"He owns eleven pairs of sneakers, hasn't worn anything but jeans in a year, and won't shut up about the latest Death Cab For Cutie CD. But he is no kid. He is among the ascendant breed of grown-up w

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you missed the part where he said "sharing your dvd collection" -- which is obviously something previous generations didn't do! a keen insight.

gypsy mothra (gypsy mothra), Wednesday, 5 April 2006 18:13 (eighteen years ago) link

Man, hanging out with Dave Eggers ought to qualify you for worker's comp.

Eppy (Eppy), Wednesday, 5 April 2006 18:14 (eighteen years ago) link

DJ Martian's statistical obsessions paid off! Good call, spaceboy.

mike h. (mike h.), Wednesday, 5 April 2006 18:19 (eighteen years ago) link

Being single, childless and social has its advantages.

Ned Raggett (Ned), Wednesday, 5 April 2006 18:25 (eighteen years ago) link

"Alternaparenting." Ugh. If only I could get past that name.

mike a, Wednesday, 5 April 2006 18:31 (eighteen years ago) link

If only I could get past the fact that it sounds like every generation's tenets and principles of raising children since the adoption of child-labor laws, if not the Renaissance.

Rick Massimo (Rick Massimo), Wednesday, 5 April 2006 18:34 (eighteen years ago) link

when i was a kid all i listened to was my parent's CCR and Rolling Stones greatest hits records....they were early alternaparents! amazing, mom!

M@tt He1geson (Matt Helgeson), Wednesday, 5 April 2006 18:36 (eighteen years ago) link

On NPR last week there was a piece about all these bars in Park Slope that have happy hours for parents and kids. I have to admit it sounded kind of nice to sit around hanging out in a bar with some friends, not worrying about having my kid running around. On the other hand, it seems a little irresponsible.

mcd (mcd), Wednesday, 5 April 2006 18:43 (eighteen years ago) link

kids drink free!

M@tt He1geson (Matt Helgeson), Wednesday, 5 April 2006 18:45 (eighteen years ago) link

i think our kid was in a bar before he was four months old. it's harder now that he can run around, but we still take him out sometimes. not to, like, annoyingly crowded places, but nice neighborhood pubs or whatever, why not?

gypsy mothra (gypsy mothra), Wednesday, 5 April 2006 18:52 (eighteen years ago) link

It's a sign times have changed -- 100 years ago Carrie Nation would have been chopping you up with an ax for that.

Ned Raggett (Ned), Wednesday, 5 April 2006 18:55 (eighteen years ago) link

My dad took me to the bar all the time and I turned out totally drunk.

Eppy (Eppy), Wednesday, 5 April 2006 18:55 (eighteen years ago) link

it's harder now that he can run around, but we still take him out sometimes. not to, like, annoyingly crowded places, but nice neighborhood pubs or whatever, why not?

I guess I just picture 20 kids running amok and parents sipping blood orange martinis and not paying attention. I don't have any problem bringing a kid to a bar.

mcd (mcd), Wednesday, 5 April 2006 19:39 (eighteen years ago) link

I mean specifically this "trend" in Park Slope that aims to provide mommy & me happy hour.

mcd (mcd), Wednesday, 5 April 2006 19:40 (eighteen years ago) link

if you don't start them young yr kids are going to turn out to be total pussies and lightweights....

M@tt He1geson (Matt Helgeson), Wednesday, 5 April 2006 19:43 (eighteen years ago) link

I took my daughter to a bar when she was only 3 weeks old and drank a pint at the bar wearing the baby sling thing. It felt kind of weird so I didn't do it again. Bars are depressing enough without throwing bored children into the equation.

everything, Wednesday, 5 April 2006 19:50 (eighteen years ago) link

So going solely by the photos that accompanied the article, I gotta assume this is a 100 percent white phenomenon.

Like about every trend involving indie-rock?

