Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

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how the fuck did it come up with the statistics at the end? how did it know who'd had sex within an hour of the test? Actually I don't ever remember it asking me if i was a virgin in the first place.

― dog latin (dog latin), Thursday, 22 July 2004 14:53 (8 years ago) Permalink

There's a "how many people have you, well, you know?" on the Type Test though, no?

― Gregory Henry (Gregory Henry), Thursday, 22 July 2004 14:53 (8 years ago) Permalink

oh. okay.

― dog latin (dog latin), Thursday, 22 July 2004 14:54 (8 years ago) Permalink

Isn't this frivolous application of collected responses against some kind of data protection act? Have these people agreed to have their profiles turned into a spot-the-virgin game?

― Alba (Alba), Thursday, 22 July 2004 14:56 (8 years ago) Permalink

You can opt out in your settings.

― nabiscothingy, Thursday, 22 July 2004 14:57 (8 years ago) Permalink

yes. it says it in the FAQ and sort of in a roundabout way on the front page. you can request it to be taken off if you so wish too.

― dog latin (dog latin), Thursday, 22 July 2004 14:58 (8 years ago) Permalink

Oh, fucking hell. I just did the whole thing and then got an error page at the end so I don't know what my score is.

― Alba (Alba), Thursday, 22 July 2004 15:13 (8 years ago) Permalink

Bah. So did I.

― marvin wang (marvin wang), Thursday, 22 July 2004 15:31 (8 years ago) Permalink

The relevant page, post email provision (http://www.okcupid.com/signup) is down. Maybe if they fix it I can refresh the page later.

― Alba (Alba), Thursday, 22 July 2004 15:34 (8 years ago) Permalink

Still don't know what I got the first time, but I did it again and only got 38% correct, which is appalling. So I did it again, trying to go more for the obvious choice this time, and got 71%.

It says: "In general, males are about as good as females at spotting virgins. But females almost always guess correctly with female pairs."

Unless my logic is skewy, surely this also implies that men alomst always guess correctly with male pairs, unless they instead make up all the ground by getting much better scores in the mixed pair ones, which would be very odd.

― Alba (Alba), Saturday, 24 July 2004 15:51 (8 years ago) Permalink

(I think I fucked up the first time by assuming that dumpy, unattractive teenage girls were actually quite promiscuous, as a means of making themselves feel better about themselves, or as a product of sexual abuse. I now feel ashamed of this strategy.)

― Alba (Alba), Saturday, 24 July 2004 15:54 (8 years ago) Permalink

Alba, your logic is wrong - all that tells us is that women must be rather less good at anything but female pairs, and it certainly doesn't imply what you infer.

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Saturday, 24 July 2004 19:12 (8 years ago) Permalink

But how do the two sexes end up being about as good as each other overall? There are only three sections to the test - m/m, f/f and f/m. They must be losing ground to the men on one of the sections other than f/f. If it's f/m, then as I said, that's weird. If it's m/m then then male contestants must be, as I said, as good at that as the female ones are at f/f.

― Alba (Alba), Saturday, 24 July 2004 20:09 (8 years ago) Permalink

(I'm struggling to articulate why I can't countenance the possibilty that they would be better at f/m and the same as men at m/m. I guess that's where I'm stepping out of strict reason)

― Alba (Alba), Saturday, 24 July 2004 20:14 (8 years ago) Permalink

Hang on, now I'm confused.

― Alba (Alba), Saturday, 24 July 2004 20:15 (8 years ago) Permalink

you're not alone.

― cºzen (Cozen), Saturday, 24 July 2004 20:16 (8 years ago) Permalink

Oh. I confused myself by making a typo - in the post three above I mean "I can't countenance the possibility that they would be worse at f/m and the same as men at m/m."

― Alba (Alba), Saturday, 24 July 2004 20:17 (8 years ago) Permalink

I've played around with some examples of possible averages and see my logic was indeed skewy. For a 70% overall score, it could be:

Women

f/f = 90
m/f = 75
m/m= 45

Men =

f/f = 68%
m/f = 75%
m/m = 67%

Which would be mean men are better at spotting m/f than either m/m or f/f. Hmm.. that would also be weird. Other combinations I've tried result in both sexes being bettter at spotting female virgins than male ones, which seem noteworthy enough for them to put up on the website.

