shy is that I sometimes start assuming new friends know me better than they do. It's actually bothered a couple people who have taken it seriously.
YES...jesus christ this happens me so often. the worst thing is I think that side of personality can be a real crutch. I met a very good friend on Friday who has a new gf and he was asking me about how looking for a job is going and without even intending it I came across like ultra grim, the worst part is when people find it funny and I keep doing it and then I think they think I'm actually that negative, esp cos when being sarcastic I say things I don't even mean but often people think you do mean them.
"I am v sarcastic but I tell people everything, tell everyone everything! It's v silly.
― Local Garda, Monday, 23 February 2009 16:54 (5 hours ago) Bookmark"
omg are you my long lost twin brother?
― Local Garda, Monday, 23 February 2009 22:36 (4 years ago) Permalink
Someone asked me today if amusement parks make me maudlin. YES. YES THEY DO. This person doesn't know me well but has keen insight into my personality, I would say.
― Word of Wisdom Robots (Abbbottt), Monday, 21 May 2012 22:18 (1 year ago) Permalink
Or maybe I'm just the maudlin type and anyone could ask, "Does softball make you maudlin?" "Does breaking a wishbone make you maudlin?" "Do balloons make you maudlin?" And I would think, yes, yes, how did you know?
― Word of Wisdom Robots (Abbbottt), Monday, 21 May 2012 22:23 (1 year ago) Permalink
doing acting classes at the moment for about 5 hours a week, and on the way home one night one of the other students was telling me how she feels v shy at the start but then the classes get her all hyped up and when she gets home she's all energetic etc. and my experience is the polar opposite, the class makes me introverted and thoughtful in a way i like, and stops me being talkative/rash.
― ooooiiiioooooooooooooooaaaaaaaaoooooh un - bi - leevable! (LocalGarda), Monday, 21 May 2012 22:29 (1 year ago) Permalink
After reading some probably bogus pop psychology article in the Guardian a while back, I decided I am a shy extrovert. I'm always keen to hang out/party with friends (esp given my solitary day job) and make new friends, but if I'm at a social event where I don't know anyone I will just stand in the corner and stare at the wall rather than approach somebody. I'm also very quick to decide that the person I'm talking to isn't going to find me interesting and then find a way to autodestruct the conversation. The only way I know to counteract my shyness is alcohol, and that hasn't always ended well (though even my parents have told me I'm better company after a few drinks).
^^^ Wrote the above before reading the whole thread, seems like my profile isn't atypical on ILX...
― nagl lack (seandalai), Monday, 21 May 2012 23:11 (1 year ago) Permalink
I'd kinda like to see a Myers-Briggs breakdown of ILX. I have a feeling that my type (I(sometimes E)NFP) isn't terribly prevalent here, but I'd wager that a lot of the people here that I feel most simpatico with are of a similar bent.
― Quiet Desperation, LLC (Deric W. Haircare), Monday, 21 May 2012 23:22 (1 year ago) Permalink
pretty sure there's at least one dedicated Meyers-Briggs thread
― sarahell, Monday, 21 May 2012 23:27 (1 year ago) Permalink
here's one of them:
Is ILX run by NFs?
I've been hit with an MBTI questionaire at least three times (usually for job interviews). Twice I was an ENFJ, once an ENFP. Apparently I cling the line real closely on the judging/perceiving thing, near 50%. But I pegged the meter at 100% extroversion at least once....
― Lee971 (Lee626), Tuesday, 22 May 2012 01:14 (1 year ago) Permalink