Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

OMG. I didn't know that was even an option; if I join again I will specify this as my preferred need.

― Virginia Plain, Wednesday, 16 May 2012 02:35 (1 year ago) Permalink

because you're in Melbourne for the next six months, would be my guess

Well yeah thats fair. I guess I should point out the obvious that I'm hoping for something more long term, which obviously not everyone is, I suppose.

― Pureed Moods (Trayce), Wednesday, 16 May 2012 02:38 (1 year ago) Permalink

kind of tempted to make a profile and put "I'm in town until next Tuesday" but specify I am not interested in casual sex

― mh, Wednesday, 16 May 2012 02:40 (1 year ago) Permalink

LTR only, of course.

― Bob Bop Perano (Deric W. Haircare), Wednesday, 16 May 2012 02:45 (1 year ago) Permalink

I saw one that was pretty "down to earth" in most respects, maybe not too bright but at least a bro (in the good way), and then he said, "And don't be one of those women who needs a three-ring circus and a marching band in order to come"

dear god

tbf i feel a little bit better now

― mookieproof, Wednesday, 16 May 2012 02:48 (1 year ago) Permalink

Is it common for gross, PUA-ish dudes to come on all vaguely "he-man woman hater"-y on OKC? That would help selective and intelligent women to weed out some of the garbage, I'd think.

― Bob Bop Perano (Deric W. Haircare), Wednesday, 16 May 2012 02:51 (1 year ago) Permalink

that fucking guy!

lol, mh

― Pita Malört (Je55e), Wednesday, 16 May 2012 02:52 (1 year ago) Permalink

I had a fun conversation with two female friends who said it's gross to have "casual sex" as an interest and people would not message you. Then I kind of walked through their relationship ideas and figured out that they'd definitely want sex somewhat early in a relationship, within the first fourish dates/couple weeks, which they'd define as casual sex.

I mean, I get where we were coming from, but I still loled

― mh, Wednesday, 16 May 2012 03:02 (1 year ago) Permalink

My position on this is that everyone on OKC is interested in casual sex, hence it is gauche to come right out and say it. I don't know, perhaps I am a romantic?

I feel like casual sex in implied in a dating site . . . you don't really need to go any further in your specs.

― Virginia Plain, Wednesday, 16 May 2012 03:12 (1 year ago) Permalink

Yeah, that's kinda OTM. Particularly if, as a guy, you're at all sensitive to how gross a lot of dudes are about stuff like that. It's probably fair to assume that it's on the table (unless specifically stated otherwise), but if a dude has that as a preference, it's a good bet that's all he's after.

― Bob Bop Perano (Deric W. Haircare), Wednesday, 16 May 2012 03:17 (1 year ago) Permalink

Nah see to me saying "casual sex" on OKC has a very specific tone/point. Its not qiute like my aforementioned "hook up right away" kinda deal, its more an explicit "I am trawling this site specifically for a shag and NOT a partner". Which is quite different. I mean its a shave off solicitation to be honest. Which, ew.

― Pureed Moods (Trayce), Wednesday, 16 May 2012 03:22 (1 year ago) Permalink

Yup, which is entertaining in its own way, and I agree, but still pretty funny.

― mh, Wednesday, 16 May 2012 13:38 (1 year ago) Permalink

I wonder if there will ever be a feasible casual sex site for straights? One that wouldn't be creepy men grossing out women. Or is there? I don't know of any straight or bi, *blatantly* hook-up-focused sites on par w/ Manhunt (or Dudesnude, Adam4Adam, Craiglist, etc.).

― Pita Malört (Je55e), Wednesday, 16 May 2012 15:11 (1 year ago) Permalink

lol adultfriendfinder? But as far as I've heard or know, it's not really a thing that happens. I don't know if it's a difference between the inherent/socially-prescribed way men and women interact, or if it's just part of this semi-formal dance of lack of acknowledgment where people *do* want casual sex but the way to do it is to be glancing around a bar at last call

― mh, Wednesday, 16 May 2012 15:32 (1 year ago) Permalink

"do you like learning from and teach1ng those around you?" barf. i wasn't gonna mock him here but then he listed ayn rand as one of his favorites so i feel like he's fair game.

