should there be more tipping or less tipping

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I see where y'all think that mandatory tipping isnt dumb but it v clearly is.

― b'hurt's tauntin' (darraghmac), Thursday, January 31, 2013 5:53 PM (14 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

it is dumb but that is how it works here, and shafting the server is not an appropriate response to its stupidity

― mookieproof, Thursday, January 31, 2013 5:57 PM (11 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

its not mandatory, its automatic. its a small but distinct difference.

― ❏❐❑❒ (gr8080), Thursday, January 31, 2013 6:00 PM (7 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

I wouldnt stiff the waitress or anything, when in rome etc, but when i leave rome i reserve the right to say 'rome does shit dumb'

― b'hurt's tauntin' (darraghmac), Thursday, January 31, 2013 6:02 PM (6 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

Poll Results

OptionVotes
service workers who get tipped should be getting regular paychecks instead 55
there is exactly the right amount of tipping in the country I live in, which is america 10
tipping should be expanded as a social practice 9
there is exactly the right amount of tipping in the country I live in, some other country like ireland or whatever 5
blah blah something else 3


iatee, Thursday, 31 January 2013 23:18 (eleven years ago) link

service workers who get tipped should be getting regular paychecks instead

乒乓, Thursday, 31 January 2013 23:18 (eleven years ago) link

oh shit dude

goole, Thursday, 31 January 2013 23:19 (eleven years ago) link

I think tipping should be expanded as a social practice because it's a good way to get money out of rich people, like every interaction w/ them we can try and guilt them into tipping us, the whole economy can be constructed on guilting rich people into tipping / making them feel good about themselves for tipping

iatee, Thursday, 31 January 2013 23:24 (eleven years ago) link

Tipple down economy

b'hurt's tauntin' (darraghmac), Thursday, 31 January 2013 23:32 (eleven years ago) link

Obv answer should be reg paychecks, optional tipping, 10% standard practice

b'hurt's tauntin' (darraghmac), Thursday, 31 January 2013 23:33 (eleven years ago) link

10% is cheap

❏❐❑❒ (gr8080), Thursday, 31 January 2013 23:34 (eleven years ago) link

service workers who get tipped should be getting regular paychecks instead

Mordy, Thursday, 31 January 2013 23:36 (eleven years ago) link

Not if tipping isnt part of your 'paycheck' xp

b'hurt's tauntin' (darraghmac), Thursday, 31 January 2013 23:36 (eleven years ago) link

I'm okay with tipping in Amurrica. Restaurants would likely pay less per hour than a big part of their waitstaff makes now.

Kiarostami bag (milo z), Thursday, 31 January 2013 23:37 (eleven years ago) link

service workers who get tipped should be getting regular paychecks instead

this, but since they don't (and they never will) tipping should be expanded as a practice as much as possible. because service jobs suck. I am also one of those people who think the people with the worst jobs (janitors, teachers, ditch diggers, etc.) should be the highest paid

Welcome to my world of proses (Shakey Mo Collier), Thursday, 31 January 2013 23:38 (eleven years ago) link

I always tip my ditch digger

iatee, Thursday, 31 January 2013 23:39 (eleven years ago) link

I guess the idea in the US is that the customer is in a better position to determine the quality of the service in a busy restaurant than management. However for the most part customers are fucking idiots who should not be determining how much a human being earns doing their job. If a waiter does a terrible job, let the consequences work like they do in almost every other industry; loudmouthed customers can complain if they're unhappy.

Mordy, Thursday, 31 January 2013 23:40 (eleven years ago) link

framing it like "tipping is stupid" rather than "it being legal to pay service workers less than minimum wage is stupid" just made dmac look like a typical non-tipper

i got into a huge argument with an (american!) friend of mine whose father never tipped because "you don't tip teachers, why tip waiters", and he wouldn't believe me when i told him waiters make as little as $2 and change hourly. he wasn't having any of it.

