"Can I say you're my girlfriend on Facebook?"

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faceparty is different
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Faceparty

DJ Martian (djmartian), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:23 (seventeen years ago) link

who wants to be in my Ballsbook, ladies?
xpost Ballsparty?

teh_kit has 22 friends (g-kit), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:24 (seventeen years ago) link

I don't know Starry. I'm not sure if the site is able to verify past a legitmate .edu address. I am uni staff but have yet to facebook myself. the shame.

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:32 (seventeen years ago) link

Answers for starry re Facebook

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Facebook%27s_use_in_investigations

wikipedia:

Privacy Settings

Facebook contains privacy settings that individuals can set to prevent school administrators or other groups from accessing their profiles or photos. Under the "My Privacy" settings page, a facebook user can select which of the following groups are allowed to view a page:

* Undergrads
* Grad Students
* Alumni
* Faculty
* Staff

However, there is no guarantee that school administrators or law enforcement agencies will not choose to identify themselves falsely on Facebook, or that they cannot gain access to profile information via other means.

DJ Martian (djmartian), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:33 (seventeen years ago) link

Can you change your profile if necessary? What if you are eg, an employee doing a research project, for debate :)

Bhumibol Adulyadej (Lucretia My Reflection), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:39 (seventeen years ago) link

Two stories:

1. My girlfriend just graduated from college last year (2005) and doesn't have a Friendster or MySpace profile but does have a Facebook profile. This makes me feel old. However, I think what she likes about Facebook is that it is relatively closed off to the outside world, whereas I don't generally care what yahoos have a gander at my drunken photos.

2. I was at a frat party at the Univ. of Chicago a couple months ago ... an ILXor invited me, and I went for the anthropological experience as much as anything, really. Anyway, so I'm talking to this BMOC in a felt cowboy hat, who's somehow convinced that I had been dancing with this girl he has a crush on named Allison. (The only girl I'd been dancing with was this gawky philosophy major named Ethel who hurriedly told me within the first minute, "By the way, I don't wanna hook up with you, I have a boyfriend." Whatever!) I try to deny it at first, but he's not upset or anything, his attitude is more like "good for you, bro -- she's fuckin' hot, isn't she?" -- so eventually I agree that yes, I was dancing with Allison. "You know what you can do for me?" he slurs. "You can have her look me up on Facebook. That's Bret. With one T." At which point I laughed out loud.

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:48 (seventeen years ago) link

Oh and re the thread title: when my gf was showing me her Facebook profile, I was surprised to see that not only could you say you were "In a Relationship" but you could actually designate who your partner was and link to their profile.

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:51 (seventeen years ago) link

no idea !

i would expect most streetwise students would probably lock out snooping staff via the privacy settings

DJ Martian (djmartian), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:51 (seventeen years ago) link

BMOC

??

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:54 (seventeen years ago) link

Big Man On Campus! (I hope)

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:57 (seventeen years ago) link

Facebook is pretty useful. It makes keeping in touch with uni friends nice and easy. I'm young and went to a 'posh' uni though.

jng (jng), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:59 (seventeen years ago) link

No-one has yet addressed the fact that the titular quote is incredible cute!

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:07 (seventeen years ago) link

jng, how long can you keep your uni account open in the States? Over here, perhaps a few months... i mean, you cannot really use Facebook (if I got the rules right now) to keep in touch with uni friends once you graduated

olenska (olenska), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:09 (seventeen years ago) link

most universities offer alumni accounts.

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:10 (seventeen years ago) link

surely it stops people who aren't at uni going on it? what happens when you graduate?

dog latin (dog latin), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:11 (seventeen years ago) link

xpost, sorry.

dog latin (dog latin), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:11 (seventeen years ago) link

Over here, perhaps a few months

Says you. I've had mine for nearly 10 years after graduation by now.

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:12 (seventeen years ago) link

Aww yeah - I just signed up as an alumni! It makes me feels old and lecherous though. Like going to a student party would, I guess.

Baaderonixx immer wieder (baaderonixx), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:13 (seventeen years ago) link

But Alumni can only perv on other Alumni? I might be wrong.

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:15 (seventeen years ago) link

Clearly I am, if I'm capitalising alumni.