Cunga (Cunga), Wednesday, 5 April 2006 20:22 (eighteen years ago) link

What that story conveniently overlooks is the fact that even at a very young age, while kids may not yet espouse taste, per se, they do have preferences. It doesn't matter what I play my 17-month old daughter when she's clearly asking to watch Boobah or listen to "The Wheels on the Bus" for the fifth time. These "alternaparents" must have a bunch of screaming, fit-throwing kids if they're trying to foist something like Death Cab for Cutie on them, since no toddler in his or her right mind would request the stuff. I'm far more curious what she'll pick out of my CD and DVD collection - if anything - when she's old enough to care.

Josh in Chicago (Josh in Chicago), Wednesday, 5 April 2006 20:33 (eighteen years ago) link

"it hurts my head like 100 dogs"

Tracey Hand (tracerhand), Wednesday, 5 April 2006 20:40 (eighteen years ago) link

ah, good times:

What Should We Be Playing The Baby?

scott seward (scott seward), Wednesday, 5 April 2006 21:07 (eighteen years ago) link

poor cyrus, he gets nothing but metal. we'll see what that does. he's too little to tell me what he wants to hear though. rufus is not a metal fan, thanks to me. he calls it monster music. he likes country. and kidz stuff. he really does love those wiggles. and the doodlebops. and the baby einsteins.

scott seward (scott seward), Wednesday, 5 April 2006 21:10 (eighteen years ago) link

early indications with our kid show a preference for big bright beats in any genre, and also arpeggiated guitar. (a couple times when some guitar thing has come on, he's gone over and picked up his toy guitar and started thwacking it, like he knows that this is the instrument that's supposed to make that sound.)

gypsy mothra (gypsy mothra), Wednesday, 5 April 2006 21:19 (eighteen years ago) link

iFor the first time in twenty years, Tom Gabriel Fischer and Martin Eric Ain are walking together among us. The two Swiss death artists first butted heads in the early 1980s with the ur-dirge group Hellhammer, a touchstone for all fledgling black metal and death metal. Their image and means of expression were extreme, outsider cries that challenged musical orthodoxy and made a lot of people uncomfortable. When Celtic Frost formed in 1984, the rate of development was phenomenally fast. Over the course of three magnificent albums, Fischer and Ain forged a durable kind of metal that deserves enormous credit for turning heavy metal into music of substance. A failed glam experiment minus Ain followed, and a tentative effort to reclaim past glory in 1990 showed that time stood still for no band. Now however -- after more than a decade of years quietly marked by Fischer’s autobiography, his electronic metal outfit, a slew of Celtic Frost reissues, and mostly silence -- we have MONOTHEIST. Joined by Apollyon Sun guitarist Erol Unala – who has since left the band -- and new drummer Franco Sesa, Fischer and Ain have created a massively dire apparition that strike slower and deeper than their ‘80s output. The trademark evocative interludes are represented, but the meat of MONOTHEIST are mountainous Alpine dirges in the key of B, where the groaning guitars of bygone days are elevated to something truly seismic. The two collaborators arrived in New York on Ash Wednesday 2006, and were delighted to see businesspeople strolling the sidewalks with cult-like black smears on their foreheads. Ain, the product of a religious upbringing, happily smeared an inverted cross into his forehead. In fact, Ain and Fischer make a jovial pair, continually cracking harsh jokes at the expense of themselves and their companions. But when discussion turns to MONOTHEIST and Celtic Frost, they become serious and hard as granite. Though their proclamations are lofty and they remain addicted to grand gestures, Ain and Fischer are prepared to back up their postures with every ounce of their considerable aggregated force. After a long fitful slumber, the emperors have returned to slay the imposters.

Noodles & Pappy (Ian Christe), Wednesday, 5 April 2006 22:37 (eighteen years ago) link

such a great album. you should have put that on the monotheist thread, ian:


I Have To Start An Official ILM Celtic Frost - Monotheist Thread

scott seward (scott seward), Wednesday, 5 April 2006 23:15 (eighteen years ago) link

my gf thinks Pat Kiernan is secretly a hipster, which I don't get, but you can note a condescendingly sardonic tone to his voice when he has to read puff pieces off the teleprompter.
he does rule tho.

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Fight the Real Enemy -- Tasti D-Lite (ex machina), Thursday, 6 April 2006 05:47 (eighteen years ago) link

http://www.sjgames.com/gurps/books/basic/img/basic2_lg.jpg

smokemon (eman), Thursday, 6 April 2006 11:47 (eighteen years ago) link

Martian OTM.

