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Jeff LeVine (Jeff LeVine), Tuesday, 4 April 2006 21:57 (eighteen years ago) link

help, i've realized i'm a Yindie (or am i a yupster?)

team jaxon (jaxon), Tuesday, 4 April 2006 22:10 (eighteen years ago) link

the typos in the thread title are the result of me trying to type and feed my hipster baby at the same time.

scott seward (scott seward), Tuesday, 4 April 2006 22:12 (eighteen years ago) link

make sure he doesn't spit up on his dead kennedys shirt.

M@tt He1geson (Matt Helgeson), Tuesday, 4 April 2006 22:13 (eighteen years ago) link

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uh, no thanks

team jaxon (jaxon), Tuesday, 4 April 2006 22:14 (eighteen years ago) link

Do guys really spend $200 on bedhead haircuts in NY?

darin (darin), Tuesday, 4 April 2006 22:15 (eighteen years ago) link

rufus, our three year old, has a cool shirt with the ac/dc logo, but it says AB/CD (and underneath efghijklmnopqrstuvwxyz)

scott seward (scott seward), Tuesday, 4 April 2006 22:15 (eighteen years ago) link

I read a few paragraphs-- (HOW THE FUCK DO YALL AFFORD 800 DOLLAR STROLLERS?)

trees (treesessplode), Tuesday, 4 April 2006 22:17 (eighteen years ago) link

x-post
Actually, this story does progress from its ludicrous "ooh, a trend!" opening (the kind of stuff Mr. Sylvester so aptly, uh, parodied at the Voice) to a very good article about irresponsible parenting; but you have to slog through a couple of fairly painful pages to get to it.

joseph cotten (joseph cotten), Tuesday, 4 April 2006 22:18 (eighteen years ago) link

"to a very good article about irresponsible parenting;"

you mean the part about making your kid listen to sufjan instead of the wiggles? yeah, that was harsh.

scott seward (scott seward), Tuesday, 4 April 2006 22:21 (eighteen years ago) link

i'm not a big wiggles fan, but rufus loves them. who am i to judge? i actually like them a little more after reading the 20 page epic on them in the times magazine on sunday.

scott seward (scott seward), Tuesday, 4 April 2006 22:23 (eighteen years ago) link

a friend sent me the link under the subject heading "you are such a grup." which i guess, kinda, without the deathcab or sufjan. or the $800 stroller, i think ours was like $350. (but it's "the same one jon stewart bought last week" according to the saleslady, so that's maybe gruppy.) but a lot of people i know would fall into the broad demographic, plus or minus having kids. anyway, i think the ilx parenting thread is probably more representative and more interesting than the article.

gypsy mothra (gypsy mothra), Tuesday, 4 April 2006 22:24 (eighteen years ago) link

people be bitchy!

honestly who gives two shits about this kind of "lifestyle" trendspotting.

Shakey Mo Collier (Shakey Mo Collier), Tuesday, 4 April 2006 22:25 (eighteen years ago) link

(altho I do approve of the excessive use of Star Trek: The Original Series tropes - bonk bonk! BONK BONK!)

Shakey Mo Collier (Shakey Mo Collier), Tuesday, 4 April 2006 22:26 (eighteen years ago) link

"Hucksters" - the new generation of magazine writers coming up with stupid buzz terms

latebloomer: someone's been drinking my youth! (latebloomer), Tuesday, 4 April 2006 22:29 (eighteen years ago) link

okay, I can't finish the article cuz its stuffed chock-full of navel-gazing sub-literate armchair sociology - the first example being that the writer seems to think the Generation Gap was some eternal fact of social stratification when (at least as far as I can tell) it was really only something that only briefly came into sharp focus because of the Baby Boomers. Prior to that point, I'm not convinced the divide between generations was all that significant (in terms of music I'm thinking primarily of pop music and jazz)

Shakey Mo Collier (Shakey Mo Collier), Tuesday, 4 April 2006 22:32 (eighteen years ago) link

navel-gazing sub-literate armchair sociology

yeah, standards round here are so much higher

grup, Tuesday, 4 April 2006 22:36 (eighteen years ago) link

well, we don't have editors, salaries, etc. this is the internet for chrissakes

Shakey Mo Collier (Shakey Mo Collier), Tuesday, 4 April 2006 22:38 (eighteen years ago) link

The anecdotes about the jeans were really horrifying.

