― Archel (Archel), Thursday, 14 August 2003 09:22 (twenty years ago) link
― minna (minna), Thursday, 14 August 2003 09:23 (twenty years ago) link
I took the back way home a couple months ago, and drove right by the School for the Blind as hey were loading into their limos for prom. They were hot. I mean, all of them. Girls, guys... all of them looked like movie stars. I was stunned.
― Kenan Hebert (kenan), Thursday, 14 August 2003 09:26 (twenty years ago) link
i am outraged - i don't come here to be insulted
― Dave Stelfox (Dave Stelfox), Thursday, 14 August 2003 09:27 (twenty years ago) link
''as for public space, a friend of mine just got back from paris and she says the rules are very different there - the street, public transport, the park, anywhere really, are all seen as acceptable domains for the pursuit of 'dates'''
how nice. I'm definetely in the wrong side of the channel.
As far as the tube/park/ anywhere but bars: I don't think there is a a definite ans on the question of 'can you even ask?'. I think some girls might be ok with handling a situation like that whereas could be offended if someone asked. that's the way i'd think abt it but i've never done it. But that's the kind of thing that gives the fear.
― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Thursday, 14 August 2003 09:28 (twenty years ago) link
― Kenan Hebert (kenan), Thursday, 14 August 2003 09:28 (twenty years ago) link
― N. (nickdastoor), Thursday, 14 August 2003 09:46 (twenty years ago) link
i know i was being fatuous but thats the one i was after
― minna (minna), Thursday, 14 August 2003 09:49 (twenty years ago) link
― N. (nickdastoor), Thursday, 14 August 2003 09:51 (twenty years ago) link
Dick,There ain't much sw activity around O'Hare. I would check Mannheim between Belmont and North, there are occasional wsw's on that stretch in the early AM. Take a drive into the apartment area just north of Grand on the west side of Mannheim, I think that's where they come from. Albeit rare, but I usually see one once every couple weeks around there. Never the same one though.
I never get to Maywood, but I've heard that St. Charles Rd has some frequent bsw activity. (east of 1st Ave?).
― hoist, Thursday, 14 August 2003 09:53 (twenty years ago) link
― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Thursday, 14 August 2003 09:57 (twenty years ago) link
But if I were asking for help, I'm sure this would not be helping.
― David. (Cozen), Thursday, 14 August 2003 10:23 (twenty years ago) link
however, it can be a bit creepy if people are too lecherous on the tube or bus. just smile at someone first, to see if they're even interested in making eye contact.
― colette (a2lette), Thursday, 14 August 2003 13:05 (twenty years ago) link
If N. didn't consistently use this line, he would never date.
― Larcole (Nicole), Thursday, 14 August 2003 13:10 (twenty years ago) link
― Andrew Thames (Andrew Thames), Thursday, 14 August 2003 13:14 (twenty years ago) link
Meaning he does date? But you've always insisted otherwise.
― Ned Raggett (Ned), Thursday, 14 August 2003 13:36 (twenty years ago) link
― praying mantis (praying mantis), Thursday, 14 August 2003 13:38 (twenty years ago) link
― Andrew Thames (Andrew Thames), Thursday, 14 August 2003 13:41 (twenty years ago) link
― Don (Mikey G), Thursday, 14 August 2003 13:56 (twenty years ago) link
― Dave B (daveb), Thursday, 14 August 2003 14:05 (twenty years ago) link
― mark p (Mark P), Thursday, 14 August 2003 14:09 (twenty years ago) link
Like I say, fingers burnt myself, hope it's someone else mate.
― Dalston Boy (Mikey G), Thursday, 14 August 2003 14:17 (twenty years ago) link
― Ricardo (RickyT), Thursday, 14 August 2003 14:22 (twenty years ago) link
― RJG (RJG), Thursday, 14 August 2003 14:26 (twenty years ago) link
― Mikey G (Mikey G), Thursday, 14 August 2003 14:29 (twenty years ago) link
in what way is victoria to stokie a heart?
― CarsmileSteve (CarsmileSteve), Thursday, 14 August 2003 14:30 (twenty years ago) link
― Mikey G (Mikey G), Thursday, 14 August 2003 14:33 (twenty years ago) link
― Dave B (daveb), Thursday, 14 August 2003 14:36 (twenty years ago) link
― Mikey G (Mikey G), Thursday, 14 August 2003 14:41 (twenty years ago) link
i. one-way system at victoriaii. hyde park corner roundaboutiii. one-way system at piccadillyiv. one-way system at hackney central v. lea bridge roundabout
i, iii and iv are all heart-shaped, more or less (well less, really, but not as less as a roundabout is)
(also i + iii + iv = 8 which is the shape of two hearts forever intertwined)
― mark s (mark s), Thursday, 14 August 2003 14:47 (twenty years ago) link
I can never quite think of what to say.
