Is it bad for a baby to see you masturbating?

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in the middle ages they burned witches but our stupid cultural conditioning ruined everything.

― Theorry Henry (Enrique), Monday, 5 December 2005 11:57 (7 years ago) Permalink

WHAT TEH FUCK ARE YUO DOING?!?!?

― Amity Wong (noodle vague), Monday, 5 December 2005 11:58 (7 years ago) Permalink

cannibalism is just social conditioning

― ken c (ken c), Monday, 5 December 2005 12:05 (7 years ago) Permalink

The baby might not know what's going on, but I'd worry about the motivation of the wanker.

― Mädchen (Madchen), Monday, 5 December 2005 12:08 (7 years ago) Permalink

i won't let loggedwaythefuckout or tuomas babysit for my children that's for sure.

― ken c (ken c), Monday, 5 December 2005 12:09 (7 years ago) Permalink

how are your children doing, ken?

― Theorry Henry (Enrique), Monday, 5 December 2005 12:11 (7 years ago) Permalink

They are still at the planning stage. The plans are still pretty basic, but does include 'not to be subjected to witnessing masturbation while an infant' as one of the several important points.

― ken c (ken c), Monday, 5 December 2005 12:15 (7 years ago) Permalink

fascist.

― Theorry Henry (Enrique), Monday, 5 December 2005 12:17 (7 years ago) Permalink

just another victim of social conditioning

― J.D. (Justyn Dillingham), Monday, 5 December 2005 12:30 (7 years ago) Permalink

Samuel Delany's "Heavenly Breakfast", a memoir about a year or so where he lived in a commune, points out the "dirty untold secret" that apparently baby scent is a crazy aphrodisiac. There is a description of a couple sleeping with the baby in their bed, and getting all hot and bothered, and having sex. And then (as I recall) feeling a bit weird about it, and realizing something about the baby was making them all horny, and deciding it was probably a natural enough reaction and not worrying about.

That said, while I doubt any harm whatsoever is going to come to a baby who watches someone masturbate, it's still easy enough to maintain a little privacy and put the baby (or yourself) elsewhere. The baby shouldn't have to watch you jerk off, you know? So, you know, why not? Especially if it isn't your baby.

― Casuistry (Chris P), Monday, 5 December 2005 12:53 (7 years ago) Permalink

(I'm not saying Delany's theory is right or wrong, mind you. I have no idea. I am not a babyologist.)

― Casuistry (Chris P), Monday, 5 December 2005 12:54 (7 years ago) Permalink

Especially if it isn't your baby.

I hadn't even thought of that...

If you're babysitting, just call the parents and ask them if it's okay.

― StanM (StanM), Monday, 5 December 2005 12:55 (7 years ago) Permalink

"Hi, Uncle Steve, I just wandered if it was... OK to... wank next to your baby?"

― Sick Mouthy (Nick Southall), Monday, 5 December 2005 13:07 (7 years ago) Permalink

Splashing around in that hot water with my woman, I began to get ideas, as they say. After a while I placed my body in such a position in the water that the baby could not see my hard-on.
I did this by going deeper and deeper in the water, like a dinosaur, and letting the green slime and dead fish cover me over.

― Øystein (Øystein), Monday, 5 December 2005 13:16 (7 years ago) Permalink

WTF???

"Hi, Uncle Steve, I just wandered if it was... OK to... wank next to your baby?" - this is making me roffle like a madman.

― Rumpie (lil drummer girl parumpumpumpu), Monday, 5 December 2005 13:20 (7 years ago) Permalink

You could play Freak On A Leash. Errr, that's a different thread, I guess. Seriously, ew, masturbating in the same room as your child?!? Of course the kid's not going to know what you're doing, but don't/would you feel uncomfortable wanking in his/her presence?

― Nathalie (stevie nixed), Monday, 5 December 2005 13:27 (7 years ago) Permalink

yeah, there's actually a lot of research on infant learning that suggests they're considerably more conscious than we usually think of them as being. Assuming this already happened, 1) you seriously need to learn to reign in your impulses and 2) it probably won't do any long term damage unless it becomes a habit. In the eyes of the law, of course, it'd count as child molestation and get you ten years, and not without reason.

