I've noticed this popping up on ilx a lot recently. Is "slut-shaming" the "rockism" of Autumn 2010? I think you people just like saying "slut" a lot.
― kkvgz, Friday, 29 October 2010 10:51 (thirteen years ago) link
seeya in 700 posts
― ukhhchavvin' (acoleuthic), Friday, 29 October 2010 10:51 (thirteen years ago) link
you people sluts
― kkvgz, Friday, 29 October 2010 10:53 (thirteen years ago) link
it's a reference to the glee episode 'the rocky horror show'
― it's always random in wackydelphia (history mayne), Friday, 29 October 2010 10:53 (thirteen years ago) link
http://finallyfeminism101.wordpress.com/2010/04/04/what-is-slut-shaming/
Short answer: Slut-shaming, also known as slut-bashing, is the idea of shaming and/or attacking a woman or a girl for being sexual, having one or more sexual partners, acknowledging sexual feelings, and/or acting on sexual feelings. Furthermore, it’s "about the implication that if a woman has sex that traditional society disapproves of, she should feel guilty and inferior" (Alon Levy, Slut Shaming). It is damaging not only to the girls and women targeted, but to women in general an society as a whole. It should be noted that slut-shaming can occur even if the term "slut" itself is not used.
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― Wheal Dream, Friday, 29 October 2010 10:54 (thirteen years ago) link
Horrible. Who uses this?
― Harrison Buttwhistle (NickB), Friday, 29 October 2010 10:57 (thirteen years ago) link
1. Taylor Swift
― kkvgz, Friday, 29 October 2010 10:58 (thirteen years ago) link
2. Paramore - "Misery Business"once a whore. you're nothing more
― kkvgz, Friday, 29 October 2010 11:01 (thirteen years ago) link
am i on the right track?
― kkvgz, Friday, 29 October 2010 11:02 (thirteen years ago) link
you must ask yourself, to what
― ukhhchavvin' (acoleuthic), Friday, 29 October 2010 11:03 (thirteen years ago) link
seeya in 691 posts
I just want to make a list thread.
― kkvgz, Friday, 29 October 2010 11:06 (thirteen years ago) link
3. is "fuck and run" slut shaming?
― kkvgz, Friday, 29 October 2010 11:08 (thirteen years ago) link
hip hop's got 99 problem but slut shaming isn't one of them
― progressive cuts (Tracer Hand), Friday, 29 October 2010 11:09 (thirteen years ago) link
I'm sorry, but what, exactly are you trying to accomplish with this thread?
Because if you want to have an actual thought-provoking discussion of what, exactly slut shaming is, how it is used in pop culture, the reflection of gender roles as expressed by it (and the subversion of gender roles by artists like, say Madonna or Lil Kim who invert the slut paradigm) - then yay, I'm all for that, it could be a really interesting thread.
But if you just want to make an ill thought out list thread where you get to say "slut slut slut" like an OCD Beavis and Butthead and pretend like you're addressing the issue while you're actually just perpetuating it, then good luck with that.
― Wheal Dream, Friday, 29 October 2010 11:15 (thirteen years ago) link
wheal talk
― bitch i'm jjjusten at em (Whiney G. Weingarten), Friday, 29 October 2010 11:21 (thirteen years ago) link
slut-celebrating:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bu_diXDbgug
― quique da snique (bernard snowy), Friday, 29 October 2010 11:25 (thirteen years ago) link
This song's like...a sea urchin. Some people love it and some people are disgusted by it.-Todd Rundgren
― quique da snique (bernard snowy), Friday, 29 October 2010 11:26 (thirteen years ago) link
Wheal Dream - I'm trying to have an informative list thread. Not a discussion. Not a jokey list thread, although I do have a sense of humor.
I don't much care for getting called out by someone with a less than 10 day posting history though, so perhaps you should settle down and read some threads before jumping up in someone's grill here.
