what does it mean if you're seriously tempted to cheat on your long distance girlfriend?

As for your situation, its not that odd. You notice other women. Other women notice you. These things happen unless you try to make them not happen - not go out, become physically unattractive in every single way (very hard to do). The point being made throughout this thread, I think, is that you cannot take something external that is a relative constant to be a guage of your commitment, which is an internal thing. That's morally weak. Instead, determine why it is that you feel bad and/or weird about your interreactions, and get rid of that bad feeling.

So, as I am currently studying, my advised plan of attack:

1) If it is because you are simply having feelings that you are unused to having for someone other than your SO, be patient. New emotions ALWAYS feel odd. If these things continue to happen, or you have had them before and they are continuing to happen, see step 2.

2) If it is because you are afraid that you may do something and violate your SO's trust in you, you can either a) drop that trust as an obligation (break up) or b) don't violate the trust. If you are not afraid of cheating, see step 3.

3) If it is because you are horny, get porn. Porn is the savior of long-distance relationships.

I mean geez, WTF, is this anti-thinking day on ILX or something? That was only seven sentences! On the first relationship-question thread in ages that actually seems like it isn't made up! Apparently that and/or thinking Starship Troopers has subtext means you think you're Foucault or some shit.

yeah we decided to try being impulsive and unreasonable for a change

dan OTM. i'm not even gonna read the rest of the thread.

-- nabiscothingy

Starship Troopers doesn't have a subtext? My mind is permanently blown. After 5 mins of that movie, I was thinking 'hmmm, this subtext is a bit in yer face, but hey I can get used to it'.

for the record: i'm 3-4 hours away by car/bus/train. perhaps that's not long distance to some but surely it's at least mid distance?

fwiw right now i can't even imagine breaking up with her. for one thing, she'd be devastated.

i like starship troopers a lot. she hasn't seen it but probably wouldn't like it.

kinda OT but this alone is no reason not to break up with someone

dude that's NOTHING

that being said, there's been times that i've wanted to cheat just for the sake of seeing what it's like. that involves actively wishing that my relationship wasn't as solid as it is, so that i could justify doing it. what does that say about me?