― Ste (Fuzzy), Monday, 1 November 2004 15:56 (nineteen years ago) link
― Freelance Hiveminder (blueski), Monday, 1 November 2004 15:58 (nineteen years ago) link
― Pashmina (Pashmina), Monday, 1 November 2004 16:01 (nineteen years ago) link
― PinXorchiXoR (Pinkpanther), Monday, 1 November 2004 16:01 (nineteen years ago) link
I was going to tell they guy's mother about this, and I wasn't looking forward to it at all. I was cycling up our street on the way from work, shortly after I first posted about this, when I passed stoner boy/man and he got all apologetic, oh, I've been such a selfish cunt, he said, and so on. For a while, he's been quiet.
Unfortunately, the neighbours on the other side have taken up the baton since christmas. Coming home w/friends on fri night/sat morning, or sat night/sun morning, and cranking up club music. After they'd done it a couple of weeks on the trot, I went and banged on their door, they were pretty obnoxious & confrontational. They blamed the guy from round the back for the previous week's noise (it was them, I checked both houses) and the guy from round the back was going into the house, and heard them, and there was an argument. That was, like 4 weeks ago. Every weekend, between 11.30 and 1.30, I lie awake at night, fuckign worrying and obsessing. When's it going to start? I've phoned the police a couple of times, and wrote down incicdent numbers.
Last night, I hear the bus pull up outside our house at 12.15 am. A bunch of noisy people get off, and my heart sinks. It's the guy from round the back (who's 43, I found out) w/a bunch of people. In the house they go, and the fucking music comes blasting through the walls. I call the police, who turn up pretty quickly, they turn the music down, but they're otherwise very noisy, lots of banging and shouting. It doesn't quieten down 'till 3.30am. Last night, I basically didn't sleep at all.
So, we're going to see they guy's mother today. From hereon, the minute I hear loud music from either house, I'm going to go and check where it's coming from, then phoning the police. On monday I'm phoning the local environmental health department to see what the procedure for further action is, and what that further action will be. The people next door, next time I hear anything from them, I'm getting in touch w/their landlord. Unfortunately, motherfucker round the back does not have a landlord - his mother owns the place.
I hate these people so much you wouldn't believe it.
We are thinking about trying to move house, maybe trying to move into a semi or a detached house, even a detached bungalow, even though my wife hates bungalows.
This is really ruining my life at the moment. I'm really, really down and depressed about it. I just don't know what to do.
― Pashmina (Pashmina), Sunday, 27 February 2005 11:35 (nineteen years ago) link
― Pashmina (Pashmina), Sunday, 27 February 2005 11:36 (nineteen years ago) link
― Pashmina (Pashmina), Sunday, 27 February 2005 11:39 (nineteen years ago) link
― kate/baby loves headrub (papa november), Sunday, 27 February 2005 11:42 (nineteen years ago) link
― kate/baby loves headrub (papa november), Sunday, 27 February 2005 11:44 (nineteen years ago) link
in the end it worked out ok for us cz the builders paid up — or rather, didn't contest when we subtracted the neighbours costs from their bill — but basically the neighbours got a bunch of free roof repair during the "making good" phase, plus free money on top
i have gone from thinking of her esp. as a slightly brittle fussy old busybody to a freeloader
(but when i think of my surges of anxiety in the situation, and put myself in her place — our block is eight flats, she just has a little house abutting on it, we dwarf her — i can imagine she got pretty bent out of shape anxiety-wise also: she is totally a worrier) (ie i think ours WAS more of a six of one half a dozen of the other — but i can only see that now the building works are LONG over)
"englishman's home is his castle" = border-dispute tends to turn into medieval war
― mark s (mark s), Sunday, 27 February 2005 11:50 (nineteen years ago) link
We went out for a walk, and both noticed something that's been niggling for a year or so - the place where we live has really fucking gone downhill in the last few years. When we moved here, it was this little backwater and most of the people who lived here were elderly. 12 years on, most of the old folk have died off, and the place has become a sought-after residential area for young couples first homes. House values have tripled, and even quadrupled in that time, and most of that value seems to have gone on in the last 4-5years. Paradoxically, this place is turning into a fucking shithole. there used to be almost no cars around, and the place was quiet, now there are over 100 cars parked round the back of out block, more cars than houses, I suspect, and a lot of them are hot hatches, wrxs etc. People use the place as a racetrack. Around about midnight, it's like a rush hour, plus people pull out of the side road beside our house w/wheelspins, burning rubber etc all day long. The field round the back is all chewed up w/tyre tracks. Noice pollution shit like I've been dealing w/would have been unheard of 7-8 years ago. Something kicks off about once every week-10days on the bus home, fights, blazing rows. What the fuck? An upside to this place is that the school is good, so we really need to stay here 'till Adam has finished his education (10-12 years) though not necessarily in this fucking house. I used to love living here, now I'm actually feeling pretty close to despair.