― rayuela, Wednesday, 16 May 2012 16:05 (1 year ago) Permalink

List Ayn Rand as a fave decision tree:
Do they seem youngish, and perhaps they will know better at some point?
Y -> Continue
N -> Jump to 1
Do they have other interests that are decent, and seem to have reasonable politics otherwise?
N -> Reject
Y -> Continue
Was this actually part of a trend of idealistic naivete?
Y -> Reject
N -> Under consideration

1. Is there a weird extenuating circumstance where they might not get the implications of listing Rand?
Y -> This is an architect, proceed with caution
N -> Reject

― mh, Wednesday, 16 May 2012 16:13 (1 year ago) Permalink

Ha. Pretty OTM.

― Bob Bop Perano (Deric W. Haircare), Wednesday, 16 May 2012 16:19 (1 year ago) Permalink

I wonder if there will ever be a feasible casual sex site for straights? One that wouldn't be creepy men grossing out women. Or is there? I don't know of any straight or bi, *blatantly* hook-up-focused sites on par w/ Manhunt (or Dudesnude, Adam4Adam, Craiglist, etc.).

a lot of my straight female friends looking for casual sex go the craigslist route. but the creepy dudes sending dick pix quotient is apparently very high.

― bene_gesserit, Wednesday, 16 May 2012 23:33 (1 year ago) Permalink

I've wondered about the M4F part of Craigslist. I figured it was mostly horny regular guys with a few female meth heads and escorts.

― Pita Malört (Je55e), Thursday, 17 May 2012 00:36 (1 year ago) Permalink

I started chatting with a dude on OkCupid tonight who seemed smart, interesting, funny, etc - and then he decided to try and sexy talk me and get all dom. Mega turn off.

― homosexual II, Thursday, 17 May 2012 04:22 (1 year ago) Permalink

i have a good male friend who, last week, had sex on the first date with his female OKC partner about an hour after they met. Both of their profiles seemed like they were up for it and she wanted to meet around 10pm on a thursday at a bar near his house so signs pointed to yes, he asked and they did. So that stuff does happen.

― (Name Withheld to Avoid Hassle) (forksclovetofu), Thursday, 17 May 2012 19:14 (1 year ago) Permalink

hey man, whatever works

― mh, Thursday, 17 May 2012 21:14 (1 year ago) Permalink

Is that what that Larry David movie is about?!

― Bob Bop Perano (Deric W. Haircare), Thursday, 17 May 2012 21:25 (1 year ago) Permalink

idgi

― (Name Withheld to Avoid Hassle) (forksclovetofu), Thursday, 17 May 2012 21:25 (1 year ago) Permalink

― mookieproof, Friday, 18 May 2012 04:51 (1 year ago) Permalink

I wonder if there will ever be a feasible casual sex site for straights?

nerve.com more viable for this in my experience than craigslist CE. Plus their music reviews are actually good.

― Lee626, Friday, 18 May 2012 05:08 (1 year ago) Permalink

I don't know if it's a difference between the inherent/socially-prescribed way men and women interact, or if it's just part of this semi-formal dance of lack of acknowledgment where people *do* want casual sex but the way to do it is to be glancing around a bar at last call

Does this ever happen in real life? I mean, actually waiting until the bar is closing and only then looking for, and finding, someone who wants to take you home? Wouldn't anyone looking for a hookup for the night chat up someone at the bar well before last call?

― Lee626, Friday, 18 May 2012 05:18 (1 year ago) Permalink

Have you ever been to a bar at closing??

― obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Friday, 18 May 2012 10:25 (1 year ago) Permalink

i have, and it's been me, whoever i'd gone there with, and the bar people.

