Lol
― Treeship, Tuesday, 25 June 2013 21:04 (ten years ago) link
i'm disappointed in all of you (except NV because he put some effort into it, and it worked)
― free your spirit pig (La Lechera), Tuesday, 25 June 2013 21:06 (ten years ago) link
don't worry, i blew it in the end
― That booby's are HOTTT (Noodle Vague), Tuesday, 25 June 2013 21:07 (ten years ago) link
really? i didn't know that.
Yeah, I decided that spending time around people who called women "bitches" was more trouble than it was worth, even if the core of ppl that I was friends with didn't do that--the wider group did. Plus the group msg board was practically wallpapered with swimsuit avatars and naked women in ppl's sig files and men calling other men pussies and I just couldn't.
― Tottenham Heelspur (in orbit), Tuesday, 25 June 2013 21:07 (ten years ago) link
it's the same thing, facebook is just a really shitty bar
― mh, Tuesday, 25 June 2013 21:07 (ten years ago) link
good point
― free your spirit pig (La Lechera), Tuesday, 25 June 2013 21:08 (ten years ago) link
when I was around the roller derby crowd they said "bitches" a whole lot but that was a different context, I would imagine
― mh, Tuesday, 25 June 2013 21:08 (ten years ago) link
Facebook wd be improved by complimentary peanuts and the possibility of cocktails, this is true
― That booby's are HOTTT (Noodle Vague), Tuesday, 25 June 2013 21:09 (ten years ago) link
Lol I guess I surprised rrrobyn and our mutual friend V once by emphatically saying I would never never tell anyone I had a crush on, because that way lies embarrassment for everyone involved.
― Tottenham Heelspur (in orbit), Tuesday, 25 June 2013 21:09 (ten years ago) link
awww
I think the people I have for-real crushed on hard are ones that I have seldom approached, and then it builds to this crescendo of me skittering from the room or being super-awkward. Best to approach someone before it gets to that point and they're so super-human that they seem unattainable.
― mh, Tuesday, 25 June 2013 21:10 (ten years ago) link
yikes, that sounds gross, io. nothing worse than looking around and realizing that you are surrounded by jerkshaving to extricate oneself from situations like that is why i am so reticent to become part of any group tbh!
― free your spirit pig (La Lechera), Tuesday, 25 June 2013 21:12 (ten years ago) link
i think i've usually approached people i've had a crush on unless it seemed like a bad idea for a particular reason, but that was all so long ago i cd be wrong
― That booby's are HOTTT (Noodle Vague), Tuesday, 25 June 2013 21:13 (ten years ago) link
pathological smashriarchy
― i didn't even give much of a fuck that you were mod (forksclovetofu), Tuesday, 25 June 2013 21:13 (ten years ago) link
also "for real crushed on hard" is not even remotely equal (or even comparable) to "found appealing"
there's an element of far-gone-ness in the former that hasn't been given the chance to ferment in the latter
― free your spirit pig (La Lechera), Tuesday, 25 June 2013 21:13 (ten years ago) link
i still remember a lot about my first real crush but mostly embarrassing memories - i was a very, very gauche 16 year-old
Peacocking is a bloody great idea tbh, even if it gets co-opted by PUAs. Everyone should wear something mad glam, if they feel like it.
― you may not like it now but you will (Zora), Tuesday, 25 June 2013 21:15 (ten years ago) link
http://www.golfblogger.co.uk/data/post_pics/Trilby_Tour/Trilby_Tour_East_of_England_Golf.jpg
maybe not
― That booby's are HOTTT (Noodle Vague), Tuesday, 25 June 2013 21:16 (ten years ago) link
in my youth I used to think that appearing in anything other than a nondescript, but clean fashion, was far inferior to having a rich inner life and being a conversationalist or something, but I think I also mostly read Star Wars books and played computer games a lot
― mh, Tuesday, 25 June 2013 21:17 (ten years ago) link
i had a phase in my teens when i wore a lot of purple and yellow. and a hat. and beads. i think i'm good for the rest of my life.
― That booby's are HOTTT (Noodle Vague), Tuesday, 25 June 2013 21:19 (ten years ago) link
I have no probs approaching people, the issue is no one seems worthy of approaching
I am totally sweating this hot bouncer at the club I frequent, though, but he is friends with my ex. So hands off.
― homosexual II, Tuesday, 25 June 2013 21:30 (ten years ago) link
i don't like the opposition of our 'evolutionary nature' and being a moral person in contemporary life. i don't think we have some kind of base or bestial nature that needs to be tamed by civilization, however conceived. evolution comprises our whole being, cognition, the works. it's like gravity, it's always on, everywhere, all the time. which makes it meaningless as a guide to proper action. that isn't what it is.
― goole, Tuesday, June 25, 2013 1:32 PM (4 hours ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
truth bomb
― well if it isn't old 11 cameras simon (gbx), Tuesday, 25 June 2013 22:52 (ten years ago) link
Yeah, eloquently stated.
― Treeship, Tuesday, 25 June 2013 22:53 (ten years ago) link
People are primates, and are in constant competition with others.
iana primatologist but bonobos give the lie to this idea, at least if by competition you are assuming something necessarily violent or aggressive.
― nagl dude dude dude (ledge), Tuesday, 25 June 2013 23:18 (ten years ago) link
aren't bonobos also the ones that murder each other?
