"Can I say you're my girlfriend on Facebook?"

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Incidentally (hello I am old), isn't there something else called faceparty? Is it the same? You young people!

Bhumibol Adulyadej (Lucretia My Reflection), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:19 (8 years ago) Permalink

If I put myself down as 'staff' and not 'student', does that exlude me from one set or the other? Cos like, I know other staff at [INSERT UNIVERSITY NAME HERE] and don't want to exlusively find out details of academics/administrators when I could larff at STEWWDENTS :)

Bhumibol Adulyadej (Lucretia My Reflection), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:21 (8 years ago) Permalink

faceparty is different
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Faceparty

DJ Martian (djmartian), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:23 (8 years ago) Permalink

who wants to be in my Ballsbook, ladies?
xpost Ballsparty?

teh_kit has 22 friends (g-kit), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:24 (8 years ago) Permalink

I don't know Starry. I'm not sure if the site is able to verify past a legitmate .edu address. I am uni staff but have yet to facebook myself. the shame.

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:32 (8 years ago) Permalink

Answers for starry re Facebook

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Facebook%27s_use_in_investigations

wikipedia:

Privacy Settings

Facebook contains privacy settings that individuals can set to prevent school administrators or other groups from accessing their profiles or photos. Under the "My Privacy" settings page, a facebook user can select which of the following groups are allowed to view a page:

* Undergrads
* Grad Students
* Alumni
* Faculty
* Staff

However, there is no guarantee that school administrators or law enforcement agencies will not choose to identify themselves falsely on Facebook, or that they cannot gain access to profile information via other means.

DJ Martian (djmartian), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:33 (8 years ago) Permalink

Can you change your profile if necessary? What if you are eg, an employee doing a research project, for debate :)

Bhumibol Adulyadej (Lucretia My Reflection), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:39 (8 years ago) Permalink

Two stories:

1. My girlfriend just graduated from college last year (2005) and doesn't have a Friendster or MySpace profile but does have a Facebook profile. This makes me feel old. However, I think what she likes about Facebook is that it is relatively closed off to the outside world, whereas I don't generally care what yahoos have a gander at my drunken photos.

2. I was at a frat party at the Univ. of Chicago a couple months ago ... an ILXor invited me, and I went for the anthropological experience as much as anything, really. Anyway, so I'm talking to this BMOC in a felt cowboy hat, who's somehow convinced that I had been dancing with this girl he has a crush on named Allison. (The only girl I'd been dancing with was this gawky philosophy major named Ethel who hurriedly told me within the first minute, "By the way, I don't wanna hook up with you, I have a boyfriend." Whatever!) I try to deny it at first, but he's not upset or anything, his attitude is more like "good for you, bro -- she's fuckin' hot, isn't she?" -- so eventually I agree that yes, I was dancing with Allison. "You know what you can do for me?" he slurs. "You can have her look me up on Facebook. That's Bret. With one T." At which point I laughed out loud.

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:48 (8 years ago) Permalink

Oh and re the thread title: when my gf was showing me her Facebook profile, I was surprised to see that not only could you say you were "In a Relationship" but you could actually designate who your partner was and link to their profile.

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:51 (8 years ago) Permalink

no idea !

i would expect most streetwise students would probably lock out snooping staff via the privacy settings

DJ Martian (djmartian), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:51 (8 years ago) Permalink

BMOC

??

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:54 (8 years ago) Permalink

Big Man On Campus! (I hope)

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:57 (8 years ago) Permalink

Facebook is pretty useful. It makes keeping in touch with uni friends nice and easy. I'm young and went to a 'posh' uni though.

jng (jng), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:59 (8 years ago) Permalink

No-one has yet addressed the fact that the titular quote is incredible cute!

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:07 (8 years ago) Permalink

jng, how long can you keep your uni account open in the States? Over here, perhaps a few months... i mean, you cannot really use Facebook (if I got the rules right now) to keep in touch with uni friends once you graduated

olenska (olenska), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:09 (8 years ago) Permalink

most universities offer alumni accounts.