― mexican sumner (electricsound), Friday, 18 May 2012 10:27 (1 year ago) Permalink

I have, and I never only then thought, for the first time all night, that I'd better look around the room and find someone in the last few minutes lest I go home alone

― Lee626, Friday, 18 May 2012 10:37 (1 year ago) Permalink

i sometimes forget that i live in a city where the bar-closing hookup literally replaced religion in the 60s

― obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Friday, 18 May 2012 10:48 (1 year ago) Permalink

To me, hooking up at closing just says "hey youre smashed I can take advantage of that" which... eww.

― Pureed Moods (Trayce), Friday, 18 May 2012 11:01 (1 year ago) Permalink

tbh i think it's often a lot to do with the person looking being smashed enough as well tho?

― pet tommy & the barkhaters (darraghmac), Friday, 18 May 2012 11:13 (1 year ago) Permalink

tru dat

― Pureed Moods (Trayce), Friday, 18 May 2012 11:22 (1 year ago) Permalink

I mean Im not saying I havent had ill advised drunken hookups... just not at closing at a bar. Theyre usually dates that end up as "whoops we got drunk and ended up in bed"

― Pureed Moods (Trayce), Friday, 18 May 2012 11:23 (1 year ago) Permalink

Study: Half of Women Prefer Drunk Sex

Confirms what I long suspected....

― Lee626, Friday, 18 May 2012 11:27 (1 year ago) Permalink

Fifty-five percent said they like to be tipsy while having sex, and 7 percent want to be downright wasted.

Because making love is just so much fun when the room's spinning.

― Lee626, Friday, 18 May 2012 11:29 (1 year ago) Permalink

To me, hooking up at closing just says "hey youre smashed I can take advantage of that" which... eww.

No, it's more "we are both smashed and we're still at the bar at closing, still striking up random conversations so we obviously are looking for the same thing"

not that I have done this, but I may have made out with someone I met near bar close and then talked to for about ten minutes while waiting for pizza

― mh, Friday, 18 May 2012 14:32 (1 year ago) Permalink

they give you pizza on the way out?

― World Congress of Itch (Dr Morbius), Friday, 18 May 2012 14:36 (1 year ago) Permalink

btw this closing-time stuff at gay bars often continues in the throng outside, spawning the term "sidewalk sale."

― World Congress of Itch (Dr Morbius), Friday, 18 May 2012 14:37 (1 year ago) Permalink

nah we made out after the pizza

― mh, Friday, 18 May 2012 14:40 (1 year ago) Permalink

bit cheesy

― pet tommy & the barkhaters (darraghmac), Friday, 18 May 2012 14:45 (1 year ago) Permalink

any way you slice it

― World Congress of Itch (Dr Morbius), Friday, 18 May 2012 14:48 (1 year ago) Permalink

That's the way you knead it.

― (Name Withheld to Avoid Hassle) (forksclovetofu), Friday, 18 May 2012 16:14 (1 year ago) Permalink

lol

― obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Friday, 18 May 2012 18:08 (1 year ago) Permalink

the 3 a.m. bar hookup scene (and not just at big clubs you'd never go to) during summer in Montreal is a Real Thing. freedom reigns.

― obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Friday, 18 May 2012 18:17 (1 year ago) Permalink

Well, booze reigns, but...

― obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Friday, 18 May 2012 18:18 (1 year ago) Permalink

I am going to train myself to be able to sleep on demand when I can in order to non-sleep during early morning hours in another week or so. I think I currently turn into a pumpkin somewhere around 2ish?

― mh, Friday, 18 May 2012 18:23 (1 year ago) Permalink

uh not to hook up in montreal at 3am, but to be social until late hours...

― mh, Friday, 18 May 2012 18:24 (1 year ago) Permalink

bit cheesy

― pet tommy & the barkhaters (darraghmac), Friday, May 18, 2012 7:45 AM (4 hours ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

any way you slice it

― World Congress of Itch (Dr Morbius), Friday, May 18, 2012 7:48 AM (3 hours ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

That's the way you knead it.

― (Name Withheld to Avoid Hassle) (forksclovetofu)

Yada, yada, topping.

― nickn, Friday, 18 May 2012 18:48 (1 year ago) Permalink