― Banana Nutrament (ghostface), Monday, 5 December 2005 13:34 (7 years ago) Permalink

Children are most receptive to learning and absorbing new things between the ages of 0-5, yeah? WANK AWAY.

― Sick Mouthy (Nick Southall), Monday, 5 December 2005 13:38 (7 years ago) Permalink

'absorbing new things'

― ken c (ken c), Monday, 5 December 2005 13:40 (7 years ago) Permalink

thank you nick.

― ken c (ken c), Monday, 5 December 2005 13:40 (7 years ago) Permalink

It's an offense, yeah?

(I know I'm offended but you can do time for it?)

― Rumpie (lil drummer girl parumpumpumpu), Monday, 5 December 2005 13:41 (7 years ago) Permalink

Not sure if it's bad but it's definitely funny.

― teeny (teeny), Monday, 5 December 2005 13:44 (7 years ago) Permalink

Of course it's not bad, but I think it's just ICKY.

― Nathalie (stevie nixed), Monday, 5 December 2005 13:50 (7 years ago) Permalink

Actually, fuck it, I think it's bad.

― Nathalie (stevie nixed), Monday, 5 December 2005 13:58 (7 years ago) Permalink

Really bad.

― Nathalie (stevie nixed), Monday, 5 December 2005 13:58 (7 years ago) Permalink

EVIL!

― Nathalie (stevie nixed), Monday, 5 December 2005 13:59 (7 years ago) Permalink

Do you have the kid on a leash while you're masturbating?

― Nathalie (stevie nixed), Monday, 5 December 2005 13:59 (7 years ago) Permalink

If so, double ew with yuck on top.

― Nathalie (stevie nixed), Monday, 5 December 2005 13:59 (7 years ago) Permalink

I'm hyperventilating now.

― Nathalie (stevie nixed), Monday, 5 December 2005 14:00 (7 years ago) Permalink

With excitement!

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Monday, 5 December 2005 14:02 (7 years ago) Permalink

doing it with the dog looking is the worst. Every time you look over they look away and pretend their not watching.

― aylene (Dorca), Monday, 5 December 2005 14:03 (7 years ago) Permalink

red rocket!

― Øystein (Øystein), Monday, 5 December 2005 14:11 (7 years ago) Permalink

Actually I'm PANTING. Shit, what about masturbating when you're PREGNANT? You keep on running away from the baby while trying to get yer rocks off.

― Nathalie (stevie nixed), Monday, 5 December 2005 14:14 (7 years ago) Permalink

First of all, even if the baby was conscious of what's happening and if was close enough to actually see what the person is doing (both big ifs), it would have no idea of what masturbation is, so all it would see is someone moving his/her hand. You all seem to be saying that it feels weird for someone to wank with a baby in his/her presence, which is probably true, but that's only because of the culture and time-dependent ideas that, a) masturbation is wrong, or at least kinda yucky, and b) children and sexuality should be in no contact with each other, even if the child in question would be in no way affected by what's happening.

Is it wrong for a couple to have sex while their baby is sleeping in the same room, knowing that the baby might wake up? Or if the baby isn't sleeping at all? Or for a couple to have sex in their bedroom, with their children sleeping in adjoining room, even though they might wake up and hear the noises? How are these things different from the original poster's question?

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Monday, 5 December 2005 14:27 (7 years ago) Permalink

First of all, even if the baby was conscious of what's happening and if was close enough to actually see what the person is doing (both big ifs), it would have no idea of what masturbation is, so all it would see is someone moving his/her hand.

You forgot that it could have sperm in his eye.

EW!

I'm trying to think of all the posters who recently became a parent.

― Nathalie (stevie nixed), Monday, 5 December 2005 14:30 (7 years ago) Permalink

How do kids get siblings, then? Not just by anniversaries to hotel rooms?

― mark grout (mark grout), Monday, 5 December 2005 14:31 (7 years ago) Permalink

'someone just moving his/her hand'

up and down their COCK.

