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Hurting, if you felt that strongly at 12 that you didn't want to turn into a man and I were your father, my sympathy would be entirely with you. I agree that 11/12 isn't adult nor think it should be but, man, if you fuck this up as a dad, your whole relationship is probably screwed.

le ralliement du doute et de l'erreur (Michael White), Wednesday, 15 February 2012 22:51 (twelve years ago) link

Well, Shakey, hopefully your 12 year old will never be in this particular very difficult position and you can continue to be reductive about gender on the internet.

one little aioli (Laurel), Wednesday, 15 February 2012 22:52 (twelve years ago) link

Why do you even think this would come up in any way? It feels like you're conflating gender and sex?

― one little aioli (Laurel), Wednesday, February 15, 2012 2:48 PM (9 seconds ago) Bookmark

lol nonononononono. with that regrettable "girls gone wild joke", i was trying to point out that if we grant what we now consider "kids" more agency over their lives, then there will be scumbags out there willing to exploit it

Little GTFO (contenderizer), Wednesday, 15 February 2012 22:52 (twelve years ago) link

My trans friend knew she was meant to be a woman when she was quite young.

le ralliement du doute et de l'erreur (Michael White), Wednesday, 15 February 2012 22:52 (twelve years ago) link

wait how am I being reductive

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max buzzword (Shakey Mo Collier), Wednesday, 15 February 2012 22:52 (twelve years ago) link

if it turns out she wants to be trans she can wait to make that decision imho. average 12yo is not a very rational actor.

max buzzword (Shakey Mo Collier), Wednesday, 15 February 2012 22:53 (twelve years ago) link

I think the question of whether the average 11/12 year-old should be given the right and power to delay his/her own puberty is at least worthy of a debate and not dismissive comments as though it were illiberal to raise an eyebrow.

― happiness is the new productivity (Hurting 2), Wednesday, February 15, 2012 2:48 PM (4 minutes ago) Bookmark

^ see, i agree with this, too. shit is complicated, really complicated.

Little GTFO (contenderizer), Wednesday, 15 February 2012 22:54 (twelve years ago) link

And I'm saying that you're making a big leap that positions gender and sexual er maturity/readiness/something close to each other as related things, but they're not, so this should not even be a component.

one little aioli (Laurel), Wednesday, 15 February 2012 22:54 (twelve years ago) link

if it turns out she wants to be trans

max, Wednesday, 15 February 2012 22:54 (twelve years ago) link

to be clear my objection is not to kids figuring out their gender identity, it's to their confusion being exploited and catered to by total evil companies who do not have their health or best interest in mind.

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max buzzword (Shakey Mo Collier), Wednesday, 15 February 2012 22:55 (twelve years ago) link

if it turns out she wants to be trans

I have a daughter...? I don't get what you're getting at.

max buzzword (Shakey Mo Collier), Wednesday, 15 February 2012 22:55 (twelve years ago) link

I mean I wouldn't let a 12yo get a boob job either, you know?

max buzzword (Shakey Mo Collier), Wednesday, 15 February 2012 22:56 (twelve years ago) link

to be clear my objection is not to kids figuring out their gender identity, it's to their confusion being exploited and catered to by total evil companies who do not have their health or best interest in mind.

shakey dont you see that this happens already regardless? its just that instead of the pharma industry its the entertainment/fashion/education/church/friends/life industry

max, Wednesday, 15 February 2012 22:58 (twelve years ago) link

lol this thread

puff puff post (uh oh I'm having a fantasy), Wednesday, 15 February 2012 22:59 (twelve years ago) link

well duh. it's my job as a parent to help her navigate that stuff.

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max buzzword (Shakey Mo Collier), Wednesday, 15 February 2012 22:59 (twelve years ago) link

these were on the table next to my laptop

http://i386.photobucket.com/albums/oo305/lejospopo/photo-2.jpg

judith, Wednesday, 15 February 2012 22:59 (twelve years ago) link

shakey dont you see that this happens already regardless? its just that instead of the pharma industry its the entertainment/fashion/education/church/friends/life industry

Sure, but Big Pharm can cause chemical imbalances that make dealing with education/church/friends/life worse.