― kkvgz, Friday, 29 October 2010 11:35 (thirteen years ago) link
Ice Cube - Nappy Dugout
― bitch i'm jjjusten at em (Whiney G. Weingarten), Friday, 29 October 2010 11:36 (thirteen years ago) link
I think part of what gives me a sense of humor about it is that "slut-shaming" is obviously a stupid term invented by someone who probably likes to say "slut" over and over again - a la Beavis and Butthead - although probably attempting to couch it in an "ironic" academic context.
― kkvgz, Friday, 29 October 2010 11:37 (thirteen years ago) link
― kkvgz, Friday, 29 October 2010 12:35 (1 minute ago)
this is going to end really badly, in 680 posts' time
― ukhhchavvin' (acoleuthic), Friday, 29 October 2010 11:37 (thirteen years ago) link
There's something happening here, but I don't know what it is, do I, Mr. Jagger?
― kkvgz, Friday, 29 October 2010 11:39 (thirteen years ago) link
Maybe you should actually read up on the history and context of the term and its origin within feminist theory before leaping to conclusions and throwing around half baked opinions about its usage, which actually reveal way more about *your* internal assumptions and biases than they do about the term and the theory behind it.
― Wheal Dream, Friday, 29 October 2010 11:40 (thirteen years ago) link
idk, he is not wrong that 'slut-shaming' is a hideous term.
― ksh me thru the phone (c sharp major), Friday, 29 October 2010 11:45 (thirteen years ago) link
I honestly don't know what "slut" means anymore. I thought feminists took that word back to mean something like empowered player?
― nicky lo-fi, Friday, 29 October 2010 11:46 (thirteen years ago) link
xxp: Dude, if you don't like my thread - start your own thread. Don't troll my thead.
― kkvgz, Friday, 29 October 2010 11:46 (thirteen years ago) link
(wheel dream is a long term poster under a new moniker btw)
― Tim F, Friday, 29 October 2010 11:48 (thirteen years ago) link
xposts, it is a useful concept and all! but there is something revolting about it, up to and including the fact that it is used because it is revolting and that has power.
― ksh me thru the phone (c sharp major), Friday, 29 October 2010 11:48 (thirteen years ago) link
someone put some "slut-shaming" lyrics up, please.
― nicky lo-fi, Friday, 29 October 2010 11:49 (thirteen years ago) link
xxp: Then they should know better.
― kkvgz, Friday, 29 October 2010 11:50 (thirteen years ago) link
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MMUUysmfYUw
― Tim F, Friday, 29 October 2010 11:50 (thirteen years ago) link
nb 1970s-feminists of my acquaintance still use 'slut' to mean 'slovenly woman', let's not assume consensus about meaning here.
― ksh me thru the phone (c sharp major), Friday, 29 October 2010 11:50 (thirteen years ago) link
it's a useful term, at any rate. was it in common feminist parlance around the time that ariel levy's raunch culture book was published?
this could be a really interesting thread but i get the distinct impression kkvgz did not start it with those intentions, so, whatevz.
madonna and lil kim would be crucial figures to discuss but the pussycat dolls would be the most interesting i think - remember how, almost unanimously, they were seen to be the "death of feminism" a few years ago.
― lex lex lex lex lex on the track BOW (lex pretend), Friday, 29 October 2010 11:51 (thirteen years ago) link
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NQyr6_o5aeQ
― Tim F, Friday, 29 October 2010 11:51 (thirteen years ago) link
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JGDanXRQR-4
― lex lex lex lex lex on the track BOW (lex pretend), Friday, 29 October 2010 11:52 (thirteen years ago) link
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5OGN8OsZzkw
― Tim F, Friday, 29 October 2010 11:53 (thirteen years ago) link
Dude, fuck you. I just said that I started it with the best intentions and a little bit of a sense of humor.