Can you come up with a set of average scores that fits what we know without any interesting implications at all?

― Alba (Alba), Saturday, 24 July 2004 20:38 (8 years ago) Permalink

I always spoil everything.

― Alba (Alba), Saturday, 24 July 2004 21:21 (8 years ago) Permalink

I can't stop looking at her:

ihttp://www.okcupid.com/profile?pic=0&tuid=8878330946154156249

― cºzen (Cozen), Saturday, 24 July 2004 22:59 (8 years ago) Permalink

Ew. I can.

― roxymuzak (roxymuzak), Saturday, 24 July 2004 23:07 (8 years ago) Permalink

is that the Joker?

― dog latin (dog latin), Sunday, 25 July 2004 00:15 (8 years ago) Permalink

I can't stop looking at her:

http://www.okcupid.com/profile?tuid=12703610378878205705

― Alba (Alba), Sunday, 25 July 2004 02:04 (8 years ago) Permalink

I can't stop looking at her:

http://www.okcupid.com/profile?tuid=1366843686365106737

haha

― AaronHz (AaronHz), Sunday, 25 July 2004 02:11 (8 years ago) Permalink

I can't stop looking.

― cºzen (Cozen), Sunday, 25 July 2004 08:49 (8 years ago) Permalink

My username is lixenixen, and right now I'm scared of logging in to OkCupid, because I haven't checked it for a few days, and now I fear there's yet another bunch of messages waiting for me, and I have to reply them all, because I feel like a bad person if I don't reply. I'm such a wuss!

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Sunday, 25 July 2004 09:55 (8 years ago) Permalink

On the positive side, lately I've been chatting with this Irish girl who plays in a punk band and seems very nice.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Sunday, 25 July 2004 09:59 (8 years ago) Permalink

radcliffy = oxbridge

I still don't get this... Could someone please explain it to this poor foreigner?

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Sunday, 25 July 2004 14:21 (8 years ago) Permalink

okay... I'm FrancesBean with an incredibly obnoxious photo.

― j e r e m y (x Jeremy), Sunday, 25 July 2004 14:29 (8 years ago) Permalink

Oxbridge = Oxford and Cambridge. The elite of British universities. Traditionally deemed snobby as well as brainy.

― Alba (Alba), Sunday, 25 July 2004 15:36 (8 years ago) Permalink

Yeah, I knew what Oxbridge meant, but I didn't know it could be used as an adjective. So "radcliffy" = "snobby and brainy"?

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Sunday, 25 July 2004 15:44 (8 years ago) Permalink

Well it isn't really a fully functioning adjective, I suppose. You'd have to say something was 'a bit Oxbridge' or 'Oxbridgey' rather than 'it's Oxbridge'. I never knew the word 'radcliffy' before, btw, so I don't know how close the comparison is. Is radcliffy a bit 'preppy', 'WASPy' or 'Ivy League' too?

― Alba (Alba), Sunday, 25 July 2004 15:50 (8 years ago) Permalink

It's in the okcupid glossary, anyway:

radcliffy

adj. Consisting of the broad range of personality traits normally associated with Harvard girls.

Bob's organized, ambitious, and smart. I wish I were more Radcliffy like he, because I can't get a job at Morgan Stanley. He needs to fuckin' loosen up, though

― Alba (Alba), Sunday, 25 July 2004 16:00 (8 years ago) Permalink

Aaron, you're supposed to woo a person.

I don't like this new layout. The most off-putting part is probably the "Real Friends: None (0)" part. Sheesh.

― roxymuzak (roxymuzak), Sunday, 25 July 2004 20:31 (8 years ago) Permalink

OH MY GOD. MY SECOND LOCAL MATCH IS THIS GUY:
http://www.okcupid.com/profile?tuid=12237521857448720993

― roxymuzak (roxymuzak), Sunday, 25 July 2004 20:33 (8 years ago) Permalink

holy crap.

― teeny (teeny), Sunday, 25 July 2004 20:54 (8 years ago) Permalink

that dude is how I imagine nickalicious.

― cºzen (Cozen), Sunday, 25 July 2004 21:24 (8 years ago) Permalink

I was gonna just copy and paste part of his rhyme, but then I clicked on his whole profile and the landscape of awful just expanded and came into total view and I just put the link there.