― Theorry Henry (Enrique), Monday, 5 December 2005 14:32 (7 years ago) Permalink

When I was a kid I did hear my parents have sex on several occasions, and once I walked into their bedroom while they were doing it, but I don't think it ruined my life in any way. And I was old enough to be conscious of what they were doing, unlike a less than a year old baby.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Monday, 5 December 2005 14:32 (7 years ago) Permalink

it would have no idea of what masturbation is, so all it would see is someone moving his/her hand.

with their genitals growing bigger and then stuff squirting out of it.

anyway i think the worst part is you knowing the baby being there and still doing it. i mean, that's like sick. it's almost as bad as shagging in a room where there's a huge photo of your parents somewhere in it.

― ken c (ken c), Monday, 5 December 2005 14:33 (7 years ago) Permalink

but I don't think it ruined my life in any way.

dude i think it has.

― ken c (ken c), Monday, 5 December 2005 14:33 (7 years ago) Permalink

'someone just moving his/her hand'
up and down their COCK.

And you think an infant of that age has some conception of what such movement means? I was at least ten before I learned it.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Monday, 5 December 2005 14:34 (7 years ago) Permalink

I mean, people's reaction seems to be, "Eww, this is wrong!" without questioning themselves why they think it's wrong.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Monday, 5 December 2005 14:35 (7 years ago) Permalink

ok, moving beyond vanilla stuff, would pissing/a2m/etc be ok in front of a child, 'because it woudln't understand'?

― Theorry Henry (Enrique), Monday, 5 December 2005 14:36 (7 years ago) Permalink

What's "A2M"? And what do you mean by pissing?

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Monday, 5 December 2005 14:39 (7 years ago) Permalink

i just had a thought about why or how it is wrong and i think i've pinned it down to mainly growing a boner and pulling it out and choking it out while you are in the room with a baby. i mean. it isn't whether the baby knows what you're doing, it's whether you know what you're doing.

― ken c (ken c), Monday, 5 December 2005 14:40 (7 years ago) Permalink

it's kind of disrespectful to say the least, unless you're saying infants don't deserve respect.

do you think it's alright to be whacking one off in an intensive care ward next to someone in a coma?

― ken c (ken c), Monday, 5 December 2005 14:43 (7 years ago) Permalink

Yes, that what I meant by saying that the reaction people get is caused by cultural conditioning. In other times sexuality with children present, even children old enough to comprehend what's going on, was not such a taboo.

(x-post)

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Monday, 5 December 2005 14:44 (7 years ago) Permalink

so sex with 12-year-old boys is ok, as per ancient greece, tuomas?

― Theorry Henry (Enrique), Monday, 5 December 2005 14:46 (7 years ago) Permalink

Can you be disrespectfl towards someone who doesn't know his moralities are being offended? Or towards someone who doesn't have any sort of morality yet?

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Monday, 5 December 2005 14:46 (7 years ago) Permalink

is mandatory female circumcision ok, because it's just a matter of culturation?

― Theorry Henry (Enrique), Monday, 5 December 2005 14:46 (7 years ago) Permalink

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is it bad for you to see your baby masturbating?

― Zeno, Friday, 11 September 2009 19:31 (3 years ago) Permalink

via iphone = in the process?

― Akon/Family (Merdeyeux), Friday, 11 September 2009 19:32 (3 years ago) Permalink

11 months pass...

is it bad for a baby on television to see you masturbating?

― funky brewster (San Te), Sunday, 29 August 2010 12:18 (2 years ago) Permalink

is it bad for a baby NOT to see you masturbating?

― dayo, Sunday, 29 August 2010 13:02 (2 years ago) Permalink

is it bad for masturbating for you to see a baby?

― I.C.P. Freely (bernard snowy), Sunday, 29 August 2010 16:21 (2 years ago) Permalink

is it bad for Dancing Baby to see you masturbating?

― Carmine Dirtnap from North Arlington (Eisbaer), Sunday, 29 August 2010 16:51 (2 years ago) Permalink

how is dancing babby formed

― glutinous maximus (corey), Sunday, 29 August 2010 17:10 (2 years ago) Permalink

Is it bad for a baby portabella to see you masturbating?

― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Sunday, 29 August 2010 17:21 (2 years ago) Permalink

is it bad for masturbating for you to see a baby?

um YES

― Trouble-Making Foods (HI DERE), Sunday, 29 August 2010 17:35 (2 years ago) Permalink

you're just culturally conditioned to believe that

― funky brewster (San Te), Sunday, 29 August 2010 18:00 (2 years ago) Permalink

So it only took 5 years for this board to turn into "A Serbian Film"

All thing considered, that's an eternity in Internet tine so congrats to us all for staving off hell for that long.

― Trouble-Making Foods (HI DERE), Sunday, 29 August 2010 18:19 (2 years ago) Permalink

is it bad for masturbating babies to see?

― funky brewster (San Te), Sunday, 29 August 2010 18:25 (2 years ago) Permalink

what a thread

― diamonddave85, Sunday, 29 August 2010 20:30 (2 years ago) Permalink

Uh wow. No, help.

― seandalai, Monday, 30 August 2010 00:19 (2 years ago) Permalink

cultural conditioning has its points.

― Theorry Henry (Enrique), Monday, December 5, 2005 6:49 AM (4 years ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

lol

― horseshoe, Monday, 30 August 2010 00:30 (2 years ago) Permalink

only if it is the correct conditioning.

― rage for the machine (banaka), Monday, 30 August 2010 00:32 (2 years ago) Permalink

Also, this thread needs an overbearing Brooklyn father to come up, cuff it on the back of the head and say, "Jeeeesus Christ, what the FUCK is wrong with you?"

― M@tt He1geson (Matt Helgeson), Monday, December 5, 2005 2:19 PM (4 years ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

― horseshoe, Monday, 30 August 2010 00:36 (2 years ago) Permalink

4 months pass...

Is it bad for dick cheney to see you masturbating

― show me your ticks (San Te), Monday, 24 January 2011 20:41 (2 years ago) Permalink

1 year passes...

During your baby's first month, she can focus only about 20cm to 30cm away

― the late great, Friday, 11 May 2012 02:30 (1 year ago) Permalink

what if it's a boy?
i bet you he could see further. because boys are better. it's science.

― Porto for Pyros (The Cursed Return of the Dastardly Thermo Thinwall), Friday, 11 May 2012 04:28 (1 year ago) Permalink

"He was in and out and round about, doing this sort of thing all over the house, "

Impossible not to imagine this sentence as a lyric

― Race Against Rockism (Myonga Vön Bontee), Friday, 11 May 2012 06:26 (1 year ago) Permalink

During your baby's first month, she can focus only about 20cm to 30cm away

will make the future repressed memories of a shuffling blur moaning to itself in Finnish all the more mysterious

― like Joe Pasquale and Gandhi (Noodle Vague), Friday, 11 May 2012 06:30 (1 year ago) Permalink

It's the rest of the song I worry about...

xpost You know what? The one big ILX fallacy (oo-er) is that Tuomas was the original poster...

― Mark G, Friday, 11 May 2012 06:31 (1 year ago) Permalink

i was trying to get at that if the baby can see you you're doing it too close to the baby

― the late great, Friday, 11 May 2012 06:32 (1 year ago) Permalink

http://efukt.com/20614_Babysitting_Fail.html

― dylannn, Friday, 11 May 2012 07:24 (1 year ago) Permalink

ok, moving beyond vanilla stuff, would pissing/a2m/etc be ok in front of a child, 'because it woudln't understand'?
― Theorry Henry (Enrique), Monday, December 5, 2005 9:36 AM (6 years ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

― Boris Kutyurkokhov (Eisbaer), Saturday, 12 May 2012 02:06 (1 year ago) Permalink

3 months pass...

― buzza, Friday, 31 August 2012 03:04 (8 months ago) Permalink

this simon guy

― dylannn, Friday, 31 August 2012 03:33 (8 months ago) Permalink

buncha squares

― call all destroyer, Friday, 31 August 2012 03:38 (8 months ago) Permalink

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