― ken c (ken c), Tuesday, 19 October 2004 08:54 (nineteen years ago) link
obv Slsk's not actually a dating service, so perhaps not relevant to the question.
― Colonel Poo (Colonel Poo), Tuesday, 19 October 2004 09:04 (nineteen years ago) link
― Alba (Alba), Tuesday, 19 October 2004 09:14 (nineteen years ago) link
then select "Download to bedroom"
ha ha ha. Sorry.
we met back in those distant times when the chat rooms weren't full of 12 year olds going "U R ALL GAY". although I seem to remember that I was very drunk and being slightly abusive myself at the time...
it was only a matter of time before we were downloading all over each other.
― Colonel Poo (Colonel Poo), Tuesday, 19 October 2004 09:36 (nineteen years ago) link
― electro-acoustic lycanthrope (orion), Monday, 22 May 2006 14:24 (seventeen years ago) link
― gear (gear), Monday, 22 May 2006 14:30 (seventeen years ago) link
― Dom Passantino (Dom Passantino), Monday, 22 May 2006 14:34 (seventeen years ago) link
― Nathalie (stevie nixed), Monday, 22 May 2006 14:59 (seventeen years ago) link
consumatinghttp://consumating.com/
― DJ Martian (djmartian), Monday, 22 May 2006 15:03 (seventeen years ago) link
― not-goodwin (not-goodwin), Monday, 22 May 2006 15:03 (seventeen years ago) link
― Dom Passantino (Dom Passantino), Monday, 22 May 2006 15:08 (seventeen years ago) link
― Laurel (Laurel), Monday, 22 May 2006 15:11 (seventeen years ago) link
I posted a new ad on a dating site yesterday, though I don't have high hopes about it. But I'm tired of trying to find company in pubs, and I'm not even that good at it. Previously all I've gotten out of net dating is a couple of short relationships and some casual sex. You hear all these stories about how people met each other online, but personally I know only one person who's found a long-term relationship through Internet dating, and even they broke up. So does that really happen?
― Tuomas, Thursday, 19 July 2007 10:53 (sixteen years ago) link
Some ILXors are married to each other, aren't they? So yeah! (others have broken up too, though)
― StanM, Thursday, 19 July 2007 10:55 (sixteen years ago) link
my uncle just married a woman he met online, she moved clear across the country and has been living with him for the past 5 years. so there you go.
― marmotwolof, Thursday, 19 July 2007 10:57 (sixteen years ago) link
Yeah, but they met through ILX, right, not through a dating site.
― Tuomas, Thursday, 19 July 2007 10:57 (sixteen years ago) link
(x-post)
― Tuomas, Thursday, 19 July 2007 10:58 (sixteen years ago) link
ILX isn't a dating site?
AW GOD, WHAT HAVE I BEEN DOING WASTING SO MUCH TIME ON HERE, ARGH, ACK!
― Masonic Boom, Thursday, 19 July 2007 10:58 (sixteen years ago) link
I have even more time for Colonel Poo now!
― kv_nol, Thursday, 19 July 2007 11:07 (sixteen years ago) link
Lucky Poo!
― StanM, Thursday, 19 July 2007 11:25 (sixteen years ago) link
i joined gu4rd14n s0ulm4t35 very soon after i found out that a really really lovely and very well suited couple i'd been hanging out with a fair bit, met on there.
i can't call it a success, as such - i've been pretty passive and only met one person IRL and it was a bit of a disaster - but it's fun anyway and probably actually worth the cash.
― CharlieNo4, Thursday, 19 July 2007 11:29 (sixteen years ago) link
Tuomas, it's like meeting in (ahem) real life: people meet, they sometimes marry, they sometimes break up. The chances of it being more successful are the same.
― nathalie, Thursday, 19 July 2007 11:34 (sixteen years ago) link
How much did you pay her, Charlie? :-)
― StanM, Thursday, 19 July 2007 11:41 (sixteen years ago) link
*applause*
― CharlieNo4, Thursday, 19 July 2007 13:52 (sixteen years ago) link
Mr. Jaq and I met through a local on-line dating site, almost exactly 7 years ago. It shut down a few months after we met, but revived about a few years ago - they still had my ad in the database and asked if I wanted to leave it up. Uhm, no, thanx though. http://www.singlesinseattle.com/ - looks like it's free for Seattle people.