― kkvgz, Friday, 29 October 2010 11:53 (thirteen years ago) link
x-posts obviously
I think it's one of those ugly terms which is deliberately ugly or provocative in order to highlight the ugliness of the actual behaviour. I'm not sure how well that works (or indeed, if it might actually be counterproductive, in that it accidentally causes people like the OP to draw conclusions) - obviously I have mixed feelings about the "reclaimation" of language in that way.
How do you feel about the converse term (or even phenomenon) of "prude shaming"? These things seems to be linked in a common way - i.e. that they are all done with the aim of controlling the behaviour of women.
I think it's interesting the way that slut-shaming often gets used within an arsenal within the context of other bullying or power games (as Lex pointed out yesterday, about Beyonce and the whole drama of Survivor, that slut-shaming is invoked as a way of dismissing another woman, even though the sexual aspect is subsumed within other general power games.) But this is often a phenomenon within other kinds of -isms, that it's often about one person asserting superiority over another, and the cheap shots are deployed within that game, *knowing* that they have a power greater than non-loaded insults.
― Wheal Dream, Friday, 29 October 2010 11:54 (thirteen years ago) link
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JCabxwata50
― Tim F, Friday, 29 October 2010 11:55 (thirteen years ago) link
Wait Wheal, what's your point about Beyonce there?
― Tim F, Friday, 29 October 2010 11:56 (thirteen years ago) link
My point was that the whole thing of the Survivor album was Beyonce asserting her dominance over (I'm assuming the departed members of DC, but also haters in general) and that much of the slut-shaming on that album was as much about "I am angry at these people, and venting my anger and asserting my superiority over them using the most effective weapons that come to hand" as it was about "I am denigrating your sexuality."
― Wheal Dream, Friday, 29 October 2010 12:00 (thirteen years ago) link
Sorry, I certainly wasn't calling Beyonce a bully. But I was trying to say that the slut-shaming was being used as a weapon within the context of power games which had little to do with sex.
― Wheal Dream, Friday, 29 October 2010 12:01 (thirteen years ago) link
kinda want to start a band now called "Slut Shaman"
― quique da snique (bernard snowy), Friday, 29 October 2010 12:04 (thirteen years ago) link
haha i would totally call beyoncé a bully on that album - in fact, it was the extremity of her self-righteous, moralistic cruelty that actually made it perversely enjoyable, kind of like how the most fun characters to watch in mean girls aren't the normal, nice ones, but the plastics.
― lex lex lex lex lex on the track BOW (lex pretend), Friday, 29 October 2010 12:05 (thirteen years ago) link
xxpost - okay yeah I get that and pretty much agree (though tbh hadn't really thought it through), I just wasn't quite sure what you were referring to as I missed whatever lex said previously. Having said that, I think it's fair to call Beyonce a bully!
OMG x-post!
― Tim F, Friday, 29 October 2010 12:06 (thirteen years ago) link
using the most effective weapons that come to hand
this is an important point i think! 'slut-shaming' (and 'prude-shaming') seem to me to be weapons in an arsenal almost more than things-in-themselves. Or, rather, I think there's an asymmetry between the use of slut-shaming techniques and their effect?
― ksh me thru the phone (c sharp major), Friday, 29 October 2010 12:08 (thirteen years ago) link
slut-shaming techniques! i don't even know what that means
― ksh me thru the phone (c sharp major), Friday, 29 October 2010 12:09 (thirteen years ago) link
The slut-shaming within the Taylor Swift song we were discussing yesterday (Better Than Revenge) is much more about the sexual aspect of slut-shaming. Swift is denigrating her romantic rival by slut-shaming her.
But I'm not sure there is a difference.
I was thinking "bullying" because it's used so often within teen girl relational violence - and also thinking of the whole controversy over Jade in Sleb Big Brother, and just remember this curious defense of her mother (I think? am not up on this world) claiming "OMG, Jade is not a racist! She's a bully, but she's NOT a racist!" and that stuck in my mind because it seemed such an odd way of defending her. Because 1) the -ism (racism, the sexism inherent in slut shaming, etc) is seldom about the person, but about the *action* - a person who doesn't think of themselves as sexist, or thinks of themselves has holding "feminist beliefs" can still engage in behaviour that is sexist and 2) in actual bullying (and the power games involved in bullying) the bully doesn't always reach for the epithet that reflects their personal philosophy or opinion of the bully-ee so much as they reach for the thing that they *think* is going to hurt worst.
