"Can I say you're my girlfriend on Facebook?"

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surely it stops people who aren't at uni going on it? what happens when you graduate?

dog latin (dog latin), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:11 (7 years ago) Permalink

xpost, sorry.

dog latin (dog latin), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:11 (7 years ago) Permalink

Over here, perhaps a few months

Says you. I've had mine for nearly 10 years after graduation by now.

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:12 (7 years ago) Permalink

Aww yeah - I just signed up as an alumni! It makes me feels old and lecherous though. Like going to a student party would, I guess.

Baaderonixx immer wieder (baaderonixx), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:13 (7 years ago) Permalink

But Alumni can only perv on other Alumni? I might be wrong.

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:15 (7 years ago) Permalink

Clearly I am, if I'm capitalising alumni.

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:15 (7 years ago) Permalink

Haha, I started doing some work and clicked away from the register window, I guess I am not that bothered after all!

The sad truth is that I think it would make me feel lonely, and out of it! And I have a perfectly good LIVEJOURNAL for that arf arf ARF.

Bhumibol Adulyadej (Lucretia My Reflection), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:15 (7 years ago) Permalink

I'm in the UK, so no idea about the US. I signed up with my uni email account a couple of years ago, and then just switched the profile over to my alumni email account when I graduated.

xpost

jng (jng), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:17 (7 years ago) Permalink

maybe we could have an ILX SOCIAL GROUP????

Baaderonixx immer wieder (baaderonixx), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:19 (7 years ago) Permalink

Its a really good way to stay in touch w people after you graduate.

deej.. (deej..), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:23 (7 years ago) Permalink

Big Man On Campus! (I hope)

Yes. He seemed to know everyone and was walking around making sure people were having a good time.

I never signed up for an alumni e-mail account, and now I'm unsure of how to do so, but the only people I'd know on Facebook are young punks like deej, anyway.

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:30 (7 years ago) Permalink

Its a really good way to stay in touch w people after you graduate.
-- deej.. (clublonel...), June 27th, 2006.

a bit like MEETING THEM, HOLDING CONVERSATIONS, THAT KIND OF SHIT.

Roughage Crew (Enrique), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:31 (7 years ago) Permalink

As a current college student, I can vouch for how omnipresent it is. In the official UC Berkeley student questionnaire (rate the counselors from 1-10 etc.) the university had an entire section in the survey asking students about facebook. I can think of two people I know who *aren't* on it.

It's far classier than myspace because you can't change your page much. No background music. No videos. This is good.

Very recently though, there has been a very noticeable trend (in Berkeley at least...can't speak for the nation) to make your profile super-private and only visable to friends. People are either getting wary, or snobby, I'm not sure which.

starke (starke), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:33 (7 years ago) Permalink

Yeah its real easy to do that with my friends in San Francisco xp

deej.. (deej..), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:35 (7 years ago) Permalink

A few more things:

1. My brother is a grad student and when he TAs a class, he always checks out his students' Facebook profiles and is sometimes surprised at what they're willing to divulge. (Then he stores this information in an Excel spreadsheet ... oh wait.)

2. I have a cousin who just finished his freshman year at Northern Illinois University. He tells me that as soon as he received his school e-mail address last summer, he immediately signed up on Facebook and found that dozens of other incoming students had done so as well. In fact, the ability to notate your dorm and room number within your profile meant that he knew nearly everyone in his hall before they ever actually met face to face.

3. Haha, my dad moderated a panel about Facebook last month.

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:41 (7 years ago) Permalink

High school students can join it now too. Which is weird.

deej.. (deej..), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:44 (7 years ago) Permalink

See, that's not weird to me because as far as I'm concerned, EVERYONE under 25 is on it.

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:57 (7 years ago) Permalink

Yeah, trading facebooks was the first thing the staff did when we got to camp. I think the basic reason it's so much more universal than eg friendster is the total lack of crepey hookup connotations?

Gravel Puzzleworth (Gregory Henry), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:59 (7 years ago) Permalink

he always checks out his students' Facebook profiles
Not always, just for the cute ones ;)

robots in love (robotsinlove), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:06 (7 years ago) Permalink

facebook is even creepier than myspace/friendster cuz then you can anonymously crepe on cute girls in your classes.

the eunuchs, Cassim and Mustafa, who guarded Abdur Ali's harem (orion), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:09 (7 years ago) Permalink

It's strange--I do feel like there is a generational divide with facebook. I joined just this year, as a 24 year old grad student. But, the first year grad students, who are right out of college, already had facebook accounts from undergrad days. they just had to switch over the designation to their new university affiliation. But the point is they already had them and were totally accustomed to using them, whereas they had convinced me to join, and then were disappointed when facebook did not function the same way they were used to (nobody checked it frequently enough, thereby making announcing parties useless).

robots in love (robotsinlove), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:09 (7 years ago) Permalink

Did you read the Lewis Flyer article yet, M.?

