Nirvana C/D

oh wait. i'm old and confused. RIP

i love jokes about suicide that don't even match the meter of the song they're parodying

I did at 1st but they've just become so ubiquitous

has anyone ever realised that kurt cobain shot himself exactly 200 years after danton's head rolled?

has anyone read Danny Goldberg's new book about Kurt? that's a perspective on him that i might actually be interested in at this point.

still really weird that brad delp ended up killing himself too

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9-rdkmfCkHY

The 14-year-old who made the first Kurt fan post in this thread is 31 now, I wonder how she's doing and if she still likes Nirvana

almost certainly i would say

thank u maresn3st :)

kid gets it

something i've been wondering about for a while about this band, especially in light of their popularity then and now... was the gender stuff, the gay stuff, the feminism, the drag, the attempts (however successful) at queering rock cliches (is that a stretch? you know what i mean) - how prominent was this stuff in contemporary coverage of, discourse about the band? as a point in their favour or otherwise? was it seriously engaged with much at the time? because i get the sense that it is a really big deal for a lot of younger fans now. but as a young fan it took me a lot of digging behind the boring canonising narratives of the time for me to really take notice of that stuff

(ironically(?) making more of this probably helps secure their place in the canon now - is the lesson (and tragedy) of nirvana that no subversion won't be recuperated by the industry? or is it just that angst is universal?)

I don't know but FWIW, SNL edited out Kris kissing Dave and Kurt during the on-stage goodbyes at the end of their first appearance on the show. Later on Incesticide was re-pressed without Kurt's liner notes where he calls out homophobes (among many other statements). So that aspect of their legacy was buried or willfully ignored to some extent - in hindsight, the '90s were a big leap forward from the '80s, but there was still a long ways to go.

i dunno about like mainstream media, which wasnt really a thing i consulted for music, but iirc i knew most of that at the time & it made me like them more, and among my friends as well.

it was pretty common knowledge among anyone who was heavily into them that cared to read more than, idk Kerrang; also you could sideways glean that stuff by reading about other bands they were friends with etc

like those views were becoming part of that whole scene, among the more thoughtful bands at least, and in the wake of college-jock popularity i think they more than likely doubled down on it because so many bands DIDNT want meathead prejudiced fans

but also

i apologise for sounding like a grumpy nanna and i know this wasnt what your takeaway was at all BUT omg raw nerve alert

rmde at young fans acting like the Vasco De Gama of music like they “discovered” this “unappreciated” aspect of Nirvana and can somehow claim more ownership to it because idk the 90s was too long ago for anyone to appreciate nirvana’s wokeness lol

end old lady yelling at clouds

drummer in that video maresn3st posted is fuckin sick

who is claiming more ownership of anything or to be the first to discover they (or he idc about the others) were "woke" whatever that means (the ways they were problematic are just as interesting imo). this stuff is underappreciated relative to the extent that nirvana is appreciated in general. of course some people were into it at the time but we've established it has been downplayed or actively censored in the past

forget it i was just feeling ranty

I think that stuff was quite prominent in media coverage of Nirvana. Like I was certainly aware of Cobain's stance on these things and his role as a spokesman-by-default, because they were so huge.

Their runaway popularity just overwhelmed a lot of the subtleties about them.

Very much a case of his voice being drowned out by that tidal wave, I think.

Yeah, I wasn’t particularly a fan and didn’t pay close attn., but I def knew the guy considered himself a feminist and vocally opposed heteronormative whatever.

But my sense at the time was definitely NOT "this band is queer" but rather "this band is anti-heteronormative," I don't think that's a distinction without a difference, it means something to say "all it means to be a cis het man is that you're a cis het man, it doesn't mean you can't wear a dress sometimes or dye your hair scarlet or hug and kiss your cis het man friends"

drummer in that video maresn3st posted is fuckin sick

― mellon collie and the infinite bradness (BradNelson), Tuesday, June 1, 2021 7:47 PM (one hour ago) bookmarkflaglink

go down the yoyoka rabbit hole on youtube, you will not regret it. my favs are her doing good times bad times when she was like 8 and her cover of rosanna by toto

xp Sure, that's how I interpreted KC's identity - that he was a straight dude who wore a dress in Rolling Stone, kissed a dude from time to time, etc.

(and there's a particular bro-y register to that in itself - the thing where frat guys get down at an LGBT ball - but I'm not the one to examine how exactly it worked or was read in Nirvana)

Friendamine shared a video of Courtney Barnett playing a festival with 2 drummers once, and remarked that she was the closest thing he'd seen to Cobain.

First thing I notice is how much Dave Grohl in Nirvana sounded like two drummers.

go down the yoyoka rabbit hole on youtube, you will not regret it. my favs are her doing good times bad times when she was like 8 and her cover of rosanna by toto

― call all destroyer, Tuesday, June 1, 2021 6:27 PM (ten minutes ago) bookmarkflaglink

ugh good drum covers of "rosanna" are like heroin for me

alright i don't care that this is the nirvana thread, all must celebrate yoyoka:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6P-tTLmuKo0

my face contorted into what you might colloquially refer to as "stank face" when she started playing and i fear it may stick that way

Kurt was “woke” as fuck and also took advantage of a developmentally disabled young woman on a dare iirc. 27 years pass and we are still not ready to deal with who or what he was.

