what does it mean if you're seriously tempted to cheat on your long distance girlfriend?

literally everyone has been helpful in different ways. thanks.

for the record: i'm 3-4 hours away by car/bus/train. perhaps that's not long distance to some but surely it's at least mid distance?

fwiw right now i can't even imagine breaking up with her. for one thing, she'd be devastated.

i like starship troopers a lot. she hasn't seen it but probably wouldn't like it.

I think you should rip both these broads.

i have been there. dont do it.

it's only when you're tempted to cheat by the ugly ones that you should be hard on yourself.

haha you said "hard on"

cheetah must be very happy with the quality of advice on this thread.

this is pretty dumb. i live with my girlfriend and fantasize about having sex with practically every girl that's even just a little nice to me. but you control it. i managed to make it work in a long distance relationship, too. you're asking ilx to tell you to break up with your girlfriend. if, for whatever reason, you're not into it anymore, and you can't fathom anything that would change that, sure, go ahead break up with her. chances are you'll regret it in a couple weeks or months or something, you'd get over that unless she's the proverbial one of course. there's nothing wrong with getting out of a relationship that you're just not into, when everything should be working. but on the other hand, if you're expecting this to work out so that you actually wind up with the girl that was hitting on you, good luck, but it probably won't happen.

that being said, there's been times that i've wanted to cheat just for the sake of seeing what it's like. that involves actively wishing that my relationship wasn't as solid as it is, so that i could justify doing it. what does that say about me?

Try for a three way.