Sure, that often is a reflection of what the bully thinks is "the worst thing" (i.e. homophobic bullying rampant within young men because of fear over their own masculinity). So the slut-shaming by one woman of another can be a power tactic by resorting to that "worst thing".
― Wheal Dream, Friday, 29 October 2010 12:11 (thirteen years ago) link
my favourite tlc song is pretty slut-shamey
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xR4Jan8duO4
― lex lex lex lex lex on the track BOW (lex pretend), Friday, 29 October 2010 12:11 (thirteen years ago) link
Also re: the Pussycat Dolls there's a world of difference between "this is my sexuality, good or bad, it's mine and I own it" (Lil Kim, Madonna, Trina) and being packaged as male wank fantasy. They overlap as well but it's not one and the same thing.
That also kind of fits into what Ariel Levy's book was actually about (and yeah, I can understand how a poor understanding or a skimmed reading of her arguments could make it seem like she was slut-shaming) - the difference between the two.
And I have read and acknowledge a lot of the criticism of Ariel Levy which was saying "but what about the women, where is *their* Agency in all this?" But that was kind of Levy's point, that this stuff doesn't happen in a vacuum, and even though it might be an individual's choice, that choice is shaped by the options that *are* available.
Levy was certainly NOT saying "women who choose to pole dance are sluts" - what she was saying was actually "A culture in which women are paid/valued more for dancing topless on a bar than for being called to The Bar has really fucked up priorities and we need to change those priorities, not shame women for their choices." Like, if your choice is make ££££££ for dancing on tables vs £ for waiting on tables, how much of a choice is that? And how it's really hard to even have a conversation about Agency when you are dealing with a moneymaking organisation (like Girls Gone Wild - given their recent lawsuits) that doesn't even bother with *consent* let alone Agency. But the commodification of sexuality is a much bigger and thornier issue than slut shaming and probably not within the remit of this thread.
― Wheal Dream, Friday, 29 October 2010 14:06 (thirteen years ago) link
I think Erotica is a good example of a singer taking pretty much every possible stance on this issue.― Tim F, Friday, 29 October 2010 14:22 (43 minutes ago)
yeah, & "thief of hearts" is a great take on the slut-shaming, because she's so knowingly dressing up and playing such an extreme role, it's almost a parody. she doesn't care that's she's lost her man at all really (if there ever was one even), she just wants to role play, act ridiculously camp & dramatic (like "bye bye baby" she's almost morphed into some draq queen-esque figure), and set up some completely depersonalised figured just so she can say "bitch", break some glass a few times, and exercise some bravado. it's more like she's throwing yet another persona out there to hide behind, to disguise how much of a wreck she actually is, and it's "bad girl" that shows this reality - she's the thief of hearts (or at least similar to her), and it's not just the lifestyle but the weight of the personas she's been creating that is crippling her.
― prolego, Friday, 29 October 2010 14:19 (thirteen years ago) link
Best line in "Thief of Hearts" is "Here she comes, litte miss think she can have his child, well anybody can do it..."
Sort of deliberately self-deluding in the same way as "Irreplaceable".
― Tim F, Friday, 29 October 2010 14:23 (thirteen years ago) link
and then there's "thinks she'll get respect if she screws it", because of course so much of these slut-shaming songs is about status - losing it & needing to reassert it.
― prolego, Friday, 29 October 2010 14:33 (thirteen years ago) link
so much of these slut-shaming songs is about status - losing it & needing to reassert it.
^^^^^^exactly.