Alex in SF (Alex in SF), Tuesday, 4 April 2006 22:39 (eighteen years ago) link

you didn't get your check? (xpost)

kyle (akmonday), Tuesday, 4 April 2006 22:40 (eighteen years ago) link

be sure to bring that up next time some internet booster is arguing there is no dividing line between "real" journalism, blogs, message boards, and what have you

grup, Tuesday, 4 April 2006 22:41 (eighteen years ago) link

the whole Ingalls on Little House on the Prairie dug the same music (Mr. Edwards on fiddle!)

M@tt He1geson (Matt Helgeson), Tuesday, 4 April 2006 22:41 (eighteen years ago) link

christ there's a world of difference between paid print journalism and internet blatherings (as we can tell from the anonymous forcefulness of your bullshit)

Shakey Mo Collier (Shakey Mo Collier), Tuesday, 4 April 2006 22:42 (eighteen years ago) link

Oh man, I'm so gruppy. I own the first Nils CD on Profile.

Brooker Buckingham (Brooker B), Tuesday, 4 April 2006 22:45 (eighteen years ago) link

A former boss once tried to convince me (at least half-jokingly) that having kids was great because you could indoctrinate them any way you wanted, giving as an example the fact that she'd taught her young daughter to say, "Miles Davis is cool."

Rockist_Scientist (RSLaRue), Tuesday, 4 April 2006 23:02 (eighteen years ago) link

(Also, why is it always Death Cab for Cutie any more? I'm glad I don't really know what they sound like.)

Rockist_Scientist (RSLaRue), Tuesday, 4 April 2006 23:06 (eighteen years ago) link

So is this just the collective attempt of 30s-40s men to get into the pants of college girls?

Jessie the Monster (scarymonsterrr), Tuesday, 4 April 2006 23:24 (eighteen years ago) link

No, it's the effort of mid-20s writers to get into the pants of college girls by getting their names in magazines, even if it means stupid articles like this.

mitya's new york minute (mitya), Tuesday, 4 April 2006 23:28 (eighteen years ago) link

someone totally needs to make a killing joke baby rock star shirt

latebloomer: someone's been drinking my youth! (latebloomer), Tuesday, 4 April 2006 23:41 (eighteen years ago) link

I kind of imagined that in my forties, I would be shilling for my generation's Marah or what-have-you, being like, "What I love about them is that I can hear everything I ever loved about rock music in their recordings and in their live shows." Also, I would be wearing slacks about the house on weekends, at least when I'm not gardening or repairing a bird feeder.

M. Biondi (M. Biondi), Tuesday, 4 April 2006 23:43 (eighteen years ago) link

"I kind of imagined that in my forties, I would be shilling for my generation's Marah or what-have-you"

haha and complaining about Radiohead records being too "difficult"

latebloomer: someone's been drinking my youth! (latebloomer), Wednesday, 5 April 2006 00:14 (eighteen years ago) link

oh, and the very hippest of the Grups listens to: "Seminal bands you've never heard of(Montreal's the Nils; Bronx rappers Diamond & the Psychotic Neurotics)"

if this were the case, the story wouldn't make the grups seem so lame... but the only groups the author manages to namedrop (and with alarming frequency, i'll add) are franz ferdinand and bloc party. that's like saying, 'wow, ppl in their 30s listen to NPR!'.

that's so taylrr (ken taylrr), Wednesday, 5 April 2006 00:19 (eighteen years ago) link

I read this last week. I actually kind of liked and sympathized with the part about wanting to do something interesting for a job, something that you give a shit about rather than wearing a suit and doing something boring for 40 hours a week until you're 65.

