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Quick question: is it a bit too close to the wedding to bung some money into a fund for a painting? I bought them something off of the registry but now feel I was being v v cheap. WHAT TO DO PPL!

Wedding next sat but I think they're travelling from San Francisco as I type.

Ask the people who are organizing the fund.

That would be the couple :(

I really wanted to bring a gift but it's looking like they definitely won't have space.

Hmm, that's kind of strange I think. To ask for money for a specific thing. (I realize registries are similar but at that's at least a list of possible gifts rather than straight out solicitation.)

I wouldn't worry about not giving enough. Give what you can/want b/c it's really about the though, not loading them up.

Can you ship the gift to their home so they don't have to carry it back?

It might arrive a bit late. I'll buy a card and sort something out, thanks though. Very stressed because I don't want to look like a tool. Sadly I don't think I am succeeding :(

Kev-lol, don't forget that you have up to six months after a wedding to buy the present. You don't have to bring it with you when you go. So you can always go to the wedding and then give the present afterward. Or bung them some cash there.

Xpost—I know myself that reconciling for the sake of spending xmas together and then splitting again also leads to September birthdays.

Kev-lol, don't forget that you have up to six months after a wedding to buy the present. You don't have to bring it with you when you go. So you can always go to the wedding and then give the present afterward.

That sounds wise.

What happened to aimurchie by the way? I just saw her on an old thread. All okay or did she just get tired of ILX?

I was wondering that, too. She might have gotten one of those jobs she was thinking about.

I thought you had a year to give wedding presents. I like it wait it out. If they split up you save some money.

You have a year for thank you notes. Don't know about gifts.

The tradition of giving wedding gifts dates from a time when the bride and groom were just setting out on their own and actually needed things to set up a household. Now most people who get married have been living together for years and have all the dishes and linens they need. Weddings are just a greedball shakedown.

I have spoken. Now I must go to work, before our houseguests come back from their walk and catch me here.

Okay, I'll buy and post after wedding. If it's a good party. Otherwise tough shit ppl!

Thanks Ms M I didn't want to be the first person to point out new year's eve + drunk = september birthdays!

Add me to the list. Spencer turns 10 today!

And happy birthday, Megan!

Woah! I'm staying in this year. Alone.

OMG happy bday Spencer! Sorry forgot to say it!

*Begins thinking about NYE options*

Aw thanks! He's totally stoked to not only be in the double digits, but also because we're taking him and his best friend to Disneyland tomorrow.

Souvenirs anyone?

Bring me the head of Alfredo Garcia Goofy!

Thanks all for the help re. wedding gift crisis.

Happy birthday to M3g4n and Sp3nc3r!

Good weekend everyone!

You too, kv!

Weddings are just a greedball shakedown.

I knew a couple who went around a very nice store with specal barcode reading guns that help select their registry. They shot more stuff (and really expensive stuff too) than a drunken Yosemite Sam at a varmint convention. I was so appalled I considered not going to their wedding.

Happy b-day lunason and Megan!!

Happy Birthday Spencer!

Onimio, you and the misses seemed to be on a pretty regular conception schedule there.

It's become something of a running gag that I seem to only get laid as a Christmas/New Year treat.

We had 5 wee baby girls in the house today and Megan was 2nd oldest!

I'm seeing a trip to London in my future. To see Patrick Stewart in Macbeth, preferably.

I want to see a trip to the UK in my future. :( Come on lottery!

Michael, not only should you have given that horrid couple's wedding a pass, you should have written them a formal severance-of-friendship letter. But it's not too late! The Festering Clause. I shall draft one later, when I've had some wine.

Festering Clause? I would like to see one.

Simmering towards my other. I've done nothing this past week but bust my ass on two sites that are due Wed. Despite my asking he hasn't lifted a finger towards laundry (except for doing a load of just his own) and seemed put out when I asked him to GO UP THE STREET for a few groceries earlier. "Can't you go?" NO THAT'S WHY I AM ASKING YOU!

Why the fuck am I having to beg for out-of-the-ordinary help with basic, mutual chores?

GRRRRRR

Well, if he wants to play housemates rather than relationship, you should play it too for a while. Cook nothing, wash up only after yourself, write your name on your food in the fridge, do only your own laundry. See how he likes it.

The disarray would drive me nuts.

In terms of division of labor laundry and groceries have fallen under my territory b/c he claims there are many things he does that I don't/wont'. fine. whatever. I'm actually rather picky about these two chores and would rather do them myself.

But this is an unusual situation and I need him to pick up some of my load. I would do the same without question.

It's distracting me from working right now. I need to take a chill pill (literally). Would like to call my mother and vent (complaining is one of the few things she's actually good at and understands) but I have to wait for him to get out of the house.

DUDE i couldn't sign on alla last night man ; ( oh my god! i just realized -- i'm at work today, and patita's comin to see the show today! i'm workin the show... not that'd i'd ever recognize

alla? what's that?

Patita looks like a Texan who's on this thread should look. :) Maybe she won't wear any pants to help you recognize her.

teehee

awwwwwwww!! i just met her! she was perfectly lovely (and wearing pants) and she brought me salsa that looks fucking amazing (i like to think i have an eye for salsa)

So cool!

Patita did send me what looks like excellent salsa in my Patita package. I wonder if it's the same type?

Isn't that heavy to send in the mail? I'll have to ask her. I would love to send my homemade salsa abroad.

omg, this salsa... WOW

it's called Hell on The Red Party Dip. it's like sweet in JUST the right way, and the bite is perfect

i can't keep eating tho, i've been on an eating fixation this week. i keep putting things in my mouth. and to tell you the truth, i think it's because i've stopped having breakfast.

oh my god tho! cereal's gonnab e my new thing in the morning. that or toast. i know how original. i need that padding, you know, so i don't binge later?

um, i had fruity pebbles today. they are SO GOOD. they are very good in creamy milk, u know like not skim -- oh and they are good in VANILLA SOY.

Isn't that heavy to send in the mail? I'll have to ask her. I would love to send my homemade salsa abroad.

The postage on the box she sent me was $21.60. Which is certainly not cheap, but manageable, I guess.

I am very much looking forward to my salsa.

yes... the bf just approved it and he's picky. MMMM

Hell on the Red is good.

You should definitely eat breakfast. Isn't called most important meal of the day for nothing.

amen

omg Ryan just made the most amazing marinara sauce i've ever had, with meatballs!!!!!

the whole process is so romantic, the different smells throughout the day as the sauce is being prepared, the different messes on the counter, the meatballs sizzling in the pan right as you start think about dinner, the dinner....

which reminds me, i really need 2 buy lady and the tramp soon

You should definitely eat breakfast. Isn't called most important meal of the day for nothing.

I eat breakfast: feel I'll vomit all day. Acid throat from hell. First solids I can manage are lunch. Sad but true :(

Had a good weekend. Culture night was a bit animal so didn't get to do the tour of State Apartments in Dublin Castle. Saw a dodgy documentary on La Chaise cemetery on Sat and then took the uncle out for dinner with my s.o. Sunday I shopped for wedding. I am now excited. Now need to learn how to bow tie, my younger sister is still on holiday and she was the only one who could figure out how to tie the effing thing!

Good morning everyone!