"Can I say you're my girlfriend on Facebook?"

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Facebook is pretty useful. It makes keeping in touch with uni friends nice and easy. I'm young and went to a 'posh' uni though.

jng (jng), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:59 (8 years ago) Permalink

No-one has yet addressed the fact that the titular quote is incredible cute!

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:07 (8 years ago) Permalink

jng, how long can you keep your uni account open in the States? Over here, perhaps a few months... i mean, you cannot really use Facebook (if I got the rules right now) to keep in touch with uni friends once you graduated

olenska (olenska), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:09 (8 years ago) Permalink

most universities offer alumni accounts.

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:10 (8 years ago) Permalink

surely it stops people who aren't at uni going on it? what happens when you graduate?

dog latin (dog latin), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:11 (8 years ago) Permalink

xpost, sorry.

dog latin (dog latin), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:11 (8 years ago) Permalink

Over here, perhaps a few months

Says you. I've had mine for nearly 10 years after graduation by now.

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:12 (8 years ago) Permalink

Aww yeah - I just signed up as an alumni! It makes me feels old and lecherous though. Like going to a student party would, I guess.

Baaderonixx immer wieder (baaderonixx), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:13 (8 years ago) Permalink

But Alumni can only perv on other Alumni? I might be wrong.

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:15 (8 years ago) Permalink

Clearly I am, if I'm capitalising alumni.

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:15 (8 years ago) Permalink

Haha, I started doing some work and clicked away from the register window, I guess I am not that bothered after all!

The sad truth is that I think it would make me feel lonely, and out of it! And I have a perfectly good LIVEJOURNAL for that arf arf ARF.

Bhumibol Adulyadej (Lucretia My Reflection), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:15 (8 years ago) Permalink

I'm in the UK, so no idea about the US. I signed up with my uni email account a couple of years ago, and then just switched the profile over to my alumni email account when I graduated.

xpost

jng (jng), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:17 (8 years ago) Permalink

maybe we could have an ILX SOCIAL GROUP????

Baaderonixx immer wieder (baaderonixx), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:19 (8 years ago) Permalink

Its a really good way to stay in touch w people after you graduate.

deej.. (deej..), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:23 (8 years ago) Permalink

Big Man On Campus! (I hope)

Yes. He seemed to know everyone and was walking around making sure people were having a good time.

I never signed up for an alumni e-mail account, and now I'm unsure of how to do so, but the only people I'd know on Facebook are young punks like deej, anyway.

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:30 (8 years ago) Permalink

Its a really good way to stay in touch w people after you graduate.
-- deej.. (clublonel...), June 27th, 2006.

a bit like MEETING THEM, HOLDING CONVERSATIONS, THAT KIND OF SHIT.

Roughage Crew (Enrique), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:31 (8 years ago) Permalink

As a current college student, I can vouch for how omnipresent it is. In the official UC Berkeley student questionnaire (rate the counselors from 1-10 etc.) the university had an entire section in the survey asking students about facebook. I can think of two people I know who *aren't* on it.

It's far classier than myspace because you can't change your page much. No background music. No videos. This is good.

Very recently though, there has been a very noticeable trend (in Berkeley at least...can't speak for the nation) to make your profile super-private and only visable to friends. People are either getting wary, or snobby, I'm not sure which.

starke (starke), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:33 (8 years ago) Permalink

Yeah its real easy to do that with my friends in San Francisco xp

deej.. (deej..), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:35 (8 years ago) Permalink

A few more things:

1. My brother is a grad student and when he TAs a class, he always checks out his students' Facebook profiles and is sometimes surprised at what they're willing to divulge. (Then he stores this information in an Excel spreadsheet ... oh wait.)

2. I have a cousin who just finished his freshman year at Northern Illinois University. He tells me that as soon as he received his school e-mail address last summer, he immediately signed up on Facebook and found that dozens of other incoming students had done so as well. In fact, the ability to notate your dorm and room number within your profile meant that he knew nearly everyone in his hall before they ever actually met face to face.

3. Haha, my dad moderated a panel about Facebook last month.

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:41 (8 years ago) Permalink

High school students can join it now too. Which is weird.

deej.. (deej..), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:44 (8 years ago) Permalink

See, that's not weird to me because as far as I'm concerned, EVERYONE under 25 is on it.

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:57 (8 years ago) Permalink

Yeah, trading facebooks was the first thing the staff did when we got to camp. I think the basic reason it's so much more universal than eg friendster is the total lack of crepey hookup connotations?

