I am too old for this...the 40 plus thread.

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RJG is still standing better than he ever did
Looking like a true survivor, feeling like a little kid

-- kenan, Wednesday, 4 April 2007 18:16 (3 weeks ago)

― Bob Six, Sunday, 29 April 2007 23:07 (seventeen years ago) link

I wish I'd started earlier.

me too. esp when it turned out that one child was my limit. he's 11 I'm 49 no problem really but chasing after a toddler when I was 40 made me realize "uh now I know why people have kids in their 20s." of course I wouldn't have been any kind of good parent then. but I'm amazed at guys who become fathers in their 50s.

truth in advertising: I might be in denial about turning 50. Watch for an angst-filled thread come year's end.

― m coleman, Sunday, 29 April 2007 23:17 (seventeen years ago) link

I'm 50 and I'm fine.
Just sayin'.

― Beth Parker, Monday, 30 April 2007 00:40 (seventeen years ago) link

fine like wine?
or fine like silt?
or just ok

― danbunny, Monday, 30 April 2007 00:44 (seventeen years ago) link

http://i.imdb.com/Photos/Events/5971/FranDresc_Dimit_13557403_400.jpg
50

― danbunny, Monday, 30 April 2007 00:45 (seventeen years ago) link

I'm heading towards 40
No house, no kids, now not even a partner
Still trying to live like I'm 25
Some day this life will bite me on the arse.

I'm so depressed now.

― Trayce, Monday, 30 April 2007 00:48 (seventeen years ago) link

I wish I had a magic platitude to send you Trayce. I hope you get thru this shit, anyway.

― Noodle Vague, Monday, 30 April 2007 00:59 (seventeen years ago) link

Oh I'm ok, as Liz Fraser would say "I have my friends, my family, I have myself I still have me" - I'm orright, I just hate thinking about aging when I would quite like to live like a 20something for the rest of my days k thanks.

― Trayce, Monday, 30 April 2007 01:21 (seventeen years ago) link

Trayce you're plenty hot so quit yr whining, some of us can't seem to stop packin' on the lbs/kgs as we age

― Hans Rott, Monday, 30 April 2007 01:33 (seventeen years ago) link

Hey what makes you think I'm not! You shd see my beer gut.

― Trayce, Monday, 30 April 2007 01:36 (seventeen years ago) link

thread 4 the grown & sexy

― A B C, Monday, 30 April 2007 01:40 (seventeen years ago) link

I don't know T I looked you up on the "what do you look like" thread, you're gettin' off easy

― Hans Rott, Monday, 30 April 2007 01:42 (seventeen years ago) link

I have been doubling in size bi-monthly since I hit 35 O woe is me

― Hans Rott, Monday, 30 April 2007 01:46 (seventeen years ago) link

Actually I've just lost 6kg but being miserable'll do that. /goth.

― Trayce, Monday, 30 April 2007 01:49 (seventeen years ago) link

enjoy it while you can Trayce, when you get to 40 no amount of miserablism will prevent you from packing on the lbs or kgs as you prefer...take it from an ex-goth

― Hans Rott, Monday, 30 April 2007 01:55 (seventeen years ago) link

i am going to fucking rock 40

― rrrobyn, Monday, 30 April 2007 02:00 (seventeen years ago) link

i'm going to stay 39

― Noodle Vague, Monday, 30 April 2007 02:02 (seventeen years ago) link

I'm 49 no problem really but chasing after a toddler when I was 40 made me realize "uh now I know why people have kids in their 20s."
Haha, lovebug, I just put in a ginormous load of wash that had built up this week and then I couldn't remember whether I had added the soap or not. Now I am afraid that I put in a double shot and that when I open the washer door I will be greeted with a comedy spillout of suds.

― James Redd and the Blecchs, Monday, 30 April 2007 02:10 (seventeen years ago) link

38 at the end of next month, still no kids, no partner and no career.

WHEEEEEEEEEEE!

(I hate myself.)

― Oilyrags, Monday, 30 April 2007 02:10 (seventeen years ago) link

closer to 40 than 30 ... been so for the past 2+ years

;__;

― Eisbaer, Monday, 30 April 2007 02:19 (seventeen years ago) link

(no-one has trotted out "40 is the new 30" line yet, either ... hmmm)

― Eisbaer, Monday, 30 April 2007 02:26 (seventeen years ago) link

I don't even know what that's supposed to mean except for "LOLZERS GENXORZ SO SO IMMATUER!!!!!1!"

― Oilyrags, Monday, 30 April 2007 02:27 (seventeen years ago) link

Funny thing is I had this crisis at 30 and got over it pretty fast! And I dont *want* kids, but I dont exactly want to be a crazy cat lady either. Although hmm...