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:10 (8 years ago) Permalink

surely it stops people who aren't at uni going on it? what happens when you graduate?

dog latin (dog latin), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:11 (8 years ago) Permalink

xpost, sorry.

dog latin (dog latin), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:11 (8 years ago) Permalink

Over here, perhaps a few months

Says you. I've had mine for nearly 10 years after graduation by now.

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:12 (8 years ago) Permalink

Aww yeah - I just signed up as an alumni! It makes me feels old and lecherous though. Like going to a student party would, I guess.

Baaderonixx immer wieder (baaderonixx), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:13 (8 years ago) Permalink

But Alumni can only perv on other Alumni? I might be wrong.

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:15 (8 years ago) Permalink

Clearly I am, if I'm capitalising alumni.

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:15 (8 years ago) Permalink

Haha, I started doing some work and clicked away from the register window, I guess I am not that bothered after all!

The sad truth is that I think it would make me feel lonely, and out of it! And I have a perfectly good LIVEJOURNAL for that arf arf ARF.

Bhumibol Adulyadej (Lucretia My Reflection), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:15 (8 years ago) Permalink

I'm in the UK, so no idea about the US. I signed up with my uni email account a couple of years ago, and then just switched the profile over to my alumni email account when I graduated.

xpost

jng (jng), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:17 (8 years ago) Permalink

maybe we could have an ILX SOCIAL GROUP????

Baaderonixx immer wieder (baaderonixx), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:19 (8 years ago) Permalink

Its a really good way to stay in touch w people after you graduate.

deej.. (deej..), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:23 (8 years ago) Permalink

Big Man On Campus! (I hope)

Yes. He seemed to know everyone and was walking around making sure people were having a good time.

I never signed up for an alumni e-mail account, and now I'm unsure of how to do so, but the only people I'd know on Facebook are young punks like deej, anyway.

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:30 (8 years ago) Permalink

Its a really good way to stay in touch w people after you graduate.
-- deej.. (clublonel...), June 27th, 2006.

a bit like MEETING THEM, HOLDING CONVERSATIONS, THAT KIND OF SHIT.

Roughage Crew (Enrique), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:31 (8 years ago) Permalink

As a current college student, I can vouch for how omnipresent it is. In the official UC Berkeley student questionnaire (rate the counselors from 1-10 etc.) the university had an entire section in the survey asking students about facebook. I can think of two people I know who *aren't* on it.

It's far classier than myspace because you can't change your page much. No background music. No videos. This is good.

Very recently though, there has been a very noticeable trend (in Berkeley at least...can't speak for the nation) to make your profile super-private and only visable to friends. People are either getting wary, or snobby, I'm not sure which.

starke (starke), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:33 (8 years ago) Permalink

Yeah its real easy to do that with my friends in San Francisco xp

deej.. (deej..), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:35 (8 years ago) Permalink

A few more things:

1. My brother is a grad student and when he TAs a class, he always checks out his students' Facebook profiles and is sometimes surprised at what they're willing to divulge. (Then he stores this information in an Excel spreadsheet ... oh wait.)

2. I have a cousin who just finished his freshman year at Northern Illinois University. He tells me that as soon as he received his school e-mail address last summer, he immediately signed up on Facebook and found that dozens of other incoming students had done so as well. In fact, the ability to notate your dorm and room number within your profile meant that he knew nearly everyone in his hall before they ever actually met face to face.

3. Haha, my dad moderated a panel about Facebook last month.

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:41 (8 years ago) Permalink

High school students can join it now too. Which is weird.

deej.. (deej..), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:44 (8 years ago) Permalink

See, that's not weird to me because as far as I'm concerned, EVERYONE under 25 is on it.

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:57 (8 years ago) Permalink

Yeah, trading facebooks was the first thing the staff did when we got to camp. I think the basic reason it's so much more universal than eg friendster is the total lack of crepey hookup connotations?

