Somebody should, or this dress & heels combo is gonna be for nothing.
― how did I get here? why am I in the whiskey aisle? this is all so (Laurel), Wednesday, 25 April 2012 16:26 (1 year ago) Permalink
i would probably also go for spur-of-the-moment beers with some cute guy i randomly met and hadn't been trying to plan something date-y withxpsomebody def should!
― obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Wednesday, 25 April 2012 16:28 (1 year ago) Permalink
now I gotta set up some more travel plans so I can have beers with Laurel sometime too
― mh, Wednesday, 25 April 2012 17:19 (1 year ago) Permalink
i think that 'hanging loose' about dates and times and schedules but esp dates when in one's thirties is not so cool - we're busy people now, with more solid identities, and, i mean, i just think sticking to a schedule (aka a promise tbh) should be a given.
agree with this. couldn't hang out w/someone last week (was a similar catch-as-can text message planning where i similarly dressed up a bit that day and it fell through!), so we decided to hang out the following week, except instead of just nailing down a day, he was like, i'll text you early next week. so then i was like whatever.
― rayuela, Wednesday, 25 April 2012 21:10 (1 year ago) Permalink
Yeah I need to know what days I can make it to my muay thai class and still get loaded with my friends in my spare time. Pony up some actual days and times, boys who want to go out with us.
― how did I get here? why am I in the whiskey aisle? this is all so (Laurel), Wednesday, 25 April 2012 21:18 (1 year ago) Permalink
I ate lunch with a friend (she's a coworker but in another building, I was originally friends with her boyfriend but I get along well with both of them) and she was saying that due to them being fairly solitary people and him having a class some nights and some other standing plans, they pretty much just do stuff thursday-sunday and spend the rest of the week doing their own thing in their own homes or with friends.
I was like.... wait, you can actually do that?!? I have been cheated
― mh, Wednesday, 25 April 2012 21:26 (1 year ago) Permalink
I keep saying it!!! Live nearby and visit often.
― how did I get here? why am I in the whiskey aisle? this is all so (Laurel), Wednesday, 25 April 2012 21:41 (1 year ago) Permalink
Thursday through Sunday is pushing it btw.
Xp to prev discussion its also presumptuous bc even though my next week is open, who is to say that it will stay that way?? Most of my friends are all busy and we all schedule things!
Also to mh what do u feel cheated by?
― rayuela, Wednesday, 25 April 2012 21:50 (1 year ago) Permalink
I don't think it's constant contact thurs - sun but you know.
Cheated by the fact that I either feel guilt I shouldn't for enjoying having a goodly amount of alone time, or cheated by ending up with people who want to BE TOGETHER ALL THE TIME
― mh, Wednesday, 25 April 2012 21:56 (1 year ago) Permalink
I'm with you mh!
Not that you should do so too, because it's part of my defeatist, negative, run-away-from-anything-difficult-by-writing-it-off-as-impossible thinking, but I take it as evidence that "I am not made for other people".
― only NWOFHM! is real (krakow), Thursday, 26 April 2012 00:32 (1 year ago) Permalink
Daet tonight.
― how did I get here? why am I in the whiskey aisle? this is all so (Laurel), Thursday, 26 April 2012 16:37 (1 year ago) Permalink
I feel like this one could at least be a bro even if other things didn't work, which is a better sign than I've had for a while. I think we know some people in common even. Otoh that kinda puts pressure on not to do or say anything I'll regret b/c I might have to be around this person again in the future.
― how did I get here? why am I in the whiskey aisle? this is all so (Laurel), Thursday, 26 April 2012 16:38 (1 year ago) Permalink
as long as it's not emotional weirdness it's ok, imo
― mh, Thursday, 26 April 2012 16:45 (1 year ago) Permalink
Oh I just meant getting drunk and over-excited and talking a lot, loudly, possibly pounding on the bar for emphasis, and/or making out in public or something equally dumb. All par for the course, sadly.
― how did I get here? why am I in the whiskey aisle? this is all so (Laurel), Thursday, 26 April 2012 16:56 (1 year ago) Permalink
This is why I don't have nice things easily embarrassed friends.
― how did I get here? why am I in the whiskey aisle? this is all so (Laurel), Thursday, 26 April 2012 16:58 (1 year ago) Permalink
once you take those things out everything left sounds a little bit dull to me tbh
― Upt0eleven, Thursday, 26 April 2012 17:00 (1 year ago) Permalink
That means you are the kind of person I could be friends with! Congratulations.
― how did I get here? why am I in the whiskey aisle? this is all so (Laurel), Thursday, 26 April 2012 17:00 (1 year ago) Permalink
a very cheerful note on which to end my day :)
have fun!
― Upt0eleven, Thursday, 26 April 2012 17:02 (1 year ago) Permalink
It went very cutely, btw. I mean who fucking knows but thumbs up for now.
― how did I get here? why am I in the whiskey aisle? this is all so (Laurel), Friday, 27 April 2012 18:37 (1 year ago) Permalink
what happened to dimples?
― two overweight dachshunds with three eyes (La Lechera), Friday, 27 April 2012 19:50 (1 year ago) Permalink
I don't think he really liked me that much? It just kind of trailed off. He was good with all the things you can check off a list: email on time, send thank-yous, offer to lift heavy things, etc, but it was kind of like he read about them in a rule-book and not because his heart was in it? Serial dater, had the moves down but I could never tell what was behind them.