Exile in lolville (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Wednesday, 15 February 2012 23:00 (twelve years ago) link

man, this thread

plee help i am lookin for (crüt), Wednesday, 15 February 2012 23:01 (twelve years ago) link

And I'm saying that you're making a big leap that positions gender and sexual er maturity/readiness/something close to each other as related things, but they're not, so this should not even be a component.

oh, i see where yr coming from now. legally, like i said before, this case hinges on the sorts of decisions that children are legally permitted to take ultimate responsibility for and authority over. at present, in most western societies, this = "none". age-designated "children" are not legally responsible for themselves or their decisions. they have no authority to enforce their own will. this principle is what allows parents and the state to make decisions for and to "protect" children. it is what allows us to forbid sexual relations between children and adults.

sure, we could undo the special legal status of children if we want, either in this one particular case or in a more general sense. it's an interesting suggestion, but i do think there are risks involved and that they aren't trivial.

Little GTFO (contenderizer), Wednesday, 15 February 2012 23:01 (twelve years ago) link

lol judith

Little GTFO (contenderizer), Wednesday, 15 February 2012 23:01 (twelve years ago) link

lol this thread

― puff puff post (uh oh I'm having a fantasy), Wednesday, February 15, 2012 2:59 PM (2 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

man, this thread

― plee help i am lookin for (crüt), Wednesday, February 15, 2012 3:01 PM (31 seconds ago) Bookmark

yeah, who knew?

Little GTFO (contenderizer), Wednesday, 15 February 2012 23:02 (twelve years ago) link

more like woman, this thread

puff puff post (uh oh I'm having a fantasy), Wednesday, 15 February 2012 23:04 (twelve years ago) link

also yeah, i've been reading a lot of deleuze lately and i think that way of thinking is pretty crucial for me at this point. i think "gender is a social construct" has been drained of a lot of its productivity. reading gender trouble was p crucial for me too but judith butler has herself gone beyond this way of thinking. her recent writing about tahrir square about spaces of appearance, the requirements of bodies. i think its important to understand that the social writing of bodies rewrites bodies themselves. a more radical reading of "one is not born a woman."

judith, Wednesday, 15 February 2012 23:11 (twelve years ago) link

gender and sexuality need to be destroyed.

asexuality is the future.

Banaka™ (banaka), Wednesday, 15 February 2012 23:16 (twelve years ago) link

feel compelled to post itt but I'm not sure I can be more explicit than I was before tbh

that said: "there's a clear, scientifically established connection between testosterone and competitive behavior in males" demands citation

i love pinfold cricket (gbx), Wednesday, 15 February 2012 23:17 (twelve years ago) link

this case hinges on the sorts of decisions that children are legally permitted to take ultimate responsibility for and authority over. at present, in most western societies, this = "none"

this hasn't been true for the last 10 to 20 years btw, US and UK laws to my knowledge have enshrined certain rights for children in relation to for example family law

dayove cool (Noodle Vague), Wednesday, 15 February 2012 23:22 (twelve years ago) link

how come nobody ever asks, is it deterwomened? think about it

― still driving steen, banning deez, gettin my dick xhuxked (Curt1s Stephens), Sunday, April 4, 2010 4:39 PM (1 year ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

puff puff post (uh oh I'm having a fantasy), Wednesday, 15 February 2012 23:23 (twelve years ago) link

I LOVE GENITAL GINGERBREADS

Also unknown as Zora (Surfing At Work), Wednesday, 15 February 2012 23:25 (twelve years ago) link

well, here's a general overview type thing that touches on the subject in a number of ways: http://www.shoreline.edu/psparks/researchnotes/articles/testosteroneaggression.pdf

also, for the sake of o_O the study of a very dubious study as coughed up by the internet: http://www.news-medical.net/news/20110311/Testosterone-associated-with-dominant-behavior-and-competitive-success-in-attracting-women.aspx

Findings from a recent study at Wayne State University give a clearer understanding of the links between testosterone and human mating behavior, and how testosterone is associated with dominance and competitive success when men battle for the attention of an attractive woman.

The study engaged pairs of men in a seven-minute videotaped competition for the attention of an attractive female undergraduate. Pre-competition testosterone levels were positively associated with men's dominance behaviors in the mate competition-including how assertive they were and how much they "took control" of the conversation-and with how much the woman indicated that she "clicked" with each of the men.

all apologies for the way that study was set up and described ("an attractive woman" ffs), but the observations and conclusions seem potentially valid nonetheless.