― Wheal Dream, Friday, 29 October 2010 14:34 (thirteen years ago) link
social status, too: often slut-shaming is barely-veiled snobbery, in that brazenly sluttish behaviour is held to be common or vulgar
it's interesting that we haven't yet discussed the (many, many) songs by MEN which slut-shame! maybe because there's less "point", it's what we expect of them, esp taking genre into account...?
― lex lex lex lex lex on the track BOW (lex pretend), Friday, 29 October 2010 14:38 (thirteen years ago) link
Yeah I think you answered your own question Lex. It's still interesting, but not in the same way as women shaming eachother.
― Tim F, Friday, 29 October 2010 14:41 (thirteen years ago) link
Because it's somehow inherently more interesting when women do it, because of the asserting status/power thing and the whole political jostling thing of it.
When men do it, it just seems gross.
Also I do think it's actually more common in women than in men, because of the "slut shame the other angle in a love triangle" aspect and that competition over sexuality in that way is one of the few ways in which our society *allows* women to exercise power - men have so many other ways in which they can demonstrate power over others, while women have this tiny constrained space in which to do it, so they use it more like a fine tuned weapon rather than the blunt dismissal of when men do it.
― Wheal Dream, Friday, 29 October 2010 14:43 (thirteen years ago) link
nothing to add, great thread. request to tim & lex, though. if you wanna highlight specific lyrics, could you, you know, post them (instead of youtubes)? way more efficient.
― naked human hands and a foam rubber head (contenderizer), Friday, 29 October 2010 15:26 (thirteen years ago) link
^this was my idea behind the thread. sigh...
― Varèse Garagebande (kkvgz), Friday, 29 October 2010 20:43 (thirteen years ago) link
this is like 50% of Zeppelin's catalog
― klacktoveedesteen (Shakey Mo Collier), Friday, 29 October 2010 20:45 (thirteen years ago) link
Got a little woman and she won't be true...Except it seems that the point is rather that the shame comes from female peers.
― Varèse Garagebande (kkvgz), Friday, 29 October 2010 20:56 (thirteen years ago) link
i didn't realize for a long time that dolly wasn't praising jolene's behavior.
― Philip Nunez, Friday, 29 October 2010 20:57 (thirteen years ago) link
jolene isn't slut shaming at all though. POV hasn't an unkind word to say about her rival. she's humiliating herself herself in desperation, different kind of thing.
― naked human hands and a foam rubber head (contenderizer), Friday, 29 October 2010 22:17 (thirteen years ago) link
Loretta Lynn "Fist City" (love this song)
You've been makin' your brags around town that you've been a lovin' with my manBut the man I love when he picks up trash he puts it in a garbage canAnd that's what you look like to me and what I see is a pityYou'd better close your face and stay out of my wayIf you don't wanta go to Fist CityIf you don't wanna go to Fist City you'd better detour round my townCause I'll grab you by the hair of the head and I'll lift you off of the groundI'm not a sayin' my baby is a saint cause he ain'tAnd that he won't cat around with a kittyI'm here to tell you gal to lay off of my man if you don't wanna go to Fist City
Come on and tell me what you told my friends if you think you're brave enoughAnd I'll show you what a real woman is since you think you're hot stuffYou'll bite off more than you can chew if you get too cute or wittyYou better move your feet if you don't wanna eat a meal that's called Fist CityIf you don't wanna go to Fist City...I'm here to tell you gal to lay off of my man if you don't wanna go to Fist City
― klacktoveedesteen (Shakey Mo Collier), Friday, 29 October 2010 22:20 (thirteen years ago) link
Shakey OTM x2
― Telephoneface (Adam Bruneau), Friday, 29 October 2010 22:29 (thirteen years ago) link
is jessie's girl the opposite of this?