#guy #guy fieri #poop #hallway (zachlyon), Thursday, 31 January 2013 23:40 (eleven years ago) link

i don't really think of tipping as a correction to a substandard wage. not all people working in the service industry make awful wages but i wouldn't devalue their tip if i knew they were well-paid, and i would think that someone who did was being perverse. i like tipping, feels gentlemanly or something

flopson, Thursday, 31 January 2013 23:41 (eleven years ago) link

Mordy OTM.

Gollum: "Hot, Ready and Smeagol!" (Phil D.), Thursday, 31 January 2013 23:42 (eleven years ago) link

Paychecks should compensate workers, including service workers, which means they def ought to be higher in the USA than they currently are for almost every job, but esp restaurant jobs. tips should still happen on top of those higher paychecks, but more as a thanks for good service than a social obligation and economic necessity.

Aimless, Thursday, 31 January 2013 23:42 (eleven years ago) link

so yeah waiters should be making a real minimum wage but also minimum wage should be raised to actually reflect inflation over the past like four decades too

worth mentioning that service minimum wage has hardly been adjusted for inflation at all compared to normal minimum wage

#guy #guy fieri #poop #hallway (zachlyon), Thursday, 31 January 2013 23:43 (eleven years ago) link

the argument i've used vs vocal non-tippers is like that of wearing a dark suit at a funeral. i know it's such a huuuge pain and you didn't like the guy much and you aren't legitimately that sad, but, fuck you, wear the suit

it's a comment box slam dunk!

goole, Thursday, 31 January 2013 23:43 (eleven years ago) link

"and they never will"

This isnt some crazy dream yknow

Xp zach, it was more a "the US system where the onus is on tips to make a living wage is appallingly dumb" which i hopefully expressed sufficiently well there for ya not to worry about my personal habits

b'hurt's tauntin' (darraghmac), Thursday, 31 January 2013 23:44 (eleven years ago) link

there's some horse-cart business going on w/ tipping, since the practice of tipping was i believe justification for setting the minimum wage for those jobs lower than the min-wage generally

goole, Thursday, 31 January 2013 23:45 (eleven years ago) link

i guess the slamdunk case for tipping is that capitalism exploits all labor so why not keep that screwing as explicit as possible? everyone should only get paid in tips and the hard heels of capitalist boots.

Mordy, Thursday, 31 January 2013 23:45 (eleven years ago) link

this is kinda another subject but in a world where say the govt mandated $15/h wages for servers I think you'd see a ton of iPads (etc) in lower end restaurants doing more and more of the order-side work. we might regardless.

iatee, Thursday, 31 January 2013 23:47 (eleven years ago) link

wingtips imo

set the controls for the heart of the sun (VegemiteGrrl), Thursday, 31 January 2013 23:47 (eleven years ago) link

i'm really against tipping as this ugly practice that demeans everybody but if you offered the choice of "we're going to raise your salary and prices to compensate but that means you're going to get fully taxed on it" vs. "you can sneakily declare less tips than you actually got." no one's going to take #1.

Philip Nunez, Thursday, 31 January 2013 23:48 (eleven years ago) link

pay the poor buggers a basic wage and stop forcing them to behave like performing seals

set the controls for the heart of the sun (VegemiteGrrl), Thursday, 31 January 2013 23:49 (eleven years ago) link

surm to thread

the little prince of inane false binary hype (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Thursday, 31 January 2013 23:49 (eleven years ago) link

eh people should probably pay their taxes

iatee, Thursday, 31 January 2013 23:50 (eleven years ago) link

what if we were like: "you can get paid the full value of your work but we will fire you and have an ipad robot do your job instead" OR "you can get paid shit and be grateful you have a job in 8% unemployment, serf," which do you think ppl would take?