Then again, that's probably easy to say when you're loaded enough to spend $200 on a shitty haircut, $600 on jeans, and have enough loot to own a loft in Manhattan. I don't have, nor do I want, any of these things. I'm just tired of my job and want to do something different.

joygoat (joygoat), Wednesday, 5 April 2006 00:20 (eighteen years ago) link

u can't hate people for being useless

dan bunnybrain (dan bunnybrain), Wednesday, 5 April 2006 00:21 (eighteen years ago) link

God damn I miss that Nick Sylvester thread.

Confounded (Confounded), Wednesday, 5 April 2006 01:19 (eighteen years ago) link

Fuck this shit.

Mr. Snrub (Mr. Snrub), Wednesday, 5 April 2006 01:25 (eighteen years ago) link

If a child had a Cannibal Corpse t-shirt on I think I'd report them to child services.

gruppin (Mr. Silverback), Wednesday, 5 April 2006 01:32 (eighteen years ago) link

I know six people! It's a TREND!

(Hey, you think the "average New Yorker" lives in a million dollar loft?)

js (honestengine), Wednesday, 5 April 2006 01:45 (eighteen years ago) link

average price of apartment in manhattan=$1.3 million

hmm, Wednesday, 5 April 2006 01:55 (eighteen years ago) link

baby Pansy Division t-shirts here:

http://www.babywit.com/bands_1old.html

scott seward (scott seward), Wednesday, 5 April 2006 01:57 (eighteen years ago) link

HI DERE

zappi (joni), Wednesday, 5 April 2006 02:07 (eighteen years ago) link

have any of you ever been to portland OR?

hjfdkz, Wednesday, 5 April 2006 04:31 (eighteen years ago) link

This article reads like a long Onion piece. Is this shit serious?

chad (chad), Wednesday, 5 April 2006 05:40 (eighteen years ago) link

Fuck this guy. I'm 33, a father of two and this shit is so far removed from my reality it blows my mind. Have these people ever worked a day in their lives? Is a twat a twat forever?

chad (chad), Wednesday, 5 April 2006 05:43 (eighteen years ago) link

haven't people been talking about 'middle youth' for years now?

Real Goths Don't Wear Black (Enrique), Wednesday, 5 April 2006 07:30 (eighteen years ago) link

Looky, the clue train is rolling in, and it has some messages for Adam Sternbergh and his stunted view of the world, skewed by his idea that a small percentage of affluent, hip, narcissistic, hyperconsumer fashion victims in Manhattan and Brooklyn are somehow representative of Americans, or even humanity.

First of all, there has always been adults who stayed current with culture, be it art, literature, poetry, film or music. They've always been a relative minority, and they still are. Throughout the 20th century, some were categorized as bohemians, beats, hippies, anarcho-punks, avant-garde artists, etc. But they could have just as well been iconoclastic individuals in Kansas or Kentucky who diverged from the norm. The few people who realize that giving up new music is like never reading another new book or seeing a new movie. Personally I think it makes as much sense as giving up sex, eating or breathing. The actual increase in the percentage of people who stay tapped into youth culture nowadays hardly represents a seismic shift. Sure, there's more people into new music now than in the 70s and 80s, when punk and indie shows would more often than not have less than 20 people in the audience. But these people hardly represent a mass movement or paradigm shift. When I go outside on a weekday, I don't see throngs of grups. I still see a sea of suits.