― Pashmina (Pashmina), Sunday, 27 February 2005 15:27 (nineteen years ago) link
― Pashmina (Pashmina), Sunday, 27 February 2005 15:30 (nineteen years ago) link
I feel like I'm in hell. Again, I just don't know what to do.
― Pashmina (Pashmina), Sunday, 27 February 2005 18:17 (nineteen years ago) link
this guy soudns like a fucking imbecile. what about an ASBO? how does that come about?
― ambrose (ambrose), Sunday, 27 February 2005 18:41 (nineteen years ago) link
― The Argunaut (sexyDancer), Sunday, 27 February 2005 18:44 (nineteen years ago) link
We (Jill and Me)talked about it 1/2 an hour ago. I'm going to attempt to take on a second job, and work my ass off, and then we're going to move, hopefully in 3ys or less? these people have driven us out of our home.
― Pashmina (Pashmina), Sunday, 27 February 2005 19:44 (nineteen years ago) link
I can see why gated communities are appealing now.
Thanks Ambrose. (&everyone else)
― Pashmina (Pashmina), Sunday, 27 February 2005 19:47 (nineteen years ago) link
― teeny (teeny), Sunday, 27 February 2005 19:49 (nineteen years ago) link
― Pashmina (Pashmina), Sunday, 27 February 2005 20:09 (nineteen years ago) link
Hopfully when we sell the place, it'll be to a total fucking psychopath w/a a black belt and a shotgun.
― Pashmina (Pashmina), Sunday, 27 February 2005 20:12 (nineteen years ago) link
― ambrose (ambrose), Monday, 28 February 2005 00:38 (nineteen years ago) link
As far as moving goes, this episode has opened my eyes to the state of our neighbourhood, as mentioned above. I really don't want to live here anymore.
My friend emailed me back, there is some possibility of work from him, so, you know... We'll see.
― Pashmina (Pashmina), Monday, 28 February 2005 12:07 (nineteen years ago) link
I have a little bit of experience here, as a member of my family was similarly bedevilled by noize probs.
1)Don't speak to them anymore - you have asked them to stop and they haven't.
2)Write every incident down with exact times and dates
3)Ask the council for recording equipment to be brought to provide a measurement of the actual level. They can also leave equipment with you for you to use. They will also send someone out to witness the noise.
4)After this they will write to them threatening prosecution. They will most likely ignore, so at this point the police will probably get involved.
As Ambrose says, get independant advice about what *should* happen, so that you can make sure that the council and the police are doing what they ought to.
(Alternative strategy - rig up all yr synths through HUGE P.A to create v.v. loud PROGDRONE which is directed at their house. Bricks and mortar crumble! hot hatches burst into flames! bowels rupture! eyeballs pop!)
― Dr. C (Dr. C), Monday, 28 February 2005 13:12 (nineteen years ago) link
You only get annoyed by something if you choose to be annoyed by it.
Get over it! This "OMG the neighbours make noise and now my life is DESTROYED and I'm DEPRESSED and ALL FUCKED UP" thing is the biggest wank I've ever heard.
Your life is only crap because you are choosing to allow it to be so. What a pathetic excuse.
― toraneko (toraneko), Monday, 28 February 2005 13:43 (nineteen years ago) link
― Ned Raggett (Ned), Monday, 28 February 2005 13:48 (nineteen years ago) link
Also, being patient implies that you are *waiting* for a particular outcome. Tolerance would be more useful in this situation.