Mordy, Thursday, 31 January 2013 23:50 (eleven years ago) link

http://i.imgur.com/ghKbViy.jpg

❏❐❑❒ (gr8080), Thursday, 31 January 2013 23:50 (eleven years ago) link

well it depends if they are a robot

iatee, Thursday, 31 January 2013 23:50 (eleven years ago) link

The assumption that increasing to a living wage somehow stops tips dead has not rly been borne out in the first world, folks

b'hurt's tauntin' (darraghmac), Thursday, 31 January 2013 23:52 (eleven years ago) link

I have an idea, we can write a law to make tipping progressive like taxes, when you go to a restaurant your tax bracket will be encoded into your credit card and your tip will be based on your tax rate

乒乓, Thursday, 31 January 2013 23:52 (eleven years ago) link

people who generally need tips probably shouldn't pay taxes on it.

Philip Nunez, Thursday, 31 January 2013 23:52 (eleven years ago) link

I figure a waiter at per se will probably start clearing 6 figures then, even the busboys, but somebody who works at Golden Dragon's Empire Buffet will probably fail to clear $10k =(

乒乓, Thursday, 31 January 2013 23:52 (eleven years ago) link

if minimum wage became mandatory restaurants would just charge more for food like they do everywhere else in the world iirc

#guy #guy fieri #poop #hallway (zachlyon), Thursday, 31 January 2013 23:53 (eleven years ago) link

To pay the wages of their staff? Jesus, the very fukn thought huh

b'hurt's tauntin' (darraghmac), Thursday, 31 January 2013 23:54 (eleven years ago) link

Do you tip carpet cleaners?

that Django got me Nuages (Sufjan Grafton), Thursday, 31 January 2013 23:55 (eleven years ago) link

minimum wage is mandatory in CA I think. Still tipping going on. I think the only real way tipping can go away is if enough people agree to tip a constant amount regardless of service, and it became enough of a social expectation that it would be equivalent to a mandatory service charge.

Philip Nunez, Thursday, 31 January 2013 23:57 (eleven years ago) link

Having worked as a server in a high end restaurant for the last couple of years, I feel obliged to contribute to this topic. Servers definitely make out better under a tipping system than they would if you replaced tips with some kind of skill commensurate hourly wage. However, the truth is, if you actually replaced the tipping system with a skill commensurate hourly wage, almost nobody would bother to be a server. Cause for that kind of money, you could just do something easy and relatively stress free like retail or back of the house or like "tip jar" kind of jobs. I've worked all of these kinds of jobs, and being a server is definitely the hardest, but it's also the only one in which you can make pretty good money, thanks to the tipping system. And this is even allowing for the free-rider problem of bad tippers.

Peacock, Friday, 1 February 2013 00:10 (eleven years ago) link

Thanks peacock.

Can you maybe postulate why eg uk restaurants manage to find servers?

b'hurt's tauntin' (darraghmac), Friday, 1 February 2013 00:13 (eleven years ago) link

there aren't actually any restaurants in the UK, just bars and waitroses and tescos

乒乓, Friday, 1 February 2013 00:15 (eleven years ago) link

off licenses iirc

mookieproof, Friday, 1 February 2013 00:16 (eleven years ago) link

The assumption that increasing to a living wage somehow stops tips dead has not rly been borne out in the first world, folks

^ ^ ^

lol America

sp to darraghmac

Something is obviously very different outside the United States and I don't know exactly what it is. So no I can't postulate, but I know there must be an explanation.

I do know that I don't know any servers that would do this job for less than $20/hr, and I can't imagine the tipping system being replaced with that kind of wage in America.

Peacock, Friday, 1 February 2013 00:20 (eleven years ago) link

however people define 'living wage' it's prob not California's 7.50 / h so really any other min wage in America

iatee, Friday, 1 February 2013 00:20 (eleven years ago) link

I know lots of people who would do any non-sex industry job for 20/h

iatee, Friday, 1 February 2013 00:21 (eleven years ago) link

Fair enough i dunno how that works out relative to ave income or w/e over there, but ppl queue for those jobs here atm on an hourly income (less tips!) that, at a guess, doesnt clear half the avg industrial wage

b'hurt's tauntin' (darraghmac), Friday, 1 February 2013 00:24 (eleven years ago) link

and any sex industry job for free amirite???

