itt a strange man asks if you saw the ass on that one

re: hostility of

swear that at bars the people that decide randomly to talk to me are these guys or they are v drunk girlfriends sitting bored next to boyfriends who are laughing with their bros. all rolling their eyes over at those dudes and asking me, hey what's with that shirt (ed: it is just a shirt) hahahahaha i'm kidding, man i would kill for a cigarette, you got one?

I heard "sometimes the skirt's so short you just gotta stare" last week

― super sexy psycho fantasy world (uh oh I'm having a fantasy), Friday, November 20, 2009 6:25 PM (2 minutes ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

i have also heard this! like word for word!

lewd men and their thoughts: my life as a clueless nerd

by G.B. Xavier

between this and the latest video on 'o_O posts' i am feeling a bit ill, gah

yeeks double guilty

yes i just watched part of that and completely regret it. at least gbx's guy is, like, trying to connect irl?

like, i have been on a bit of a feminist tip recently, but stuff like this is just really unsettling in a way some of the more obviously awful stuff isn't

used up cumrag made ill by cartoon

Got that cartoon, framed, in a box somewhere in my mom's basement. It hung in my dormroom, and made me different.

it's like a real life WS thread but with horrible men no one else wants to talk to

this isn't that different from 77 WS thread

u you want to be all yes dude just cause hey sure but like what are you getting yrself into - the neediness having actually nothing to do w/any sort of observed hotness - so ur just all yup - basically ~this~ guy
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yeah this. i don't want to step all over a person's awkward gesture of community ("let's agree on THIS") but almost every time i've been like haha sure man get after it i've been pulled into an orbit around what appears to be a slightly hostile planet

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had prepared a whole post abt how i think figuring out how to deal with "this guy" is an impt part of growing up and learning to be a human--but really there is no way to ever deal with this guy is there

i've never gotten this, but i get strangers saying racist things to me and expecting me to agree with them.

yah i never get rando dudes tyrna bond with me over their sexual interest in some women

voted chick was slammin I will not lie

i feel like a disproportionate # of ppl ask me for directions tho which makes me feel guilty abt never knowing where anything is

A homeless guy once said it to me while I was passing him by. He was lounging on some wall, I think. I couldn't help but burst out laughing. I think I thanked him. But I'm not sure.

I heard "sometimes the skirt's so short you just gotta stare" last week

This is true, but not in the way it was meant, I don't think. Norah Jones was on Colbert last week, sitting on a bar stool in a skirt that was never meant to see a bar stool. She was clearly uncomfortable. She kept her hands folded in her lap the entire interview, presumably to keep from going the full hoo-ha. It was distracting. So yeah, I stared, but it was more like, "Yikes. That's an accident waiting to happen!"

As for pointing out asses and engaging in overfamiliar, lewd conversation: I have gotten this a lot from cab drivers. Sometimes it's disgusting leering, and sometimes it's complaining about their wife or girlfriend in a tone of, "You know how WOMEN are!" Nothing you can say, really, plus you're stuck inside a moving vehicle with ~this~ guy.

Automatic thread bump. This poll is closing tomorrow.

~THIS~ guy is a hero tbh, tellin it like it is. asses be slammin.

Automatic thread bump. This poll's results are now in.

a strange ass asks if you saw the man on that one

lol @ results

lots of ~this~ guy's on ilx

no one cares if it was yr gf or sister :/

strange men are just friends all the other ~this~guys haven't met yet.

Same as ever -- if ILX did this poll about race there would be open warfare.

i can't see the results due to
ZING

:-/

but I bet laurel is otm

i am trying to imagine how this poll could be about race

i've never gotten this, but i get strangers saying racist things to me and expecting me to agree with them.
--Pedro Paramore (jim)

like this

"Did you see that black on that nigger? That is some black-ass nigger."

A. Dude is right, that nigger was DARK.
B. ~This~ guy.
C. Ah, he's harmless.
D. etc

tbf thinking a chick is hot is not sexist, its expressing it in a way that creates a negative environment so they're not quite parallel

hey Laurel, i think you're great, but i hate it when you do this. you could make your point without setting racism and sexism against each other like that; they don't exist discretely like that in the world.

I think the poll results make the point for me, actually. I'm just picking trigger issues that are close to the bosom of ILX to begin with.

i mean, being physically attracted to someone is obv incorporating lots of constructions & such but its also at some level about evolutionary reproduction etc whereas racism is entirely a social construct

still can't see em

what won?

dude is right, that chick was slammin 28
~this~ guy 10
ah he's harmless 4
or you heard him say it, about you! 2
agreed, despicable behavior 2
oh? what if it was yr gf or yr sister he was talking about 0

oh geez guys you're really going for it.

wow! not the results I was expecting! for real!

i guess my point is pretty bad bcuz being ~that~ guy is probably more about ... i dont know what ... insecurity? general corniness? lack of empathy? than it is about actual attraction

Try "ownership."

try "tildes" ("~")

well I sort of assumed that ~this~ guy would win, but i did not expect the lechers to take it.

ugh ZING

ilxors going for the only funny/stupid answer in a poll shocker

I think I could be unclear on who "~this~ guy" is. Is it supposed to be me, subjectively? If so, I mis-voted. I thought it was kinda like, "Get a load of THIS guy. Sheesh. What an asshole."

no kenan, that is what it meant, the guy is an asshole

Laurel sometimes you seem like the only one that makes sense in this entire crazy internet.

good job ilx

this thread <3

I have reversed my opinion on this topic

this has happened to me twice in the last month or so

approve of dan's latest mod actions tbh

do not approve of dan's latest mod actions tbh

would request a list of 'banned words' on ILX if i was really that invested, rather than interested in a lazy/theoretical way tbh

kudos on finding the least appropriate thread possible to revive for this

guys, it's friday, can we have fun instead of bein all intense xpost w/ppl who wanna be all intense

this is like the rolling 'angry feminist' thread and i self-identify as one

but yeah, ass. friday ass.

friday ass.

this is such a great classic thread

was I otm in it, all that matters

always feel like people saying this sort of stuff to you implies you're both in some sort of secret club

makes me want to figure out which one, so I can tear up my membership card

One time I responded to this sort of thing by saying, like, "what, the guy in the tank top?" Which I thought was pretty funny, but I'm also pretty sure the ass-commentator was thinking about punching me, so I might not try that again.

So many dudes are just constantly being all "hey NUDGE NUDGE I notice we are both HETEROSEXUAL"

A guy at work: "Sunny days make you wish you had a roofie gun."

do u work at JAIL

no one has ever asked me this

discuss

http://nymag.com/daily/intelligencer/2014/04/how-not-to-use-your-butt-on-the-subway.html

On one hand, I am glad that I posted a legitimate concerned thought to this thread.

On the other hand, I am very sad that I never used the d/n "a strange man"

Raymond Carver's "They're Not Your Husband" to thread.

idgi, if the rat is wild why is he sharing cheese with the man

link shows neat impromptu recreation of 'Partition' video imo