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:15 (seventeen years ago) link

Haha, I started doing some work and clicked away from the register window, I guess I am not that bothered after all!

The sad truth is that I think it would make me feel lonely, and out of it! And I have a perfectly good LIVEJOURNAL for that arf arf ARF.

Bhumibol Adulyadej (Lucretia My Reflection), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:15 (seventeen years ago) link

I'm in the UK, so no idea about the US. I signed up with my uni email account a couple of years ago, and then just switched the profile over to my alumni email account when I graduated.

xpost

jng (jng), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:17 (seventeen years ago) link

maybe we could have an ILX SOCIAL GROUP????

Baaderonixx immer wieder (baaderonixx), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:19 (seventeen years ago) link

Its a really good way to stay in touch w people after you graduate.

deej.. (deej..), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:23 (seventeen years ago) link

Big Man On Campus! (I hope)

Yes. He seemed to know everyone and was walking around making sure people were having a good time.

I never signed up for an alumni e-mail account, and now I'm unsure of how to do so, but the only people I'd know on Facebook are young punks like deej, anyway.

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:30 (seventeen years ago) link

Its a really good way to stay in touch w people after you graduate.
-- deej.. (clublonel...), June 27th, 2006.

a bit like MEETING THEM, HOLDING CONVERSATIONS, THAT KIND OF SHIT.

Roughage Crew (Enrique), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:31 (seventeen years ago) link

As a current college student, I can vouch for how omnipresent it is. In the official UC Berkeley student questionnaire (rate the counselors from 1-10 etc.) the university had an entire section in the survey asking students about facebook. I can think of two people I know who *aren't* on it.

It's far classier than myspace because you can't change your page much. No background music. No videos. This is good.

Very recently though, there has been a very noticeable trend (in Berkeley at least...can't speak for the nation) to make your profile super-private and only visable to friends. People are either getting wary, or snobby, I'm not sure which.

starke (starke), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:33 (seventeen years ago) link

Yeah its real easy to do that with my friends in San Francisco xp

deej.. (deej..), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:35 (seventeen years ago) link

A few more things:

1. My brother is a grad student and when he TAs a class, he always checks out his students' Facebook profiles and is sometimes surprised at what they're willing to divulge. (Then he stores this information in an Excel spreadsheet ... oh wait.)

2. I have a cousin who just finished his freshman year at Northern Illinois University. He tells me that as soon as he received his school e-mail address last summer, he immediately signed up on Facebook and found that dozens of other incoming students had done so as well. In fact, the ability to notate your dorm and room number within your profile meant that he knew nearly everyone in his hall before they ever actually met face to face.

3. Haha, my dad moderated a panel about Facebook last month.

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:41 (seventeen years ago) link

High school students can join it now too. Which is weird.

deej.. (deej..), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:44 (seventeen years ago) link

See, that's not weird to me because as far as I'm concerned, EVERYONE under 25 is on it.

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:57 (seventeen years ago) link

Yeah, trading facebooks was the first thing the staff did when we got to camp. I think the basic reason it's so much more universal than eg friendster is the total lack of crepey hookup connotations?

Gravel Puzzleworth (Gregory Henry), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:59 (seventeen years ago) link

he always checks out his students' Facebook profiles
Not always, just for the cute ones ;)

robots in love (robotsinlove), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:06 (seventeen years ago) link

facebook is even creepier than myspace/friendster cuz then you can anonymously crepe on cute girls in your classes.

the eunuchs, Cassim and Mustafa, who guarded Abdur Ali's harem (orion), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:09 (seventeen years ago) link

It's strange--I do feel like there is a generational divide with facebook. I joined just this year, as a 24 year old grad student. But, the first year grad students, who are right out of college, already had facebook accounts from undergrad days. they just had to switch over the designation to their new university affiliation. But the point is they already had them and were totally accustomed to using them, whereas they had convinced me to join, and then were disappointed when facebook did not function the same way they were used to (nobody checked it frequently enough, thereby making announcing parties useless).

robots in love (robotsinlove), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:09 (seventeen years ago) link

Did you read the Lewis Flyer article yet, M.?