Mordy, Friday, 1 February 2013 00:24 (eleven years ago) link

maybe you should interact w/ fewer strippers dan

iatee, Friday, 1 February 2013 14:06 (eleven years ago) link

thinking about money is generally just an awful awful thing, money is an awful thing to think about

乒乓, Friday, 1 February 2013 14:06 (eleven years ago) link

"i'm just really cool with you giving me money i promise i won't have an existential episode because of it"

#guy #guy fieri #poop #hallway (zachlyon), Friday, 1 February 2013 14:06 (eleven years ago) link

I am uncertain if Americans have the spiritual fortitude to withstand being able to tell if their waiters are having a great day (spoiler - probably not)

Andrew Farrell, Friday, 1 February 2013 14:08 (eleven years ago) link

serious question do you tip your ETSY seller?? you know just paypal him a lil' extra

乒乓, Friday, 1 February 2013 14:10 (eleven years ago) link

xp I mean many Americans, no need to insult an entire country when 51% will do.

Andrew Farrell, Friday, 1 February 2013 14:11 (eleven years ago) link

there is no such thing as a bad day in America

iatee, Friday, 1 February 2013 14:12 (eleven years ago) link

when I am feeling the least bit down I just go outside and lay on the street made of pure gold for a lil' bit, like 5 mins or so, then I feel better

乒乓, Friday, 1 February 2013 14:15 (eleven years ago) link

then someone tips you

iatee, Friday, 1 February 2013 14:18 (eleven years ago) link

Kicks some gold dust into your face.

Andrew Farrell, Friday, 1 February 2013 14:20 (eleven years ago) link

gold dust woman is secretly a song about tipping

iatee, Friday, 1 February 2013 14:22 (eleven years ago) link

I am uncertain if Americans have the spiritual fortitude to withstand being able to tell if their waiters are having a great day (spoiler - probably not)

― Andrew Farrell, Friday, February 1, 2013 9:08 AM (30 minutes ago) Bookmark

have you ever been on yelp.com?

乒乓, Friday, 1 February 2013 14:39 (eleven years ago) link

probably the #1 argument for abolishing tipping is yelp.com

乒乓, Friday, 1 February 2013 14:40 (eleven years ago) link

I'm going to start tipping in bitcoins

Ima R.A.E.D. (DJP), Friday, 1 February 2013 14:42 (eleven years ago) link

if we could tip ilxors w/ bitcoins for good posts, this site would improve dramatically

iatee, Friday, 1 February 2013 14:43 (eleven years ago) link

or at least give them some of that sweet banner ad cashflow

iatee, Friday, 1 February 2013 14:44 (eleven years ago) link

"tipping is the only way you can give/receive money to/from virtual strangers without it being weird"

nope nope, this is always weird. it makes every act of kindness or decency subject to market incentive while all parties have to conspire to pretend it doesn't. straight up just giving money to strangers by comparison is a breeze.

Philip Nunez, Friday, 1 February 2013 16:15 (eleven years ago) link

is kickstarter really just a form of tipping

iatee, Friday, 1 February 2013 19:14 (eleven years ago) link

i tip 17.5% in restaurants just cuz that's the math i like to do in my head.

saltwater incursion (Dr Morbius), Friday, 1 February 2013 19:16 (eleven years ago) link

I want to get into a meeting with some venture capitalists and offer them t-shirts as return on their investment. "If you invest a quarter of a million dollars, you will receive this company t-shirt. If you invest one half of one million dollars, I will eat lunch with you and two of your friends."

that Django got me Nuages (Sufjan Grafton), Friday, 1 February 2013 19:24 (eleven years ago) link

"c'mon. be a dude. it's kickstarter grandpa!"

that Django got me Nuages (Sufjan Grafton), Friday, 1 February 2013 19:24 (eleven years ago) link

yah kickstarter is way closer to just straight up giving strangers money than tipping.

