"Can I say you're my girlfriend on Facebook?"

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Facebook is pretty useful. It makes keeping in touch with uni friends nice and easy. I'm young and went to a 'posh' uni though.

jng (jng), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:59 (8 years ago) Permalink

No-one has yet addressed the fact that the titular quote is incredible cute!

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:07 (8 years ago) Permalink

jng, how long can you keep your uni account open in the States? Over here, perhaps a few months... i mean, you cannot really use Facebook (if I got the rules right now) to keep in touch with uni friends once you graduated

olenska (olenska), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:09 (8 years ago) Permalink

most universities offer alumni accounts.

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:10 (8 years ago) Permalink

surely it stops people who aren't at uni going on it? what happens when you graduate?

dog latin (dog latin), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:11 (8 years ago) Permalink

xpost, sorry.

dog latin (dog latin), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:11 (8 years ago) Permalink

Over here, perhaps a few months

Says you. I've had mine for nearly 10 years after graduation by now.

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:12 (8 years ago) Permalink

Aww yeah - I just signed up as an alumni! It makes me feels old and lecherous though. Like going to a student party would, I guess.

Baaderonixx immer wieder (baaderonixx), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:13 (8 years ago) Permalink

But Alumni can only perv on other Alumni? I might be wrong.

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:15 (8 years ago) Permalink

Clearly I am, if I'm capitalising alumni.

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:15 (8 years ago) Permalink

Haha, I started doing some work and clicked away from the register window, I guess I am not that bothered after all!

The sad truth is that I think it would make me feel lonely, and out of it! And I have a perfectly good LIVEJOURNAL for that arf arf ARF.

Bhumibol Adulyadej (Lucretia My Reflection), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:15 (8 years ago) Permalink

I'm in the UK, so no idea about the US. I signed up with my uni email account a couple of years ago, and then just switched the profile over to my alumni email account when I graduated.

xpost

jng (jng), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:17 (8 years ago) Permalink

maybe we could have an ILX SOCIAL GROUP????

Baaderonixx immer wieder (baaderonixx), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:19 (8 years ago) Permalink

Its a really good way to stay in touch w people after you graduate.

deej.. (deej..), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:23 (8 years ago) Permalink

Big Man On Campus! (I hope)

Yes. He seemed to know everyone and was walking around making sure people were having a good time.

I never signed up for an alumni e-mail account, and now I'm unsure of how to do so, but the only people I'd know on Facebook are young punks like deej, anyway.

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:30 (8 years ago) Permalink

Its a really good way to stay in touch w people after you graduate.
-- deej.. (clublonel...), June 27th, 2006.

a bit like MEETING THEM, HOLDING CONVERSATIONS, THAT KIND OF SHIT.

Roughage Crew (Enrique), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:31 (8 years ago) Permalink

As a current college student, I can vouch for how omnipresent it is. In the official UC Berkeley student questionnaire (rate the counselors from 1-10 etc.) the university had an entire section in the survey asking students about facebook. I can think of two people I know who *aren't* on it.

It's far classier than myspace because you can't change your page much. No background music. No videos. This is good.

Very recently though, there has been a very noticeable trend (in Berkeley at least...can't speak for the nation) to make your profile super-private and only visable to friends. People are either getting wary, or snobby, I'm not sure which.

starke (starke), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:33 (8 years ago) Permalink

Yeah its real easy to do that with my friends in San Francisco xp

deej.. (deej..), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:35 (8 years ago) Permalink

A few more things:

1. My brother is a grad student and when he TAs a class, he always checks out his students' Facebook profiles and is sometimes surprised at what they're willing to divulge. (Then he stores this information in an Excel spreadsheet ... oh wait.)

2. I have a cousin who just finished his freshman year at Northern Illinois University. He tells me that as soon as he received his school e-mail address last summer, he immediately signed up on Facebook and found that dozens of other incoming students had done so as well. In fact, the ability to notate your dorm and room number within your profile meant that he knew nearly everyone in his hall before they ever actually met face to face.

3. Haha, my dad moderated a panel about Facebook last month.

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:41 (8 years ago) Permalink

High school students can join it now too. Which is weird.

deej.. (deej..), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:44 (8 years ago) Permalink

See, that's not weird to me because as far as I'm concerned, EVERYONE under 25 is on it.

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:57 (8 years ago) Permalink

Yeah, trading facebooks was the first thing the staff did when we got to camp. I think the basic reason it's so much more universal than eg friendster is the total lack of crepey hookup connotations?

