Boob etiquette (a question for the ladies).

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I compliment the cans all the time.

― Jeff. (Jeff), Monday, 12 June 2006 23:18 (seventeen years ago) link

what finally convinced me to try to not stare at boobs (i do try) and not try any longer to pretend that when I say "great boobs" or whatever I'm complementing the girl instead of just being a self-serving prick with a complete lack of tact and sense is was imagining living in a world where women hid all their goodies in hot, uncomfortable outfits with pleats and high collars and layers upon layers of starched cotton and wool while men went about wearing spandex drawers and tank tops, where the volume of a dude's triceps directly correlated to his performance in job interviews and our genital dimensions were essentially on display for all the world to gawk at or ignore at will. As much as a completely dumb son of a bitch might think "yeah I got big balls, thanks ladies!" would be his response to a wolf whistle, after going through the incredible extra trauma this would have added to our adolescence I think we'd all actually just feel like shit 90% of the time we were outside of the house. March on, ladies. I'll be in the turtleneck.

― TOMBOT (TOMBOT), Monday, 12 June 2006 23:31 (seventeen years ago) link

Also Tuomas yes I just called you a completely dumb son of a bitch

― TOMBOT (TOMBOT), Monday, 12 June 2006 23:32 (seventeen years ago) link

For chrissakes, why does everyone think I'm talking about commenting how great someone's boobs are?! No doubt that's sexist and objectifying women, but what this thread was supposed to be about was boob talk in general. Of course, if you think there's no way you can even mention boobs without being a sexist, then the point is kinda lost. Anyway, my last post was a comment to Aldo's, and I was trying to say that in this very specific situation I might understand complimenting on someone's breasts. But I don't go on everyday saying "nice breasts" to my friends.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 02:48 (seventeen years ago) link

Do you find it rude if a male friend talks about your boobs?

It has never happened, but I can imagine it would be, at the very least, awkward.

Or boobs in general?

I would find it tacky or infantile, depending upon the circumstance.

How well would you have to know him for it to be normal?

I don't think it would be normal for a male friend to discuss any of my body parts with me, save for perhaps, my hands. I think hands are fair game.

Is there some company where the subject shouldn't be raised?

Breast cancer sufferers or survivors, for example.

― Mary (Mary), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 02:54 (seventeen years ago) link

i honestly cannot imagine discussing my friends' tits. they might as well not have any for all i care

― electric sound of jim (and why not) (electricsound), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 02:57 (seventeen years ago) link

and i'm one crass son of a bitch at the best of times

― electric sound of jim (and why not) (electricsound), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 02:58 (seventeen years ago) link

By the way, I do talk about men's bodies with my friends too, and my body. Of course it's not the same due to different treatment women and men get in general, but I just wanted to make sure you get the whole picture. Generally I'm against objectifying anyone, women or men, but it'd be ridiculous to assume this would exclude talking about bodies in any sense.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 02:59 (seventeen years ago) link

dude, if you're bros, you can talk about her tits all day long

― gbx (skowly), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 03:02 (seventeen years ago) link

This seems bizarre to me. No man here except me and Tuomas has ever been asked by a female friend about their appearance? If a particular item of clothing seems too sexy or not sexy enough or whatever? If, say, the neckline is too low or too high?

I don't buy it. Not for a minute.

xpost

― 100% CHAMPS with a Yes! Attitude. (Austin, Still), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 03:02 (seventeen years ago) link

And it's not really an everyday subject of discussion anyway. But if, say, a female friend occasionally wants to talk about breasts or asses or whatever, as has happened, I'm not going to shy away.

(xx-post)

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 03:04 (seventeen years ago) link

Of course it is everyone's within everyone's rights not to talk about the subject, but if you know your friends well enough, you should now when it's okay to say something and when not.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 03:07 (seventeen years ago) link

Also, there are many friends with whom I'd never talk about this. It all depends on what kind of personalities they are - some girls find the subject okay, some think it's rude, and there's nothing wrong with either.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 03:10 (seventeen years ago) link

mary, you have lovely hands.

― mookieproof (mookieproof), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 03:18 (seventeen years ago) link

Well Tuomas, you did ask the question: do people find it rude? Consensus (esp from the women here) sez yes, it'd seem.

FWIW I knew you meant the phrase "asking for it" literally (as in she asked "look tell me about my tits"), unfortunately that phrase is loaded in a rape sense in English and frankly I think its unfair of other people to give you shit for it.

(Cue 20 posts about "wilful ignorance" now I spose)

― Trayce (trayce), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 03:20 (seventeen years ago) link

if you know your friends well enough, you should now when it's okay to say something and when not.

So why even start this thread?

xpost

― 31g (31g), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 03:23 (seventeen years ago) link

http://themot.org/gallery/d/3891-1/paintingstfu.jpg

― Q('.'Q) (eman), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 03:27 (seventeen years ago) link

damn, this is fucking OTM!

tombot in being a more convincing feminist than all the "sensitive" dudes on ilx put together non-shockah.

― J.D. (Justyn Dillingham), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 04:38 (seventeen years ago) link

i agree, reading it has cheered me up.