― Philip Nunez, Friday, 29 October 2010 22:33 (thirteen years ago) link
Here are the "Light of some Kind" lyrics:
i wish i didn't have this nervous laughi wish i didn't say half the stuff i sayi wish i could just learn to cover my tracksi guess i'm not concerned enough with getting away with it
'cause every time i try to hold my tongueit slips like a fish from a linethey say if you want to playyou should learn how to play dumbi guess i can't bring myself to waste your time
'cause we both know what i've been doingi've been intentionally bad at lyingyou're the only boy i ever let see through meand i hope you believe me when i say i'm tryingand i hope i never improve my gameyeah i'd rather have these things weighing on my mindand at the end of this tunnel of guilt and shamethere must be a light of some kindthere must be a light of some kind
i must have blown a fuse or somethingcause it was so dark in my mindshe came up to me with the sweetest faceand she was holding a light of some kindand i still think of you as my boyfriendi don't think this is the end of the worldbut i think maybe you should follow my exampleand go meet yourself a really nice girl
'cause we both know. . .
in the end the world comes down to just a few peoplebut for you it comes down to onebut no one ever asked me if i thought i could beeverything to someonethere's a crowd of people harboured in every personthere are so many roles that we playand you've decided to love me for eternityi'm still deciding who i want to be today
― Tim F, Friday, 29 October 2010 22:35 (thirteen years ago) link
I hate more or less everything on the fourth side. Or, well... No... I don't, but I hate the idea behind side 4.
― Tied Up In Geir (Geir Hongro), Friday, 29 October 2010 22:40 (thirteen years ago) link
I'm seeing a WHOLE lot of slut-shaming in the reaction to Keri Hilson's sluttastic new music video
― no hipster hats (The Brainwasher), Wednesday, 1 December 2010 03:25 (thirteen years ago) link
is it possible to clearly separate slut shaming directed at pop performers from more general objections to sexual explicitness & crassness, or from complaints about appropriateness of content to venue/audience?
― phish in your sleazebag (contenderizer), Wednesday, 1 December 2010 07:11 (thirteen years ago) link
nope
― 3:10 to Your Ma (Noodle Vague), Wednesday, 1 December 2010 07:42 (thirteen years ago) link
What is this the nineteenth century?
― Shut up and pay, you vain pompous matinee idol (u s steel), Wednesday, 1 December 2010 07:44 (thirteen years ago) link
i'd agree, NV, given the inclusion of the word "clearly" in my question. take it out, though, and there's a lot of room for equivocation - room enough to recognize that some instances of what might look like slut shaming might be better attributed to other impulses.
and yeah, it is the nineteenth century. and the eighteenth and the 12th and the 22nd. at least some of the time, somewhere, in this or that mind or culture. standards & values are hardly lockstep universal.
― phish in your sleazebag (contenderizer), Wednesday, 1 December 2010 08:08 (thirteen years ago) link
hey, I was v. ambiguous at my daughter singing along to "If You Seek Amy" but I guess my response to that wasn't exactly "OMG that Britney's shameless".
― 3:10 to Your Ma (Noodle Vague), Wednesday, 1 December 2010 08:12 (thirteen years ago) link
the keri hilson video in question:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xES7NPeZS2k
idk, i don't get any particularly desperate vibes from it - but maybe that's cuz i'm familiar with keri hilson, her boss-bitch persona and the amount of control she probably has over these things. it's in keeping with the song, too.
the only issue for me is that control - whether "alutty" videos (and photoshoots &c) are a genuine expression of what the artist wants to convey, or whether it's something they have to resort to when they don't want to do it, or whether they're just being wheeled out by record label bosses and told to take their clothes off. or a mix of all three! it's kinda impossible to actually judge this, and in many cases it's more insulting to assume that the female artist doesn't have agency. obviously there are times when it rings more true than others but that's pretty subjective.
as for sexual explicitness and inappropriateness - they're not bad things per se and i totally welcome them. it's up to parents to parent.