Secondly, very few of these "grups" are affluent enough to afford $600 jeans, especially when they're raising children. Typically, this New York article takes time out to plug a "very hot, hip fashion label" run by Rogan Gregory, who designs jeans that are so distressed and tattered, they're likely to fall apart within a month. The article gives the impression that grups "want the world to know [they] can afford the very best in tattered jeans." Funny, the people I know would be mortified at the idea. They might as well just wear a sign on the ass, "Fashion Victim Lemming." The article winds up by crowing how noble the grups are for quitting their hamster wheel jobs and creating their own destiny by being autonomous and self-employed. They can somehow do this and still afford their posh lofts, babies as fashion-accessories, not to mention health insurance and $600 tattered jeans. Surprise surprise, a New York publication is once again holding up a handful of smug trust-fund babies and crediting them with a trend.

This is so far from reality it's not even funny. It's offensive to the people who do value culture, but can barely make ends meet, or at the very least cannot afford to live frivolously.

Fastnbulbous (Fastnbulbous), Thursday, 6 April 2006 17:36 (eighteen years ago) link

See, it's weird - I read the article as being fairly critical of the grups' parenting style... and it didn't really make any claims that this phenomenon exists outside the described stratum of media-affiliated Park Slopers.

joseph cotten (joseph cotten), Thursday, 6 April 2006 22:02 (eighteen years ago) link

I don't see where the author qualified his statements as only applying to Park Slopers. Does the following sound like he is?

"This, of course, is a seismic shift in intergenerational relationships. It means there is no fundamental generation gap anymore. This is unprecedented in human history. And it’s kind of weird."

I think it's just the usual sloppy thinking and research used to prop up yet another ridiculous fashion spread.

Fastnbulbous (Fastnbulbous), Thursday, 6 April 2006 23:32 (eighteen years ago) link

Terence, the worst part is it wasn't Alex that was supposed to go first.

Rufus 3000 (Mr Noodles), Friday, 7 April 2006 01:28 (eighteen years ago) link

Did anyone on this board NOT have baby boomer parents who played the Beatles for them from birth?

Abbadavid Berman (Hurting), Friday, 7 April 2006 03:45 (eighteen years ago) link

HI DERE

Ned Raggett (Ned), Friday, 7 April 2006 03:48 (eighteen years ago) link

Dad was born in 1940, mom in 1944, me in 1971. The Beatles were just something on the radio and, thanks to Yellow Submarine, on the TV every so often.

Ned Raggett (Ned), Friday, 7 April 2006 03:49 (eighteen years ago) link

Well, perhaps I phrased the question wrong. Point remains though -- pop-culture indoctrination of one's kids not exactly a new thing.

Abbadavid Berman (Hurting), Friday, 7 April 2006 03:51 (eighteen years ago) link

"Did anyone on this board NOT have baby boomer parents who played the Beatles for them from birth?"

Nope, oddly enough neither of them really liked rock (though I love it). I gotta admit that my mom's tapes of funky early 70s Motown and their shared love of 80s synthpop had a definite effect on my musical tastes.

just another chicagoan (just another chicagoan), Friday, 7 April 2006 06:21 (eighteen years ago) link

Me: 1970, Mom: 1945, Dad: 1936

Neither of my parents owned a Beatles record - my dad listened to whatever was popular at the time (he was a disco & yacht rock fan in the 70s), my mom's taste ran to classical, world music, and movie soundtracks (though in the 80s she was into Depeche Mode and The Cure, which further skewed my view of the universe).

When I was around 10 or 11 I discovered Bowie, Queen, Pink Floyd, it was like aliens were raining from the sky. Never liked the Beatles, they always sounded like music for little kids, which is kind of ironic for a little kid to be thinking...

Edward III (edward iii), Friday, 7 April 2006 12:51 (eighteen years ago) link

Though I did play the hell out of an "Eleanor Rigby" 45 we had laying around...

Edward III (edward iii), Friday, 7 April 2006 12:53 (eighteen years ago) link

that baby is pretty smart.