Little GTFO (contenderizer), Wednesday, 15 February 2012 23:30 (twelve years ago) link

the social writing of bodies rewrites bodies themselves.

i think this is an important idea to take into consideration w/r/t the genetic basis of gender(or even any social thing). inasmuch as our bodies are sensory processing machines with real physical networks in our brain that govern how we 'think', genetics certainly had a role in the initial wiring of these structures. but then stuff like neuroplasticity goes and shows us that we can actually change the way we think; blurring the lines between nature and nurture even further

radiant silverfish (diamonddave85), Wednesday, 15 February 2012 23:31 (twelve years ago) link

that xpost was for gbx

Little GTFO (contenderizer), Wednesday, 15 February 2012 23:31 (twelve years ago) link

Do all transgendered people "know" from an early age though? I mean there have been a lot of challenges to that narrative as it pertains to homosexuality ("I always knew"). My mother has a friend who became a woman in his 40s after having a family -- I have no idea whether she always "knew." I worked with her one summer while she still held herself out as a man and there was nothing that would have clued me in. I'm sure she experienced at very least confusion but I wonder if she would have been confident enough at 11 -- in a more accepting society -- to make life-altering choices, even ones that just delay the decision.

happiness is the new productivity (Hurting 2), Wednesday, 15 February 2012 23:33 (twelve years ago) link

this hasn't been true for the last 10 to 20 years btw, US and UK laws to my knowledge have enshrined certain rights for children in relation to for example family law

― dayove cool (Noodle Vague), Wednesday, February 15, 2012 3:22 PM (9 minutes ago) Bookmark

okay, good point. i knew i was kind of overstating things there. but "rights" for children does not necessarily = legal responsibility for self and/or authority over one's life, right? can i ask what kind of rights you mean and how they apply here? assume you're not talking about emancipated minors and so forth.

Little GTFO (contenderizer), Wednesday, 15 February 2012 23:34 (twelve years ago) link

BTW in re testosterone studies, just googling around a little I notice that even the way "aggression" gets defined is problematic. E.g. one of the "refuting" studies defined it as "risky and egocentric behavior" and what "disproved" the link was that testosterone seemed to lead to more "fair" negotiations. So everything is already colored by this idea that "male aggression" and "competition" is synonymous with acting like Michael Douglas in Wall Street.

http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2009/12/091208132241.htm

happiness is the new productivity (Hurting 2), Wednesday, 15 February 2012 23:38 (twelve years ago) link

So everything is already colored by this idea that "male aggression" and "competition" is synonymous with acting like Michael Douglas in Wall Street.

well, or that one study, anyway. we do have to define these things somehow...

Little GTFO (contenderizer), Wednesday, 15 February 2012 23:43 (twelve years ago) link

thx con I'll take a look at those

i love pinfold cricket (gbx), Wednesday, 15 February 2012 23:45 (twelve years ago) link

What we need is testimony from a female to male trans person who's taken or is taking supplemental testosterone therapy.

le ralliement du doute et de l'erreur (Michael White), Wednesday, 15 February 2012 23:46 (twelve years ago) link

Obv, we all have tesosterone and estrogens but it was my understanding that young men have the highest concentrations of testosterone, on average, of any population.

le ralliement du doute et de l'erreur (Michael White), Wednesday, 15 February 2012 23:47 (twelve years ago) link

Also I mean there's the questionable probativeness of a study of males that were injected a single time with testosterone right before they did something. Hormones are complex things that interact with our physiology in complex ways.

happiness is the new productivity (Hurting 2), Wednesday, 15 February 2012 23:49 (twelve years ago) link

(xposts) I found a lot of stuff like this in that paper you linked to:

This study indicates that young men who are from a culture where honor is important do respond to an insult—a challenge to honor—with an increase in testosterone levels, and also with more aggressive, domineering, behavior. Whether the testosterone surge plays any causal role cannot be inferred from the study.

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The other side to the challenge hypothesis—and indeed its whole point in adaptive terms—is that the testosterone surge should increase aggressiveness in competitive situations. The evidence for this is hard to find in studies of humans, which have tended to examine the association between levels of testosterone and aggressiveness among samples of adults (see Section 9), or have involved the impact of competition on testosterone levels.