Gravel Puzzleworth (Gregory Henry), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:59 (8 years ago) Permalink

he always checks out his students' Facebook profiles
Not always, just for the cute ones ;)

robots in love (robotsinlove), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:06 (8 years ago) Permalink

facebook is even creepier than myspace/friendster cuz then you can anonymously crepe on cute girls in your classes.

the eunuchs, Cassim and Mustafa, who guarded Abdur Ali's harem (orion), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:09 (8 years ago) Permalink

It's strange--I do feel like there is a generational divide with facebook. I joined just this year, as a 24 year old grad student. But, the first year grad students, who are right out of college, already had facebook accounts from undergrad days. they just had to switch over the designation to their new university affiliation. But the point is they already had them and were totally accustomed to using them, whereas they had convinced me to join, and then were disappointed when facebook did not function the same way they were used to (nobody checked it frequently enough, thereby making announcing parties useless).

robots in love (robotsinlove), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:09 (8 years ago) Permalink

Did you read the Lewis Flyer article yet, M.?

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:12 (8 years ago) Permalink

Regarding the quote in topic, yeah, the relationship status on Facebook does lead to a lot of awkward situations. A friend of mine had that she was married to her boyfriend on Facebook. After they broke up for a while, he eventually changed the setting to say single which automatically did it for her profile too. It was like a whole 'nother stage of breaking up.

There's an annoying girl at my job who has some serious growing up to do. One of her many horrifying common behaviors is playing "house" at the job and designating different coworkers as different members of her family. For a while she had a huge crush on me, and thus I became the husband. Whenever new people were hired, she'd excitedly hug me and exclaim in her nasal voice, "This is Derek, he's my husband! He's the best husband in the world!" Then she'd switch to a more serious tone to warn the girls that they'd better not flirt with me. Terrifying. Of course, she wanted to marry me on Facebook. After weeks of continually reminding me that I have yet to click "yes" that we are indeed married, I finally gave in and did it. After a while, trying to finally give her the message that I'm not interested, I switched to being married with another one of our coworkers, a girl I'm good friends with but my "wife" hated. When she saw that I'd switched the status, she had a real break down. Female co-workers told me about her heart break over the incident.

In conclusion, jesus christ, be glad you're not on Facebook.

like murderinging (modestmickey), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:42 (8 years ago) Permalink

why is this any better than myspace? i don't get it.
-- dog latin (doglati...) (webmail), June 27th, 2006. (dog latin)

Certain features that make it really useful for college students. You can list your classes in your profile and the page can create a list for you of people in your classes. You can easily find people in your class to ask them questions about upcoming tests, what the homework was, etc. Also, unlike MySpace, there's more local community centered stuff since the only people on Facebook I interact with are fellow UNCC students and I don't see anyone from Harvard. For example there's groups with local interest like "I LOVE " rather than just "I LOVE LIMP BIZKIT." Like other people mentioned, there's the announcing/organizing events too.

like murderinging (modestmickey), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:49 (8 years ago) Permalink

But what is this thing that US students say is now more important than sex and texting?

MORE IMPORTANT THAN TEXTING?!?!?!?!??!

matlewis (matlewis), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:54 (8 years ago) Permalink

he eventually changed the setting to say single which automatically did it for her profile too. It was like a whole 'nother stage of breaking up.

That is pretty harsh.

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:54 (8 years ago) Permalink

I think the basic reason it's so much more universal than eg friendster is the total lack of crepey hookup connotations?

Au contraire. I think a lot of people use it for exactly that reason. That's the impression I've gotten, anyway.

Deric W. Haircare (Deric W. Haircare), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 16:36 (8 years ago) Permalink

Facebook is fucking annoying. I'm an elderly undergrad, surrounded by people who use it as a substitute for actual communication. So I decided to get kicked off of Facebook but it's not working yet--I've replaced my entire profile with excerpts from Pilgrim's Progress and some Duran Duran slash fiction, I've started reporting every person whose profile says "Libertarian," etc. No luck.

adam (adam), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 16:41 (8 years ago) Permalink

surrounded by people who use it as a substitute for actual communication.

hi, do you know the internet?

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 16:51 (8 years ago) Permalink

hah yeah wtf how is it different than anything else on the internet?

deej.. (deej..), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 16:56 (8 years ago) Permalink

that facebook thing would have been so useful for my social life in '96. and myspace too. and p2p files exchange softwares (I was so informationally poor). also, ah, if only I had pentium3 +highspeed+100gig storage+ free video editing software back then, when
i was more interested in cinema , because most of the canonic cinematographic trips were new to me etc good grief I should have been born in '81

S. (Sébastien Chikara), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 17:03 (8 years ago) Permalink

S. (Sébastien Chikara), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 17:12 (8 years ago) Permalink

believe it or not, there are things better for your social life than exponentially raising the amount of time you spend sitting in front of a computer.

like murderinging (modestmickey), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 17:28 (8 years ago) Permalink

i don't.