― Trayce, Monday, 30 April 2007 02:28 (seventeen years ago) link

http://www.dcist.com/attachments/dcist_michael/simpsons_CrazyCatLady.jpg

― Eisbaer, Monday, 30 April 2007 03:04 (seventeen years ago) link

Haw :D

― Trayce, Monday, 30 April 2007 03:11 (seventeen years ago) link

i just turned 39 and have a bad cold so i feel very old. blech.

― Mike McGooney-gal, Monday, 30 April 2007 03:15 (seventeen years ago) link

Seriously, this thread has me depressed nine ways from Sunday now.

― Trayce, Monday, 30 April 2007 03:18 (seventeen years ago) link

guys rjg has boobs

― river wolf, Monday, 30 April 2007 03:52 (seventeen years ago) link

^^^^ jerkstore

but rrrobyn is right, about rocking

― river wolf, Monday, 30 April 2007 03:58 (seventeen years ago) link

i had my mid-life crisis at 35, now i'm 40 with 3 kids but i ain't fat and still look pretty young. there is wisdom that comes with age, i don't fear the next 20 years at all - bring it on.

― gershy, Monday, 30 April 2007 04:06 (seventeen years ago) link

I'm looking to slowing down so then I'll make INSANE MISTAKES at a slower rate. Won't ever stop, but jeez, I won't have the time or speed to get into so many spills. That is the WISDOM I forsee in my future; if I grow some other brane/hart goodies by that time then all the better.

― Abbott, Monday, 30 April 2007 05:58 (seventeen years ago) link

Actually I've just lost 6kg but being miserable'll do that. /goth.

OTM...the Crippling Depression Diet was the only thing that ever dropped my pantsize. Hrmm harrumph.

I am sending well-wishes yr way...if I could get the 'clean kitchen fairy' to come wash up your kitchen while you sleep, I so would.

― Abbott, Monday, 30 April 2007 06:01 (seventeen years ago) link

Aw yr a darlin :)

― Trayce, Monday, 30 April 2007 06:02 (seventeen years ago) link

Yeah, the only time I've lost serious weight and got skinny was when the "love of my life" (or so I though at the time) dumped me. Of course, I was a miserable howling ball of depression, so could not capitalise on skinny goddess looks, instead sitting in my room being emo/goth with permanently red eyes and snottery nose.

Now I am a blob again. But a happy one.

Chin up, Trayce :-)

― ailsa, Monday, 30 April 2007 06:36 (seventeen years ago) link

Well, I'm 43, and in the autumn I'm getting married to a lovely woman and we'll be moving into a lovely new home, so basically I feel like I'm eighteen again, except with the added wisdom/hindsight of knowing how to avoid messing up... :-)

Physically I'm fully aware that I'm 43, but slowing down, rediscovering simple pleasures of life, etc., I treat as absolute positives rather than life-denying negatives - so yes, it's all good at the moment.

― Marcello Carlin, Monday, 30 April 2007 07:30 (seventeen years ago) link

I'm OK. (46)

I still feel ooh 25?

Xpost CONGRATS!!

― Mark G, Monday, 30 April 2007 07:32 (seventeen years ago) link

Yeah, congrats Marcello!

I didn't bring anyone down with this thread, I was just curious as to how others viewed being 40 and beyond. It's such an arbitrary number anyway.

― Ned Trifle II, Monday, 30 April 2007 08:09 (seventeen years ago) link

I turned 40 a couple of months ago.

My wife left me just over a year ago. I'm massively in debt. I can't stay out as late as I used to.

On the plus side, I'm still stimulated by life. I'm single, I still go to gigs, I still play football, I still buy pop records.

― Daniel Giraffe, Monday, 30 April 2007 08:22 (seventeen years ago) link

I'm 42. There are no doubt some benefits to being this age, but if I'm totally honest I'd so much rather be 32. As noted above, it's after 40 when you really start first noticing the physical decline. I don't have as much hair as I used to. My weight is under control, but even so I notice its distribution has changed - less muscle and more fat, a bit of a tummy that I never used to have. Don't have nearly as much energy as I used to have. I have a 2 year old son, whom I adore, and I am so happy that I had a child before it was too late. I guess I didn't really know how much I wanted to be a father until I was one. However, I really wish I'd started parenthood 10 years before, partly because we may now be too old to have any more children, partly because a 42 year old simply doesn't have the same energy. God knows how I'll cope when he's of an age when I have to run around and play football with him. I kind of curse the extended adolescence that seemed to stretch for me (and so many of my peers) into my mid-thirties. It's negatively affected a lot of things.