Gravel Puzzleworth (Gregory Henry), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:59 (8 years ago) Permalink

he always checks out his students' Facebook profiles
Not always, just for the cute ones ;)

robots in love (robotsinlove), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:06 (8 years ago) Permalink

facebook is even creepier than myspace/friendster cuz then you can anonymously crepe on cute girls in your classes.

the eunuchs, Cassim and Mustafa, who guarded Abdur Ali's harem (orion), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:09 (8 years ago) Permalink

It's strange--I do feel like there is a generational divide with facebook. I joined just this year, as a 24 year old grad student. But, the first year grad students, who are right out of college, already had facebook accounts from undergrad days. they just had to switch over the designation to their new university affiliation. But the point is they already had them and were totally accustomed to using them, whereas they had convinced me to join, and then were disappointed when facebook did not function the same way they were used to (nobody checked it frequently enough, thereby making announcing parties useless).

robots in love (robotsinlove), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:09 (8 years ago) Permalink

Did you read the Lewis Flyer article yet, M.?

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:12 (8 years ago) Permalink

Regarding the quote in topic, yeah, the relationship status on Facebook does lead to a lot of awkward situations. A friend of mine had that she was married to her boyfriend on Facebook. After they broke up for a while, he eventually changed the setting to say single which automatically did it for her profile too. It was like a whole 'nother stage of breaking up.

There's an annoying girl at my job who has some serious growing up to do. One of her many horrifying common behaviors is playing "house" at the job and designating different coworkers as different members of her family. For a while she had a huge crush on me, and thus I became the husband. Whenever new people were hired, she'd excitedly hug me and exclaim in her nasal voice, "This is Derek, he's my husband! He's the best husband in the world!" Then she'd switch to a more serious tone to warn the girls that they'd better not flirt with me. Terrifying. Of course, she wanted to marry me on Facebook. After weeks of continually reminding me that I have yet to click "yes" that we are indeed married, I finally gave in and did it. After a while, trying to finally give her the message that I'm not interested, I switched to being married with another one of our coworkers, a girl I'm good friends with but my "wife" hated. When she saw that I'd switched the status, she had a real break down. Female co-workers told me about her heart break over the incident.

In conclusion, jesus christ, be glad you're not on Facebook.

like murderinging (modestmickey), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:42 (8 years ago) Permalink

why is this any better than myspace? i don't get it.
-- dog latin (doglati...) (webmail), June 27th, 2006. (dog latin)

Certain features that make it really useful for college students. You can list your classes in your profile and the page can create a list for you of people in your classes. You can easily find people in your class to ask them questions about upcoming tests, what the homework was, etc. Also, unlike MySpace, there's more local community centered stuff since the only people on Facebook I interact with are fellow UNCC students and I don't see anyone from Harvard. For example there's groups with local interest like "I LOVE " rather than just "I LOVE LIMP BIZKIT." Like other people mentioned, there's the announcing/organizing events too.

like murderinging (modestmickey), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:49 (8 years ago) Permalink

But what is this thing that US students say is now more important than sex and texting?

MORE IMPORTANT THAN TEXTING?!?!?!?!??!

matlewis (matlewis), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:54 (8 years ago) Permalink

he eventually changed the setting to say single which automatically did it for her profile too. It was like a whole 'nother stage of breaking up.

That is pretty harsh.

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:54 (8 years ago) Permalink

I think the basic reason it's so much more universal than eg friendster is the total lack of crepey hookup connotations?

Au contraire. I think a lot of people use it for exactly that reason. That's the impression I've gotten, anyway.

Deric W. Haircare (Deric W. Haircare), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 16:36 (8 years ago) Permalink

Facebook is fucking annoying. I'm an elderly undergrad, surrounded by people who use it as a substitute for actual communication. So I decided to get kicked off of Facebook but it's not working yet--I've replaced my entire profile with excerpts from Pilgrim's Progress and some Duran Duran slash fiction, I've started reporting every person whose profile says "Libertarian," etc. No luck.

adam (adam), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 16:41 (8 years ago) Permalink

surrounded by people who use it as a substitute for actual communication.

hi, do you know the internet?