Gravel Puzzleworth (Gregory Henry), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:59 (8 years ago) Permalink

he always checks out his students' Facebook profiles
Not always, just for the cute ones ;)

robots in love (robotsinlove), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:06 (8 years ago) Permalink

facebook is even creepier than myspace/friendster cuz then you can anonymously crepe on cute girls in your classes.

the eunuchs, Cassim and Mustafa, who guarded Abdur Ali's harem (orion), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:09 (8 years ago) Permalink

It's strange--I do feel like there is a generational divide with facebook. I joined just this year, as a 24 year old grad student. But, the first year grad students, who are right out of college, already had facebook accounts from undergrad days. they just had to switch over the designation to their new university affiliation. But the point is they already had them and were totally accustomed to using them, whereas they had convinced me to join, and then were disappointed when facebook did not function the same way they were used to (nobody checked it frequently enough, thereby making announcing parties useless).

robots in love (robotsinlove), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:09 (8 years ago) Permalink

Did you read the Lewis Flyer article yet, M.?

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:12 (8 years ago) Permalink

Regarding the quote in topic, yeah, the relationship status on Facebook does lead to a lot of awkward situations. A friend of mine had that she was married to her boyfriend on Facebook. After they broke up for a while, he eventually changed the setting to say single which automatically did it for her profile too. It was like a whole 'nother stage of breaking up.

There's an annoying girl at my job who has some serious growing up to do. One of her many horrifying common behaviors is playing "house" at the job and designating different coworkers as different members of her family. For a while she had a huge crush on me, and thus I became the husband. Whenever new people were hired, she'd excitedly hug me and exclaim in her nasal voice, "This is Derek, he's my husband! He's the best husband in the world!" Then she'd switch to a more serious tone to warn the girls that they'd better not flirt with me. Terrifying. Of course, she wanted to marry me on Facebook. After weeks of continually reminding me that I have yet to click "yes" that we are indeed married, I finally gave in and did it. After a while, trying to finally give her the message that I'm not interested, I switched to being married with another one of our coworkers, a girl I'm good friends with but my "wife" hated. When she saw that I'd switched the status, she had a real break down. Female co-workers told me about her heart break over the incident.

In conclusion, jesus christ, be glad you're not on Facebook.

like murderinging (modestmickey), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:42 (8 years ago) Permalink

why is this any better than myspace? i don't get it.
-- dog latin (doglati...) (webmail), June 27th, 2006. (dog latin)

Certain features that make it really useful for college students. You can list your classes in your profile and the page can create a list for you of people in your classes. You can easily find people in your class to ask them questions about upcoming tests, what the homework was, etc. Also, unlike MySpace, there's more local community centered stuff since the only people on Facebook I interact with are fellow UNCC students and I don't see anyone from Harvard. For example there's groups with local interest like "I LOVE " rather than just "I LOVE LIMP BIZKIT." Like other people mentioned, there's the announcing/organizing events too.

like murderinging (modestmickey), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:49 (8 years ago) Permalink

But what is this thing that US students say is now more important than sex and texting?

MORE IMPORTANT THAN TEXTING?!?!?!?!??!

matlewis (matlewis), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:54 (8 years ago) Permalink

he eventually changed the setting to say single which automatically did it for her profile too. It was like a whole 'nother stage of breaking up.

That is pretty harsh.

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:54 (8 years ago) Permalink

I think the basic reason it's so much more universal than eg friendster is the total lack of crepey hookup connotations?

Au contraire. I think a lot of people use it for exactly that reason. That's the impression I've gotten, anyway.

Deric W. Haircare (Deric W. Haircare), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 16:36 (8 years ago) Permalink

Facebook is fucking annoying. I'm an elderly undergrad, surrounded by people who use it as a substitute for actual communication. So I decided to get kicked off of Facebook but it's not working yet--I've replaced my entire profile with excerpts from Pilgrim's Progress and some Duran Duran slash fiction, I've started reporting every person whose profile says "Libertarian," etc. No luck.

adam (adam), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 16:41 (8 years ago) Permalink

surrounded by people who use it as a substitute for actual communication.

hi, do you know the internet?

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 16:51 (8 years ago) Permalink

hah yeah wtf how is it different than anything else on the internet?

deej.. (deej..), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 16:56 (8 years ago) Permalink

that facebook thing would have been so useful for my social life in '96. and myspace too. and p2p files exchange softwares (I was so informationally poor). also, ah, if only I had pentium3 +highspeed+100gig storage+ free video editing software back then, when
i was more interested in cinema , because most of the canonic cinematographic trips were new to me etc good grief I should have been born in '81

S. (Sébastien Chikara), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 17:03 (8 years ago) Permalink

S. (Sébastien Chikara), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 17:12 (8 years ago) Permalink

believe it or not, there are things better for your social life than exponentially raising the amount of time you spend sitting in front of a computer.

like murderinging (modestmickey), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 17:28 (8 years ago) Permalink

i don't.

jeffrey (johnson), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 17:30 (8 years ago) Permalink

Hating facebook doesn't make much more sense than hating cellphones, the yellow pages, AIM and email. It's a social lubricant. If people were really replacing their social lives with it, facebook wouldn't be filled with ten trillion pictures of people getting drunk at parties.

starke (starke), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 17:42 (8 years ago) Permalink

(which would be a better thing to complain about)

starke (starke), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 17:43 (8 years ago) Permalink

mickey, the way I see it it's all about saving time rather than wasting it,of course; it would have been useful in my early 20's to help me find out fun places to go out , with with people I have affinities with, rather than rely mostly on luck. anyhoo, now these apps are less "urgent" to me at this time in my life.

