(Not Just) Knee Deep: The Spring 2012 Gay Thread

How many times must I change my screenname today?

The folks at the pho restaurant in my old neighborhood said that pho is Vietnam's equivalent of chicken noodle soup for illness.

guys, not sure if i'm going to nguzu anymore so I guess we can hang out some other time - when we can organize a fap further in advance lol

Oh no!

Ok. Next time I'm in town then.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6jpfconAdU0

xp yeah for sure - will you be at the Utopian Spaces panel on sunday? if so i'll be there so if you see me definitely say hi!

lol elmo i watched that clip at my friend's place recently! that show is just the best

I am 100% gonna be at Utopian Spaces. Been excited to hear JES' piece all week.

awesome! i'm excited about JES' piece as well, the abstract alone sounds incredible.

you want it to just gush right up into your cold, Leroy.

best part of my morning was waking up and coming to the realization that me and lou definitely smoked a j with 2 random black ladies on the street last night

pictures!

damn, EMP weekend even brings surm out

https://mail.google.com/mail/?ui=2&ik=3f3f9d701f&view=att&th=1364fe594a99829b&attid=0.1&disp=thd&zw

lou says that link didn't work so just in case here's another try

http://i56.photobucket.com/albums/g192/rrawn/meandlou.jpg

i was using the "drunk filter"

it was fun!

o and tonight i get to meet tape store for the very first time! work!

i did not get to meet surm or tape store but i got to hang with lou and brainwasher

my innards ruin everything

surm, i finally bought a film membership over there.

hahaha here you are in my computer database :D

forgot they were playing the house of mirth yesterday, wanted to see that on the big screen again

plz do not share any of my info with my stalkers :)

<3 house of mirth

Me too but I can't watch it often

just watched it a few weeks ago, actually. ugh, that bertha is SUCH a horrible bitch, it gets me every single time

I highly recommend Tom Hiddleston's butt in The Deep Blue Sea

(it's a good film too)

i won't morbzy

yeah the house of mirth was really terrific, if incredibly sad

haven't seen it, book is all-time tho

oh donna, you have to

if only for gillian anderson and eric stoltz and their tragically thwarted ginger love

tape store sleep on my couch

i am in bed with the sound machine on meadow, the fan on low, Ryan at my side and melrose place on

and i have tomorrow off

i'm pretty much set

that sounds perfect/adorable.

things have been a little off with the boy lately - he's stressed with school and a few other things and fixating on like...tiny trivial stuff that i do that bothers him. i was contemplating whether we needed a bit of space and then he woke me up this morning in bed with 'i think we should take a break'

so... there's that.

I'm not even sure if it's a bad thing? Except he got really upset once he proposed it and didn't know if he wanted to. part of me feels like the only way to break out of the dynamic we've been in recently is to have a few weeks apart. but i'm not even sure if it's possible to shift the dynamic at this point.

do breaks ever *actually* work? or are they just sort of delusional?

in my very humble opinion, alex, i don't know if taking a break will 'work' in the absence of frank, open dialogue, which i think is what's needed. i mean, just the fact that he has been fixating on minor annoyances says (to me) that he could be harboring some kind of resentment or holding on to some hurt and it's spilling over into your daily interactions. some time apart might make things easier but it doesn't really solve any of the underlying issues of your relationship. trust me, "state of the union" type relationship conversations are never fun and can be v scary but they are absolutely necessary in my experience.

but maybe you've already had those conversations. i don't know, and i don't want to pry into your private life like that. i know it sounds like lame advice but sometimes you gotta talk it out until you're blue in the face and then keep talking.

just remember to stick to "I-statements" :)

so otm

yeah, fair enough. there have been text messages exchanged to that effect, including a rescinding of the 'break' and i think we're going to have a state of the union conversation in a day or two. i think i just need a day or two to figure out where i'm at.

xp

Any time I've admitted to tension between a lover or friend I became aware of it from my own snippy remarks about stupid shit, so I sympathize. elmo otm.

i don't have any advice but i hope things work out alex!

ditto

haha, i hope i don't come off like some self-appointed relationship guru, just want to share my perspective.

sounds true enough. have nearly had relationships implode on me because we didn't have that talk.

the best part is that sometimes you realize that you're having the same conversation over and over again!

He talked me into lunch today and we had a bit of the conversation. Tentatively, going well, especially compared to the totally distanced un-presence I've been getting for a few weeks. Acknowledgment of issues happened, which is new. Clearly, I'm waiting on follow through to some extent but it was nice just to feel validated about certain things. Allowing each other to ha e a bit more space is going to be key, and navigating criticism vs. defensiveness, but I think we're good?

Sorry for bombarding y'all with unnecessary drama, I guess.

'I' statements we're useful. Thanks, Elmo.