I'm struggling to see the upside of being this age - I guess I'm calmer, more accepting of other people, more accepting of myself, slightly better at what I do, slightly better off financially although still struggling. I'm not delirious with the joy of life, but I'm not unhappy either.

― underpants of the gods, Monday, 30 April 2007 09:10 (seventeen years ago) link

I'm 46. I'm lucky in a sense: In my twenties, I was 7 stone (I'm 6 ft 1) and was in and out of hospital through Crohns disease in 1987. Pumped full of prednisolone (which has several side-effects one of which acts as a 'preservative', the rest are not as nice to have) for about 2 years. So I'm thankful for still being alive (after fairly drastic surgery) and a consistent weight at 13 stone. Still have a full head of hair, a couple strands of grey (apparently), and can keep up with my kids unless they run full pelt up the street slip and fall over. (By the time I catch up to them, they've stopped crying usually).

― Mark G, Monday, 30 April 2007 09:34 (seventeen years ago) link

Only 3 years to go. I'm actually strangely looking forward to it.

Turning 30 was such a relief after the hellish hurricane that was my 20s. A friend on the other side told me "it's not that stuff doesn't suck, it just doesn't bother you anywhere near as much" and it was true.

So I expect the other side of 40 will be equally better. I still plan on staying "33" for a few more years, though. Biological age and stated age do not have to stay the same! After all, I was 22 for 11 years.

Some thing have sorted themselves out - career, homeowning, etc. Other things haven't sorted themselves out (lack of partner) but the older I get, the less pressure there is, in a way. I can just shrug and go "I'm old and ugly, and I don't have to worry about it any more. Wah hey! Shall I get some Dalmations?"

― Masonic Boom, Monday, 30 April 2007 09:43 (seventeen years ago) link

except with the added wisdom/hindsight of knowing how to avoid messing up... :-)

You'll have to let me in on the secret, Marcello!

God knows how I'll cope when he's of an age when I have to run around and play football with him.

You can go in goal!

Halfway thru the 40's, I can't say that I'd rather be younger. It would be tempting to travel back 10 years knowing what I know now and reclaim the extra decade, but I don't think I would even if I could. I was a real mess at 35, and while life can still be somewhat chaotic, I am a much happier, calmer person in general. Having teenage (well one is 14, one 12) children is utterly classic in every way. Physically I am still in great shape, although recovering from rugby knocks takes lots longer and I am probably in retirement now. I think I look OK, but I don't bloody well care if I don't!

― Dr.C, Monday, 30 April 2007 09:54 (seventeen years ago) link

I think I look OK, but I don't bloody well care if I don't!

This is definitely one of the upsides of getting past 40. You're not nearly so beholden to what other people think.

― underpants of the gods, Monday, 30 April 2007 10:03 (seventeen years ago) link

40 here. I dreaded and hated my birthday, but since I passed it, feel more relaxed, happy for what feels like a new chapter, more assured, somehow.

― Maria :D, Monday, 30 April 2007 10:36 (seventeen years ago) link

Doc you are so handsome it hurts to look at you. Damn you.

― Mark C, Monday, 30 April 2007 11:11 (seventeen years ago) link

I must thank Marcello and Daniel for making me feel 300% about getting older.I am not being sarky!

― Trayce, Monday, 30 April 2007 11:23 (seventeen years ago) link

The fact that so many of the best ILX posters are 40+ does make the future seem a lot less bleak (see also the parenting and gay threads - clearly the best people are old queers with kids)

― Mark C, Monday, 30 April 2007 11:28 (seventeen years ago) link

Mark OTM

― Trayce, Monday, 30 April 2007 11:30 (seventeen years ago) link

Trayce OTM

― Ned Trifle II, Monday, 30 April 2007 13:06 (seventeen years ago) link

The number of stupid things I no longer give a shit about is bracing.

― Dr Morbius, Monday, 30 April 2007 13:06 (seventeen years ago) link

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You kids today with your streaming services and

― Ned Raggett, Wednesday, 22 March 2017 23:35 (seven years ago) link

gonna imgur the fuck out of my case logics, one page at a time

― Not the real Tombot (El Tomboto), Wednesday, 22 March 2017 23:37 (seven years ago) link

wait they had the SAME guy play the human torch AND captain america? that's so dumb.

― scott seward, Wednesday, 22 March 2017 23:56 (seven years ago) link

it was a pretty boring dream :(

― Yoni Loves Chocha (VegemiteGrrl), Thursday, 23 March 2017 00:08 (seven years ago) link

tbh when i first heard jenny slate's name i thought is that . . . slate dot com's advice columnist?

i was not cool for not knowing the answer

― mookieproof, Thursday, 23 March 2017 00:11 (seven years ago) link

do any of you get that "ehhhh, what do you know, you're young/a kid/etc..." from people in their 60s or older? hate that shit. makes me irrationally angry. maybe i just don't look adult enough. but i'm almost 50...and my back hurts...

it has taught me to try and not do that to people younger than me. and just treat adults like adults. and not talk down to kids. but sometimes i slip up.