S. (Sébastien Chikara), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 17:46 (8 years ago) Permalink

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S. (Sébastien Chikara), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 17:47 (8 years ago) Permalink

If people were really replacing their social lives with it, facebook wouldn't be filled with ten trillion pictures of people getting drunk at parties.

It's not that social networking replaces your social life, it just... mediates it. Instead of personally inviting people to parties via word of mouth/telephone/email or just throwing it up on a flyer, you're sending it to a reasonably targeted, much larger group than you'd be comfortable calling. The downside is that pretty soon you're doing the majority of communication through there, any "event" that can vary from a party or concert to two people sitting around drunk turns into some "scandalous" photo diary, and there's the online backchannel that sucks everyone in.

I've been around people where there's this obnoxious feedback loop where they're pretty much trying to come up with new people to befriend and more pictures/content to put up on things like myspace, and half of what they talk about is myspace. Urgh.

business up front, party entrance at side door (mike h.), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 18:20 (8 years ago) Permalink

That's an interesting way of putting it.

Still, why is word of mouth/telephone/email an inherently better form of communication? I agree that it's a "larger group than you'd be comfortable calling" but I think that's very likely a good thing. For example, tonight I'm going to play soccer with a casual friend from a class. He invited me and the rest of the group with a facebook message. It would have been awkward for an acquaintance to call/email, and probably would have never happened.

starke (starke), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 18:49 (8 years ago) Permalink

man, facebook was so much better back when there were only like 8 schools on it

lemin (lemin), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 19:21 (8 years ago) Permalink

snob

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 19:30 (8 years ago) Permalink

Facebook's early history is pretty snobby and reflects the fact that it was started by a Harvard kid. The schools were added pretty much in order of prestige. No doubt the public school kids just weren't mature enough to deal with such technology until much later.

starke (starke), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 19:45 (8 years ago) Permalink

Now they even have community colleges, though. Anyone who takes an adult continuing education course could get on there! It'd be amazing if people in cooking and wine tasting classes started using facebook to set up events and communicate outside of class.

business up front, party entrance at side door (mike h.), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 20:04 (8 years ago) Permalink

The influx of philistines brought Facebook down to Myspace levels of social networking websites, ones it could never recover from! Oh, how I long for the days of only having to add friends from ivy league schools.

lemin (lemin), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 20:05 (8 years ago) Permalink

he eventually changed the setting to say single which automatically did it for her profile too. It was like a whole 'nother stage of breaking up.

I had a friend whose girlfriend changed her facebook relationship status to "single" in order to make him jealous, or something.

31g (31g), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 20:10 (8 years ago) Permalink

I cant remember but I thought you had to provide a dob when you signed up in first place (to acknowledge being older than the minimum age?)

saer, Monday, 29 December 2014 15:52 (1 month ago) Permalink

saer is right. I did do a double take when I saw that, because it makes me think other ppl can see that, even though it wouldn't be too hard for my friends to put two and two together.

Mistah FAAB (sarahell), Monday, 29 December 2014 19:32 (1 month ago) Permalink

Those times when you're sitting on your hands, trying to resist commenting on those people who USED TO BE liberal and who have become scarily conservative.

You added them because they were your dear friend in high school. Now you've got a bunch of liberal and left pages in your collection, and they're praying for Darrell Wilson.

Whitney Di-Ennial (I M Losted), Monday, 29 December 2014 20:14 (1 month ago) Permalink

half the reason I never signed up for Facebook tbh

Nhex, Monday, 29 December 2014 20:18 (1 month ago) Permalink

As Trayce has pointed out numerous times, you can unfollow these people without de-friending them. You have the power!

Mistah FAAB (sarahell), Monday, 29 December 2014 20:33 (1 month ago) Permalink

Before I quit, Facebook taught me a valuable lesson in terms of showing me more than I wanted to know about various friends who used to be liberals when Bush was president and then became "liberals" during the Obama administration (i.e. silent on every new rightward lurch from their imaginary friends in DC; super-attentive to the latest dumb remark out of the mouths of the super-powerful Michelle Bachmann and Sarah Palin). Everyone their own partisan hack and not even getting paid for it.