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:12 (7 years ago) Permalink

Regarding the quote in topic, yeah, the relationship status on Facebook does lead to a lot of awkward situations. A friend of mine had that she was married to her boyfriend on Facebook. After they broke up for a while, he eventually changed the setting to say single which automatically did it for her profile too. It was like a whole 'nother stage of breaking up.

There's an annoying girl at my job who has some serious growing up to do. One of her many horrifying common behaviors is playing "house" at the job and designating different coworkers as different members of her family. For a while she had a huge crush on me, and thus I became the husband. Whenever new people were hired, she'd excitedly hug me and exclaim in her nasal voice, "This is Derek, he's my husband! He's the best husband in the world!" Then she'd switch to a more serious tone to warn the girls that they'd better not flirt with me. Terrifying. Of course, she wanted to marry me on Facebook. After weeks of continually reminding me that I have yet to click "yes" that we are indeed married, I finally gave in and did it. After a while, trying to finally give her the message that I'm not interested, I switched to being married with another one of our coworkers, a girl I'm good friends with but my "wife" hated. When she saw that I'd switched the status, she had a real break down. Female co-workers told me about her heart break over the incident.

In conclusion, jesus christ, be glad you're not on Facebook.

like murderinging (modestmickey), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:42 (7 years ago) Permalink

why is this any better than myspace? i don't get it.
-- dog latin (doglati...) (webmail), June 27th, 2006. (dog latin)

Certain features that make it really useful for college students. You can list your classes in your profile and the page can create a list for you of people in your classes. You can easily find people in your class to ask them questions about upcoming tests, what the homework was, etc. Also, unlike MySpace, there's more local community centered stuff since the only people on Facebook I interact with are fellow UNCC students and I don't see anyone from Harvard. For example there's groups with local interest like "I LOVE " rather than just "I LOVE LIMP BIZKIT." Like other people mentioned, there's the announcing/organizing events too.

like murderinging (modestmickey), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:49 (7 years ago) Permalink

But what is this thing that US students say is now more important than sex and texting?

MORE IMPORTANT THAN TEXTING?!?!?!?!??!

matlewis (matlewis), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:54 (7 years ago) Permalink

he eventually changed the setting to say single which automatically did it for her profile too. It was like a whole 'nother stage of breaking up.

That is pretty harsh.

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:54 (7 years ago) Permalink

I think the basic reason it's so much more universal than eg friendster is the total lack of crepey hookup connotations?

Au contraire. I think a lot of people use it for exactly that reason. That's the impression I've gotten, anyway.

Deric W. Haircare (Deric W. Haircare), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 16:36 (7 years ago) Permalink

Facebook is fucking annoying. I'm an elderly undergrad, surrounded by people who use it as a substitute for actual communication. So I decided to get kicked off of Facebook but it's not working yet--I've replaced my entire profile with excerpts from Pilgrim's Progress and some Duran Duran slash fiction, I've started reporting every person whose profile says "Libertarian," etc. No luck.

adam (adam), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 16:41 (7 years ago) Permalink

surrounded by people who use it as a substitute for actual communication.

hi, do you know the internet?

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 16:51 (7 years ago) Permalink

hah yeah wtf how is it different than anything else on the internet?

deej.. (deej..), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 16:56 (7 years ago) Permalink

that facebook thing would have been so useful for my social life in '96. and myspace too. and p2p files exchange softwares (I was so informationally poor). also, ah, if only I had pentium3 +highspeed+100gig storage+ free video editing software back then, when
i was more interested in cinema , because most of the canonic cinematographic trips were new to me etc good grief I should have been born in '81

S. (Sébastien Chikara), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 17:03 (7 years ago) Permalink

S. (Sébastien Chikara), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 17:12 (7 years ago) Permalink

believe it or not, there are things better for your social life than exponentially raising the amount of time you spend sitting in front of a computer.

like murderinging (modestmickey), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 17:28 (7 years ago) Permalink

i don't.

jeffrey (johnson), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 17:30 (7 years ago) Permalink

Hating facebook doesn't make much more sense than hating cellphones, the yellow pages, AIM and email. It's a social lubricant. If people were really replacing their social lives with it, facebook wouldn't be filled with ten trillion pictures of people getting drunk at parties.

starke (starke), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 17:42 (7 years ago) Permalink

(which would be a better thing to complain about)

starke (starke), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 17:43 (7 years ago) Permalink

mickey, the way I see it it's all about saving time rather than wasting it,of course; it would have been useful in my early 20's to help me find out fun places to go out , with with people I have affinities with, rather than rely mostly on luck. anyhoo, now these apps are less "urgent" to me at this time in my life.

