Boob etiquette (a question for the ladies).

O RLY?

i thought it was all 'platonic' sauna frottage with you?

If a VERY close friend indicates it's acceptable to talk about her boobs, then feel free to do so. Otherwise, don't. Full stop. The fact that YOU don't have a hang-up about it doesn't mean that it's going to be acceptable to all but a small minority of women (NB this may be different in Finland, where "your breasts are positively bursting with vibrancy today" may be the equivalent of "yours sincerely" or "hello", I dunno).

I have to say your comment about Roxy's boobs was the creepiest thing I can remember you saying on ILE.

it wasn't THAT bad. i've seen far worse on here, and not from he.

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See also street harassment, Eliza Doolittle.

Kenan, a pH imbalance in the vagina can also lead to vaginitis or yeast infection. But hey, as long as such things have never negatively impacted your enjoyment of vaginas there must not be a problem, right? (Don't freak out, I'm just fucking with you, although you did illustrate another way in which male commentary on women's bodies can be unnecessary and unwelcome.)

I most definitely agree on this in general, being a feminist myself, but surely there's a difference between objectifying comments from random assholes (or assholes that you know) and non-sexist chatter between friends of different gender? I think only the most militant feminist would say men can't talk about women's bodies in any case, regardless of the actual content of said talk.

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And some Tuomas's best friends are boobs!

Here's an example: I'm out at a bar with a law school pal and at some point in the night he looks at my chest and tells me that my shirt makes my boobs look huge. Now this is completely unwelcome and innapropriate and I tell him so, to which he responds, "I'll bet you let Jeff tell you that your boobs look big!"

And I do, but that's because Jeff is MY HUSBAND. And unless there was enough alcohol involved that I don't remember it (which is possible), he's never made comments about my breasts while in public within earshot of our friends. And if he had, there was probably a fight later. But otherwise, of COURSE Jeff can tell me things about my boobs. I welcome such comments because they might lead to doing it.

Now I'm distracted. But I think I've made my point. Or I hope so because I'm late for work - the jist of it is that a reasonable rule of thumb (or boob) would be NOT to bring it up unless the woman initiates her body as a topic of conversation. Such as by waving her recently augmented tits in your face, for an excellent example.

haha I R A BOY

Another average day in Finland...... :)

1) Her tits are great.
2) My g/f pointed it out at much greater length than I did.
3) At that precise point, she needed a bloke to tell her that.

So, although I was definitely saying it from a sexist perspective, it's still (IMO) an order of magnitude less creepy than Tuomas in the Roxy example.

I remember that tv show and thinking Sean Cassidy and the other guy were far cuter than the guys in "Dukes of Hazzard" - I think I had an argument w/a friend about this once.

Not that it's super relevant but I knew at three girls in college who had reductions to alleviate back pain. Like a fairly common thing

rip ;_;

Don't worry bro they're all still pretty stacked

I don't think we have Hardy boys in here... Are they like the Famous Five?

since my friends know

A search of ilx reveals:

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142 threads using the word "ladies" in their titles

Dying at "the mystery of bog boobs" upthread

underrated wutang joint

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in some cases you gotta choose empathy over ethics

Man, I was a bit naive 10 years ago, wasn't I?

I still talk about boobs (in a non-sexist way), but I sure know the proper boundaries better now.

Hmm...can you give an example of your reformed boundary respecting approach?

it's a trap

Sshh!

lol