― roxymuzak (roxymuzak), Sunday, 25 July 2004 21:27 (8 years ago) Permalink

sorry dude.

― cºzen (Cozen), Sunday, 25 July 2004 21:29 (8 years ago) Permalink

Everything about that profile is really fucking funny, except the bits where he raps.

x-post.

― Fergal (Ferg), Sunday, 25 July 2004 21:30 (8 years ago) Permalink

He's more Republican
He's more capitalistic
He's more socially conservative
He's less thrifty
He's more loving
He's less energetic
He's less ambitious

― Dom Passantino (Dom Passantino), Sunday, 25 July 2004 21:31 (8 years ago) Permalink

He's more Republican
He's more capitalistic
He's more socially conservative
He's more loving

OMG teh oxymoron!11

― Fergal (Ferg), Sunday, 25 July 2004 21:34 (8 years ago) Permalink

I like how he couldn't be bothered to rhyme the films.

― Dom Passantino (Dom Passantino), Sunday, 25 July 2004 21:34 (8 years ago) Permalink

Roxy, he sounds like a treasure. Why resist?

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Sunday, 25 July 2004 21:37 (8 years ago) Permalink

But his final words are these:

You should message me if:
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------
You can appreciate this bizarre social experiment.

Plus he works on the computer field, and has kids. So it's prolly just a joke.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Sunday, 25 July 2004 21:56 (8 years ago) Permalink

Ooh. That ruins it.

― roxymuzak (roxymuzak), Sunday, 25 July 2004 21:57 (8 years ago) Permalink

I thought he was really a terrible conservative white rapper!!

― Fergal (Ferg), Sunday, 25 July 2004 22:01 (8 years ago) Permalink

Just to link this thread to the other ones:

OKCupid.com, Pt.2- Afterparty! Hotel lobby! REMIX!

― roxymuzak (roxymuzak), Sunday, 25 July 2004 22:03 (8 years ago) Permalink

A woman I was chatting to (and according to her getting on well) deleted her profile rather than continue.

The punchline, of course, was that her profile said she was looking for someone "who could be honest with (her)".

― aldo_cowpat (aldo_cowpat), Monday, 26 July 2004 08:54 (8 years ago) Permalink

I'm embarassed! I actually mailed one of my matches because he banged on about Richard Feynman and drinking gin... AND HE HASN'T REPLIED, OH MY LIFE, I am that Interweb Nutter, dear lord, help!!

― Sarah (starry), Monday, 26 July 2004 09:01 (8 years ago) Permalink

Skipping 8171 messages at this point... Click here if you want to load them all.

Dude is clearly a master manipulator.

― You can fondle the cube but it will not respond. (GOTT PUNCH II HAWKWINDZ), Monday, 13 May 2013 09:58 (6 days ago) Permalink

now-wife made me delete mine when we were living together - hadn't visited it since before we were an item (as I was able to demonstrate) but yeah, damn thing had to go (fair enough), corny whimsical write-up that I was irrationally proud of and all

― have a nice Blog (imago), Monday, 13 May 2013 10:05 (6 days ago) Permalink

Dude is clearly a master manipulator.
― You can fondle the cube but it will not respond. (GOTT PUNCH II HAWKWINDZ), Monday, May 13, 2013 9:58 AM (1 hour ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

irl lol at this

― scintilla (seandalai), Monday, 13 May 2013 11:30 (6 days ago) Permalink

crabbits, it's really easy to just 'disable' the profile without deleting it - he can bring it back any time in the future if he wants to. might be a good middle road for him to take. but yeah, keeping it up while he's in a relationship w/ you is totally wrongheaded.

― 乒乓, Monday, 13 May 2013 11:49 (6 days ago) Permalink

but OTOH I hate making ultimatums, I don't want to be like 'get rid of profile FOR ME bcz I SAID SO' but but otoh maybe that's not unreasonable at all???

This is really hard for me too, historically I can be made to stifle my own discomfort by any old poor facsimile of an argument from someone I care about/want to believe I can make it work with. The thing is, "making it work" is not your responsibility--getting what you need IS. You are uncomfortable with his online dating profile when you LIVE TOGETHER, this is eminently reasonable imo. Ultimatums: I'm kind of coming around to them.