We're here to let you know you're (not just) in this knee deep, Alex.

no worries, alex! drama happens, no use apologizing. i'm glad you got to talking & i wish you & yr man many more productive 'i' statements as you hash it out.

unrelated: i was watching dune last night and was idly pondering how awesome it would be to see a queen done up in bene gesserit drag.

unrelated: i was watching dune last night and was idly pondering how awesome it would be to see a queen done up in bene gesserit drag.

― i think this is serious (elmo argonaut), Tuesday, March 27, 2012 5:20 PM (1 hour ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

HOLY SHIT. I wish there was a drag-queen-costume equivalent of Rule 34.

In the previous gay thread Corey mentioned the preacher in front of Old Navy on State St. (ya can't get to heaven if you're a homosexual (also, smokin' them cigarettes, smokin' dope, lookin' funny)).

https://fbcdn-sphotos-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-prn1/526217_3259471399517_1049107064_3150585_211817982_n.jpg

If that fella is there later tonight I'm going to give him a dollar.

*moochers

Fuck.

My 7th Day Adventist upbringing gave me a really good understanding of the Bible, which led me to atheism. A lot of people think the SDAs are nuts, but they act nuts b/c they follow biblical law and principles without all the bullshit and pagan influences that the Catholics and governments introduced. E.g., they go to church on the 7th day.

Also, people think they are nuts b/c they are nuts in a way that is different from the majority of Christians.

is a 'piss take' like a 'spit take' but instead of sputtering your coffee you pee willy-nilly?

Like from surprise?

Sooner or later we' got to work atre going to have to sell it.

How do you like having them?

Am I absent too often to be a regular anymore? I suppose so. I feel mostly like I don't have much to contribute to the discussion these days. Not doing anything particularly exciting and gay. Just living my mediocre domestic existence and trying to get my brain under control. :)

I promise at some point this summer there will be exciting and/or controversial stories to tell. Or not.

Am I absent too often to be a regular anymore?

We all are.

baloney, I hated when I clicked every 3 hours and there were posts hidden already. (usually about bad music)

RIP Bimble

According to Wiki, Taco, Berlin, and Cameo all did versions of "Long Black Veil." Hmmm. Maybe Johnny Cash had a cameo at a Emmylou Harris concert in Berlin where they sang it and then had tacos afterward backstage.

http://cityarts.info/2012/06/16/the-queer-eccentric/

Any of you seen this? Is it legit or just more Armond looniness?

HypnotiqOne • 26 minutes ago

I wish I could've seen the same movie you saw.

It's been playing for 8 days at the West Village theater where all the amateurish gay movies run, and I'd never heard of it. Hardly anyone reviewed it.

http://www.rottentomatoes.com/m/the_skinny/

Amateurish gay movies give me a headache. Moving on, then...

I hope the Summer thread title has a P-funk reference too.

you're running out of time, the solstice is Wednesday (?) and I ain't waitin'.

Only saw one paddling at Folsom East; fair was penned in to let CONDO OWNERS get to their buildings (kill kill kill), so I suspect that was my last year.

Also was amused by someone wearing this shirt:

http://blog.urbanoutfitters.com/files/RIHANNAFROWN.jpg

CONDO OWNERS (kill kill kill)

I assure you, many condo owners who bought before the crash want to kill themselves more.

condo owners in Chelsea aren't going anywhere, I'm pretty sure.

(NYC real estate back to 'booming')

Shoulda bought there, I guess.

And rented at a steep profit.

It's been playing for 8 days at the West Village theater where all the amateurish gay movies run, and I'd never heard of it. Hardly anyone reviewed it.

which theater, chelsea clearview? if so, to be fair the non-amateurish ones like Weekend end up there also, and it's not really surprising that a minority-cast gay film isn't getting huge press.

that said, i knew i was going to pass on seeing "The Skinny" based on the trailer/writer/director alone.

ugh i'm dying for a non-terrible stateside gay movie to come about, i can't even remember what the last one i liked was past the 90s

Would put money on Armond actually being right this time around.

Of course, I thought Noah's Arc was merely OK comfort food TV (+ eye candy).

fauxmarc: No, the Quad on 13th St.

Would put money on Armond actually being right this time around.

comparing patrik-ian polk to gus van sant kills any trust i have in the rest of that article

the quad seemed like it had a lot of random stuff playing i always wanted to check out but never did

smallest screens in Manhattan. usually worst 'arthouse' films too.

I haven't seen any PIP work outside of the TV series explicitly developed for cable TV gay ghetto, which is why I'm not rushing to dismiss yet.

The days are getting shorter now.

morbs started a summer thread

Should I go fishing or get a friend to hang around? Celebrated GAY Summer 2012

Way to leave a forwarding address, Morbs.

"You want an address? 2541!"

http://content9.flixster.com/photo/13/91/93/13919371_gal.jpg

EXIT!

http://www.vice.com/read/the-vice-guide-to-being-gay?Contentpage=-1

nope