"Can I say you're my girlfriend on Facebook?"

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"Note: If you chose to use this option to include or exclude specific people from seeing your post, then only "Custom" will show next to your post. People will not be able to see the individuals you specified."

I was told by a friend that he WAS able to see the specified friends... Is this possible? Am I doing something wrong? I really don't want people to see this. Why is facebook so difficult and frustrating?

billstevejim, Monday, 23 April 2012 03:05 (four years ago) Permalink

that would suck! but i didn't even know people could see whether it was custom or not. i'm checking right now and every "custom" i'm coming across, i can't see any specific names.

JIM THOMETHEUS (zachlyon), Monday, 23 April 2012 03:29 (four years ago) Permalink

but more importantly

JIM THOMETHEUS (zachlyon), Monday, 23 April 2012 03:30 (four years ago) Permalink

friends told me they could see who it was shared with when they clicked on the "time" it was posted ("8 minutes ago" or whatever)

billstevejim, Monday, 23 April 2012 03:34 (four years ago) Permalink

still not seeing any names

JIM THOMETHEUS (zachlyon), Monday, 23 April 2012 03:40 (four years ago) Permalink

i've noticed this happens sometimes - my guess would be that if you use a custom list, it just says custom, but if you pick actual names to show it to, it shows there names.

just1n3, Monday, 23 April 2012 03:50 (four years ago) Permalink

yeah it's a custom list with 15 people.. when my friends clicked on the time to view the individual post, one of my friends said "it looks like youre sharing it with 8 people" so some of them are visible.. someone else said it was suggesting friends based on who i shared it with. it's possible that this happens more often when a custom list includes fewer people. either way, i hate them.

billstevejim, Monday, 23 April 2012 03:58 (four years ago) Permalink

them = facebook

billstevejim, Monday, 23 April 2012 04:01 (four years ago) Permalink

sneaky fuckers facebook are.

they define "sneaky."

billstevejim, Monday, 23 April 2012 04:06 (four years ago) Permalink

My custom list is an exclude rather than include (as thats how they used to do it), "show to friends except [LIST]". Seems to work fine, no ones said they see names.

fix it with like some music glue (Trayce), Monday, 23 April 2012 04:08 (four years ago) Permalink

i see... that makes sense.. i might have to re-work how it's set up, thx

billstevejim, Monday, 23 April 2012 04:13 (four years ago) Permalink

If you can still do it that way, I dunno tbh! That was from before they intro'ed the "groups" thing,. Im not sure I can even edit my older filters anymore. Im too scared to try in case I break something (100% of my posts are filtered).

fix it with like some music glue (Trayce), Monday, 23 April 2012 05:05 (four years ago) Permalink

i just set up a new account just to try it out, and from what i can now tell, hovering over the "gear" icon is revealing every name who i'm sharing with. it does not say "custom."

billstevejim, Monday, 23 April 2012 05:38 (four years ago) Permalink

also facebook doesnt let you only "exclude" lists... if you try to do that it defaults your post to "only me" so that you are forced to choose a list.

so i set up a list that includes all of my friends, and excluded certain groups, but it made no difference.. it still lists every name in the audience.

billstevejim, Monday, 23 April 2012 05:44 (four years ago) Permalink

Hm, it did (does?) for me, but I'd have to check when I get home, I cant fart about on FB too much when at work , I'll get in trouble :(

fix it with like some music glue (Trayce), Monday, 23 April 2012 05:59 (four years ago) Permalink

Basically, Facebook, the "MySpace" for posh students only...

A Little Princess btw (s1ocki), Monday, 23 April 2012 06:00 (four years ago) Permalink

I just noticed that the hover text on 'Unfollow post' when you comment on a status update has the rather odd wording...

"You are currently receiving notifications for this item because you own it."

Is this just Facebook trying to be funny?

only NWOFHM! is real (krakow), Tuesday, 24 April 2012 09:31 (four years ago) Permalink

Speaking up about/"correcting" the taste of people who consistently post bad music: bad idea?

EDB, Saturday, 28 April 2012 12:01 (four years ago) Permalink


liberté, égalité, beyoncé (lex pretend), Saturday, 28 April 2012 12:16 (four years ago) Permalink


J0rdan, Diddy (tpp), Saturday, 28 April 2012 12:18 (four years ago) Permalink

R. Crumb predicts Facebook by 20 years

Michael B Higgins (Michael B), Wednesday, 2 May 2012 16:49 (four years ago) Permalink

A weekend ago there was some big festival down the street at the park and on the walk over there were little kids selling lemonade, saying it was to stop Kony. My friend said "Yeah, I'm only going to buy your lemonade if you get to keep the money, not some internet jerk."

Emperor Cos Dashit (Adam Bruneau), Wednesday, 2 May 2012 16:51 (four years ago) Permalink

pplains, Wednesday, 2 May 2012 16:55 (four years ago) Permalink

two weeks pass...

More than a third of divorce filings last year contained the word Facebook, according to a survey by Divorce Online, a UK-based legal services firm.


♆ (gr8080), Monday, 21 May 2012 18:51 (four years ago) Permalink

"I has a facebook share!"