i thought it was amusing earlier this year when (dancehall mc) lady chann tweeted about how much she loved rihanna's "rude boy" and doing a guest verse on a remix of it. and then the following week tweeted something like "HOLD UP my 8-yr-old daughter is singing "come here rude boy can you get it up" around the house :/ "
― lex lex lex lex lex on the track BOW (lex pretend), Wednesday, 1 December 2010 09:42 (thirteen years ago) link
i mean that video is certainly O_O but it's also about the best visual representation of a song that goes FUCK ME FUCK ME IT'S THE WAY YOU FUCK ME in the chorus
― lex lex lex lex lex on the track BOW (lex pretend), Wednesday, 1 December 2010 09:44 (thirteen years ago) link
the shaming probably has something to do with the fact that the singles off this album so far have been non-starters -- i haven't read any criticisms of it myself, but i imagine that if this was the first single it would've been seen just as a new direction for her, as opposed to "desperation slutiness!!" (which is how i took it at first too)
― jagger reupholstered my pussy (J0rdan S.), Wednesday, 1 December 2010 09:48 (thirteen years ago) link
she has previous for explicit songs, though - it's never been an integral part of her persona (and i'm guessing won't be after this) but it's enough to make me think she's comfortable with songs like this, rather than resorting to them out of nowhere. and she just seems too smart and level-headed and versed in the ways of the industry to be anyone's puppet here.
― lex lex lex lex lex on the track BOW (lex pretend), Wednesday, 1 December 2010 09:52 (thirteen years ago) link
did "pretty girl rock" tank? i thought that hadn't even been properly released yet. sad if so.
― lex lex lex lex lex on the track BOW (lex pretend), Wednesday, 1 December 2010 09:54 (thirteen years ago) link
This song isn't even good, please wake me for commentary when the song is worth listening to. I hate reading a lot of p.c. political commentary over a song that isn't that good. It makes it look like critics or academics don't know what good music is.
― i prefer to discuss your bourgeois origins (u s steel), Wednesday, 1 December 2010 10:12 (thirteen years ago) link
well i'm pretty sure u don't
― lex lex lex lex lex on the track BOW (lex pretend), Wednesday, 1 December 2010 10:15 (thirteen years ago) link
― 3:10 to Your Ma (Noodle Vague), Wednesday, December 1, 2010 3:12 AM (2 hours ago) Bookmark
You shoulda been there when my son started singing along to "3".
― Julian Osage Orange (kkvgz), Wednesday, 1 December 2010 10:23 (thirteen years ago) link
Yeah, I know this is opening a whole can of worms, but I do think that there are other options than just those three. That when you are operating in a culture whereby women are rewarded for how well they *perform* sexuality (in a way they are not rewarded or even discussed, for their technical skills such as to production skills, writing music, lyrics, etc.) you create an environment whereby the perhaps excessive display certain aspects of womanhood (looks, sexuality, etc.) are totally normalised in a way that precludes other choices.
So I don't think it's always just a case of "well, this particular woman had agency and made a choice to present herself in this way" so much as "what were the other choices that were available to her within a culture that values women for looks and sexuality above all else?" Agency doesn't happen in a vacuum.
But, you know, I'm just a boring old feminist who's read too much Ariel Levy. And it's really hard to ask these questions without descending into slut shaming, which I don't want to do.
tl;dr: Lex, it's more complicated than that, and you of all people should know it.
― Karen D. Tregaskin, Wednesday, 1 December 2010 10:38 (thirteen years ago) link
Something I guess where the individual could have agency/power over their own choices - and exercise that - but at same time the exercizing of that choice reinforces what choices there actually are.