jeffrey (johnson), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 17:30 (8 years ago) Permalink

Hating facebook doesn't make much more sense than hating cellphones, the yellow pages, AIM and email. It's a social lubricant. If people were really replacing their social lives with it, facebook wouldn't be filled with ten trillion pictures of people getting drunk at parties.

starke (starke), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 17:42 (8 years ago) Permalink

(which would be a better thing to complain about)

starke (starke), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 17:43 (8 years ago) Permalink

mickey, the way I see it it's all about saving time rather than wasting it,of course; it would have been useful in my early 20's to help me find out fun places to go out , with with people I have affinities with, rather than rely mostly on luck. anyhoo, now these apps are less "urgent" to me at this time in my life.

S. (Sébastien Chikara), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 17:46 (8 years ago) Permalink

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S. (Sébastien Chikara), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 17:47 (8 years ago) Permalink

If people were really replacing their social lives with it, facebook wouldn't be filled with ten trillion pictures of people getting drunk at parties.

It's not that social networking replaces your social life, it just... mediates it. Instead of personally inviting people to parties via word of mouth/telephone/email or just throwing it up on a flyer, you're sending it to a reasonably targeted, much larger group than you'd be comfortable calling. The downside is that pretty soon you're doing the majority of communication through there, any "event" that can vary from a party or concert to two people sitting around drunk turns into some "scandalous" photo diary, and there's the online backchannel that sucks everyone in.

I've been around people where there's this obnoxious feedback loop where they're pretty much trying to come up with new people to befriend and more pictures/content to put up on things like myspace, and half of what they talk about is myspace. Urgh.

business up front, party entrance at side door (mike h.), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 18:20 (8 years ago) Permalink

That's an interesting way of putting it.

Still, why is word of mouth/telephone/email an inherently better form of communication? I agree that it's a "larger group than you'd be comfortable calling" but I think that's very likely a good thing. For example, tonight I'm going to play soccer with a casual friend from a class. He invited me and the rest of the group with a facebook message. It would have been awkward for an acquaintance to call/email, and probably would have never happened.

starke (starke), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 18:49 (8 years ago) Permalink

man, facebook was so much better back when there were only like 8 schools on it

lemin (lemin), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 19:21 (8 years ago) Permalink

snob

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 19:30 (8 years ago) Permalink

Facebook's early history is pretty snobby and reflects the fact that it was started by a Harvard kid. The schools were added pretty much in order of prestige. No doubt the public school kids just weren't mature enough to deal with such technology until much later.

starke (starke), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 19:45 (8 years ago) Permalink

Now they even have community colleges, though. Anyone who takes an adult continuing education course could get on there! It'd be amazing if people in cooking and wine tasting classes started using facebook to set up events and communicate outside of class.

business up front, party entrance at side door (mike h.), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 20:04 (8 years ago) Permalink

The influx of philistines brought Facebook down to Myspace levels of social networking websites, ones it could never recover from! Oh, how I long for the days of only having to add friends from ivy league schools.

lemin (lemin), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 20:05 (8 years ago) Permalink

he eventually changed the setting to say single which automatically did it for her profile too. It was like a whole 'nother stage of breaking up.

I had a friend whose girlfriend changed her facebook relationship status to "single" in order to make him jealous, or something.

31g (31g), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 20:10 (8 years ago) Permalink

but then you risk getting into that situation where you run into someone and they expect you to know they got married or are pregnant or w/e and you're like "hey, I didn't know!" and they're like "but I posted it on fb!" and you're like "sorry but I unfollowed you"

rising tones cross (anagram), Tuesday, 18 November 2014 22:49 (1 month ago) Permalink

You can just say "oh I must have missed that!" and then it's over.

polyphonic, Tuesday, 18 November 2014 22:51 (1 month ago) Permalink

i've completely stopped using facebook except for messaging because i can't stand things i like or comment on being seen on my, like, cousins' walls and stuff. or old coworkers. people i'm just generally not close with, who i don't really want potentially seeing my interactions with my friends...and i don't post my own shit either. i generally don't really understand what facebook is for anymore aside from broadcasting wedding/baby news/photos.

Wow, I'm completely the opposite -- I think the messaging system is a disaster, to the point that I sort of seethe when someone sends me a message on it. But I find the newsfeed works well as a sort of less public twitter; good for sharing links, good for asking questions ("does anybody know a good ____", "does anybody know how to ____," etc.)

Guayaquil (eephus!), Tuesday, 18 November 2014 22:57 (1 month ago) Permalink

can't stand the messenger thing, or any of FB at all really, but my mother has decided this is the only way she will even bother communicating family events with me and my siblings. even though I've told her over and over that i rarely look at FB and that it is never the best way to communicate with me, she still does it.