I am realizing now that these are the people who actually buy magnet magazine

banana squad (dayvidday), Thursday, 6 April 2006 15:00 (eighteen years ago) link

Oh, man. Gurps is like my Velocity Girl.

Eppy (Eppy), Thursday, 6 April 2006 15:10 (eighteen years ago) link

Oops, I shoulda capitalized that. See, it's been a while.

Eppy (Eppy), Thursday, 6 April 2006 15:10 (eighteen years ago) link

Is GURPS for yupsterS?

Fight the Real Enemy -- Tasti D-Lite (ex machina), Thursday, 6 April 2006 15:31 (eighteen years ago) link

GURPS is for the nerdiest nerds in the nerd patch.

Eppy (Eppy), Thursday, 6 April 2006 15:34 (eighteen years ago) link

the nils?!

Seriously, THE The Nils?!?!?!?!?!

Rufus 3000 (Mr Noodles), Thursday, 6 April 2006 16:00 (eighteen years ago) link

Okay, ILM-heavy demographic, but how many people were actually listening to Joy Division and Killing Joke in the 80s? What about the 10 million teenagers who were listening to Phil Collins and Iron Maiden? Where's their fucking trendy handle?

Agh, Scott, the Doodlebops. I can't stand them.

Favorite Wiggles tune: "Our Boat Is Rocking On The Sea"

Edward III (edward iii), Thursday, 6 April 2006 16:53 (eighteen years ago) link

"Where's their fucking trendy handle?"

they get to be called "bobos" or something equally as lovely.

scott seward (scott seward), Thursday, 6 April 2006 17:03 (eighteen years ago) link

I only happened upon this site b/c: (1) I read New York magazine, which occasionally has amusing articles about mad rich people similar to those in Vanity Fair; and (2) I noticed that reference to The Nils in the article and had been Googling it ever since to see if any actual fans of The Nils picked up on the reference. Actually, The Nils are/were so sadly unknown outside of that I'd be amazed if that writer actually knows anybody who listens to them. That said, if anybody ever gets the chance to discover them (or the later incarnation, the band "Chino") you'll be richly rewarded with the best melodic post-hardcore (or "folkcore," which was actually a word once coined long ago to describe Husker Du) ever. The songwriter/singer Alex Soria was a contemporary of Husker Du and the Replacements who was as gifted as those other groups, not at all self pitying or artsy but just enormously humble and sadly doomed to a life of addiction, which ended when he jumped in front of a train two years ago. Seriously. Just a plug for a criminally unknown songwriter who deserved better.

Terence Friedman, Thursday, 6 April 2006 17:06 (eighteen years ago) link

Looky, the clue train is rolling in, and it has some messages for Adam Sternbergh and his stunted view of the world, skewed by his idea that a small percentage of affluent, hip, narcissistic, hyperconsumer fashion victims in Manhattan and Brooklyn are somehow representative of Americans, or even humanity.

First of all, there has always been adults who stayed current with culture, be it art, literature, poetry, film or music. They've always been a relative minority, and they still are. Throughout the 20th century, some were categorized as bohemians, beats, hippies, anarcho-punks, avant-garde artists, etc. But they could have just as well been iconoclastic individuals in Kansas or Kentucky who diverged from the norm. The few people who realize that giving up new music is like never reading another new book or seeing a new movie. Personally I think it makes as much sense as giving up sex, eating or breathing. The actual increase in the percentage of people who stay tapped into youth culture nowadays hardly represents a seismic shift. Sure, there's more people into new music now than in the 70s and 80s, when punk and indie shows would more often than not have less than 20 people in the audience. But these people hardly represent a mass movement or paradigm shift. When I go outside on a weekday, I don't see throngs of grups. I still see a sea of suits.