― lets just remember to blame the patriarchy for (in orbit), Monday, 13 May 2013 11:54 (6 days ago) Permalink

Begin as you mean to go on, as estela is fond of saying.

― lets just remember to blame the patriarchy for (in orbit), Monday, 13 May 2013 12:10 (6 days ago) Permalink

there is a subset of OKC users who actually use it as a social site, spending time in the forums and chatting with folks... I've encountered a few of them. but clearly you'll know if he's using it like that if you're living together. outside of that behavior, I wouldn't be comfortable with that situation at all.

― the girl from spirea x (f. hazel), Monday, 13 May 2013 13:57 (6 days ago) Permalink

forums?

― goole, Monday, 13 May 2013 13:58 (6 days ago) Permalink

http://www.okcupid.com/forum

― the girl from spirea x (f. hazel), Monday, 13 May 2013 14:00 (6 days ago) Permalink

Are "perfect" guys online getting all dates or is it female failure to grasp reality by Chaeddd posted

oh hail no

― goole, Monday, 13 May 2013 14:01 (6 days ago) Permalink

I like the notion that there are perfect men and perfect women getting all the dates, forming noble couples and dining on rooftops and being given hotel suites. and we are doomed to love them, our relationships being crude approximations using dirt cakes and flowers made from potato peels.

― the girl from spirea x (f. hazel), Monday, 13 May 2013 14:05 (6 days ago) Permalink

Which way do you face in the shower?
On Force-Fields, Or Rather, Fields Of Force
Where's The Common People's Music?
SEEKING ASIAN FEMALE?
What do you hate about toilet seats?
cant believe i have to pay to search for fatties
Vampire Paedophiles
Mean girls are sexy

― scintilla (seandalai), Monday, 13 May 2013 14:29 (6 days ago) Permalink

u know what, fuck those toilet seats

― Nhex, Monday, 13 May 2013 14:30 (6 days ago) Permalink

i keep starting these promising conversations with attractive people, and then realizing that i don't actually have enough time or interest to be trying to 'date' somebody from scratch right now. and i wind up just not-responding when it gets to the 'so where do you want to meet up?' portion

Yeah, that's kinda me too. I've been busy with other things lately and have spent almost no time on the site, and paradoxically have gotten way more people interested in meeting me than when I was actively messaging people. I've met a few of these people with the idea that if I meet someone amazing, I'll pursue it further, but honestly I'm just being unfair to anyone I meet because I'm not the type that's gonna think someone is amazing from one date. Maybe I need to finally deactivate the ol' profile.

― Vinnie, Monday, 13 May 2013 14:49 (6 days ago) Permalink

I don't know why I said paradoxically. There's no paradox there.

― Vinnie, Monday, 13 May 2013 14:50 (6 days ago) Permalink

Hi Crabbbits, nice to see you around - seems like it's been a while.

I'm wondering if this guy answered the question about whether it's okay to maintain an active OKC profile while in a LTR.

When I see people answer that it's okay to do that, I feel like I'm some kind of jealous monster.

― Je55e, Monday, 13 May 2013 16:03 (6 days ago) Permalink

Yeh, I would say it was a bit odd to maintain a profile on a dating site when you're in a committed relationship. Ultimatums suck, but if someone isn't hearing you when you voice your concerns, then they may be the only way to go. Crabbits deserves only the best.

Also, further to the conversation upthread, even I sometimes get confused by the emil.y/emilys. thing. "I don't remember posting that? Oh, wait, no..." I don't mind though, the emily sistren must be united.

― emil.y, Monday, 13 May 2013 17:06 (6 days ago) Permalink

yall confuse the hell out of me

― Nhex, Monday, 13 May 2013 17:49 (6 days ago) Permalink

Don't give up hope everyone http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2325450/Painting-premonition-Artist-31-creates-oil-painting-perfect-man--marries-spitting-image-years-later.html

― 乒乓, Thursday, 16 May 2013 20:53 (3 days ago) Permalink

I'm gonna meet a lot of cartoon cats in the next ten years.

― the girl from spirea x (f. hazel), Thursday, 16 May 2013 21:18 (3 days ago) Permalink

irl lol

― ljubljana, Thursday, 16 May 2013 21:21 (3 days ago) Permalink

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