This seems to be in line with other studies I perused which suggest that there is little evidence that testosterone generates aggressive behavior or that there is any proof that differences in testosterone levels between genders has anything to do with differences in aggression.

Unleash the Chang (he did what!) (Austerity Ponies), Wednesday, 15 February 2012 23:49 (twelve years ago) link

fwiw, i'm not trying prove that i'm right. i think laurel was absolutely right that an endless, research-driven back-and-forth about the "correct" interpretation of the available science would accomplish nothing. afaict, there's a LOT of research out there, more than enough to provide adequate support for any position one might choose to take. rather than get hung up on it, i'd rather agree that it's okay have diverging opinions and more forward.

Little GTFO (contenderizer), Wednesday, 15 February 2012 23:51 (twelve years ago) link

afaict, there's a LOT of research out there, more than enough to provide adequate support for any position one might choose to take. rather than get hung up on it, i'd rather agree that it's okay have diverging opinions and more forward.

― Little GTFO (contenderizer), Wednesday, February 15, 2012 5:51 PM (34 seconds ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

not to snipe but dogg this attitude is why we can't have nice things. or say confront global warming or w/e

i love pinfold cricket (gbx), Wednesday, 15 February 2012 23:54 (twelve years ago) link

yeah, i'm pretty over "can't we all just be friends??/agree to disagree??" when it comes to certain issues

obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Wednesday, 15 February 2012 23:59 (twelve years ago) link

oh maybe that should go on 'things you're fascist about' thread...

obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Thursday, 16 February 2012 00:00 (twelve years ago) link

okay, point taken. but there are also these sorts of things in that study:

Testosterone levels showed a low but positive correlation
with measures of aggression and higher correlations with
dominance, variously measured by leadership, toughness,
personal power, and aggressive dominance. A study of 13-
year-old boys found the highest associations with testosterone
for being a tough leader, and little sign of an association
with measures of fighting. There was also evidence that men
with higher testosterone levels were more prone to react in
situations that were perceived as challenges, such as an
angry face or a more psychologically-induced challenge to
their self worth. These studies broadly support the
prediction that there would be an association between
aggression-based dominance and testosterone levels. They
also go beyond this, in indicating that challenges and status
matters more to high testosterone people, and influences
their behavior.

and this:

High testosterone men tend to be stable
extraverts, and to show a range of characteristics
indicating that they tend to prioritize shorter-term goals.
For example, high testosterone men show more antisocial
behavior, take more risks, and have less stable sexual
relationships. There was evidence that high and low
testosterone males tend to set out on different life courses
from a relatively early age, although it is clear that any
initial dispositions interacts with social circumstances.

i mean, there seems to be little doubt that testosterone affects human behavior in all sorts of ways, many of them measurable on a statistical/demographic scale.

Little GTFO (contenderizer), Thursday, 16 February 2012 00:01 (twelve years ago) link

yeah, i'm pretty over "can't we all just be friends??/agree to disagree??" when it comes to certain issues

― obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Wednesday, February 15, 2012 3:59 PM (1 minute ago) Bookmark

oh, i know. was hoping this wasn't one of them. and i sort of wish people on ILX were more inclined to accept certain kinds of dissent, but i suppose that if they were, it wouldn't be such a brilliant and hospitable place...

Little GTFO (contenderizer), Thursday, 16 February 2012 00:02 (twelve years ago) link

Wait, so high-testosterone males are stable extraverts who engage in antisocial and risk-taking behavior?

happiness is the new productivity (Hurting 2), Thursday, 16 February 2012 00:04 (twelve years ago) link

but seriously, oh what a world it would be if we could all voice our opinions and then use rigorous scientific method-like analysis to call bullshit on the ones that don't serve the whole
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hm

obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Thursday, 16 February 2012 00:05 (twelve years ago) link

obv i'm not talking about quantitative science itself there BUT choosing to fund certain projects could be determined in such a way. i'm being a socialist now tho with this line.

obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Thursday, 16 February 2012 00:09 (twelve years ago) link

Science is the only known corrective for the limits of human cognition. No matter how discomforting the truth of what it reveals, we must abide by its findings until better findings come along.

Banaka™ (banaka), Thursday, 16 February 2012 00:10 (twelve years ago) link


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