ƋППṍӮɨ∏ğڵșěᶉᶇдM℮ (jon /via/ chi 2.0), Tuesday, 18 November 2014 23:09 (1 month ago) Permalink

a big spate of unsubcribing ppl works wonders

― i did it all for the 'nuki (upper mississippi sh@kedown), Tuesday, November 18, 2014 5:38 PM (40 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

or just muting them

― polyphonic, Tuesday, November 18, 2014 5:44 PM (34 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

i don't mind seeing their shit i just want them to not see mine

linda cardellini (zachlyon), Tuesday, 18 November 2014 23:21 (1 month ago) Permalink

You can add people to lists and then chose which list you send messages to. You'll still see them, they won't see you, unless you choose to show them.

koogs, Tuesday, 18 November 2014 23:52 (1 month ago) Permalink

I don't think it's as flexible as Google's circles, but I think it'll work.

koogs, Tuesday, 18 November 2014 23:53 (1 month ago) Permalink

ya but i don't want them seeing the stuff i like/comment on which fbook broadcasts to everyone whether you like it or not

linda cardellini (zachlyon), Wednesday, 19 November 2014 00:25 (4 weeks ago) Permalink

Having been back on Facebook in the last 3 months purely for my own self promotional reasons work-wise, it's been useful in that respect.

But fuck damn there is still so much bumf and crap and pointless chatter on there from people I know, and it's embarrassing.

Drop soap, not bombs (Ste), Wednesday, 19 November 2014 00:50 (4 weeks ago) Permalink

ya but i don't want them seeing the stuff i like/comment on which fbook broadcasts to everyone whether you like it or not

Only if the post youre liking/commenting on is public or "friends of friends", afaik.

And why anyone makes global posts I have no freaking idea.

Gumbercules? I love that guy! (Trayce), Wednesday, 19 November 2014 05:19 (4 weeks ago) Permalink

Yeah, I get uncomfortable when I see some fb-generated update like

"[my old babysitter] replied to a comment on [her sister who I'm not even friends with]'s post!"

because that means I know that my father-in-law is getting updates like

"how's life is making jokes about cops with the commies from his high school ska band!"

― how's life, Thursday, November 13, 2014 8:41 PM (6 days ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

Ha! This is definitely happening now. Obstreperous old coot has been commenting on posts by friends and friends-of-friends alike. This morning he was lecturing a Finnish friend of my father's about proper wood chopping techniques. Why am I still on this nightmare network?

put your money where the maracas are (how's life), Wednesday, 19 November 2014 17:01 (4 weeks ago) Permalink

what is the point of forcing users to crop all profile pics in a square?

✓ out this insane nakh yall (gr8080), Monday, 1 December 2014 17:12 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

To make everything standardized?

pplains, Monday, 1 December 2014 18:28 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

its so strange and unnecessary tho

✓ out this insane nakh yall (gr8080), Monday, 1 December 2014 18:30 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

bumf and crap and pointless chatter are the Very Stuff of Life to a great many people and without it they would become sad, ghostly apparitions.

oh no! must be the season of the rich (Aimless), Monday, 1 December 2014 18:41 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

Xpost so it will fit on next years calendar.

Mark G, Monday, 1 December 2014 18:52 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

I mean, every site with an avatar has a standard size, right?

Now why square? Because it's the easiest shape to make for photos?

pplains, Monday, 1 December 2014 19:34 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

but... facebook has "photo albums" as a key feature, and always has. your "profile photos" are in a photo album, it has worked this way forever

✓ out this insane nakh yall (gr8080), Monday, 1 December 2014 19:38 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

But those photos in your photo albums are going to be used as an avatar on your front page or used whenever you post a comment on someone's page.

pplains, Monday, 1 December 2014 19:39 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

aren't going to be used.

pplains, Monday, 1 December 2014 19:39 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

and for years fb has had a function where you select what square-shaped area of the photo does get used, which worked just fine

✓ out this insane nakh yall (gr8080), Monday, 1 December 2014 19:41 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

I used to fuck with the profile pic by making ones that were like 200 px wide and 30000 px long

, Monday, 1 December 2014 19:45 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

and for years fb has had a function where you select what square-shaped area of the photo does get used, which worked just fine

Well, ok, that's a new one on me. I thought they still let you crop it.

pplains, Tuesday, 2 December 2014 05:03 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

http://time.com/facebook-world-plan/

Nhex, Saturday, 6 December 2014 19:05 (1 week ago) Permalink

So, these new chimes tied to basic functions in the mobile app...

Don A Henley And Get Over It (C. Grisso/McCain), Saturday, 6 December 2014 23:14 (1 week ago) Permalink


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