Philip Nunez, Friday, 1 February 2013 19:26 (eleven years ago) link

esp if they don't end up actually giving you the t-shirt or having lunch with you.

Philip Nunez, Friday, 1 February 2013 19:26 (eleven years ago) link

a fried of a friend was trying to turn his food truck into a restaurant on kickstarter. they were offering meals at the restaurant (at what would've been a hefty markup) as the return. put a business plan together and get some actual investors. hate kickstarter sometimes.

that Django got me Nuages (Sufjan Grafton), Friday, 1 February 2013 19:29 (eleven years ago) link

in asia, tipping doesn't happen. and, in most places, service kinda sucks pretty bad. otoh, i have several friends who wait tables in america, and they make pretty good money for it, even when you factor in the rare dickwad who doesn't tip. and service in america tends to be way better than in, say, singapore, where they get (shitty) regular paychecks instead.

so, tipping - let's keep it.

if we could tip ilxors w/ bitcoins for good posts, this site would improve dramatically

they have this system at metafilter, and it goes a long way towards keeping things considered, civil and interesting

messiahwannabe, Sunday, 3 February 2013 05:18 (eleven years ago) link

whoa really how much money can you make

iatee, Sunday, 3 February 2013 05:28 (eleven years ago) link

if this catches on some nabisco type dude can make a career out of being a good message board poster

iatee, Sunday, 3 February 2013 05:30 (eleven years ago) link

perhaps i misunderstood the meaning of "bitcoins" on mefi it's "favorites" and is basically nothing more than warm fuzzies, sorry for the confusion. still nothing like getting positive feedback! it's not entirely unlike tipping

messiahwannabe, Sunday, 3 February 2013 06:01 (eleven years ago) link

Bitcoins are an "actual" "currency"

Women, Fire, and Dangerous Zings (silby), Sunday, 3 February 2013 06:32 (eleven years ago) link

You can use em to buy drugs on the internet

Women, Fire, and Dangerous Zings (silby), Sunday, 3 February 2013 06:32 (eleven years ago) link

i would be the BEST POSTER EVER if it would allow me to buy drugs on the internet.

messiahwannabe, Sunday, 3 February 2013 06:40 (eleven years ago) link

"in asia, tipping doesn't happen. and, in most places, service kinda sucks pretty bad."
I haven't eaten in enough of asia or america to say conclusively, but I suspect that controlled for most factors, you're going to get better service in asia, and america really can't hold a claim over providing better welfare for its workers at least over asian countries with nationalized public health services. I'd agree that mefi is generally a better environment than reddit, but reddit also has "tipping", as does yahoo answers and they are generally pretty awful. I'd suspect mefi might even have been worsened by the introduction of this fake tipping if there was a pre and post-tipping era.

On the other hand, I do feel people on social networks ought to receive a cut of whatever ad money facebook et. al are making off them, but that's more of a "reparations" thing than "incentiviziivizing"

Philip Nunez, Sunday, 3 February 2013 08:12 (eleven years ago) link

Gonna start a thread for the mods to tell us what % of posts we're getting fp'd for, reverse tipping score

b'hurt's tauntin' (darraghmac), Sunday, 3 February 2013 11:14 (eleven years ago) link

Automatic thread bump. This poll is closing tomorrow.

System, Monday, 4 February 2013 00:01 (eleven years ago) link

Automatic thread bump. This poll's results are now in.

System, Tuesday, 5 February 2013 00:01 (eleven years ago) link

no ilx consensus for blah blah shockah

Aimless, Tuesday, 5 February 2013 00:02 (eleven years ago) link

six months pass...

Experiments:

That’s one reason we pay attention when a restaurant tries another way, as Sushi Yasuda in Manhattan started to do two months ago. Raising most of its prices, it appended this note to credit card slips: “Following the custom in Japan, Sushi Yasuda’s service staff are fully compensated by their salary. Therefore gratuities are not accepted.”