Vic Perry, Monday, 29 December 2014 20:48 (1 month ago) Permalink

That was their greatest failing as friends?

dumpster® fire (Aimless), Monday, 29 December 2014 21:25 (1 month ago) Permalink

They're still friends. I quit Facebook because it is long term depressing.

Vic Perry, Monday, 29 December 2014 21:30 (1 month ago) Permalink

I try not to "follow" them, but with h.s., grammar school etc. we're ALL friends with each other on FB.

It's just funny and probably awkward for them because there they are on FB with their conservative or religious friends, and then there is you, their best pal from tenth grade who smoked pot with them or who went to a punk concert or shoplifted or some other thing, and you wonder if their new friends know about how they used to be. Because some of these people on Facebook are unbelievably conservative, with stuff I never heard when growing up.

Whitney Di-Ennial (I M Losted), Monday, 29 December 2014 21:34 (1 month ago) Permalink

However, I will say this: that if Facebook is the only thing holding this friendship together, it's kind of like if we pledged to only get together on the condition that we meet in the food court at a crappy mall, that we then have loud conversations for the benefit of all the other tables, show one another our photo albums, reference some internet thing to each other, and never talk in the way that made us friends in the first place. If those are the conditions, it's ok if we drift apart, really.

Vic Perry, Monday, 29 December 2014 21:49 (1 month ago) Permalink

I quit facebook because i was wasting time on it (amongst other things) at work

Then i realized the facebook timesink was a symptom not a cause so i quit my job instead

I havent gone back on facebook, but i might

anvil, Monday, 29 December 2014 22:02 (1 month ago) Permalink

As Trayce has pointed out numerous times, you can unfollow these people without de-friending them. You have the power!
don't you see, you've already given in to the system

Nhex, Monday, 29 December 2014 22:46 (1 month ago) Permalink

I cant remember but I thought you had to provide a dob when you signed up in first place (to acknowledge being older than the minimum age?)

Definitely not when I joined, as for years it would ask me now and then to add my year of birth. Interested to know if they've been directly tapping up lamers among my friends for info.

wat if lermontov hero of are time modern day (Bananaman Begins), Monday, 29 December 2014 23:47 (1 month ago) Permalink

is it connected to your gmail in any way? what happens if you forget or request new password?

saer, Monday, 29 December 2014 23:52 (1 month ago) Permalink

Do you use WhatsApp? FB extracts the data from your WA contact list. And if it's not from your WA, it can even be from someone of your contacts usinbg WA, that has you as a contact in WA and has added your date of birth to their 'info about BananamanBegins'. For your contacts it's simply a reminder of what you birthday is (could be synched with the calendar), for FB it's enough for to put two and two together.

a pleasant little psychedelic detour in the elevator (Amory Blaine), Tuesday, 30 December 2014 00:18 (1 month ago) Permalink

How are you supposed to feel when old friends post photos of themselves whooping it up on New Year's Eve in the city where you now live, and they know you do, but they haven't gotten in touch with you to tell you they're visiting?

you've got no fans you've got no ground (anagram), Saturday, 3 January 2015 22:52 (1 month ago) Permalink

forgeit it anagram, it's chinatown

Nhex, Saturday, 3 January 2015 23:01 (1 month ago) Permalink

Whenever I see my friends whooping it up at a party I wasn't invited to I figure it's someone else's party, and I shouldn't expect my friend to wangle an invite for me (especially if it's at someone's house). As for not getting in touch at all, maybe they have so little time where you are that they couldn't fit anything in.

nickn, Sunday, 4 January 2015 04:12 (1 month ago) Permalink

Are "friends" electric?

Vic Perry, Sunday, 4 January 2015 04:17 (1 month ago) Permalink

Have they invited you to try Allo yet?

Don A Henley And Get Over It (C. Grisso/McCain), Sunday, 4 January 2015 04:23 (1 month ago) Permalink

1 month passes...

FB friend got engaged 2 years ago -- announced engagement with a video

She got pregnant at the end of last year -- announced her pregnancy with a video

Had their 20 week scan today -- announced the sex of the baby with a video

Relationship is becoming about as interesting as the NFL Draft #zzzzzzzzzzzzz

difficult-difficult lemon-difficult (VegemiteGrrl), Saturday, 7 February 2015 02:58 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

just wait for the divorce!!!

markers, Saturday, 7 February 2015 06:00 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

The birth announcement is going to be awkward

she started dancing to that (Finefinemusic), Saturday, 7 February 2015 06:48 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

hahahahahahahahahahaha

i love you

Benson and the Jets (ENBB), Saturday, 7 February 2015 13:41 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

: *

she started dancing to that (Finefinemusic), Saturday, 7 February 2015 14:11 (2 weeks ago) Permalink


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