(Not Just) Knee Deep: The Spring 2012 Gay Thread

I highly recommend Tom Hiddleston's butt in The Deep Blue Sea

(it's a good film too)

i won't morbzy

yeah the house of mirth was really terrific, if incredibly sad

haven't seen it, book is all-time tho

oh donna, you have to

if only for gillian anderson and eric stoltz and their tragically thwarted ginger love

tape store sleep on my couch

i am in bed with the sound machine on meadow, the fan on low, Ryan at my side and melrose place on

and i have tomorrow off

i'm pretty much set

that sounds perfect/adorable.

things have been a little off with the boy lately - he's stressed with school and a few other things and fixating on like...tiny trivial stuff that i do that bothers him. i was contemplating whether we needed a bit of space and then he woke me up this morning in bed with 'i think we should take a break'

so... there's that.

I'm not even sure if it's a bad thing? Except he got really upset once he proposed it and didn't know if he wanted to. part of me feels like the only way to break out of the dynamic we've been in recently is to have a few weeks apart. but i'm not even sure if it's possible to shift the dynamic at this point.

do breaks ever *actually* work? or are they just sort of delusional?

in my very humble opinion, alex, i don't know if taking a break will 'work' in the absence of frank, open dialogue, which i think is what's needed. i mean, just the fact that he has been fixating on minor annoyances says (to me) that he could be harboring some kind of resentment or holding on to some hurt and it's spilling over into your daily interactions. some time apart might make things easier but it doesn't really solve any of the underlying issues of your relationship. trust me, "state of the union" type relationship conversations are never fun and can be v scary but they are absolutely necessary in my experience.

but maybe you've already had those conversations. i don't know, and i don't want to pry into your private life like that. i know it sounds like lame advice but sometimes you gotta talk it out until you're blue in the face and then keep talking.

just remember to stick to "I-statements" :)

so otm

yeah, fair enough. there have been text messages exchanged to that effect, including a rescinding of the 'break' and i think we're going to have a state of the union conversation in a day or two. i think i just need a day or two to figure out where i'm at.

xp

Any time I've admitted to tension between a lover or friend I became aware of it from my own snippy remarks about stupid shit, so I sympathize. elmo otm.

i don't have any advice but i hope things work out alex!

ditto

haha, i hope i don't come off like some self-appointed relationship guru, just want to share my perspective.

sounds true enough. have nearly had relationships implode on me because we didn't have that talk.

the best part is that sometimes you realize that you're having the same conversation over and over again!

He talked me into lunch today and we had a bit of the conversation. Tentatively, going well, especially compared to the totally distanced un-presence I've been getting for a few weeks. Acknowledgment of issues happened, which is new. Clearly, I'm waiting on follow through to some extent but it was nice just to feel validated about certain things. Allowing each other to ha e a bit more space is going to be key, and navigating criticism vs. defensiveness, but I think we're good?

Sorry for bombarding y'all with unnecessary drama, I guess.

'I' statements we're useful. Thanks, Elmo.

We're here to let you know you're (not just) in this knee deep, Alex.

no worries, alex! drama happens, no use apologizing. i'm glad you got to talking & i wish you & yr man many more productive 'i' statements as you hash it out.

unrelated: i was watching dune last night and was idly pondering how awesome it would be to see a queen done up in bene gesserit drag.

unrelated: i was watching dune last night and was idly pondering how awesome it would be to see a queen done up in bene gesserit drag.

― i think this is serious (elmo argonaut), Tuesday, March 27, 2012 5:20 PM (1 hour ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

HOLY SHIT. I wish there was a drag-queen-costume equivalent of Rule 34.

In the previous gay thread Corey mentioned the preacher in front of Old Navy on State St. (ya can't get to heaven if you're a homosexual (also, smokin' them cigarettes, smokin' dope, lookin' funny)).

https://fbcdn-sphotos-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-prn1/526217_3259471399517_1049107064_3150585_211817982_n.jpg

If that fella is there later tonight I'm going to give him a dollar.

I wanna give preacher dude the Judas kiss and see his reaction

well, maybe not me personally but I'd like to see someone do it.

that's too good for him, handsome

;)

Like someone else said, I hope he gets to heaven and it's like 3 a.m. at The Eagle there.

lollll

new favorite comic

http://28.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m1p11oQ8e31qc1sduo1_400.jpg

they are having a "why didn't you call me?" scene

"you went to delhi AND india?"

"yep. i sure did!"

What's good, ladies?

http://v.tumblr.com/tumblr_m0r7yq2XY21qf09eb_r1.mov

whatt up i'm tippin

Ph is visiting his family in Shreveport for his grandfather's 90th birthday and apparently his so-called xtian sisters are taking the occasion to tell him his "lifestyle" is "wrong." Fucking fuck fuck.

I'm done w/ this country

is it legal to shoot Christians in Alabama?

if they're black

can at least strip search em first

Urgh

for ref his family are batshit insane pentecostal church people

I have been missing

Damn flailing pinky!!!

I've been missing the South a bit recently, so reminder of crazy Pentacostals and other religiosos is a good reality check (not that homophobia or Bible thumpers is only a Southern thing).

I miss summer nights in the south, not much else.

When I saw The Hunger Games I really missed the NC mountains. So many stunning views and SO many waterfalls! Plus some really special culture. And gorgeous coastal towns and beaches a few hours away. But I definitely wouldn't want to live there.

I've been missing NOLA like crazy (missed what had become a late winter traditional visit) and I feel drawn to live there (again-ish).

Would put money on Armond actually being right this time around.

Of course, I thought Noah's Arc was merely OK comfort food TV (+ eye candy).

fauxmarc: No, the Quad on 13th St.

Would put money on Armond actually being right this time around.

comparing patrik-ian polk to gus van sant kills any trust i have in the rest of that article

the quad seemed like it had a lot of random stuff playing i always wanted to check out but never did

smallest screens in Manhattan. usually worst 'arthouse' films too.

I haven't seen any PIP work outside of the TV series explicitly developed for cable TV gay ghetto, which is why I'm not rushing to dismiss yet.

The days are getting shorter now.

morbs started a summer thread

Should I go fishing or get a friend to hang around? Celebrated GAY Summer 2012

Way to leave a forwarding address, Morbs.

"You want an address? 2541!"

http://content9.flixster.com/photo/13/91/93/13919371_gal.jpg

EXIT!

http://www.vice.com/read/the-vice-guide-to-being-gay?Contentpage=-1

nope