S. (Sébastien Chikara), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 17:46 (7 years ago) Permalink

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S. (Sébastien Chikara), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 17:47 (7 years ago) Permalink

If people were really replacing their social lives with it, facebook wouldn't be filled with ten trillion pictures of people getting drunk at parties.

It's not that social networking replaces your social life, it just... mediates it. Instead of personally inviting people to parties via word of mouth/telephone/email or just throwing it up on a flyer, you're sending it to a reasonably targeted, much larger group than you'd be comfortable calling. The downside is that pretty soon you're doing the majority of communication through there, any "event" that can vary from a party or concert to two people sitting around drunk turns into some "scandalous" photo diary, and there's the online backchannel that sucks everyone in.

I've been around people where there's this obnoxious feedback loop where they're pretty much trying to come up with new people to befriend and more pictures/content to put up on things like myspace, and half of what they talk about is myspace. Urgh.

business up front, party entrance at side door (mike h.), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 18:20 (7 years ago) Permalink

That's an interesting way of putting it.

Still, why is word of mouth/telephone/email an inherently better form of communication? I agree that it's a "larger group than you'd be comfortable calling" but I think that's very likely a good thing. For example, tonight I'm going to play soccer with a casual friend from a class. He invited me and the rest of the group with a facebook message. It would have been awkward for an acquaintance to call/email, and probably would have never happened.

starke (starke), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 18:49 (7 years ago) Permalink

man, facebook was so much better back when there were only like 8 schools on it

lemin (lemin), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 19:21 (7 years ago) Permalink

snob

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 19:30 (7 years ago) Permalink

Facebook's early history is pretty snobby and reflects the fact that it was started by a Harvard kid. The schools were added pretty much in order of prestige. No doubt the public school kids just weren't mature enough to deal with such technology until much later.

starke (starke), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 19:45 (7 years ago) Permalink

Now they even have community colleges, though. Anyone who takes an adult continuing education course could get on there! It'd be amazing if people in cooking and wine tasting classes started using facebook to set up events and communicate outside of class.

business up front, party entrance at side door (mike h.), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 20:04 (7 years ago) Permalink

The influx of philistines brought Facebook down to Myspace levels of social networking websites, ones it could never recover from! Oh, how I long for the days of only having to add friends from ivy league schools.

lemin (lemin), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 20:05 (7 years ago) Permalink

he eventually changed the setting to say single which automatically did it for her profile too. It was like a whole 'nother stage of breaking up.

I had a friend whose girlfriend changed her facebook relationship status to "single" in order to make him jealous, or something.

31g (31g), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 20:10 (7 years ago) Permalink

oh c'mon, thinking the relationship status setting on your facebook profile matters to you or anyone else is pretty ridiculous, right? also, there's an "it's complicated" setting

lemin (lemin), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 20:22 (7 years ago) Permalink

if someone changes their relationship status on their facebook profile it tends to cause gossip round our way, so it's not as ridiculous as all that to worry about it. Also people use facebook for looking up friends' new beaux etc. I keep forgetting I have a facebook account, every so often I log in cos someone's 'written on my wall' or put up an embarassing photo and discover month-old messages from people who clearly know my email address, but for some reason seem to believe that everyone checks facebook more often than webmail.

putting yr actual girlfriend/boyfriend as 'wife' or 'husband' on facebook is kind of crepey though, surely it should refer only to actual married spouses or to best friends.

permanent revolution (cis), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 21:18 (7 years ago) Permalink

a bit like MEETING THEM, HOLDING CONVERSATIONS, THAT KIND OF SHIT

which reminds me ... enrique, are you still gonna be in glasgow this weekend?

grimly fiendish (grimlord), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 21:31 (7 years ago) Permalink

Well when I'm all "let's go to the bar and watch the game" and my girlfriend makes it some huge elaborate Facebook event, it's irritating. Also, I liked most of my friends better before I knew what their favorite books are.

adam (adam), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 21:33 (7 years ago) Permalink

*prepares the annoyingly chirpy-voiced study announcement*

ljubljana, Friday, 29 November 2013 03:39 (4 months ago) Permalink

1 month passes...