''however, it can be a bit creepy if people are too lecherous on the tube or bus. just smile at someone first, to see if they're even interested in making eye contact.''
I have never seen anyone ask or try to chat up someone on the tube or bus. has anyone?
― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Thursday, 14 August 2003 15:23 (twenty years ago) link
a friend of mine got picked up in a parking lot. it was her apartment parking lot, and the guy lived there too, and they ran into each other and made small talk a couple of times before he asked her out though. that sort of scenario could be creepy though, especially at night.
― JuliaA (j_bdules), Thursday, 14 August 2003 15:51 (twenty years ago) link
― Dave B (daveb), Thursday, 14 August 2003 16:05 (twenty years ago) link
― can can, Friday, 15 August 2003 11:59 (twenty years ago) link
― Cozen (Cozen), Monday, 1 September 2003 10:16 (twenty years ago) link
― Cozen (Cozen), Monday, 1 September 2003 10:17 (twenty years ago) link
― Ronan (Ronan), Monday, 1 September 2003 10:28 (twenty years ago) link
― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Monday, 1 September 2003 10:41 (twenty years ago) link
― Andrew Thames (Andrew Thames), Monday, 1 September 2003 10:43 (twenty years ago) link
― Cozen (Cozen), Monday, 1 September 2003 10:50 (twenty years ago) link
― Andrew Thames (Andrew Thames), Monday, 1 September 2003 10:56 (twenty years ago) link
― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Monday, 1 September 2003 11:21 (twenty years ago) link
― Cozen (Cozen), Monday, 1 September 2003 11:24 (twenty years ago) link
― Cozen (Cozen), Monday, 1 September 2003 11:25 (twenty years ago) link
― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Monday, 1 September 2003 11:25 (twenty years ago) link
500 posts by tomorrow morning on this plz.
― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Monday, 1 September 2003 11:27 (twenty years ago) link
― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Monday, 1 September 2003 11:37 (twenty years ago) link
― Dave Stelfox (Dave Stelfox), Monday, 1 September 2003 11:58 (twenty years ago) link
I need a specific form of words to convey 'Am I your girlfriend or not' but not those exact words. And I need them not to scare the person off. I'm not planning to use them yet but keep them in abeyance for the right moment.
― ljubljana, Friday, 11 September 2009 10:41 (fourteen years ago) link
Why does it matter?
I'm not asking that facetiously, I'm wondering which part of girlfriendness you wish to ascertain your right to - and then ask that question instead.
Like, "Is this exclusive?" or "Is this short-term, or are you thinking longer?" or "Is this just sex, or is this emotional?"
OK, maybe those questions are even worse than "Am I yr girlfriend or not." But perhaps you could think which part of girlfriendness is important to you, and ask yourself if those needs are getting met or not.
― Evren Kader (Masonic Boom), Friday, 11 September 2009 10:46 (fourteen years ago) link
i think i overheard a coupla college kids out on a coffee date the other night, i'm not sure. it didn't sound very romantic, more like they were reviewing their sexual and drug use histories to determine whether they would sleep together
― j., Sunday, 19 July 2015 01:24 (eight years ago) link
#figuringOutHowToLive
― xyzzzz__, Sunday, 19 July 2015 09:15 (eight years ago) link
https://pbs.twimg.com/media/CLvMpBnVEAA5piw.png
makes u think
― mookieproof, Thursday, 6 August 2015 16:03 (eight years ago) link
A research scientist at Indiana University's Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction couldn't possibly be wrong about that, what with that classy Oxford comma and everything.
― Aimless, Thursday, 6 August 2015 17:31 (eight years ago) link
So like three weeks ago I was at a cafe, sitting next to v attractive and interesting woman who was on a date with some dude. I kept wistfully thinking "why can't I meet people like that", but then a week ago I saw her on OkCupid and immediately messaged her, and now am about to meet her this evening. Anyways, I'm not sure if telling her this story at some point (like, not immediately) would come across as a) totally endearing or b) totally creepy.
― EDB, Friday, 5 February 2016 22:53 (eight years ago) link
maybe after you marry her
― mookieproof, Friday, 5 February 2016 23:02 (eight years ago) link
I would very much like to know what became of EDB!