― Jaq, Thursday, 19 July 2007 14:18 (sixteen years ago) link
My husband and I met online although it wasn't through a dating website. We both had online journals and met through them in 2001. I moved to England to live with him from 2003-2005 and he's been here with me in the US since we got married a year ago on Monday!
― ENBB, Thursday, 19 July 2007 18:23 (sixteen years ago) link
Also, I do know of one horror story. A friend of mine in England met a man from Montreal on the same site that L and I met on. They dayted for a while with him traveling to the UK to visit and daily expensive calls etc. About six months into it, she got a call from his WIFE. Pretty much every single thing he'd told her was a lie. It was awful.
― ENBB, Thursday, 19 July 2007 18:25 (sixteen years ago) link
The woman that sits opposite me at work spends most of her time searching online dating sites, particular
http://www.parship.co.uk/ and http://www.sugardaddie.com
The latter is quite something.
― Dom Passantino, Tuesday, 4 December 2007 13:18 (sixteen years ago) link
i trust you have already set up an account on both sites to flirt with her?
― ken c, Tuesday, 4 December 2007 13:46 (sixteen years ago) link
-- Tuomas, 19. heinäkuuta 2007 13:53 (4 months ago) Bookmark Link
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In the end all this ad lead to was casual sex an a short relationship again, so I'm still not convinced about Internet dating.
― Tuomas, Tuesday, 4 December 2007 13:46 (sixteen years ago) link
-- ken c, Tuesday, 4 December 2007 13:46 (1 minute ago) Bookmark Link
Man, if only I had that much hate in my heart these days, that'd be pretty lulz.
― Dom Passantino, Tuesday, 4 December 2007 13:48 (sixteen years ago) link
perhaps you should try http://www.parship.co.uk?
― ken c, Tuesday, 4 December 2007 13:49 (sixteen years ago) link
Also, I'm kinda wondering, what sort of a people answer your ad, meet up with you, clearly enjoy your company, have sex with you, but soon after call the whole thing off? Sometimes I feel like I'm being used here...
(xx-post)
― Tuomas, Tuesday, 4 December 2007 13:53 (sixteen years ago) link
And before someone cracks a joke about it, no, I don't think I'm that bad in bed.
― Tuomas, Tuesday, 4 December 2007 13:54 (sixteen years ago) link
maybe you should try not having sex with them next time and see what happens.
― ken c, Tuesday, 4 December 2007 13:56 (sixteen years ago) link
I met my current bf on an internet dating site. He was the first person I corresponded with on there, and the only one I met in person. He's lovely. I wouldn't call it long term just yet but I expect it will be.
― gem, Tuesday, 4 December 2007 13:57 (sixteen years ago) link
Also, I'm kinda wondering, what sort of a people answer your ad, meet up with you, clearly enjoy your company, have sex with you, but soon after call the whole thing off?
They're called "boys".
― Laurel, Tuesday, 4 December 2007 14:45 (sixteen years ago) link
and "girls" in the cases where a vagina is present.
― ken c, Tuesday, 4 December 2007 15:02 (sixteen years ago) link
much new information to process here
― blueski, Tuesday, 4 December 2007 15:07 (sixteen years ago) link
internet dating feels weird and unnatural.
― burt_stanton, Tuesday, 4 December 2007 15:15 (sixteen years ago) link
but strangely so good.
― ken c, Tuesday, 4 December 2007 15:17 (sixteen years ago) link
a bit like deep throating.
― ken c, Tuesday, 4 December 2007 15:18 (sixteen years ago) link
Oh no, they've been boys all along?! I guess guys these days are very good at hiding their penis then.
― Tuomas, Tuesday, 4 December 2007 15:18 (sixteen years ago) link
they probably pulled it back between their legs and you were having sex with the resulting cleavage formed just above their penis.