M@tt He1geson (Matt Helgeson), Friday, 7 April 2006 13:22 (eighteen years ago) link

My love for music is entirely mine. Fairly similar demographics to Edward III, although my parents were a little older. I found ONE Beach Boys record in my parents' stash, and some Al Hirt and maybe Herb Alpert. My mind still reels at the ways I would have missed the history of the 60s, if left to my parents' devices.

someone let this mitya out! (mitya), Friday, 7 April 2006 13:27 (eighteen years ago) link

my parents were too old for the beatles as well. my dad was a huge jazz fan, so occasionally i would get covers via maynard ferguson or someone. i probably heard R&B covers of Beatles songs at home too. or by someone like Nancy Wilson. i did become a huge beatles fan at a very young age though. but not because of my parents, i don't think. my dad did make me a sly & the family stone fan when i was little though.

scott seward (scott seward), Friday, 7 April 2006 13:28 (eighteen years ago) link

my dad had a copy of Led Zeppelin 2 when i was little, but i didn't listen to it until i was older. he never played it. i don't know why he bought it. later, he became a huge southern rock fan.

scott seward (scott seward), Friday, 7 April 2006 13:30 (eighteen years ago) link

my dad did make me a sly & the family stone fan when i was little though.

That's definitely something to be thankful for.

In other news, my wife's become a big Arctic Monkeys fan since their SNL appearance. Now my 2 year old daugher walks around going "Listen... artic... monkee!" and 5 year old son has taken to randomly shouting "I don't want to hear you KICK ME OUT KICK ME OUT." So Arctic Monkeys may have a shot at a US fanbase in the under-10 demographic.

No $400 haircuts or fasionably distressed jeans in our house, though.

Edward III (edward iii), Friday, 7 April 2006 15:23 (eighteen years ago) link

you guys let your kids listen to songs with lines like "the band were fuckin' wank"?

yuengling participle (rotten03), Friday, 7 April 2006 18:44 (eighteen years ago) link

that baby is pretty smart.

Haha, at first I thought the shirt said "never trust a baby", which would be much cooler.

C0L1N B... (C0L1N B...), Friday, 7 April 2006 18:49 (eighteen years ago) link

you guys let your kids listen to songs with lines like "the band were fuckin' wank"?
-- yuengling participle (pton_mwaa...), April 7th, 2006 3:44 PM.

Not intentionally, no. Apparently my wife hasn't discovered that particular f-bomb... the heavy Sheffield accent helps I guess. I must thank you, sir, for saving my family from this insidious overseas threat.

Edward III (edward iii), Friday, 7 April 2006 19:16 (eighteen years ago) link

Although both the wife and I are not above drop-the-volume/skip-the-track machinations around the small ones.

Edward III (edward iii), Friday, 7 April 2006 19:23 (eighteen years ago) link

My dad (1947) played a lot of southern rock (ZZ Top, Allmans, not so much Skynyrd) and yacht-rock/Steely Dan. When I was a little older, I remember coming home from school and he'd be watching Yo MTV Raps or something. Also a big fan of the B-52s and Dee-Lite hits of the late-80s/early-90s.

The only music I can remember my mom (1951) listening to was Phil Collins solo and Enya. She liked those Gregorian Chants CDs, but I don't remember when that phase was.

Big Willy and the Twins (miloaukerman), Friday, 7 April 2006 19:41 (eighteen years ago) link

Your dad sounds cool.

Rickey Wright (Rrrickey), Friday, 7 April 2006 23:04 (eighteen years ago) link

Looky, the clue train is rolling in, and it has some messages for Adam Sternbergh and his stunted view of the world, skewed by his idea that a small percentage of affluent, hip, narcissistic, hyperconsumer fashion victims in Manhattan and Brooklyn are somehow representative of Americans, or even humanity.

It does bear noting that the magazine is called New York, not America or Humanity.

Matos-Webster Dictionary (M Matos), Monday, 10 April 2006 02:59 (eighteen years ago) link

With GRUPS, you can be anyone you want -- an elf hero fighting for the forces of good, a shadowy femme fatale on a deep-cover mission, a futuristic swashbuckler carving up foes with a force sword in his hand and a beautiful woman by his side . . . or literally anything else!

smokemon (eman), Monday, 10 April 2006 03:06 (eighteen years ago) link

haha.