As shitty as dating via dating apps is, attempting it without one is a trial all its own. I've been "out" twice with this girl I had met before via shared interests but never really hung out with properly, took a chance and asked her to a film event (I know movies tend to make for the shittiest dates but it's the most obvious mutual touchstone as she has an advanced degree in film studies), a nice time was had but no firm followup plans were made, nor any outright overtures I could detect. Then we met up a second time a couple of days back - another movie, followed by drinks and about three hours of the most engaging conversation I'd had in a long time. On the way home (same direction), there's slightly more intimacy, but was it just the cocktails? Years of singlehood teaches you to doubt every potential sign. Anyway we have plans to catch Let the Sunshine In but it'll probably take at least two weeks since has a busy night-work schedule and I might lose my mind in the interim.
― Simon H., Saturday, 16 June 2018 01:58 (five years ago) link
this sounds very promising! just chill out and stop using words like 'touchstone' imo
you have and may continue to do cool things together! let the intimacy take care of itself
― mookieproof, Saturday, 16 June 2018 02:05 (five years ago) link
yeah I guess I shouldn't be so neurotic about it, it's just a natural side effect of not doing any real dating for basically a decade
― Simon H., Saturday, 16 June 2018 02:12 (five years ago) link
this sounds nice! ride the wave imo, wherever it leads seems like it'll be a good place
― flamenco blorf (BradNelson), Saturday, 16 June 2018 03:47 (five years ago) link
EDB is ed b. iirc?
― kelp, clam and carrion (sic), Saturday, 16 June 2018 04:13 (five years ago) link
ime this is never the case but I earnestly appreciate the optimism!!
― Simon H., Sunday, 17 June 2018 06:15 (five years ago) link
The ending of Let the Sunshine In should be a good lead in for drinks on a 3rd date.
― xyzzzz__, Sunday, 17 June 2018 09:49 (five years ago) link
Good luck Simon. sounds positive
― My name is the Pope and in the 90s I smoked a lot of dope (dog latin), Sunday, 17 June 2018 10:40 (five years ago) link
you can do it simon.
― homosexual II, Sunday, 17 June 2018 17:58 (five years ago) link
Go Simon!!!
I had a stellar day with a lady Friday and I look forward to the next time. I’m patient and not pushing things too hard but I take it as a good sign that she stayed up with me from early afternoon to midnight /)
― sunburst N snowblind (Ross), Sunday, 17 June 2018 18:17 (five years ago) link
I am about to tell you an epic tale about subterfuge, dating in the 21st century and the fall of human civilization. This actually happened to me and it could happen to you too. Get some popcorn. *Thread*— миша (@bvdhai) August 19, 2018
― mookieproof, Monday, 20 August 2018 17:45 (five years ago) link
completely nuts
PS my thing went nowhere lol
― wayne trotsky (Simon H.), Monday, 20 August 2018 17:46 (five years ago) link
saw that earlier via max tundra retweeting an ilxor, which felt weird
― imago, Monday, 20 August 2018 17:59 (five years ago) link
Max Tundra is extremely online
― 16, 35, DCP, Go! (sic), Monday, 20 August 2018 19:34 (five years ago) link
Emily Witt writes well on Feeld, online dating during and post- pandemic, with a couple of lines on Roe. All pretty well handled.
https://www.newyorker.com/culture/annals-of-inquiry/feeld-dating-app-sex
― xyzzzz__, Thursday, 11 August 2022 13:32 (one year ago) link
Though it could've been better if someone from The Queer community wrote it but that's not The New Yorker.
― xyzzzz__, Thursday, 11 August 2022 13:49 (one year ago) link
Nothing is enjoyable anymore.
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2023/jul/22/is-housing-crisis-killing-romance-modern-dating-jane-austen
― xyzzzz__, Saturday, 22 July 2023 11:32 (nine months ago) link
Obviously it's all very middle-class. Partners can't get out of abusive relationships due to scarcity of a safe, affordable space. But you can see this stuff extending through society.
― xyzzzz__, Saturday, 22 July 2023 12:07 (nine months ago) link
this has been "a thing" in the SF Bay Area for quite a while. ... the article definitely has that middle class focus, (to the point where I lost patience with it) but the housing crisis/relationship "stuck-ness" is harder on poorer people.
― sarahell, Saturday, 22 July 2023 15:38 (nine months ago) link
It's another category of gofundme campaign now ... along with "help pay medical bills" ... that is a clear example how broken "the system" is.
― sarahell, Saturday, 22 July 2023 15:40 (nine months ago) link
Sarahell otm. Of course everything is harder on poorer people, and one still hears the standard advice "well, then don't be poor."
― Some people call me Maurice Chevalier (Ye Mad Puffin), Saturday, 22 July 2023 15:52 (nine months ago) link
Yeah I couldn't finish that piece either.
― xyzzzz__, Saturday, 22 July 2023 17:52 (nine months ago) link