― colby, Wednesday, 1 December 2010 10:56 (thirteen years ago) link
yeah i get your points karen, but
a) i'm not going to criticise a performer for performing - keri hilson made a deliberate choice to be a performer as well as a songwriter - but on the other hand her songwriting is kinda the hook on which she found that success as a performer, so i'd disagree that that element of her career hasn't been discussed
b) "precludes other choices" - again talking about keri hilson specifically, i don't think this is the case at all. raunchy videos like this get people all aflutter but her biggest hit came with this video
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p_RqWocthcc
in which she basically wears normal, casual clothing throughout and bar a few doe eyes at the camera (in a song about love) doesn't "perform" sexually. just to reiterate, that was her biggest hit. so i wouldn't say that performing non-sexually is an option that's closed to her.
i'm kind of wondering how keri hilson herself would respond, say if an interviewer brought it up, to the theory that her choices in her career are limited - that she doesn't hold that power - given how much of her public image is of a business-minded, in-control woman. i find it hard to believe that someone who's worked behind the scenes in the industry for as long as she has doesn't know exactly how it works - it could come off as slightly patronising to assume otherwise.
― lex lex lex lex lex on the track BOW (lex pretend), Wednesday, 1 December 2010 10:59 (thirteen years ago) link
don't think that came out 100% well :/
― lex lex lex lex lex on the track BOW (lex pretend), Wednesday, 1 December 2010 11:02 (thirteen years ago) link
also EVERY career involves biting the bullet at times and doing things you're not 100% into or comfortable with. and that's ok! not that i'm saying that keri's uncomfortable with this - i have no way of knowing.
― lex lex lex lex lex on the track BOW (lex pretend), Wednesday, 1 December 2010 11:04 (thirteen years ago) link
i think one can express concern about the hypersexualization of female roles in pop media while still granting individual pop artists the right to express and present themselves in any manner they might choose. and sure, as lex says, the dictates of commerce (driven by the dictates and manipulation of desire) push people into all sorts of compromises that they might not independently choose, but it's probably best to refrain from assuming that this or that performer has been so coerced, even subtly, unless we've got good, case-specific reasons to think so.
which is to say that there's nothing wrong with keri's video, nor is there anything wrong with thinking there's something wrong with it.
― phish in your sleazebag (contenderizer), Wednesday, 1 December 2010 11:21 (thirteen years ago) link
just wanna
my response to that wasn't exactly "OMG that Britney's shameless"
acknowledge
― i'm assuming that it's tity boi, host of the mixtape (sic), Wednesday, 1 December 2010 13:03 (thirteen years ago) link
A more interesting question is why someone would come out with something that isn't the best example of their work.
― i prefer to discuss your bourgeois origins (u s steel), Wednesday, 1 December 2010 13:12 (thirteen years ago) link
and here is keri herself to opine on this: http://twitter.com/MissKeriBaby/statuses/10114357736251392
well said that lady.
― lex lex lex lex lex on the track BOW (lex pretend), Wednesday, 1 December 2010 23:37 (thirteen years ago) link
Dion - Runaround Sue
When he messes around, it's OK because he's The Wanderer, but the same doesn't go for Runaround Sue.
― kornrulez6969, Wednesday, 7 October 2015 18:03 (eight years ago) link
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qFyRhgCvqaUhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VEWiHZBBd00https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-WNLrqLoPSMhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7bRA0kMl5vE
― everything, Wednesday, 7 October 2015 20:26 (eight years ago) link
opening gambits of this thread are fucking awful, wow. kinda feel like it would be better to have another, untainted one for collecting songs or reviews for the rolling evidence drawer. who was kkvgz, and what became of, I assume, him?
― Gorefest Frump (Doctor Casino), Thursday, 8 October 2015 04:42 (eight years ago) link
now creating problems as the useless mod how's life
― let no-one live rent free in your butt (sic), Thursday, 8 October 2015 05:56 (eight years ago) link
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nuwPtiTxT8A
― hunangarage, Thursday, 8 October 2015 15:48 (eight years ago) link
'run for your life' - beatles
― flappy bird, Thursday, 8 October 2015 18:20 (eight years ago) link
an "overripe tomato" - ha.
― skip, Thursday, 8 October 2015 18:27 (eight years ago) link
Devil In Disguise - Elvis PresleyChristine's Tune (Devil In Disguise) - Flying Burrito BrothersMaybelline - Chuck Berry
― kornrulez6969, Thursday, 8 October 2015 19:18 (eight years ago) link