"O No they has taken my facebook share value downwards"

Mark G, Thursday, 24 May 2012 11:54 (four years ago) Permalink

(I didn't actually buy one, c'mon dude what did I say last week? yeah, exactly)

Mark G, Thursday, 24 May 2012 11:55 (four years ago) Permalink

ma ck ro ma ck ro (mackro mackro), Thursday, 31 May 2012 17:58 (four years ago) Permalink


BIG HOOS aka the steendriver, Friday, 1 June 2012 02:37 (four years ago) Permalink

it's good that 300,000 people like guns but not shooting them

a permanent embarrassment and an occasional disgrace (onimo), Friday, 1 June 2012 08:55 (four years ago) Permalink

has facebook changed its font or something? every time i'm looking at my feed right now it looks slightly different and i can't really pinpoint why. also most of my friends see absolutely no difference so it might just be me needing to get an eye check

Jibe, Tuesday, 12 June 2012 08:26 (four years ago) Permalink

yeah, font is bouncing about all over the place. suspect a/b testing going on or something.

stet, Tuesday, 12 June 2012 08:38 (four years ago) Permalink

thx for confirming that

Jibe, Tuesday, 12 June 2012 08:47 (four years ago) Permalink

there is a weird bug where if you use a profile pic that you uploaded in the pre-timeline-era as your default, it uses the 50p x 50p thumbnail and stretches it out and looks all shitty in the bigger thumbnail at the top of your page

♆ (gr8080), Tuesday, 12 June 2012 18:46 (four years ago) Permalink

this girl only has 21 friends, and we have zero mutual friends, but facebook has been suggesting i friend her for months:


♆ (gr8080), Monday, 25 June 2012 18:24 (four years ago) Permalink

Is she chewing on a pot leaf?

Electro-Shock Rory (C. Grisso/McCain), Monday, 25 June 2012 19:17 (four years ago) Permalink

ilxors on fb should be forced to put their ilx dn in their fb name so that i know who they are when i accept their friend requests

Mordy, Tuesday, 26 June 2012 02:13 (four years ago) Permalink

I try to remembember to send a message after I request friendship saying 'hi it's VegemiteGrrl' etc

Peppermint Patty Hearst (VegemiteGrrl), Tuesday, 26 June 2012 02:16 (four years ago) Permalink

I'm "Jeff" on facebook.

Jeff, Tuesday, 26 June 2012 11:24 (four years ago) Permalink

well that's just confusing

Peppermint Patty Hearst (VegemiteGrrl), Tuesday, 26 June 2012 15:23 (four years ago) Permalink

Just search for Jeff. I'm the first and best result.

I'm a clip show.

Jeff, Tuesday, 26 June 2012 15:30 (four years ago) Permalink

m1ke h4rper is mh, iirc

mh, Tuesday, 26 June 2012 15:42 (four years ago) Permalink

So I mute Facebook friends who post overtly racist and homophobic stuff. This includes most, but by no means all, of the really noisy Republican crowd -- Facebook seems to have decided that I just don't want to hear any right wing US politics at all. All sorts of friends ranted about the health care decision as the end of liberty, and none of it showed up unless I went to the profiles. I don't like this, and wonder if Tea Party types are similarly being put by Facebook into endless feedback loops.

Three Word Username, Friday, 29 June 2012 06:53 (four years ago) Permalink

i rtecently went on vaca with someone, they took some pics including some of me which they tagged

none of this shows up in my feed, i have to go to their profile to see it

coal, Friday, 29 June 2012 06:59 (four years ago) Permalink

Just got the aborted fetus chain pic in ye olde newsfeed.

Electro-Shock Rory (C. Grisso/McCain), Tuesday, 3 July 2012 22:22 (four years ago) Permalink


of family bonds and individual triumph. Narrated by Tim Allen, (zachlyon), Wednesday, 4 July 2012 03:06 (four years ago) Permalink

one month passes...

Getting mighty fed up with friends & even worse friends of friends tagging themselves and all their friends in pictures of their kids, that don't even have these people in the picture. My news feed is full of pictures of random children of people I don't even know. People are going to get suspicious about me.

Colonel Poo, Friday, 17 August 2012 08:06 (four years ago) Permalink

lol mid 30s I guess

Colonel Poo, Friday, 17 August 2012 08:08 (four years ago) Permalink

Ive never understood why people do that. They can see your feed! They will see the photo anyway!

Pureed Moods (Trayce), Friday, 17 August 2012 08:39 (four years ago) Permalink

I don't get that either. I guess people and relatives get tagged in those baby pictures so that they're alerted to see it? It's still annoying.

I also really don't get people who have nothing but pictures of their children in their profile and none of themselves. Seems a bit

to me.

pplains, Friday, 17 August 2012 15:11 (four years ago) Permalink

Sometimes I tag my Grandma and Aunt in pictures of my dog, but that's because they're not on FB daily/not great with computers. Grandma pretty much only comments on dog photos, she loves that guy.

she started dancing to that (Finefinemusic), Friday, 17 August 2012 15:12 (four years ago) Permalink

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