― estela (estela), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 04:49 (seventeen years ago) link

boobs ought to be hidden, and never spoken of, so that we may never see this again

http://mlb.mlb.com/images/2004/05/14/qzPTJAO7.jpg

― timmy tannin (pompous), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 05:06 (seventeen years ago) link

someday, anti-grav bras will allow this for all

until that day, time for synthetics

― kingfish du lac (kingfish 2.0), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 05:19 (seventeen years ago) link

Yopu can't use the phrase "ask for it" without referring to rape? Christ, I didn't realize that! Whar phrase should you use then, when someone is, you know, really asking someone else to do something?

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 05:27 (seventeen years ago) link

emphatically requesting

― electric sound of jim (and why not) (electricsound), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 05:32 (seventeen years ago) link

gagging for it

― estela (estela), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 05:33 (seventeen years ago) link

>How familiar does a girl have to be before she can talk freely about your kiwis? Same thing.<

Not always. If a good friend of mine walks up with massive cleavage, I'm going to make a joke. It would have to be a good friend, and only among good friends, but it does happen. How often do you get to see kiwis protruding?

― nicky lo-fi (nicky lo-fi), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 05:37 (seventeen years ago) link

too often

― electric sound of jim (and why not) (electricsound), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 05:39 (seventeen years ago) link

Are you listening, Wolfmother.

― Trayce (trayce), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 06:54 (seventeen years ago) link

A lot of people here going to considerable extremes to beat up Tuomas just because he's Tuomas.

― Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 07:15 (seventeen years ago) link

indeed

― Konal Doddz (blueski), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 08:13 (seventeen years ago) link

I find it weird that random people (who the hell is "Eman"?) find it necessary to post nothing but "STFU". No one's forcing you to read the thread!

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 08:24 (seventeen years ago) link

it's like being back at school all over again

xpost STFU tuomas

― ken c (ken c), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 08:31 (seventeen years ago) link

just kidding btw

however - it would appear that you never sleep!

― ken c (ken c), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 08:36 (seventeen years ago) link

actually it may be some timezone thingie at work

― ken c (ken c), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 08:37 (seventeen years ago) link

I had to wake up this morning around seven to go to a job interview, I hope the interviewer didn't notice the black beneath my eyes. I'm not usually up that early.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 08:38 (seventeen years ago) link

I once had the pleasure of drinking some boob scotch, at a Bob Log III gig.

― registered ratty (registered ratty), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 08:39 (seventeen years ago) link

A lot of people here going to considerable extremes to beat up Tuomas just because he's Tuomas.

-- Andrew Farrell (afarrell@g

Yes. I noticed that too.

― Pashmina (Pashmina), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 08:57 (seventeen years ago) link

Talking about boobs seems kind of weird to me, I must admit, and I can't imagine it being anything other than super-awkward, unless it's w/yr s.o.

― Pashmina (Pashmina), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 08:58 (seventeen years ago) link

"Boob scotch"?

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 08:59 (seventeen years ago) link

Shame! (xxpost)

― Dadaismus (Dada), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 08:59 (seventeen years ago) link

I always wondere why in America it is so TOXIC to show a boob. Boobs are awesome, why should they be covered? They fee babies! Everyone cried about Janet Jacksons at the superbowl, but whos gonna stop the video tapes of ass kickings? You can show boobs I say, and why not show less violence?

Boobs forever

http://images.google.com/images?q=tbn:fNab89R-DRk9QM:http://www.mccullagh.org/db9/13/back-and-breast.jpg

click the link if you will dare to stand with me

― Mr Jones (Mr Jones), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 09:49 (seventeen years ago) link

That link was a bit of a let-down, tbh.

― Mädchen (Madchen), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 09:53 (seventeen years ago) link

boob scotch! (NSFW, but small, go on be daring and click it)

― guns to deal with vodka (haitch), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 11:07 (seventeen years ago) link

I find it weird that random people (who the hell is "Eman"?) find it necessary to post nothing but "STFU". No one's forcing you to read the thread!

-- Tuomas (lixnix...), June 13th, 2006 5:24 AM. (Tuomas)

you've never been on the internets?

― Q('.'Q) (eman), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 11:09 (seventeen years ago) link

i want to see more videos of ass lickings than ass kickings i htink

― ken c (ken c), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 11:16 (seventeen years ago) link

"Boob scotch" means feeding scotch to a boob?

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 11:44 (seventeen years ago) link

it is STIRRED by the boob.

― guns to deal with vodka (haitch), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 11:51 (seventeen years ago) link

jesus, you can't wilfully misinterpret boob scotch, it's like the simplest concept to grasp in existence!!

― guns to deal with vodka (haitch), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 11:52 (seventeen years ago) link

What's the point of it tho?

― Dadaismus (Dada), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 11:53 (seventeen years ago) link

To see a boob, I'd guess.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 11:53 (seventeen years ago) link

That's what I suspected

― Dadaismus (Dada), Tuesday, 13 June 2006 11:54 (seventeen years ago) link

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