― toraneko (toraneko), Monday, 28 February 2005 13:51 (nineteen years ago) link
― Dr. C (Dr. C), Monday, 28 February 2005 14:02 (nineteen years ago) link
― Markelby (Mark C), Monday, 28 February 2005 14:07 (nineteen years ago) link
― D. Flute, Monday, 28 February 2005 14:13 (nineteen years ago) link
― D. Flute, Monday, 28 February 2005 14:15 (nineteen years ago) link
― Pashmina (Pashmina), Monday, 28 February 2005 14:32 (nineteen years ago) link
― djdee (djdee2005), Monday, 28 February 2005 14:36 (nineteen years ago) link
I know it makes you blood boil, but step back, count to ten, try not to get too stressed (easier said than done, I know) and avoid any unnecessary confrontation. The advice Dr C has give is OTM, whatever happens now, play it by the book, let the authorities deal with it, it's their duty and responsibility to investigate it.
― Billy Dods (Billy Dods), Monday, 28 February 2005 17:01 (nineteen years ago) link
― Markelby (Mark C), Monday, 28 February 2005 17:04 (nineteen years ago) link
The Neighbours From Hell have escalated from having a loud party out in the garden every few months to doing it every weekend.
This past weekend was particularly bad - they were out until 2am on Saturday night, playing music in the garden really loud, bellowing along, shouting at one another at the tops of their voices.
You'd think they'd be too hungover to make much of a noise on Sunday night, wouldn't you? NO! They were out again last night until well after midnight, shouting and bellowing and making a racket until well after midnight.
I've left notes (we asked them to turn their music down the first time they did this, last year, and were greeted with verbal abuse and threats of violence for out trouble). I've called the Noise Nuisance hotline for the Council. My housemate is trying to get hold of their landlord.
I'm reaching the end of my tether. I moved out of Central London to the suburbs to GET AWAY from this kind of thing. I can't believe that any human being can be so inconsiderate and show so little respect for their neighbours. It wouldn't be so bad if they were in their own house, but they go out in the garden so the WHOLE NEIGHBOURHOOD has to be exposed to their noise. Sometimes they even have the radio on in their kitchen, turned up so loud that they can listen to it in their garden - never mind that the window for my room is CLOSER TO THAT RADIO than they are.
I don't know what else to do.
― MIS Information (kate), Monday, 11 July 2005 07:33 (eighteen years ago) link
― MIS Information (kate), Monday, 11 July 2005 07:37 (eighteen years ago) link
― Languid Top, Monday, 11 July 2005 09:15 (eighteen years ago) link
― tissp! (the impossible shortest specia), Monday, 11 July 2005 09:20 (eighteen years ago) link
Seeing as how I'm a musician and all, I should be the worst noise pest in the world, but I'm so TERRIFIED of being loud and disturbing people that I won't even play my stereo at all after 11pm.
― MIS Information (kate), Monday, 11 July 2005 09:23 (eighteen years ago) link
― tissp! (the impossible shortest specia), Monday, 11 July 2005 09:29 (eighteen years ago) link
― MIS Information (kate), Monday, 11 July 2005 09:30 (eighteen years ago) link
http://www.lambeth.gov.uk/Services/Environment/Pollution/NoiseControl.htm
They never bothered getting back to us. If it happens again, I'm not waiting until 1am to call, I'm calling the minute that they start up.
― MIS Information (kate), Monday, 11 July 2005 09:33 (eighteen years ago) link
Norman, what happened with your neighbours? Are they still being a nuisance or is that passed now?
― Billy Dods (Billy Dods), Monday, 11 July 2005 09:41 (eighteen years ago) link
I saw shithead's mother at the bus stop a couple of days after the argument. She was apologetic, and said it wouldn't happen again, and so far it hasn't. Last wintertime, the guy who has the allotment next to ours had a run in with shithead. His car got broken into, and there were a row of footprints leading back from the car to shithead's mother's house. Allotment man went to see shithead, shithead gave him attitude, so allotment man beat him down.
Jill spoke with shithead's mother a month or so ago, and she can't afford to run the place, because of shithead. She'll probably sell the place in a year or so. It's very sad, actually.
If he was my son, he'd have come home to find his bags packed and the locks changed years ago.
Another bunch of skeeves who live just up from us are in the process of moving out, so the place is perhaps looking up a bit at the moment.