Secondly, very few of these "grups" are affluent enough to afford $600 jeans, especially when they're raising children. Typically, this New York article takes time out to plug a "very hot, hip fashion label" run by Rogan Gregory, who designs jeans that are so distressed and tattered, they're likely to fall apart within a month. The article gives the impression that grups "want the world to know [they] can afford the very best in tattered jeans." Funny, the people I know would be mortified at the idea. They might as well just wear a sign on the ass, "Fashion Victim Lemming." The article winds up by crowing how noble the grups are for quitting their hamster wheel jobs and creating their own destiny by being autonomous and self-employed. They can somehow do this and still afford their posh lofts, babies as fashion-accessories, not to mention health insurance and $600 tattered jeans. Surprise surprise, a New York publication is once again holding up a handful of smug trust-fund babies and crediting them with a trend.

This is so far from reality it's not even funny. It's offensive to the people who do value culture, but can barely make ends meet, or at the very least cannot afford to live frivolously.

Fastnbulbous (Fastnbulbous), Thursday, 6 April 2006 17:36 (eighteen years ago) link

See, it's weird - I read the article as being fairly critical of the grups' parenting style... and it didn't really make any claims that this phenomenon exists outside the described stratum of media-affiliated Park Slopers.

joseph cotten (joseph cotten), Thursday, 6 April 2006 22:02 (eighteen years ago) link

I don't see where the author qualified his statements as only applying to Park Slopers. Does the following sound like he is?

"This, of course, is a seismic shift in intergenerational relationships. It means there is no fundamental generation gap anymore. This is unprecedented in human history. And it’s kind of weird."

I think it's just the usual sloppy thinking and research used to prop up yet another ridiculous fashion spread.

Fastnbulbous (Fastnbulbous), Thursday, 6 April 2006 23:32 (eighteen years ago) link

Terence, the worst part is it wasn't Alex that was supposed to go first.

Rufus 3000 (Mr Noodles), Friday, 7 April 2006 01:28 (eighteen years ago) link

Did anyone on this board NOT have baby boomer parents who played the Beatles for them from birth?

Abbadavid Berman (Hurting), Friday, 7 April 2006 03:45 (eighteen years ago) link

HI DERE

Ned Raggett (Ned), Friday, 7 April 2006 03:48 (eighteen years ago) link

Dad was born in 1940, mom in 1944, me in 1971. The Beatles were just something on the radio and, thanks to Yellow Submarine, on the TV every so often.

Ned Raggett (Ned), Friday, 7 April 2006 03:49 (eighteen years ago) link

Well, perhaps I phrased the question wrong. Point remains though -- pop-culture indoctrination of one's kids not exactly a new thing.

Abbadavid Berman (Hurting), Friday, 7 April 2006 03:51 (eighteen years ago) link

"Did anyone on this board NOT have baby boomer parents who played the Beatles for them from birth?"

Nope, oddly enough neither of them really liked rock (though I love it). I gotta admit that my mom's tapes of funky early 70s Motown and their shared love of 80s synthpop had a definite effect on my musical tastes.

just another chicagoan (just another chicagoan), Friday, 7 April 2006 06:21 (eighteen years ago) link

Me: 1970, Mom: 1945, Dad: 1936

Neither of my parents owned a Beatles record - my dad listened to whatever was popular at the time (he was a disco & yacht rock fan in the 70s), my mom's taste ran to classical, world music, and movie soundtracks (though in the 80s she was into Depeche Mode and The Cure, which further skewed my view of the universe).

When I was around 10 or 11 I discovered Bowie, Queen, Pink Floyd, it was like aliens were raining from the sky. Never liked the Beatles, they always sounded like music for little kids, which is kind of ironic for a little kid to be thinking...

Edward III (edward iii), Friday, 7 April 2006 12:51 (eighteen years ago) link

Though I did play the hell out of an "Eleanor Rigby" 45 we had laying around...

Edward III (edward iii), Friday, 7 April 2006 12:53 (eighteen years ago) link

that baby is pretty smart.

M@tt He1geson (Matt Helgeson), Friday, 7 April 2006 13:22 (eighteen years ago) link

My love for music is entirely mine. Fairly similar demographics to Edward III, although my parents were a little older. I found ONE Beach Boys record in my parents' stash, and some Al Hirt and maybe Herb Alpert. My mind still reels at the ways I would have missed the history of the 60s, if left to my parents' devices.

someone let this mitya out! (mitya), Friday, 7 April 2006 13:27 (eighteen years ago) link


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