48 used to be ancient.

― scott seward, Thursday, 23 March 2017 00:14 (seven years ago) link

scott I think the right thing to do is to say "hey man, I'm sorry you had to grow up with lead paint and leaded gas, but I'm only 12 years younger than you - thanks for all you did to clean up the environment so we don't have to breathe that shit any more"

― Not the real Tombot (El Tomboto), Thursday, 23 March 2017 00:49 (seven years ago) link

ha, i do tend to get defensive. sometimes i'll ask them how old they are and then i'll say "eh, 66, that's not that old, i actually thought you were a lot older..."

― scott seward, Thursday, 23 March 2017 01:52 (seven years ago) link

this woman came in the store and she was so healthy looking and light on her feet and quick and i figured she was in her 70s and she told me she was 90! i couldn't believe it. and then she told me she had been a dance teacher. so, there you go, everyone start taking dance lessons.

― scott seward, Thursday, 23 March 2017 01:56 (seven years ago) link

http://i.imgur.com/Pz3n8l1.png

THEY'RE STILL BEING USED IN SHOE STORES. LOOK UNDER THE BENCH, IF YOUR BACK CAN HANDLE IT, OLD-TIMER.

― pplains, Thursday, 23 March 2017 02:07 (seven years ago) link

Had a 50something co-worker pedagogically explain to the rest of us in the newsroom the other day how LEVON HELM from near HELENA was in THE BAND.

― pplains, Thursday, 23 March 2017 02:10 (seven years ago) link

i have always thought that the whole "you're too young to remember that..." line of reasoning was the most demented thing on earth. i get it a lot obviously having to withstand countless boomers in my record store. but people really do believe that you had to be a certain age at a specific time to know what something is.

― scott seward, Thursday, 23 March 2017 02:30 (seven years ago) link

I am 40, and I know who Jenny Slate and Chris Evans are.

― tokyo rosemary, Thursday, 23 March 2017 02:32 (seven years ago) link

or more accurately they will say "you're too young to know who that is...". as if all knowledge of a person or thing just...stops?

it's all good though. it does teach me what not to do when talking to people.

― scott seward, Thursday, 23 March 2017 02:35 (seven years ago) link

unfortunately, i am at the age now where i think that most young actors are horrible and dumb and boring. which is kinda sad. broad city duo are heroes to me though. so i'm not a complete monster. there are definitely exceptions.

― scott seward, Thursday, 23 March 2017 02:49 (seven years ago) link

*makes old man breathing noises*

― calstars, Thursday, 23 March 2017 03:23 (seven years ago) link

I am 51, and I know who Jenny Slate and Chris Evans are.

― Elvis Telecom, Thursday, 23 March 2017 18:25 (seven years ago) link

I would think Morbz knows who Jenny Slate is cuz of Obvious Child

― Οὖτις, Thursday, 23 March 2017 18:26 (seven years ago) link

slate was great on Married and is seriously hot imo

― removed from the rain drops and drop tops of experience (ulysses), Thursday, 23 March 2017 18:40 (seven years ago) link

Publizity is the best.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZLMDcJxwkr0

― DJI, Thursday, 23 March 2017 20:14 (seven years ago) link

It's based on their names.

― Josh in Chicago, Thursday, 23 March 2017 20:24 (seven years ago) link

I'm 42 and I know it's based on their names.

― Josh in Chicago, Thursday, 23 March 2017 20:24 (seven years ago) link

I also like Mike Capuano

― Guayaquil (eephus!), Thursday, 23 March 2017 20:27 (seven years ago) link

Mike Capuano rules

― Rachel Luther Queen (DJP), Thursday, 23 March 2017 20:32 (seven years ago) link

is there a thread for comedy things for people that hate 99% of all comedy things?

― sarahell, Thursday, 23 March 2017 20:35 (seven years ago) link

The Lex probably started one somewhere.

― scott seward, Thursday, 23 March 2017 20:39 (seven years ago) link

Who hates comedy, it's funny.

― Josh in Chicago, Thursday, 23 March 2017 20:41 (seven years ago) link

"There are two kinds of comedy. Good comedy, and the other kind." - Duke Ellington

― Josh in Chicago, Thursday, 23 March 2017 20:42 (seven years ago) link

I would think Morbz knows who Jenny Slate is cuz of Obvious Child

I did not see that film because I saw the trailer.

― Supercreditor (Dr Morbius), Thursday, 23 March 2017 20:49 (seven years ago) link

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