Random memory inspired by Vegg's rant:

We took a history of rock music class in college and during one of the discussions about the 70s glam influence on punk, Bowie was predictably mentioned a lot - not least of all for his androgynous image and his willingness to challenge gender image and identity. One of the main points brought up (in the text book, no less) to illustrate his enduring influence was the fact that Nirvana covered "The Man Who Sold the World." Andy mentioned that Kurt appeared on MTV wearing a dress, to also illustrate how Bowie's androgynous image was also influential; to which a (male) classmate retorted, "Well Nirvana did an amazing version of that song, even if it was influenced by gay shit."

It was incredibly disappointing to hear.

Kurt was “woke” as fuck and also took advantage of a developmentally disabled young woman on a dare iirc. 27 years pass and we are still not ready to deal with who or what he was.

I saw this in the HBO documentary...be warned it's a dubious piece of myth-making. Many people criticized its veracity - I know Dale Crover singled out the story about the developmentally disabled woman as being complete fiction. The filmmaker Brett Morgen didn't really deny any of this, he said there was a good chance it was all fiction. From his perspective, it was still fascinating to hear what Cobain recorded for his own personal tapes, even if it was made up stories, and he decided to put it out there without doing any fact-checking because he wasn't interested in veracity. I get where he's coming from, but the way he chose to present all this seems highly questionable.

I keep having this thought of some 90s alternative rocker like Perry Ferrell telling people today, "Yeah, man! You gotta RECYCLE more, stop RACISM, let GAY PEOPLE wear a DRESS if they wanna..." and the reporter going "Wear a DRESS?"

― pplains, Monday, October 21, 2013 11:10 AM

something i've been wondering about for a while about this band, especially in light of their popularity then and now... was the gender stuff, the gay stuff, the feminism, the drag, the attempts (however successful) at queering rock cliches (is that a stretch? you know what i mean) - how prominent was this stuff in contemporary coverage of, discourse about the band? as a point in their favour or otherwise? was it seriously engaged with much at the time? because i get the sense that it is a really big deal for a lot of younger fans now. but as a young fan it took me a lot of digging behind the boring canonising narratives of the time for me to really take notice of that stuff

― Left, Tuesday, June 1, 2021 7:08 PM (yesterday) bookmarkflaglink

I was 9 or 10 when the first greatest hits album came out, I was stoked on hearing "You Know You're Right," I think I got Nevermind for Xmas 2001, and I can tell you 100% the androgyny and specific cultural rebellion/rejection you're talking about was a HUGE appeal to me back then. I remember my mom even saying that she always thought it was so cool that Kurt would wear a dress on stage. And of course the Incesticide liner notes. He remains a sort of North Star for kids, I think-- besides the incredible music, his "beliefs" for lack of a better word are just as well known, now that "all is said and done"

"No one dies a virgin, life fucks us all" ----I mean, COME ON... that's one of the greatest quotes for depressed teenagers ever

"if you're racist, sexist, or a bigot, don't listen to our band, I don't care if you love me because I fucking hate you" ---the GOAT

my dad tried to drill hard into my head that Kurt Cobain was a lazy slacker loser asshole that I shouldn't give my money to (a moot point because he was dead by the time I began listening to him), and he almost succeeded until I read his words like:

"The problem with groups who deal with rape is that they try to educate women about how to defend themselves. What really needs to be done is teaching men not to rape. Go to the source and start there."

Speaking as someone who was 16 when Nevermind came out (and it pretty much changed my life), I can confirm that anyone who read an interview with Kurt printed during his lifetime would have been firmly aware of his rejection of heteronormacy and sexism and homophobia and racism.

I suppose "In Bloom" was his lament of fans who had no fucking idea who he was and what he represented?

yep, as someone in a small british city getting into them in the late 90s, I would say anyone I knew who was really into the band couldn't help but be aware of it. it wasn't some secret. all we had pre-internet was liner notes and even though we were coming to the party late, we would read the shit out of kurt's every utterance.

it was hard convincing my literal-minded mother to let me buy In Utero because of "Rape Me", which of course, she took as a pro-rape anthem.

didn't get it until my 20s

my dad tried to drill hard into my head that Kurt Cobain was a lazy slacker loser asshole that I shouldn't give my money to

I actually know someone whose Dad reportedly did the same, and from everything else I know, he always sounded like that character Lee J. Cobb plays in 12 Angry Men...but this is like 50+ years after that movie came out and I always think "why do parents like you still have to exist?"

Nirvana ruled.

anytime I go somewhere with a Touchtunes I love to put "Milk It" and "Scentless Apprentice" on, followed sometimes by "Breed". those are good ones to enjoy w/ other people.

Also: to champion the Raincoats, Bikini Kill, and Hole in the early '90s as a blonde blue-eyed dude was in its small way a queer thing, and I responded.

I was 15 when Nevermind came out and a huge fan. I remember the older meatheads at my central Illinois high school listening to it, but starting to call it "music for queers" after the infamous ball gown on Headbanger's Ball. Since it pissed off these guys who hadn't yet moved past Aerosmith and Van Halen (not to disparage these bands), I knew that Kurt was onto something and it made me embrace them all the more.

Also: to champion the Raincoats, Bikini Kill, and Hole in the early '90s as a blonde blue-eyed dude was in its small way a queer thing, and I responded.

this. kurt tried to do good with the power he was awarded by his band's success

More Songs About Queers and Raincoats.