What I have learned is this:
People who pull shit like this are inconsiderate fucktards w/massive entitlement issues, and reasoning with them is a waste of time. If you do not complain, they will escalate, like Kate's party a month turning into weekend of hell every week. If I am confronted with such issues in future, I will call the police out straightaway, write down incident numbers every time, contact the environmental health dept immediately, contact their landlords immediately if applicable, contact other local residents and see if they will do the same.
Kate, it is pointless to call the enviro health dept at midnight or 1am, you need to call during office hours, and speak to someone, describing your problems. Call the cops out on the fuckers EVERY TIME, and ask for/write down the incident/log number every time as well. Make a nuisance of yourself - hassle environmental health and their landlord/letting agents.
I feel for you about this, obv, having been in this situation. As a result of my trouble with fucking selfish morons, I have had to have anxiety management therapy. What pisses me off the most is that when I went to see the doctor, he didn't give a shit until I told him I had murderous feelings for shithead. What this tells me = I am officially worth less than the well-being of a selfish waster.
― Pashmina (Pashmina), Monday, 11 July 2005 10:55 (eighteen years ago) link
― no tech! (ex machina), Monday, 11 July 2005 11:25 (eighteen years ago) link
Thanks for the tips, Pash. Perhaps I'll pass the details on to my housemate since he is the houseowner and see if he can get anything out of them.
― MIS Information (kate), Monday, 11 July 2005 11:31 (eighteen years ago) link
― no tech! (ex machina), Monday, 11 July 2005 11:32 (eighteen years ago) link
I have never seen of experienced "happyslapping" or anti immigrant hysteria round here yet.
― Pashmina (Pashmina), Monday, 11 July 2005 11:37 (eighteen years ago) link
― tissp! (the impossible shortest specia), Monday, 11 July 2005 11:40 (eighteen years ago) link
The Bifta awards
― xelab, Thursday, 6 August 2015 21:27 (eight years ago) link
skunk tenancy
― imago, Thursday, 6 August 2015 21:33 (eight years ago) link
Fpd u for that
― Betsy DeVos Ayes (darraghmac), Saturday, 18 February 2017 02:52 (seven years ago) link
for the second time in my life i live above a guy who does loud religious singing a few times a day. for the second time in my life he's also a domestic abuser. go religion.
he sometimes comes up to tell us to "stop the heavy walking, i have a £5,000 chandelier and it's shaking from the way you guys walk" - i've tried, more for my own amusement than anything else, to introduce a sliver of self-awareness into his dire world by saying "the walls and ceilings are quite thin here, i can imagine that anyone making any noise would be extremely irritating for the entire apartment block" or "yes, we all have to consider how much unnecessary noise we make, or the strange habits we have which bother others" and he just reacts as if he's thinking "yes i'm glad you agree you are noisy". ultimately i've decided he's a fucking dick.
― Bein' Sean Bean (LocalGarda), Saturday, 18 February 2017 09:38 (seven years ago) link
I have some very annoying + dodgy neighbours, but nobody that intrusive and unreasonable. I think I would probably lose my self control in a situation like that, and it would degenerate into empty threats yelling and much innocuous shoving with no real follow up in no time!
― calzino, Saturday, 18 February 2017 12:36 (seven years ago) link
(xp)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s70y40ba7k8
― Eats like Elvis, shits like De Niro (Tom D.), Saturday, 18 February 2017 12:50 (seven years ago) link
yeah it is testing, sometimes i genuinely want to just tell him to go fuck himself, i'm not intimidated by him in the slightest, but i know that peace is important. he hasn't been around in a little while so i'm hoping he might have stopped. one morning last year he had a screaming argument with his brother, who was on the street outside roaring up "you're a fucking pussy, i'll fuck you in the ass you fucking pussy, come down here and i'll fuck you in the ass. you beat your wife, you insult my wife, you're a fucking coward, i'll fuck you in the ass, get down here."
i was fairly tempted to give the brother my key and let him at it.