Sushi Yasuda joins other restaurants that have done away with tips, replacing them with either a surcharge (Atera and Chef’s Table at Brooklyn Fare in New York; Next and Alinea in Chicago; Coi and Chez Panisse in the San Francisco Bay Area) or prices that include the cost of service (Per Se in New York and the French Laundry in Yountville, Calif.).

The chef Tom Colicchio is considering service-included pricing at one of his New York restaurants, paying servers “an hourly rate that would be consistent with what they make now,” he said. “I think it makes perfect sense. I’m not sure my staff is going to think it makes perfect sense.”

These restaurants are numerous enough and important enough to suggest that a tip-reform movement is under way. On the other hand, they are few enough and exceptional enough to suggest that the movement may remain very small, and move very slowly.

first I think it's time I kick a little verse! (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Wednesday, 4 September 2013 14:43 (ten years ago) link

one year passes...
one year passes...

http://www.foxnews.com/leisure/2015/11/10/joes-crab-shack-becomes-first-restaurant-chain-to-implement-no-tipping-policy/

I know you'll be shocked that the Fox News comments are universally godawful

Kiarostami bag (milo z), Wednesday, 11 November 2015 05:24 (eight years ago) link

four years pass...

https://www.grubstreet.com/2020/07/tip-50-percent.html

Tip at least 50 percent. Tip 75 percent. Tip 100 percent. What’s stopping you? Do you need to save that money for the vacation to Saint-Tropez you’re planning on taking once this is all over? If you can afford to go to a restaurant right now and have a leisurely meal — because you don’t need to save as much money as you can? — then, yeah, you can afford it.

j., Friday, 3 July 2020 04:28 (three years ago) link

Tip 200 percent. Tip 300 percent! Give the delivery guy your car and the deed to your house. If you can order food, you are the CEO of a Fortune 500 country, save those stories about how you ordered out because your back hurt too much to cook because you're taking care of your disabled spouse and your kids, clearly there's a jar full of stacks atop your fridge!

I hear that sometimes Satan wants to defund police (Neanderthal), Friday, 3 July 2020 04:31 (three years ago) link

Once there was a miller who was poor, but who had a beautiful
daughter. Now it happened that he had to go and speak to the
king, and in order to make himself appear important he said
to him, I have a daughter who can spin straw into gold. The
king said to the miller, that is an art which
pleases me well, if your daughter is as clever as you say, bring
her to-morrow to my palace, and I will put her to the test.

j., Friday, 3 July 2020 04:37 (three years ago) link

Haha Neanderthal

Feel a million filaments (Sund4r), Friday, 3 July 2020 05:22 (three years ago) link

Tipping is usually 15% in Quebec, which apparently makes us cheapskates. Vermonters and Upstate New Yorkers who work in the service industry reportedly cringe when they see 'Je me souviens' licence plates.

pomenitul, Friday, 3 July 2020 14:24 (three years ago) link

If it's any consolation, I lived in Buffalo for three years and waitresses resented Ontarians just as much.

Feel a million filaments (Sund4r), Friday, 3 July 2020 14:49 (three years ago) link

Socialist neighbours are such a drag.

pomenitul, Friday, 3 July 2020 14:52 (three years ago) link

also servers in canada still make less than provincial minimum wage, which is why you still tip

Btw, this is false in seven provinces and only true for liquor servers in Ontario and BC (who are just under minimum wage $12.20 vs $14/$13.95 vs $14.60). I don't even really know why we tip as much as we do.

https://www.payworks.ca/payroll-legislation/MinimumWage.asp

Feel a million filaments (Sund4r), Friday, 3 July 2020 15:56 (three years ago) link

I don’t know what tipping means

Keir’d flex (wins), Friday, 3 July 2020 16:00 (three years ago) link

Something to do with sleeping cows iirc

Feel a million filaments (Sund4r), Friday, 3 July 2020 16:05 (three years ago) link

seven months pass...

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