― ken c, Tuesday, 4 December 2007 15:21 (sixteen years ago) link
OMG
― Ste, Tuesday, 4 December 2007 15:22 (sixteen years ago) link
ken stop being crass and accept my add
― Just got offed, Tuesday, 4 December 2007 15:23 (sixteen years ago) link
facebook is being silly buggers. also: we haven't even met yet!
― ken c, Tuesday, 4 December 2007 15:32 (sixteen years ago) link
accept my ADD more like amicorrect?
― blueski, Tuesday, 4 December 2007 15:33 (sixteen years ago) link
look a tree!
ken we shall doubtless meet this xmas hol, and besides, your richie edwards tribute has entered my very soul
― Just got offed, Tuesday, 4 December 2007 15:39 (sixteen years ago) link
I'll think about it when i get home later.
accept my ADD more like amicorrect? this was funny!
― ken c, Tuesday, 4 December 2007 15:44 (sixteen years ago) link
Given up. Deleted my profile. Time to invest in some cats.
― Sneaky Sneaky Prog Friend (Masonic Boom), Saturday, 28 February 2009 11:17 (fifteen years ago) link
I've had surprising success by switching over to craigslist, since I live in a city where it's so popular. I just use a funny title, do the 'your pic/myspace gets mine', and include a funny pic of Obama in there along with a pic of a really fat bunny rabbit.
― kingfish, Saturday, 28 February 2009 16:33 (fifteen years ago) link
I still kind of think that there has to be some kind of middle ground between honestly looking for love online and giving up and paying for pussy.
― oilyrages (libcrypt), Saturday, 28 February 2009 16:43 (fifteen years ago) link
everybody pays for pussy in one way or another
― yur twit (tehresa), Saturday, 28 February 2009 16:55 (fifteen years ago) link
lol tza
― just1n3, Saturday, 28 February 2009 17:39 (fifteen years ago) link
free vs cheap
― kingfish, Saturday, 28 February 2009 18:10 (fifteen years ago) link
i've just registered nadcabinfever.com― o_O (ken c), Friday, 13 February 2009 12:23 (2 years ago)
― o_O (ken c), Friday, 13 February 2009 12:23 (2 years ago)
it has now expired :(
― Eto'o ))) (ken c), Tuesday, 15 February 2011 11:10 (thirteen years ago) link
Finally, a woman who enjoys mind games
― Alba, Saturday, 12 March 2011 18:44 (thirteen years ago) link
ws
― Elegant Bitch (Jimmy The Mod Awaits The Return Of His Beloved), Saturday, 12 March 2011 18:45 (thirteen years ago) link
I think she'd unnerve me more if I didn't have this enormous boner.
― fields of salmon, Saturday, 12 March 2011 19:09 (thirteen years ago) link
http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/web03/2012/6/4/15/enhanced-buzz-12766-1338839487-0.jpg
more here
― Darin, Tuesday, 5 June 2012 19:23 (eleven years ago) link
Can I ask for a S/D (or any sage advice) as a 24 year old virgin who wants to gain experience, NSA or otherwise. e.g. sites? local vs. global sites? Sites for students, specifically grad students (to find people of equal obnoxiousness, of course)? Etiquette tips? Etc.
(For the record I am not especially unattractive or uninteresting, but am kind of picky in my taste.)
Thanks.
― EDB, Wednesday, 25 July 2012 18:25 (eleven years ago) link
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=euvUezZwAKg
― TracerHandVEVO (Tracer Hand), Wednesday, 22 October 2014 10:27 (nine years ago) link
recently broke up with my gf so thought i would try match.com, but lots of members dont seem to be paid up so cant email you (could of course just be they just dont want to, but i keep getting asked after sending messages if i want to upgrade so non paying members can email me), theres constant offers of add-ons you have to pay for, and weirdly (or cleverly i suppose), i got more views the day i joined *before* paying, then after. at this point, the concept of channel 4's nakedattraction seems easier.