― Bein' Sean Bean (LocalGarda), Saturday, 18 February 2017 12:59 (seven years ago) link
I find it quite comforting when my neighbour invites her despicable, beyond the pale sociopath male sibling around and every time he turns a happy social situation like a bbq or a pool party into a shitfest with much shouting and threats of violence, 8-way recriminations etc. I was just lying on the trampoline with a bottle of red and laughing my head off at some of the dialogue tonight. I don't mean it in a judgemental way, because I do actually have an affection for these ppl. And they do a sterling job of pissing off the same evil neighbours I can't stand. you do get these people on council estates with delusions of middle classiness, who are some of the real worst people amongst humanity in the uk right now IMHO
― calzino, Sunday, 6 May 2018 22:46 (six years ago) link
ah *wipes tear* yr description reminds me of dear ol mum
― .b derf (darraghmac), Sunday, 6 May 2018 22:48 (six years ago) link
did we ever get this sorted
― lbi's life of limitless european glamour (Le Bateau Ivre), Sunday, 6 May 2018 23:01 (six years ago) link
well idk about "we" but "i" moved
― .b derf (darraghmac), Sunday, 6 May 2018 23:02 (six years ago) link
at least your mam had the pretext of having to live with fucking giving birth to you as an excuse for being so! jokes obv !
― calzino, Sunday, 6 May 2018 23:04 (six years ago) link
harsh, fair, tru, joeks
― .b derf (darraghmac), Sunday, 6 May 2018 23:05 (six years ago) link
My neighbour has this Del-boy type business plan to find a cheap way of undercutting the people that install outdoor pools in peoples gardens. He invited me round to inspect his crudely nailed together crates on a badly mixed concrete base that is totally on the piss. I like his style though, but didn't have the heart to tell him how many holes there are in his plan. But I'm the smug twat who once 2nd fixed the spur on a £120 grand, granite font in an Anglican monastic church, so obv I know everything!
― calzino, Wednesday, 13 June 2018 21:22 (five years ago) link
He also has this partner in crime who swears every second word but still admonishes other people for swearing in front of his young daughter and said "if you fucking know anyone interested in having a garden pool, then fucking recommend us, man"
― calzino, Wednesday, 13 June 2018 21:28 (five years ago) link
i <3 calzino posts
― estela, Thursday, 14 June 2018 05:15 (five years ago) link
hes a terrible man in many of the good ways
― tired culché (darraghmac), Thursday, 14 June 2018 05:17 (five years ago) link
pure glee
― estela, Thursday, 14 June 2018 05:23 (five years ago) link
some crazy mofo is cutting their hedges at 00:37 GMT. There will be blood.
― calzino, Monday, 6 August 2018 23:38 (five years ago) link
ooof
― dele alli my bookmarks (darraghmac), Monday, 6 August 2018 23:45 (five years ago) link
I've got it wrong, it's Yorkshire Water doing midnight groundworks around the corner. The water went off for a few hours earlier. Sorry bad revive!
― calzino, Monday, 6 August 2018 23:50 (five years ago) link
if I ever completely lose the will to go on, I will start cutting my hedges at 2am though.
― calzino, Monday, 6 August 2018 23:52 (five years ago) link
kinda disappointed tbh
― dele alli my bookmarks (darraghmac), Monday, 6 August 2018 23:56 (five years ago) link
had a neighbour call around today complaining about noise. It was disappointing, because this is currently the quietest period I've had in years. I initially kept it polite, and when he started complaining about my partner being loud and swearing a lot loudly - I explained she hasn't even been in the house for over 3 and a half weeks and suffers from MS + dementia and is still in hospital after major surgery .. so you can't say you are still hearing her, dickhead. I did my theatrical hardman nonsense at this point which is blazing eye contact, followed by taking glasses off like I'm ready for action (lol I'm not really) and walking towards him .. and he ran off. I walked around to his front door and knocked on his door. I just wanted to clear the air and explain that there are different types of neighbour noise and stuff like autistics having meltdowns or confused people that suffer from dementia don't have a fucking volume control or a shutoff switch so it's out of my control, but he was hiding in there with curtains shut. I returned again later after I had calmed down and he still wouldn't come out, this was annoying because he approached me in a bullying manner is about 6"2 and absolutely shit it when I made it clear I was ready to knock the cunt to the deck!
― vodkaitamin effrtvescent (calzino), Friday, 3 November 2023 23:46 (six months ago) link
a problematic post, but anyone coming to my doorstep giving me unfair grief, right now I'm ready to put them on the deck very fast if all diplomatic options are exhausted
― vodkaitamin effrtvescent (calzino), Friday, 3 November 2023 23:55 (six months ago) link