Special Agent Gene Krupa (orion), Monday, 10 April 2006 03:14 (eighteen years ago) link

xx-post - slow applause for Matos

joseph cotten (joseph cotten), Monday, 10 April 2006 03:53 (eighteen years ago) link

my fucking dad started it, still listening to frank sinatra well into his 40s, like didn't he know that stuff's for teenagers?

dr x o'skeleton, Monday, 10 April 2006 08:19 (eighteen years ago) link

These are apparently the people who don't want to work for the man and who put Misfits t-shirts on their toddler.

Oh shit, I was just gonna place an order. :-)

Nathalie (stevie nixed), Monday, 10 April 2006 08:50 (eighteen years ago) link

Did anyone on this board NOT have baby boomer parents who played the Beatles for them from birth?

My parents were born in 1929. My dad played Hank Williams for me from birth. They didn't like the Beatles, except for "Yesterday." Around 1971, whenever I played Emerson Lake & Palmer's debut (faux classical piano) or Savoy Brown's Raw Sienna (w/clumsy bigband horn arrangements) my mom would knock on my bedroom door and ask "what's that you're listening to? do you call that rock?"

how many people were actually listening to Joy Division and Killing Joke in the 80s?

of course. hmmm. maybe I am too old for this place?

ILM is my midlife crisis (lovebug starski), Monday, 10 April 2006 09:23 (eighteen years ago) link

xx-post - slow applause for Matos
-- joseph cotten (josephcotte...), April 9th, 2006

and here I thought I was actually making a point, albeit an oblique one.

Matos-Webster Dictionary (M Matos), Monday, 10 April 2006 13:39 (eighteen years ago) link

maybe I am too old for this place?

Nonsense. If anything, we're all too young.

Ned Raggett (Ned), Monday, 10 April 2006 13:41 (eighteen years ago) link

Thanks Ned. I was like, "were they all listening to Raffi then?"

Not only did my parents not like the Beatles I'm sure neither one of them wore a pair of bluejeans in the entire lives. That changed with the baby boomers, where parents and their children started wearing the same clothes as well as listening to the same music. The previous generation dressed like grownups even when they were dressing down. And their parents, my grandparents' generation, forget about it. Old people looked a lot older back in the day, it's hard to explain, just check out a vintage photo of Eisenhower or Harry Truman. That's what my grandafthers looked like.

m coleman (lovebug starski), Monday, 10 April 2006 13:58 (eighteen years ago) link

luke's little brainiac daughter totally called him a grup in the last episode of the gilmore girls. and then she explained the star trek reference. and at the end of the show they played angst in my pants by sparks. just thought i'd throw that in there. it may catch on yet!

scott seward (scott seward), Friday, 14 April 2006 21:24 (eighteen years ago) link

four years pass...

god remember when death cab for cutie were a thing? oy. that was the year this country lost its innocence. it only took four years for them to be completely erased from a nation's collective memory. until today. shit, sorry...

scott seward, Monday, 15 November 2010 19:40 (thirteen years ago) link

I thought you hated the indica & were swearing it off

honkin' on joey kramer (underrated aerosmith bootlegs I have owned), Monday, 15 November 2010 19:42 (thirteen years ago) link

Oh, man. Gurps is like my Velocity Girl.

― Eppy (Eppy), Thursday, April 6, 2006 3:10 PM (4 years ago) Bookmark

i am dying here

not everything is a campfire (ian), Monday, 15 November 2010 19:47 (thirteen years ago) link

"I thought you hated the indica & were swearing it off"

i gave it away! i AM listening to Barefoot Jerry sing their 1975 hit "Hero Frodo" right now though.

scott seward, Monday, 15 November 2010 19:48 (thirteen years ago) link


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