― StillAdvance, Wednesday, 27 July 2016 11:44 (seven years ago) link
internet dating still feels uncomfortably like shopping to me so I am making peace with dying alone
― tumtum mahout (Noodle Vague), Wednesday, 27 July 2016 12:00 (seven years ago) link
im thinking joining groups/activities might be a better option than online dating.
― StillAdvance, Wednesday, 27 July 2016 12:14 (seven years ago) link
You know, this thing of blocking someone on a dating site after they make an innocuous, innuendo-free comment to introduce themselves is straight bullshit.
(I needed to be able to say this somewhere.)
― The Harsh Tutelage of Michael McDonald (Raymond Cummings), Thursday, 4 January 2018 03:58 (six years ago) link
it is bullshit but it also goes with the territory I'm afraid
― Simon H., Thursday, 4 January 2018 04:04 (six years ago) link
xp nothing personal i’m sure
― the late great, Thursday, 4 January 2018 04:06 (six years ago) link
I guess? I've just started on a site for the first time in almost 20 years. It takes some getting used to.
― The Harsh Tutelage of Michael McDonald (Raymond Cummings), Thursday, 4 January 2018 04:17 (six years ago) link
what set them off? 'hey good lookin what you got cookin'???
― j., Thursday, 4 January 2018 04:29 (six years ago) link
ime that kind of blocking is not bullshit but just sth you have to get used to and accept. they don't owe you their time or a response and on some sites blocking may be the most efficient way to take someone out of their search results that they're not interested in seeing again. may seem harsh but think of it as someone at a bar who just isn't interested in talking. anyway getting used to doing this same kinda thing myself, n not agonizing over the writing of polite rejections or w/e, has made using okc much much more viable for me over the years, idk.
― Newb Sybok (Doctor Casino), Thursday, 4 January 2018 05:06 (six years ago) link
Yeah, I can see that. Just new to this, and hadn't encountered it anywhere else on social media. But, DC, your comparison makes sense.
― The Harsh Tutelage of Michael McDonald (Raymond Cummings), Friday, 5 January 2018 00:57 (six years ago) link
(My initial messages are always either a) boring, "hi there" or "hello" or "we're a match here, how about that?" pablum or b) a genuine question based on the profile, because I suck at this medium. But I have met a few nice ladies to talk to.)
― The Harsh Tutelage of Michael McDonald (Raymond Cummings), Friday, 5 January 2018 01:02 (six years ago) link
the numbers don't really favor men seeking women, and it opens the door to being treated dismissively, which feels bad.
on the flipside, as a man talking to women, you are way less likely to get gross or abusive messages than a woman would be talking to a man.
in conclusion, everyone feels dehumanized by these programs, to varying extents.
― treeship 2, Friday, 5 January 2018 03:24 (six years ago) link
I've never done internet dating, but have heard many many horror stories of men getting abusive after being rejected, and whether or not their initial messages are polite/friendly/"normal" seems to have no bearing on how they react. So it is a lot *safer* for women who aren't interested to block and move on.
(Also as general advice, I'd be far more inclined to respond to your type b messages than type a.)
― emil.y, Friday, 5 January 2018 15:32 (six years ago) link
YMMV, but when I was dating I appreciated a clear signal that someone was definitely not interested in me. Just rip off the Band-Aid and avoid wasting the time of everyone involved, y'know? Lots of fish, etc.
― Bobby Buttrock (Old Lunch), Friday, 5 January 2018 15:44 (six years ago) link
It worked for me... but I marvel at my luck, tbh
― brimstead, Friday, 5 January 2018 15:46 (six years ago) link
every woman i know who's had internet dating experience has felt overwhelmed by the number of replies women receive, too. seems like for every random reply a man will receive, a woman will receive one hundred.
― omar little, Friday, 5 January 2018 16:41 (six years ago) link
many women explicitly complain about receiving first-contact form-letter spam from men as well, mailed in bulk to up their odds
― j., Friday, 5 January 2018 18:36 (six years ago) link
https://www.wired.com/story/bumble-grindr-and-hinge-moderators-trauma/
― xyzzzz__, Monday, 20 November 2023 14:01 (five months ago) link