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:12 (seventeen years ago) link

Regarding the quote in topic, yeah, the relationship status on Facebook does lead to a lot of awkward situations. A friend of mine had that she was married to her boyfriend on Facebook. After they broke up for a while, he eventually changed the setting to say single which automatically did it for her profile too. It was like a whole 'nother stage of breaking up.

There's an annoying girl at my job who has some serious growing up to do. One of her many horrifying common behaviors is playing "house" at the job and designating different coworkers as different members of her family. For a while she had a huge crush on me, and thus I became the husband. Whenever new people were hired, she'd excitedly hug me and exclaim in her nasal voice, "This is Derek, he's my husband! He's the best husband in the world!" Then she'd switch to a more serious tone to warn the girls that they'd better not flirt with me. Terrifying. Of course, she wanted to marry me on Facebook. After weeks of continually reminding me that I have yet to click "yes" that we are indeed married, I finally gave in and did it. After a while, trying to finally give her the message that I'm not interested, I switched to being married with another one of our coworkers, a girl I'm good friends with but my "wife" hated. When she saw that I'd switched the status, she had a real break down. Female co-workers told me about her heart break over the incident.

In conclusion, jesus christ, be glad you're not on Facebook.

like murderinging (modestmickey), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:42 (seventeen years ago) link

why is this any better than myspace? i don't get it.
-- dog latin (doglati...) (webmail), June 27th, 2006. (dog latin)

Certain features that make it really useful for college students. You can list your classes in your profile and the page can create a list for you of people in your classes. You can easily find people in your class to ask them questions about upcoming tests, what the homework was, etc. Also, unlike MySpace, there's more local community centered stuff since the only people on Facebook I interact with are fellow UNCC students and I don't see anyone from Harvard. For example there's groups with local interest like "I LOVE " rather than just "I LOVE LIMP BIZKIT." Like other people mentioned, there's the announcing/organizing events too.

like murderinging (modestmickey), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:49 (seventeen years ago) link

But what is this thing that US students say is now more important than sex and texting?

MORE IMPORTANT THAN TEXTING?!?!?!?!??!

matlewis (matlewis), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:54 (seventeen years ago) link

he eventually changed the setting to say single which automatically did it for her profile too. It was like a whole 'nother stage of breaking up.

That is pretty harsh.

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:54 (seventeen years ago) link

I think the basic reason it's so much more universal than eg friendster is the total lack of crepey hookup connotations?

Au contraire. I think a lot of people use it for exactly that reason. That's the impression I've gotten, anyway.

Deric W. Haircare (Deric W. Haircare), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 16:36 (seventeen years ago) link

Facebook is fucking annoying. I'm an elderly undergrad, surrounded by people who use it as a substitute for actual communication. So I decided to get kicked off of Facebook but it's not working yet--I've replaced my entire profile with excerpts from Pilgrim's Progress and some Duran Duran slash fiction, I've started reporting every person whose profile says "Libertarian," etc. No luck.

adam (adam), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 16:41 (seventeen years ago) link

surrounded by people who use it as a substitute for actual communication.

hi, do you know the internet?

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 16:51 (seventeen years ago) link

hah yeah wtf how is it different than anything else on the internet?

deej.. (deej..), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 16:56 (seventeen years ago) link

that facebook thing would have been so useful for my social life in '96. and myspace too. and p2p files exchange softwares (I was so informationally poor). also, ah, if only I had pentium3 +highspeed+100gig storage+ free video editing software back then, when
i was more interested in cinema , because most of the canonic cinematographic trips were new to me etc good grief I should have been born in '81

S. (Sébastien Chikara), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 17:03 (seventeen years ago) link

believe it or not, there are things better for your social life than exponentially raising the amount of time you spend sitting in front of a computer.

like murderinging (modestmickey), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 17:28 (seventeen years ago) link

i don't.

jeffrey (johnson), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 17:30 (seventeen years ago) link

Hating facebook doesn't make much more sense than hating cellphones, the yellow pages, AIM and email. It's a social lubricant. If people were really replacing their social lives with it, facebook wouldn't be filled with ten trillion pictures of people getting drunk at parties.

starke (starke), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 17:42 (seventeen years ago) link

(which would be a better thing to complain about)

starke (starke), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 17:43 (seventeen years ago) link

Red Dwarf's Better Than Life sessions were no picnic either.