― how did I get here? why am I in the whiskey aisle? this is all so (Laurel), Friday, 27 April 2012 19:55 (1 year ago) Permalink
Be a fuck-up, be a hot mess, but please be basically a warm, affectionate person that I can at least understand.
― how did I get here? why am I in the whiskey aisle? this is all so (Laurel), Friday, 27 April 2012 20:08 (1 year ago) Permalink
Actually I prefer fuck-ups and hot messes, apparently. I mean going on the evidence.
― how did I get here? why am I in the whiskey aisle? this is all so (Laurel), Friday, 27 April 2012 20:09 (1 year ago) Permalink
It's heartening to be reminded that not everyone treats dating/relationships like a g-d financial transaction. Fuck-ups and hot messes need love, too.
― Dr. Buzzard's® Original Banana Bread (Deric W. Haircare), Friday, 27 April 2012 21:13 (1 year ago) Permalink
I think I've decided I'm easy
― mh, Friday, 27 April 2012 21:21 (1 year ago) Permalink
Honey, we knew that.
― how did I get here? why am I in the whiskey aisle? this is all so (Laurel), Saturday, 28 April 2012 14:33 (1 year ago) Permalink
Uh I don't know what this is but I like it.
― how did I get here? why am I in the whiskey aisle? this is all so (Laurel), Sunday, 29 April 2012 14:29 (1 year ago) Permalink
Going on 4th day of seeing each oth btw. o_O
― how did I get here? why am I in the whiskey aisle? this is all so (Laurel), Sunday, 29 April 2012 15:08 (1 year ago) Permalink
wow! :)
― obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Sunday, 29 April 2012 16:24 (1 year ago) Permalink
Laurel!
― mh, Sunday, 29 April 2012 16:27 (1 year ago) Permalink
I know! Going back on everything I stand for.
― how did I get here? why am I in the whiskey aisle? this is all so (Laurel), Sunday, 29 April 2012 16:31 (1 year ago) Permalink
I'm not going back on it, not really! I have plans 4 out of 5 nights this week already, he just showed up on a blank weekend in my calendar so it was simple to get together. And nice. We'll see how it goes. We live near each oth so that part, at least, still holds?
― how did I get here? why am I in the whiskey aisle? this is all so (Laurel), Sunday, 29 April 2012 16:33 (1 year ago) Permalink
I was gonna say, wtf are you talking about? You wanted warmth and availability and ease, and you got it! Enjoy it ffs ;)
― two overweight dachshunds with three eyes (La Lechera), Sunday, 29 April 2012 16:41 (1 year ago) Permalink
Yesssssssss
― how did I get here? why am I in the whiskey aisle? this is all so (Laurel), Sunday, 29 April 2012 16:48 (1 year ago) Permalink
they pretty much just do stuff thursday-sunday and spend the rest of the week doing their own thing in their own homes or with friends.
I was like.... wait, you can actually do that?!?
Yep. That's pretty much my ideal too, to the point that for much of my life i gravitated towards kinda-long distance relationships to ensure it stayed that way.
― Lee626, Sunday, 29 April 2012 20:33 (1 year ago) Permalink
I think it's time for me to move any further updates to the boy trubs thread because for the duration of whatever I am off okc.
― how did I get here? why am I in the whiskey aisle? this is all so (Laurel), Monday, 30 April 2012 14:34 (1 year ago) Permalink
congrats!
― rayuela, Monday, 30 April 2012 14:39 (1 year ago) Permalink
Thanks! I guess! It doesn't feel like I've "arrived" anywhere in any way, it's just a beginning and god only knows. But it's...okay! Enthusiastically okay.
― how did I get here? why am I in the whiskey aisle? this is all so (Laurel), Monday, 30 April 2012 14:47 (1 year ago) Permalink
grudging enthusiasm
― rayuela, Monday, 30 April 2012 14:48 (1 year ago) Permalink
You know me.
― how did I get here? why am I in the whiskey aisle? this is all so (Laurel), Monday, 30 April 2012 14:51 (1 year ago) Permalink
it's the way to go!
― rayuela, Monday, 30 April 2012 14:54 (1 year ago) Permalink
POLYAMOROUS PEOPLE OF OKCUPID - LEAVE ME ALONE!
― homosexual II, Thursday, 3 May 2012 20:13 (1 year ago) Permalink
I only discovered the poly scene on okc when I listed bisexual on my profile l o l
― superpussy, Thursday, 3 May 2012 20:25 (1 year ago) Permalink
OMG
― Pita Malört (Je55e), Friday, 4 May 2012 17:39 (1 year ago) Permalink
Hey!
― Pita Malört (Je55e), Friday, 4 May 2012 17:40 (1 year ago) Permalink
I just got a message on Scruff from a super super cute guy who works at Trader Joe's. He recognized me. I've caught him looking at me every time I'm in there but I kind of thought he was straight and just being that Trader Joe's brand of preternaturally friendly!
― Pita Malört (Je55e), Friday, 4 May 2012 17:42 (1 year ago) Permalink
Ugh why do so many guys got to name themselves lame things like "artyguy" and "quirkyguy" and similar vague "I'm cool, me!" words that are really offputting? Whats in a name, etc, but blergh.
― fix it with like some music glue (Trayce), Tuesday, 8 May 2012 00:22 (1 year ago) Permalink
creativelad18563
― the aower of aussy (electricsound), Tuesday, 8 May 2012 00:26 (1 year ago) Permalink
Ha yeah exactly ;_;
― fix it with like some music glue (Trayce), Tuesday, 8 May 2012 00:27 (1 year ago) Permalink