― Treeship, Wednesday, 26 June 2013 01:04 (ten years ago) link
ah just looked it up. it's chimps, not bonobos, who are murderers. good job bonobos. keep it up! http://www.realclearscience.com/2011/03/08/bonobos_unlike_chimps_do_not_murder_240136.html
― Treeship, Wednesday, 26 June 2013 01:06 (ten years ago) link
competition isn't necessarily violent or aggressive. plants compete for access to sunlight.
― Me and my pool noodle (contenderizer), Wednesday, 26 June 2013 01:20 (ten years ago) link
yeah, plants don't need violence, they just gerrymander their voting districts...
― Neanderthal, Wednesday, 26 June 2013 01:21 (ten years ago) link
I don't automatically hate face tattoos (this may say something about me), but I do automatically hate NY Giants ones.
pls don't say a jets one would be better
― mookieproof, Wednesday, 26 June 2013 01:32 (ten years ago) link
i want one of a plant wearing a jets uniform intercepting a pass from a plant wearing a giants uniform
― Treeship, Wednesday, 26 June 2013 01:46 (ten years ago) link
knowing the Jets, it'd probably be them throwing the interception
― Neanderthal, Wednesday, 26 June 2013 01:47 (ten years ago) link
look, i didn't choose to be a jets fan. i was born that way.
― Treeship, Wednesday, 26 June 2013 02:04 (ten years ago) link
that guy in the plaid fedora posted upthread is like... things could be worse
― Me and my pool noodle (contenderizer), Tuesday, June 25, 2013
tbqh redwoods are straight murderous
― resulting post (rogermexico.), Wednesday, 26 June 2013 14:09 (ten years ago) link
And also, if you can point to a behaviour and say 'yes, this behaviour is more natural than this other behaviour, if I do more of this I will be more natural', you're making a conscious/intellectual choice to do so, which by the oft total bullshit anti-intellectual standard of 'being natural', you're not supposed to do
― cardamon, Wednesday, 26 June 2013 15:22 (ten years ago) link
fucking hell the world will turn me into a feminist yet, wtf wtf wtf dismissed?
http://www.irishtimes.com/news/crime-and-law/sexual-assault-case-against-sailor-dismissed-1.1453294
― dj hollingsworth vs dj perry (darraghmac), Thursday, 4 July 2013 21:47 (ten years ago) link
sorry
― dj hollingsworth vs dj perry (darraghmac), Thursday, 4 July 2013 21:48 (ten years ago) link
“The complainant alleged that the 25-year-old sailor had asked her ‘for a quickie’, had slapped her behind and grabbed her by the breasts with both hands...
...there was a doubt as to whether the sailor intended the assault to be of a sexual nature.
― ogmor, Thursday, 4 July 2013 22:06 (ten years ago) link
u_u
― set the controls for the heart of the sun (VegemiteGrrl), Friday, 5 July 2013 03:33 (ten years ago) link
The defendant broke down as the judge invited both parties to leave the events behind them, describing the case as a “trial for all parties”.
― Andrew Farrell, Saturday, 6 July 2013 09:05 (ten years ago) link
darragh getting pissed about that makes you empirically a feminist basically, also what the christ
― El tres de 乒乓 de 1808 (silby), Monday, 15 July 2013 23:58 (ten years ago) link
i laughed, i cried
http://nymag.com/thecut/2013/07/7-women-you-meet-in-hookup-culture-stories.html
― goole, Tuesday, 16 July 2013 20:52 (ten years ago) link
holy shit, it starts out awkward and goes straight into no-way territory
― mh, Tuesday, 16 July 2013 21:28 (ten years ago) link
I am trying to generously assume this is supposed to be satire, but it's too mean-spirited.
― mh, Tuesday, 16 July 2013 21:29 (ten years ago) link
title suggests that it's about the characters encountered in "trend stories", not human beings or anyone's actual culture. but i dunno. nothing in the piece backs that up, no quotations from or links to representative examples.
― twerking for obvious reasons (contenderizer), Tuesday, 16 July 2013 23:38 (ten years ago) link
uh there are all kinds of links
― mh, Tuesday, 16 July 2013 23:39 (ten years ago) link
eep! there are. dunno how i missed that, except dumbness of course.
1 dumb opinion: seems like satire of the pieces linked/
― twerking for obvious reasons (contenderizer), Tuesday, 16 July 2013 23:44 (ten years ago) link
oh wait, selective color blindness. i missed the links cuz of selective color blindness. it's a condition.
I uh...I didn't think it was mean? I read those trend stories, one of them just came out like last week and has been making the rounds and inspiring reaction pieces left and right, which I think is the specific piece almost all of those types are references to.
― Tottenham Heelspur (in orbit), Tuesday, 16 July 2013 23:48 (ten years ago) link
I get that it's an acerbic take on the horrible sexist stereotypes in articles but the phrase, " She is the tenuous link between the trio of campus plagues — binge-drinking, hookup culture, sexual assault — not the guy who is into sex with half-conscious women." ...still managed to make me nauseated, even if it's referencing what those other articles are insinuating.
― mh, Tuesday, 16 July 2013 23:51 (ten years ago) link
If you mean the fact that trend pieces about young women's sexuality and "hook-up culture" are concern-trolling in every possible way, one of which is tacitly (or explicitly, take your pick) blaming women for non-consensual sexual experiences, then yes, I support being offended by that. I'm not sure what part is nauseating, though?
― Tottenham Heelspur (in orbit), Tuesday, 16 July 2013 23:55 (ten years ago) link