Chicks and Ducks and Geese better scurry (Ste), Tuesday, 2 November 2021 13:35 (two years ago) link

They could've paid a few mil and have John Legend or Pete Davidson or whoever we'd actually want to hang out with guide us through the metaverse.

― ... (Eazy), Tuesday, November 2, 2021 8:10 AM (thirty-six minutes ago) bookmarkflaglink

This raises a good question about which celebs would actually want to attach themselves to Facebook at this point. John Legend did a Super Bowl ad for Google a few years ago, but he's also politically engaged enough to recognize that shilling for Facebook in 2021 might not be the savviest move.

jaymc, Tuesday, 2 November 2021 13:53 (two years ago) link

Ricky Schroeder?

Josh in Chicago, Tuesday, 2 November 2021 14:25 (two years ago) link

Kevin Sorbo

a superficial sheeb of intelligence (jon /via/ chi 2.0), Tuesday, 2 November 2021 14:29 (two years ago) link

Alas, banned from Facebook.

Josh in Chicago, Tuesday, 2 November 2021 14:31 (two years ago) link

Paul Rudd

Andy the Grasshopper, Tuesday, 2 November 2021 16:26 (two years ago) link

struggling to think of any professional actor who would be less likable than the zuck tbh

edited to reflect developments which occurred (Camaraderie at Arms Length), Tuesday, 2 November 2021 16:28 (two years ago) link

They could have gone all the way with Meta and used Jessie Eisenberg.

Precious, Grace, Hill & Beard LTD. (C. Grisso/McCain), Tuesday, 2 November 2021 16:42 (two years ago) link

I know it’s being presented as some “you can be or do anything” with unlimited possibilities type of environment, but having avatars not tethered to reality, in any professional or public setting whatsoever seems like an incredibly fraught proposition. I mean, there will have to be rules. And then more rules when those first rules aren’t comprehensive. Protocols. And then of course there probably will be something like in game purchases. So fun.

It may create some new efficiencies for interacting, but I find it hard to believe one bit of any pitch that promises we will somehow have a better time than we do irl.

Kim, Tuesday, 2 November 2021 17:11 (two years ago) link

cba reading up on what this new thing is about but when I open the app now there is a “dating” tab & when I click on the tab it just gives me the infinite buffering circle, which feels about right tbf

siffleur’s mom (wins), Tuesday, 2 November 2021 17:15 (two years ago) link

Zuck deep down realizes that facebook was/is just a friendster/myspace ripoff, they bought Instagram as a fully-formed thing - now he wants some visionary thing to call his own. It's an ego thing

Andy the Grasshopper, Tuesday, 2 November 2021 17:20 (two years ago) link

anyone interested in this subject should watch this, from like five years ago. very difficult to believe that the metaverse wen won’t resemble this in some ways, perhaps most ways

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YJg02ivYzSs

Tracer Hand, Tuesday, 2 November 2021 17:56 (two years ago) link

that's some straight up PKD nightmare right there

Andy the Grasshopper, Tuesday, 2 November 2021 18:35 (two years ago) link

interview with the zuck. i'm not going to pretend i've read/listened to it all.

https://stratechery.com/2021/an-interview-with-mark-zuckerberg-about-the-metaverse/

Tracer Hand, Thursday, 4 November 2021 12:53 (two years ago) link

when I was growing up and my parents kind of told me, “Okay, go do your homework and then you can play with your friends.” I actually think in retrospect, those friendships were probably more important than the homework

careful dude you might strain yourself thinking these deep thoughts.

namaste darkness my old friend (ledge), Thursday, 4 November 2021 15:50 (two years ago) link

When I was a kid and I'd visit my grandma in Chicago I remember her taking me to some pier mall thingy by the lake, forget what it was called but it was like a souped up entertainment mall that had mini golf. They also had this VR thing called Battletech, which was a mech war. I would always get really hyped up to play, and then it would feel like this huge buildup, but then it was just kind of an awkward and hard to control

I remember the first iteration of this called Virtual World. So. much. money spent on the place...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kzbcEYa1U4M

Elvis Telecom, Thursday, 4 November 2021 20:29 (two years ago) link

but then...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EVybQ2hU0PQ

Elvis Telecom, Thursday, 4 November 2021 20:29 (two years ago) link

four months pass...

just in case you needed another reason to delete your facebook...