I've always had a policy of not adding colleagues on FB. Can you still add people on a 'limited profile' or similar now? Settings have changed 89089 times since I last thought about it. I guess you have to just specify for everything you post if you want it viewable by all friends or specific groups? (Don't care much about existing stuff, just don't want to have to second-guess anything I post or comments from friends etc)

kinder, Wednesday, 8 January 2014 18:54 (3 months ago) Permalink

you can do all sorts of grouping iirc but since facebook is just gonna change it a million times its best imo to assume that everyone will see everything

lag∞n, Wednesday, 8 January 2014 18:55 (3 months ago) Permalink

yeah that's kind of my thinking

kinder, Wednesday, 8 January 2014 18:57 (3 months ago) Permalink

When I add someone I don't know so well, I stick them straight into "Acquaintances". This means they don't see any of the more personal posts, that are published to "Friends except acquaintances."

mike t-diva, Wednesday, 8 January 2014 19:57 (3 months ago) Permalink

i just let everyone see my incredible posts

lag∞n, Wednesday, 8 January 2014 20:01 (3 months ago) Permalink

even friends of friends

lag∞n, Wednesday, 8 January 2014 20:01 (3 months ago) Permalink

I just stopped posting to Facebook because I don't know who I'm talking to any more.

cristalnacht (lukas), Wednesday, 8 January 2014 20:13 (3 months ago) Permalink

I post my dumb babble and assume that whoever sees it and is tired of me will just block/unfriend me so w/e

set the controls for the heart of the sun (VegemiteGrrl), Wednesday, 8 January 2014 21:03 (3 months ago) Permalink

thanks mike, that's an option
my reasoning for no colleages: most ppl don't have the same sense of humour as me and I never want to have to work out whether any work-related stuff could be down to something I've said on FB. Plus my mates can be obscene on my posts.
TBH the main reason is once you add one colleague they all pile on and I don't like having ppl I don't really like on FB. So far everyone who's actually requested is a good work friend anyway.

kinder, Wednesday, 8 January 2014 21:28 (3 months ago) Permalink

thread cd do with more Kristie tbh

UK Cop Humour (Bananaman Begins), Thursday, 9 January 2014 10:48 (3 months ago) Permalink

i'm with Serena SInclair.

ronnie jotten (color definition point of "beyond "color, eg a transient that), Thursday, 9 January 2014 11:23 (3 months ago) Permalink

Does anyone else have the "trending" feature?

^ enlightening post (sarahell), Wednesday, 22 January 2014 00:06 (3 months ago) Permalink

yes

markers, Wednesday, 22 January 2014 00:07 (3 months ago) Permalink

is the point to just get users to spend more time on facebook and use it as a resource for "all internet things"?

^ enlightening post (sarahell), Wednesday, 22 January 2014 00:09 (3 months ago) Permalink

for the past couple of days or so, every time i want to open a new message or send one it does it in a crappy little chat window which sucks if you write a message longer than two sentences. my chat is turned off for a reason fb, it's because it sucks. anyone have this and/or knows how to deactivate that so that it works like before?

Jibe, Thursday, 23 January 2014 16:16 (3 months ago) Permalink

that is the standard on facebook now, chat and messages were merged

don't use the chat widget thing in the bottom right. instead go to "messages" in your favourites menu (in news feed) and compose message from there

my father will guide me up the stairs to bed (anagram), Thursday, 23 January 2014 16:30 (3 months ago) Permalink

oh shit now i'm going to have to untrain myself and stop clicking on the message icon in the top banner. fucking facebook.
and thx anagram

Jibe, Thursday, 23 January 2014 17:10 (3 months ago) Permalink

yeah i hate that

set the controls for the heart of the sun (VegemiteGrrl), Thursday, 23 January 2014 17:15 (3 months ago) Permalink

iirc you can click on the message icon and then "Show All Messages" or something like that?

a man with legs made of sausages - that's not real! (seandalai), Thursday, 23 January 2014 17:52 (3 months ago) Permalink

yup, that works too. but what i really miss is being able to click on the message and go to the message+inbox rather than this stupid chat window.

Jibe, Thursday, 23 January 2014 18:01 (3 months ago) Permalink


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