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 16:51 (8 years ago) Permalink

hah yeah wtf how is it different than anything else on the internet?

deej.. (deej..), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 16:56 (8 years ago) Permalink

that facebook thing would have been so useful for my social life in '96. and myspace too. and p2p files exchange softwares (I was so informationally poor). also, ah, if only I had pentium3 +highspeed+100gig storage+ free video editing software back then, when
i was more interested in cinema , because most of the canonic cinematographic trips were new to me etc good grief I should have been born in '81

S. (Sébastien Chikara), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 17:03 (8 years ago) Permalink

S. (Sébastien Chikara), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 17:12 (8 years ago) Permalink

believe it or not, there are things better for your social life than exponentially raising the amount of time you spend sitting in front of a computer.

like murderinging (modestmickey), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 17:28 (8 years ago) Permalink

i don't.

jeffrey (johnson), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 17:30 (8 years ago) Permalink

yeah i hate that

set the controls for the heart of the sun (VegemiteGrrl), Thursday, 23 January 2014 17:15 (9 months ago) Permalink

iirc you can click on the message icon and then "Show All Messages" or something like that?

a man with legs made of sausages - that's not real! (seandalai), Thursday, 23 January 2014 17:52 (9 months ago) Permalink

yup, that works too. but what i really miss is being able to click on the message and go to the message+inbox rather than this stupid chat window.

Jibe, Thursday, 23 January 2014 18:01 (9 months ago) Permalink

3 months pass...

i guess this thread is where i come to complain about the utter BS that is facebook.
nowadays, when accessing facebook using the ios app when i receive a new message, it asks me to download a new app (facebook messenger) to read them. this makes me so fucking mad, what the hell is wrong with them that they think i need 2 different apps to do the same shitty things as before. i can't read my messages on the fb app, srsly how is this any good fucking facebook dickheads. i refuse to download their POS messenger thing

Jibe, Saturday, 26 April 2014 13:42 (5 months ago) Permalink

my guess is they are trying to compete w/ iOS iMessage?

°ㅇ๐ْ ° (gr8080), Monday, 28 April 2014 16:53 (5 months ago) Permalink

well this is something they announced a week or two ago

markers, Monday, 28 April 2014 16:55 (5 months ago) Permalink

not necessarily imessage, although sort of.

markers, Monday, 28 April 2014 16:55 (5 months ago) Permalink

i just figured it would make the chat feature work better on your phone?

sarahell, Monday, 28 April 2014 16:56 (5 months ago) Permalink

i think their basic point is that mobile doesn't like kitchen sink apps, and their existing app is an example of that, so they're going to break out that functionality

markers, Monday, 28 April 2014 16:56 (5 months ago) Permalink

zuck or someone might've said something like that somewhere. google it

markers, Monday, 28 April 2014 16:56 (5 months ago) Permalink

"mobile" in terms of the phone technology or in terms of users? Such an odd construction ...

sarahell, Monday, 28 April 2014 17:01 (5 months ago) Permalink

odd out of the context of the tech industry, but within it no one would bat an eye at my saying that

markers, Monday, 28 April 2014 17:03 (5 months ago) Permalink

i think their basic point is that mobile doesn't like kitchen sink apps, and their existing app is an example of that, so they're going to break out that functionality

― markers, Monday, April 28, 2014 12:56 PM (7 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

^

lag∞n, Monday, 28 April 2014 17:04 (5 months ago) Permalink

people including those at facebook seem to think that "focused" apps like snapchat and instagram are more native to smartphones and that people prefer those types of experiences to more complicated ones like the traditional facebook app, which attempts to mimic the functionality of their desktop website

markers, Monday, 28 April 2014 17:05 (5 months ago) Permalink

i actually sometimes get annoyed that the fb phone app doesn't work the exact same way as the one for my computer -- i know people that will just use the "internet" version of it on their phones (rather than the mobile apps) because they have "download new app" fatigue & resentment

sarahell, Monday, 28 April 2014 17:07 (5 months ago) Permalink

i would prefer one app too for fb but that's not the strategy they're taking

markers, Monday, 28 April 2014 17:08 (5 months ago) Permalink

It's interesting that Google can get away with separate apps for Voice, Drive, Gmail and G+ (ok, whatever on that last one), but Facebook is so branded as a one-stop shop that splitting features into different applications does seem counter-intuitive.