FB paying one of the largest Republican consulting firms in the U.S. to orchestrate a campaign seeking to turn the public against TikTok, including opposition-research tactics, smear campaigns, sending fake letters to newspapers pretending to be "concerned parents" tying TikTok to dangerous teen trends that actually started on Facebook, targeting of new outlets trying to get headlines like “From dances to danger: how TikTok has become the most harmful social media space for kids", and other similarly ethical tactics you'd expect from a firm that's one of the biggest recipients of GOP campaign spending (over $237m in 2020), the biggest payments coming from national GOP congressional committees and a pro-Trump super-PAC.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/technology/2022/03/30/facebook-tiktok-targeted-victory

Lee626, Wednesday, 30 March 2022 13:58 (two years ago) link

is Meta going to have to change their name again when this gets out? (I mean, it IS out but there's not much of a buzz about it)

StanM, Sunday, 3 April 2022 11:29 (two years ago) link

two weeks pass...

"You have a new friend suggestion: Suzanne Moore"

Oh FFS.

mike t-diva, Monday, 18 April 2022 09:33 (one year ago) link

I also had that and nuked it on sight.

the thin blue lying (suzy), Monday, 18 April 2022 12:41 (one year ago) link

Whozzat?

DAMAGED by Black Flat (Boring, Maryland), Monday, 18 April 2022 14:51 (one year ago) link

Terf journo.

Daniel_Rf, Tuesday, 19 April 2022 09:22 (one year ago) link

one year passes...

My account has been hacked and because Facebook sucks, I can’t get back in. My email has been changed and ph number erased - so the only way to get in is to be sent a code, but only through the email it’s been changed to

just1n3, Saturday, 20 May 2023 16:41 (ten months ago) link

Does this link work for you?

https://m.facebook.com/help/203305893040179

the manwich horror (Neanderthal), Saturday, 20 May 2023 16:46 (ten months ago) link

No - Facebook will only send a recovery code to the new email that’s been added to my account

just1n3, Saturday, 20 May 2023 17:05 (ten months ago) link

That's really dumb. I had thought they'd give an alternate way to authenticate if you report being hacked.

I had a friend of a friend get locked out by a hackers and get back in, I'll ask what they did

the manwich horror (Neanderthal), Saturday, 20 May 2023 17:15 (ten months ago) link

three months pass...

In the last few days I've noticed my feed seems to be almost entirely suggested posts with the odd meme from groups I follow. Hardly any content from my friends. Not sure exactly when this encroachment truly started but it's lousy

Stomp Jomperson (dog latin), Wednesday, 6 September 2023 16:36 (seven months ago) link

You can curate this somewhat with the show more / show less buttons. Whenever I see a post from a friend I tell it to show me more like this. Whenever I see a suggested post I tell it to show me less like this. It seems to be working, at least for me.

Pontius Pilates (Ye Mad Puffin), Wednesday, 6 September 2023 16:51 (seven months ago) link

If you view FB in a browser rather then app you can install Facebook Purity which gets rid of all that shit.

Colonel Poo, Wednesday, 6 September 2023 17:55 (seven months ago) link

lol Purity has been amazing. sadly I tend to use it more on my phone these days but it gets all the keywords you wanna avoid out, plus that stuff too

Make the chats AI (Neanderthal), Wednesday, 6 September 2023 18:01 (seven months ago) link

three months pass...

This @highlight thing got annoying really quick.

an icon of a worried-looking, long-haired, bespectacled man (C. Grisso/McCain), Saturday, 9 December 2023 18:53 (four months ago) link

three months pass...

Please, if you’re sending a fellow ilxor a friend request and their profile is set to private, introduce yourself unless you already use your full govt name here. Not gonna accept just because we have ilx friends in common if I don’t know who you are on this forum. Like, my profile is private for a reason.

just1n3, Tuesday, 19 March 2024 09:35 (four weeks ago) link

otm

CEO Greedwagon (Neanderthal), Tuesday, 19 March 2024 14:48 (four weeks ago) link


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