Kinda like how Microsoft sites still insist on using Searchlight. Download a whole other thing just to look at your website? Nah, thanks anyway.

pplains, Monday, 28 April 2014 17:14 (5 months ago) Permalink

facebook has always been seen as one thing: messages, events, photos, whatever were all parts of one thing called facebook.

google has been seen as separate things forever, and only over the past few years have they tried to change that.

markers, Monday, 28 April 2014 17:26 (5 months ago) Permalink

google was google search and google drive and google reader, none of which had much to do with the other, and facebook was FACEBOOK.

markers, Monday, 28 April 2014 17:26 (5 months ago) Permalink

so, in both cases it has to do with design decisions from years ago that impact how users think of their products today.

markers, Monday, 28 April 2014 17:27 (5 months ago) Permalink

i should really go look for that zuckerberg quote, but somewhere he says something like, on the desktop it made sense for us to be a website, but on mobile things are different. which isn't a bad way to think about things.

markers, Monday, 28 April 2014 17:29 (5 months ago) Permalink

Those reasons possibly why Facebook has this Evil Empire dark side rep like Microsoft back in the 90s while Google, which is bigger and much more loosey-goosey with private info and stats, still gets a pass.

pplains, Monday, 28 April 2014 17:35 (5 months ago) Permalink

its also a huge misunderstanding of your user base xp

°ㅇ๐ْ ° (gr8080), Monday, 28 April 2014 17:41 (5 months ago) Permalink

facebook also working on decoupling from the other end in that they left their big acquisitions instagram and whatsapp as separate products, its a really smart big move away from their previous just keep adding all possible functionality of every app to facebook eg location data like foursquare asynchronous follow relationships like twitter, like it mightve taken the constraints of mobile to make them realize how bad that approach was for facebooks usability but it was also bad for the desktop vers imo

lag∞n, Monday, 28 April 2014 17:42 (5 months ago) Permalink

Those reasons possibly why Facebook has this Evil Empire dark side rep like Microsoft back in the 90s while Google, which is bigger and much more loosey-goosey with private info and stats, still gets a pass.

― pplains, Monday, April 28, 2014 1:35 PM (10 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

feel like this has mostly to do w the fact that facebook is social and really wants to show pics of your titty bar field trip to your aunt

lag∞n, Monday, 28 April 2014 17:46 (5 months ago) Permalink

its also a huge misunderstanding of your user base xp

― °ㅇ๐ْ ° (gr8080), Monday, April 28, 2014 1:41 PM

fuck the "user base"

markers, Monday, 28 April 2014 18:00 (5 months ago) Permalink

Everybody be cool, download WeChat

, Monday, 28 April 2014 23:13 (5 months ago) Permalink

i always thought you were james franco

markers, Monday, 28 April 2014 23:19 (5 months ago) Permalink

2 months pass...

Did we talk about the "Facebook makes you feel happy/sad" story anywhere?

dem bow dem bow need calcium (seandalai), Sunday, 6 July 2014 00:24 (3 months ago) Permalink

"Share this on Facebook"

, Monday, 7 July 2014 22:31 (3 months ago) Permalink

In my tl just now, a post that reads:

Can anyone who plays the ukulele teach me how to pluck a couple of hipster chords?

Orson Wellies (in orbit), Wednesday, 9 July 2014 02:55 (3 months ago) Permalink

https://www.facebook.com/mentions

°ㅇ๐ْ ° (gr8080), Thursday, 17 July 2014 19:07 (3 months ago) Permalink

2 weeks pass...

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We're working on getting this fixed as soon as we can.

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nostormo, Friday, 1 August 2014 16:13 (2 months ago) Permalink

1 month passes...

Is Facebook getting owned right now

, Wednesday, 3 September 2014 19:41 (1 month ago) Permalink

crushed

nostormo, Wednesday, 3 September 2014 19:46 (1 month ago) Permalink

crashed

nostormo, Wednesday, 3 September 2014 19:47 (1 month ago) Permalink


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